It's time to reclaim the original meaning of Friday the 13. Let's reject the fear factor and find luck and abundance, safety and pleasure wherever we look.
We often hear calls and initiatives for self-growth, but what I have come to realize is that we cannot truly understand what self-growth means until we understand separately what self means and what growth means.
Forgiveness is the only key to letting go. Forgive yourself for mistakes you made in the past because nothing will change what has already happened, the only thing you control is what you do in the future.
On Dec. 26, 2004, my life changed forever. That day, the tsunami struck Asia, killing hundreds of thousands of people. I learned that the resort I was scheduled to visit just three days later, Charlie's Beach Resort in Koh Phi Phi, had been completely wiped out, with no survivors. It made me deeply question the way I was living.
Through Phil Stutz's and Barry Michels' approach, which draws in part on the Jungian principle of active imagination, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and spiritual precepts unbuckled from religion, the problems and pain of life become the foundation for creating meaning and transformation.
Spiritual love is characterized by deep peace, freedom, and an absence of resistance or "againstness." When we love in this way, we unite and embrace the other.
When I'm in emotional pain, I'm a much slower learner. I want to fight the pain, banish its cause, punish its stimulus. Sometimes I remember that the key to loving it is to accept the pain, to surrender to it, become one with it.
Have you ever had a challenging life situation rear its ugly head in the midst of an otherwise good day or week? If so, did you give into the grief and the agony and jump on board the pity train? Or did you shake it off and move forward with a positive spirit?
Love is not a suffering. If you have love for someone or something, when they are with you, you can enjoy their presence, and when they are not with you, you can enjoy their absence. What you are doing in the name of love is just longing to become one with somebody.
Uncertainty provides an opportunity to stop, check in and make powerful choices to clear away what's no longer true, so you have more time and space for new dreams and goals that are aligned with who you are now.
There is no "one size fits all" answer to what a dream means despite the pat answers offered by supermarket tabloids. While dreams may be harbingers of the future or echoes of the past, I've learned the triggering event is always something in the present.
If we spent one-third of the energy that we spend on chasing happiness on getting better at being in pain, our experience of being alive would dramatically expand. We'd need to chase less and run away from less.
If we are to save our souls, our lives and the life of every living creature on this magnificent planet, we must turn our attention to that which is beautiful, good, healing, compassionate and right.
If we listen carefully to our truest inner selves and speak with a greater presence, we can empower ourselves to create exciting new possibilities and become a witness to the reality of our heart's greatest desire come true.
"We never seem to be able to solve any problems," Kaylee told me in a phone session. "Every time we sit down to solve a problem, we end up fighting."
We all struggle with making lists and being plagued by them, with getting somewhere and being here, with doing and being. It's like rowing in a lake, all that effort to simply glide in the quiet. And after a while, we need to row some more.