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[+] Now that you have been through it, what would you recommend to parents applying to on... 64 replies
- ITA re spring ERB (if DC has a fall birthday). Otherwise over the summer (if DC has a Jan-March birthday)....
Talk : : February 15, 2009
Now that you have been through it, what would you recommend to parents applying to ongoings next year? What worked?
64 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 06:45 PM [ Flag ]good advice!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]:) I'm happy I found UB after my dc was in a school. lol
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
That seems like a very good answer - thank you
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]yw!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Even for the TT. Connected PSD, FC, ILY, no boy/girl spots, basement interview, PSD working only for folks with donor potential-most of the info is bs. Only useful advice was a comment that if an experienced PSD gives you a firm opinion on DC's chances, she is probably correct. Be yourself and it is not your admission,it is your child who has to shine-you can only decrease the chances by overselling, lying or showing signs of being a PITA
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Having a great kid who tests well really works
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Do you do prep for tests?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]My great kid tested really well but is really shy! If you have a shy kid start theatre classes!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]my very shy kid who i was really worried about ended up doing great on the ERB and playdates, fwiw. took us by complete surprise.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Which reminds me. Try to schedule first playdates/interviews at schools on the bottom of your list.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA with this.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]We went through process a few years ago. Dc's first playdate was at our fc tt. Which is where dc currently attends first grade. Kid either does well or he/she doesn't.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I am the poster with the shy kid. Some kids have to learn the process to feel comfortable.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]do you have a shy kid? i doubt it because if you did you would know this is not true. if you familiarize a shy kid with the process often they will be more outgoing, quicker to warm up the more they get used to it.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA (poster above)
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
op: my dc is in theatre class now just because he likes it so hopefully it will help - he is outgoing but can be shy at first.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
prep for ERB, write essays over the summer, if you have a clear FC write a FC letter
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]That is actually good advice. Also be prepared for interviews and make sure DH seems engaged.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ittta. And apply widely.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:51 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]NP. I wouldn't apply to a school you wouldn't send DC to. The "safety" school could very well end up being your only accept and if its not high on your list and you get WLs somewhere else, you have quite a dilemma.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA. Also, if you change your mind about a category of schools (e.g., SS vs coed), withdraw application or at the very least make it clear to your PSD.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
and do as many spring tours as you can (especially Dalton, since Babby does the spring tours). Sign up immediately for the Dalton spring tour.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]If the erb is not great touring Dalton at every available opportunity will not help
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Of course, but you're going to have to tour anyway so why not do it in the Spring with Babby?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Babby part is bs, but seeing a good school helps compare schools
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Why BS? She really is the best ambassador for the school, and touring with her makes you more comfortable interviewing with her.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Did you tour and interview with her and got in?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Toured and interviewed with her. WL.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Shut out of all tours, but did not seem to hurt us at the interview
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Not that it's a big deal, just saying that if you were starting now, it would be preferable to do the spring tour with Babby.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Touring in the spring at Dalton may also help you formulate that essay, which is very Dalton-specific. I spent so much time on it in the fall, got it in late, which I think affected our chances -- they probably didn't think we were as interested (DS waitlisted)
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]People have to act themselves and not oversell. Need to have the basic intelligence to get the fact that Dalton is probably a bit different and very competitive. If they like your package you get in, no prep can help.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I always think people who feel the need to prep for erb (which you're not supposed to do--per erb office) have dim kids.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]you're dead wrong. prepping can make the difference between a 97 and a high 99. 97 is run of the mill, but a 99 will get a second look. When you're trying for the top 30 spots in 1000 applicants, every little thing counts.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Well, my kid got a "high 99" with NO prepping.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]how is that relevant? no one said you can't get 99 w/o prep.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
ITA. This is the one time people are being honest with you. Most of those super high scores come from prepping.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I was very happy with my unprepped 97. To me a 99 is a prepped 97, that's all. With rare exception.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Eh, maybe, but the 99x3 really caught people's interest.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Yeah. So did my kid's genuine one. All I did was ensure a good night's sleep and a decent breakfast.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]What kind of a sorry person are you that you're on a message board trying to justify your dc's test score. OP's question was about giving advice to get ahead in the game, responders are answering to that. You're not adding any value to this conversation.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]So, you're fine with cheating? ERB explicitly states not to prep. As do decent psds.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]it's cheating if you buy the test, it's NOT cheating if you teach dc the skills necessary to do well on the test.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA. For example, one thing I did was to work on my DC's pencil grip and handwriting skills. Still didn't do that well on coding, but much better than he would have done otherwise.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
what did you do to prep? we're applying next year. -np
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Did none of the above and did just fine
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]la di da
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Some of you people are such sad sacks.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
i agree with write a fc if you have one. we did not commit to one school bc we liked 4-5 schools and figured one would pan out since dc had great test scores, and school report. luckily one did pan out, but not one in top 3. i would not take that chance again.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I agree with this. we also did not FC and I think its why we ended up with 3 WLs.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]That was us too (last year). In the end, WL at D and B and did not send FC to school #3 because hoped that D or B would work out. Wish we had sent FC to #3 since we ended up at #6.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]^^^which leads to my next piece of advice: Listen to your PSD and try to read between the lines. I think my PSD was trying to be nice and not say "you're not getting in." Instead she said things like "D really loves you, but it's a bad year for girls." Should have known that meant WL.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
My advice after having done this twice is to look at a broad variety of schools, start in the spring with touring the schools that offer spring tours, and to do all of the above, except I didn't do any test prep, so I can't comment on that. I would also do the erbs in the spring instead of the fall/winter if you can, because the dc's score is good info to have when deciding where to apply in the fall. I also had a great deal of communication with my psd, which I think was helpful for me this time around, but you may not have that option. Good luck -
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA re spring ERB (if DC has a fall birthday). Otherwise over the summer (if DC has a Jan-March birthday).
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]np Yes. Had my March dc test at the erb office in July. Went into the process knowing score and was able to apply tactically.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
ITA, but people here want to know more about effectiveness of FC letters, ERB prep and feedback from PSD etc., stuff that gets you ahead of others.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Be as serious about any public school choices you have as you are with your private school choices. Do the SB for Hunter (if you live in Manhattan), take the OLSAT, find out about unzoned schools and/or lottery possibilities. Tour these schools if you can - talk to neighbors and friends about them. Knowing about the public schools can only help if your dc is shut out.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA, and it can also help you make a more focused list. After touring our public (41), I decided not to apply to a number of schools that I didn't think were worth $30k more than PS41.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA w/this strategy. After doing so, I narrowed down our list of schools SIGNIFICANTLY, and only applied to the 3-4 that we felt offered a COMPELLING value over FREE. This selectivity, in turn, resonated well w/a lot of the schools. It's a risky strategy, but we got into 3/4 schools we applied to.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
ITTA. When you get freaked about the possibility of rejects you will know what it really means (probably that your kid will be okay).
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Be on good terms with PSD. Avoid being PITA at ALL COSTS. Be supportive of preschool in whatever way you can. Take spring tours. Write essays early and get applications in. Take ERB early to take some pressure off in the fall.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Assuming your DC is in the ballpark based on ERBs, playdate, your interview, essays, love letters, etc..., then strategic use of first choice CALL (since first choice letters are officially ruled out) and effective PSD who works with you and talks to the schools are the keys.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]don't get pregnant and have a db due in the fall when you are applying.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] DS has a November 1st bday. Should I go through the K admission process this fall fo... 6 replies
- Fall birthdays do well. They're the oldest. If your son will only be 4 in Sept 2010 he won't be old enough for private K. He would be in pre-K. He'd be old enough for public K....
Talk : : February 15, 2009
DS has a November 1st bday. Should I go through the K admission process this fall for 2010 (nursery school advisor thinks he'd be ok as a 4 year old going on 5) but I'm not sure. I think he'd be ready to start K next year as well, but I've read so many people getting shut down because their DC has a summer/fall DOB. Thoughts?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 04:35 PM [ Flag ]Can't do private for 2010 if ds will only be 4 on Sept 1, 2010. The cutoff birthdate is Sept. 1. You could do public, which has a cutoff date of Dec. 31.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Fall birthdays do well. They're the oldest. If your son will only be 4 in Sept 2010 he won't be old enough for private K. He would be in pre-K. He'd be old enough for public K.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Is there any leniency in the DOB cut-off dates for private schools?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I honestly don't know. Maybe if your child misses the cut off by a few days. Not by a year.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]NO. And even young June, July and August boys have a hard time. Nov 1? You've got to be kidding.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 05:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Great b/c my other DS is a June baby. I guess they'll both be staying in pre-k for an additional year. Will they be evaluated differently since they'll be older than most kids starting K?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 05:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Anyone have or seen the new Cartier Balloon watch? I like it and am thinking of getti... 2 replies
Talk : : February 15, 2009
Anyone have or seen the new Cartier Balloon watch? I like it and am thinking of getting asking for it for a birthday present. Thoughts? Anyone know of a watch forum website? TIA!
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 04:28 PM [ Flag ]ballon bleu-its amazing--go to www.cartier.com
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes, that's it - baloon bleu. i love it.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] what are the names of the famous breakdancing and locking movies for kids"? 3 replies
- I actually showed Breakin at my son's 15th birthday party. It was great! We had kids of all ages and races at the party. But watch the kids as they will try to get on the dance floor and try out some moves. All day I kept saying, no spinning on your head. LOL....
Talk : : February 15, 2009
what are the names of the famous breakdancing and locking movies for kids"?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 04:04 PM [ Flag ]all of the original breakdance movies that show really great dance scenes aren't for children. There are beatstreet, electric boogaloo, breakin'...I would google them first. I saw them in the 80's when they came out
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Breakin', Breaking 2 (But the first one is better) Beat Street (may be a little to mature), Wild Style but it's a documentary might be a bit boring for kids. Breakin and Breakin2 might be your best bet. No cursing or anything sexual.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I actually showed Breakin at my son's 15th birthday party. It was great! We had kids of all ages and races at the party. But watch the kids as they will try to get on the dance floor and try out some moves. All day I kept saying, no spinning on your head. LOL.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Dc only got into Trevor. I really don't know very much about it, but my impression i... 7 replies
Talk : : February 15, 2009
Dc only got into Trevor. I really don't know very much about it, but my impression is that it is not a tt school academically in high school. Does anyone have a sense of this? I am very confused about whether we should accept or try applying to schools again next year. (Dc has a June birthday, so I thihk we have wiggle room.) 98 erb.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 01:36 PM [ Flag ]I was actually really impressed with the students we met who were on the panel. I found them poised, confident, articulate and driven. The course offerings are varied and I believe they offer a significant number of AP classes.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Only if you got too young letters from what I understand. It is a good school & much stronger in upper school than people on here would have you believe. Why don't you ask for a re-tour? GL
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]They offer 2 opportunities to tour the lower school and one to tour the upper. OP should definitely tour the upper.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Know a few families at Trevor in HS. It's a wonderful school, you're very lucky.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Is this for kindergarten? Do *you* like the school (regardless of what others say)? If you do, enroll your dc for K. If it turns out that it's not a good fit for dc, you can always apply out when dc is older.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 03:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I also was impressed with the school and the students. I think it's quiet, thoughtful, and kid-focused. Ought to be a great K year.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]OP:YOu are all so nice. I'm a little crazy and weepy.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] i just threw away all the school related brochures, calendars, and knick-knacks we re... 39 replies
- birthday?...
Talk : : February 15, 2009
i just threw away all the school related brochures, calendars, and knick-knacks we received from the playdates. i'm still angry.
39 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 12:41 PM [ Flag ]Get a grip.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]i know. i have officially lost my mind.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]totally understandable.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Why angry? Did you apply to the schools psd suggested? I find the angriest people have a tt or bust mentality (never mind their kid's scores or anything else) and won't apply to schools they consider "beneath" them.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]applied broadly. i don't think 'tt or bust'
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
no wls?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I felt really good when I tossed that shite too.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I'm sorry. Did you get s/o?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 12:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Dc is in preschool - we'll be applying next year. Can't imagine what that feels like - totally makes sense to me though to throw everything away and just get re-oriented. Sucks - how many schools did you apply to? How were dc's ERBs?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]10 schools, 99 erbs. not connected. we also have visible diversity.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Any wls?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Wow. That's really shocking. No wonder you're so angry. Any w/l?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]^^ and are you going to call any of the schools to get feedback? That just seems so very strange.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]np You don't do this. Once rejected, you leave it alone. Some schools even state in their letters (lest people lack common sense) that they do not discuss reasons for rejections.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]If she has no w/l, then she has nothing to lose.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]It's a pointless exercise. Not like they're going to say "oops, you're right; your kid should have a spot; please come in and sign the contract".
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Who the hell cares about your "diversity"?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA. Love how that's thrown in there like it makes it more shocking her dc is shutout.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]NP- I understand why OP said that since most people on UB claim that it is SOOOOOOO EASY if you are diverse and have money to get in but it is SOOOOO hard for whites. I guess that dumb theory just went up in smoke....
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 03:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
what kind? i find this hard to believe, asking for fa?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]not asking for fa
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I'm thinking behavioral issues or pita parents (or at least PSD report was bad).
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Totally agree. Something more to this. Maybe erb prep.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]honestly, we're not pita parents and dc was not prepped. i wish i knew.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]With all due respect, I highly doubt any pita parent would say "yes; I'm a pita" if asked whether they're a pita.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]true, i know. in any case, my anger has ebbed and now i just feel disappointed.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Must be something in the PSD report or the playdate.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I'm guessing some of those are WL, right? If so, they move. calm down.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]birthday?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]january 04
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
So what about your public school choices? Did dc make the Hunter cutoff? Take the OLSATs? Are you in a catchment for a great-to-good gen ed school?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]did not make hunter cutoff. took olsats so i'm hoping the scores will be good. our zoned school is not good but we'll apply for gen-ed lottery with hopes there too.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Good luck on the G&Ts and the lottery and any waitlists dc is on. I'm sure that something - if not several things - will come through for you.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
of course they are; she's just having her tantrum today. maybe by tomorrow she'll be calmer that she didn't get what she wanted and will be able to use her big girl voice again.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: what is wrong with nasty people like you? who are you? did you not get enough hugs and kisses when you were a little girl?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]i know. there are some really nasty people. it's especially nasty since the nastiness is directed to a shut-out.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 02:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
what do you mean still? it just happened yesterday. i'm planning to be angry for a long, long time to come :)
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 03:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]If you are SO but on some waitlists you are likely to get some great options. OTOH very few people seem to get how bad the economy will be by September even, depending on your family's financial situation, it might be a blessing in disguise to be SO. I think some of the less wealthy schools (privates) will have serious problems this year. My family is associated with one and so many families of kids in grades 2-4 (families I know) are wondering how they will pay. The school has very small endowment so it won't be saved by that. You are certainly better off in public than in a private without a decent endowment to cushion them in the coming few years. GL and a big hug to your dc.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 04:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Can someone explain to a novice here what is the significance of a June birthday, or ... 3 replies
- The official cut off is 9/1, but often kids born in the summer are told they are "too young" and should do another year of preschool and re-apply. this is the case at some schools but not others, so at some schools summer birthdays will be the youngest and at other schools the oldest. makes it hard for parents to decide what year to apply....
Talk : : February 15, 2009
Can someone explain to a novice here what is the significance of a June birthday, or later? Why would that be a disadvantage for a kindergarten applicant? thanks.
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 09:04 AM [ Flag ]The official cut off is 9/1, but often kids born in the summer are told they are "too young" and should do another year of preschool and re-apply. this is the case at some schools but not others, so at some schools summer birthdays will be the youngest and at other schools the oldest. makes it hard for parents to decide what year to apply.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 09:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]There is also a risk of being told "too old" if wait a year.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 09:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]thank you!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 11:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] i am not contributing to preschool's annual fundraising campaign nor will i go to the... 28 replies
- yes. 99 erb, early 04 birthday, lovely child (strong teacher reports)...
Talk : : February 15, 2009
i am not contributing to preschool's annual fundraising campaign nor will i go to the stupid auction.
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 08:18 AM [ Flag ]maybe you should think about daycare. more your speed.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]same here. I'm bitter.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I didn't give to ours. I might give them a small donation before the year's out, but I don't think a party or auction was appropriate this year.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]i agree. an auction feels gross.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Yep. I didn't even go.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
are you mad about exmissions?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: beginnings again?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]no
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
NP. Your disappointing result is your PSDs fault? I'm asking seriously, not snarking.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]i don't blame her completely but partly, yes. my dc is a strong candidate and we applied broadly. hearing about everyone else at school with mult accepts makes me really mad.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]How is it you've compared notes already?!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:30 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]i've spoken with a handful who spoke with another handful. words gets around quickly.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Mandell?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 09:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Me again. I'm applying next year, and I am really disturbed by posts I've read over the years about PSD brokering. It seems that everyone would be better off if there weren't any feedback. PSDs seem, in some cases, to make a mess of things, create false expectations, set families up for disappointment, etc. Good luck with the options you have.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]thanks, right now we don't have any private options. crappy public here we come.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:38 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]which public?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Did you apply broadly?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes. 99 erb, early 04 birthday, lovely child (strong teacher reports)
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]How many schools? tt, 2nd tier, 3rd tier? How do you know what report said?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]10 schools tt, 2nd and 3rd. psd told me that it was a 'wonderful and beautiful' report.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Were playdates bad? I've never heard of a kid with this combination of attributes walking away with nothing but rejects--should at least have a few wls.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]ds is shy, especially in new situations. he separated fine for the playdates but i'm sure he was quiet. psd said she had positive feedback for him though.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Did you prep for erb?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:38 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]if you mean a tutor, no way. ds likes workbooks though.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
WMS?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 08:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]no
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[+] need party favor idea for a 3 year old birthday party. do not want to give out candy.... 4 replies
Talk : : February 15, 2009
need party favor idea for a 3 year old birthday party. do not want to give out candy.
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.15.09, 07:38 AM [ Flag ]Picture books.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]any idea where to get them?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]barnes and noble? are you seriously asking where to buy picture books? WTF?
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 07:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
slinkies
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[+] July/Aug 2004 birthdays, how did you fare? us, mostly WLs and a few dings. 7 replies
- Aug 2004 Birthday, DD got 2 accept, 1 wl, 1 reject, waiting on one more...
Talk : : February 14, 2009
July/Aug 2004 birthdays, how did you fare? us, mostly WLs and a few dings.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.14.09, 07:06 PM [ Flag ]only applied to 2 1 accept, 1 reject
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]3 accepts, 3 wls
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]we only applied to 2 as well, 1 reject, 1 not yet received
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
2 WL's. 1 accept (not FC).
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Aug 2004 Birthday, DD got 2 accept, 1 wl, 1 reject, waiting on one more
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 09:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]2 accept 4 WL
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 05:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]DS July 2004, 2 accepts (1 was fc), a 3rd accept supposedly on the way according to psd, 1 wl, and 5 rejects. Really surprised - was sure we were going to get shut out or all wl and/or a few too young letters.
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 06:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Would love idea of schools that might be good for my dd: she is currently in 4th grad... 8 replies
- Yes, thanks. We will of course look into G&Ts. This fall starts the middle school search for us, though if we went private I guess she might be applying back into 5th because of her birthday? It will be a full-time job I think (and I'll have K applications for her sister as well). Part of me wonders if I'm overthinking things too much. (Or which parts I'm overthinking, LOL)...
Talk : : February 14, 2009
Would love idea of schools that might be good for my dd: she is currently in 4th grade in gen ed public. She has been miserable socially for 3 1/2 years in NYC -- can't seem to find a group of peers who "get" her. She is a Dec bday, so young, but has been reading on level Z since late last year, is never challenged, gets lazy with her work because I think it takes less and less effort on her part to get by. She can make friends outside of school easily, but has no very close friends. She is clueless about pop culture because her nose is always in a book (she knows tons about Harry Potter, though!). Because she's in public, I have no idea where to begin to look at other options. Oh, when she was 5 she scored 97 on the ERB, but we never applied anywhere for various reasons.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.14.09, 04:17 PM [ Flag ]Are you the poster from last night? If so, I hope you get some useful feedback here. Alas, I have no suggestions for you though I would lean towards G&T.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Yes, thanks. We will of course look into G&Ts. This fall starts the middle school search for us, though if we went private I guess she might be applying back into 5th because of her birthday? It will be a full-time job I think (and I'll have K applications for her sister as well). Part of me wonders if I'm overthinking things too much. (Or which parts I'm overthinking, LOL)
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I would get her re-tested, first of all. She sounds very bright - and she's at a better age now to get a sense of just how bright. Plus the information will help you gauge her needs and chances better.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Many privates would be good for her. I'd tour and apply to a bunch, but Trevor, Marymount, Calhoun are schools that come to mind.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]thanks for these suggestions -- the choices seem overwhelming and I know very little about individual schools or the process. It's good just to have some places to start.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I had to leave gen ed public for the same reasons. We're very happy, dd is a different child, the school we're in is one of the above. My dd did great with kids out of school and in school they didn't seem to choose to bond with her. She reads all the time, she never liked Hannah Montana. GL
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I can't help - only have a kindergartener, but I would recommend buying the Goldman book (Guide to NYC Private Schools) and just read through it. It's very thick and a little overwhelming but it does give you a feel for the schools (while some sound strikingly similar). It did help us narrow down choices and was a good starting point.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Where do you live?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] no packer for us which i had a feeling about. they just kept referring to dc age. in ... 5 replies
- If your dc has a summer or fall birthday, don't get such comeuppance about the age factor. It's not that dc is not smart. It's developmental and it's really bad being on the young side in 5-8th grades. The best thing I ever did was have my dd do an extra year of K....
Talk : : February 14, 2009
no packer for us which i had a feeling about. they just kept referring to dc age. in the letter it even reiterates it. ugghhhh so ridiculous.
5 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.14.09, 01:06 PM [ Flag ]if you got a too young letter the reapply
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]i am not interested in him repeating kindergarten
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I don't blame you
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]thank you. now on to g&t and brooklyn new school.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
If your dc has a summer or fall birthday, don't get such comeuppance about the age factor. It's not that dc is not smart. It's developmental and it's really bad being on the young side in 5-8th grades. The best thing I ever did was have my dd do an extra year of K.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 03:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] 2 wait lists, everywhere else rejects. are we completely SO? So bummed. Knew it was h... 10 replies
- young birthday? sorry...
Talk : : February 14, 2009
2 wait lists, everywhere else rejects. are we completely SO? So bummed. Knew it was happening per PSD, but hard to see in print. Want to cry.
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.14.09, 12:58 PM [ Flag ]young birthday? sorry... but WL will move...
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 12:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]no. not young. good erbs. PSD screwed us. I truly believe so. Not just us either. I agree wl will move....but not the two we are on
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Are you at Mandell? I think there was a poster who said they tried to steer everyone to their ongoing.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]maybe ;)
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
What are your WLs?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
No, you're not shut out. There will be a lot of movement on WLs.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]i am crying!
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]you too???
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]the wl do move...we had 5 wl and 3rj...got in on the first day schools reopened after this long weekend
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
SO last year, all WLs (applied to 5) w/ 98 erb, life goes on, ended up at great G&T, dd loves it, hope you have a good public option.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] I am a nanny in NYC. I don't have many nanny friends, and the ones I do have are very... 32 replies
- Last year, our nanny was making $1000/week on the books, $5,000 Christmas gift + birthday gift cards ($800 to $900 total value), paid for her health insurance, minimum 3 weeks vacations (would usually be 5 or 6 weeks in practice), about 50 hrs per week, no WE work, no last minute work, no travelling. Top agency told...
Talk : : February 13, 2009
I am a nanny in NYC. I don't have many nanny friends, and the ones I do have are very discreet about their jobs, as am I, because I work for a high-profile family. So I'm posting here, to ask a few questions about salaries/benefits typically offered to nannies in NYC. My job is very demanding, and the family expects a lot from me. I work very hard, and find my job very rewarding. I believe they are extremely generous with me. I'm wondering what is the highest salary and benefits package/perks you've heard of being offered to a nanny? I want to see where I fit in.
32 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 11:45 PM [ Flag ]I don't know the highest but we pay $850./week (8:00-5:00) on the books - with taxes, etc. calculated so that take home is $850. plus health care and bonus of 2 weeks salary at New Year's. 1 child. Pay $25./hour for extra time. Great nanny.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Want to add that this is after seven years so she did not start out with this salary. Started at $600.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I'm a manny on the UES. My rate of pay is $38/hour and I work a full 40-hour week. I charge time-and-a-half for any overtime and/or weekend work, but my employers are good about adhering to my 40-hour schedule. I don't do housework, I don't cook, and I don't run errands -- my only responsibility is the children. VERY occasionally, if my employers are in a bind and it's convenient for me, I'll run a quick errand or two for them, but I've made it clear they can't make a habit of it. I'm a child-care professional, and I expect to be treated as such -- I am NOT "domestic help". Luckily, my employers recognize that.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]What makes you worth 2x the going rate for top nannies? Not snarky, but very curious. You can hire a grad student from NYU for significantly less. I'm wondering what value added you provide? $25/hour would get you a very happy and professional nanny, offer $30/hour and you can probably hire away the best nanny you've ever seen, so why pay $38?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:05 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]This is the deal I negotiated. I'm college educated, white, American, and over 35. I have wisdom and responsibility that a college kid doesn't bring to the table. My employers seem to feel it's a fair rate.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Was your degree in a field somehow relating to early childhood development?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 12:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]No. But then again, what MOTHER needs a degree in early childhood development?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]We're born with the degree.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 03:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: good one!
[ Reply | Options ]02.15.09, 01:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I think the white male parts account for the entire difference. It's just racism and sexism of the families.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
someone just told me that they know someone who pays $1000/week for a 40-50 hour 5 day week for a toddler.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]My friends' former live in nanny made $800 net cash (employer paid all taxes) plus employer paid health care, paid vacation, room/board (obviously), car (for work & personal use), credit card (for any household expenses). 50 hours/week, no OT as there was also a night and weekend nanny.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]38$ person above makes about 80,000/year, more than a lot of lawyers, doctors and so forth. I guess it's just like anything, you can get a $600 haircut and a 25$ haircut. Also, once you're in those circles that pay that kind of money, you're in and will be paid accordingly. I am sure there are "nannies" who charge even more. I mean, just as a matter of principle, Madonna and the like, is not going to pay less than $100,000 to her childcare employees...
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 08:05 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Exactly. There are cheap 20K/year "Chevy" nannies, and then there are upscale $80K/year "Mercedes" nannies. Not saying that either one is good or bad, but in the end you always get what you pay for.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 08:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]You don't "always" get what you pay for, the majority of the time probably but not "always".
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 08:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I think it depends more on the individual. We have employed both. We are delighted with our $15/hour grad school nanny.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 09:18 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
That manny is full of crap, since you didn't ask. If we're to believe that one some blanks ought to be filled in: On the books,health ins, how many kids, which area,how are the needs of the kids somehow divorced from any errands for the employers is there a cook, domestic help,a set per diem for travel, meals& misc expenses, do both parents work full time?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 11:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Manny here. I'm on the books, three kids, UES (as I stated ... please pay attention), there is domestic help, and no, both parents don't work full time. But I do.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 12:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I'll pardon your skewed tone of entitlement, as I did take note of your inclusion of white,over 35, college educated and American in your list of 'qualifications'(all of those also apply to George Bush and a legion of overpaid, overvalued hustlers). The UES isn't an area; it's a region. Perhaps I should've said neighborhood.Your lack of any humility is assuring, as it practically guarantees your butt will hit reality harder than someone with the grace to acknowledge their good fortune-and we all fall on our butts sometimes.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 12:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ITA-I know 3 Upper East families with Mannies.I'm going to copy and send the link to this post to two of them. I'm curious if you work for either. Maybe they'll figure it out. You sound like an ass.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 12:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]And since you started the name-calling, I'll be honest with you ... you sound like a cunt! Your jealousy isn't a very attractive attribute.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 01:02 PM [ Flagged | link to this post ]Actually, I'm a woman and only men can be cunts. White guys don't really get to me in the way you may hope. Since I don't pimp myself out as a novelty babysitter, do work and play hard raising my children and am well $$ compensated in my professional field, I'm unsure why you would think I'm jealous. You just come off as an annoying, bratty,aging teen of a white guy.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 03:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]NP. Uh huh. Whatever gets you through the day, sister.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
NP: Manny, you ARE full of it. It's one thing to list your working conditions and the terms of your employment, it's another to be sanctimonious and above it all. Lots of nannies do housework, run errands, etc. Yes, of course, your responsibility is the children, and that's worth stating. But is it worth it to tack on "if... it's convenient for me, I'll run a quick errand... but I've made it clear they can't make a habit of it"
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]NP. I believe that WAS part of the terms of his employment. Just because you don't agree with it or resent it doesn't mean he's being "sanctimonious" and "above it all". Geez. Project much???
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Hi Manny!
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]ItTa!!BuhBye Manny...
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 06:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Last year, our nanny was making $1000/week on the books, $5,000 Christmas gift + birthday gift cards ($800 to $900 total value), paid for her health insurance, minimum 3 weeks vacations (would usually be 5 or 6 weeks in practice), about 50 hrs per week, no WE work, no last minute work, no travelling. Top agency told me it was very very generous. Unfortunately our job and financial situation has totally changed and we have had to restructure hours and compensation significantly. We are not a high profile family but believe strongly in taking care of the person who cares for our 2 DCs while we are at work - also ensures that she is very unlikely to leave for another job which provides stability to our family. Over the years I have seen little correlation between a family's means and generosity. Know some very wealthy people who are the cheapest humans you could come across and have huge turnover in their homes and some merely affluent families who are much more generous. Comes down mostly to values and managerial skills.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 08:18 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]IIITTTAAA
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 10:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
FAKE!
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 09:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Q for OP: Now that you've seen some answers, can you clue us in to your compensation package? Did you fit in?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]OP here: thanks everyone for your responses. All this does give me some info on where I fit in on the scale of nanny salaries/benefits. Currently I make $85K a year salary with yearly bonus, with full health benefits (but excluding dental/vision). My work week is setup as 40 hrs, but most of the time, I work more (around 45). I have around 10 weeks of paid vacation per year. I have no cleaning or cooking responsibilities (there are housekeepers and a chef) but I often try to help out if I can. I am extremely happy in my position, and feel that my compensation is fair. I do, however, think I'm paid a higher salary than most because 1) my employers expect nothing but the best work every day and the job is INTENSE, and 2) they are high-profile, so they may tend to pay more in that circle.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 10:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] 7 weeks pregnant... my birthday is on Monday. Very bad to have a glass of low-alcoho... 7 replies
- np: absolutely have it, db will be fine, and happy birthday!...
Talk : : February 13, 2009
7 weeks pregnant... my birthday is on Monday. Very bad to have a glass of low-alcohol sparkling wine?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 01:43 PM [ Flag ]jeez just have it...
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I was just asking a question, no need to be rude!
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: absolutely have it, db will be fine, and happy birthday!
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 02:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
have one glass...or maybe have something with no alchohol that is sparkly...so exciting to be pregnant...what a great b-day present!!!
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 02:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Thanks! Am feeling so ill right now (all-day morning sickness since monday) but I might want a glass of my favorite champagne-like beverage to celebrate my birthday... just one, then will switch to Martinelli's or something!
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 02:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
what the hell is low-alcohol sparkling wine. chateau o'douls?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 03:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Not in your first trimester..bad idea
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 03:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] i miscarried on wednesday. my birthday was on thursday. it's been torture having peop... 11 replies
- I know how you feel. We scheduled our first sono for our first PG on DH's birthday as a "surprise." You know what came next - no baby. Had to schedule the d&c. The good news (if any) - we have one healthy son now and another dc on the way. Hang in there and take all the time you need....
Talk : : February 13, 2009
i miscarried on wednesday. my birthday was on thursday. it's been torture having people call to wish me a happy birthday and my pretending everything is great and i'm so happy they called.
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 12:43 PM [ Flag ]maybe it's best to let voice mail get it... you can call people back when you feel better. I'm very sorry.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 12:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]op: i pretty much stopped answering the phone. it wasn't even that many people. but it was really bad timing, you know?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 12:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
so sorry... how far along were you?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 12:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]12 or 13 weeks.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 12:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I know how you feel. We scheduled our first sono for our first PG on DH's birthday as a "surprise." You know what came next - no baby. Had to schedule the d&c. The good news (if any) - we have one healthy son now and another dc on the way. Hang in there and take all the time you need.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]i know. i always cringe when i hear of people inviting other people in to sonograms or scheduling it for birthdays.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Well - we learned the hard way. this time I took no chances. And also got an amnio to be sure. Good luck next time. =)
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
very sorry. hopefully by your next b-day you will have one in your arms
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]thanks.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I'm so sorry.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I'm so sorry. BTDT. It sucks and it's okay to go on the DL for a little while. Be good to yourself.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 01:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Just found out I am about 7 wks along. Didn't know, and it was my dh's birthday and m... 3 replies
Talk : : February 13, 2009
Just found out I am about 7 wks along. Didn't know, and it was my dh's birthday and my best friend's birthday, and our anniversary, etc. so lots of healthy drinking for the last 4-6 weeks. What have I done? Help!
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 11:14 AM [ Flag ]nothing. Just stop from now on. Congrat! (I am 7 weeks too!)
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 11:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]don't stress it. this was me exactly 1 year ago and gave birth to a healthy baby.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 11:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]a girlfriend of mine found out she was 16 weeks pregnant with her 3rd. Was told she couldn't get pregnant, 2 past in vitros. She drank, ate sushi, cold medicine, sleeping pills, had an amnio baby is fine. Just think what our moms have done.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 11:16 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Gonna take dc to movies with some friends for his bday. Dc is not allowed to have pop... 12 replies
- i wouldn't do a movie as a birthday party in that situation...
Talk : : February 13, 2009
Gonna take dc to movies with some friends for his bday. Dc is not allowed to have popcorn because of medical reasons. Do I ask the other kids not to eat it and bring another good snack. It is his bday after all.
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 10:27 AM [ Flag ]i wouldn't do a movie as a birthday party in that situation
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yeah, but ds really is looking forward to this.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]which movie? how old? how many kids? Just curious b/c thinking of moving away from party routine for my kid's 7th bday
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:36 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
how old are the kids? I think I would offer popcorn to other kids and make sure bday get gets something he really loves.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]buy other snacks and don't even mention popcorn
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]get the kids popcorn! your dc knows that he can't have it and you can get him something else. btw, what "medical reason" can you not have popcorn?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]had an operation on his colon
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: wow. you are insensitive
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: seriously. There are lots of reasons one could not have popcorn. I can't eat it because I have Crohn's, and dd can't (temporarily) becauase of her braces.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 11:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
you expect the kids to get/bring their own snacks? don't you control what snacks are bought?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 10:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]i think its fine to not have popcorn. my ds has multiple food allergies and i dont serve stuff hes allergic to at his party.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 11:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Take them all to a bulk candy store before the movie and let them pick out an amount for themselves... they can get whatever they want (a lot of these places also have pretzels and non-candy) and no one will miss the popcorn
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 11:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] My kid is in preschool at Grace Church School. I'm finding the atmosphere there incre... 15 replies
- I don't like the whole exclusion of kids from birthday parties, but how old is your dc? Id' say if dc is under 4 it's not a big deal to the kids. I...
- Anyone remember when we were that age the parties were smaller with maybe 4-5 kids, not these huge events. I think the event birthday parties are ridiculous and a waste of money. I know apts. are small, but people even buy into these parties in the burbs....
Talk : : February 13, 2009
My kid is in preschool at Grace Church School. I'm finding the atmosphere there increasingly bad. There have been multiple parties where only some subset of the kids were invited (and not only girls, or only one class, etc.). Needless to say, the school tries to avoid it--it's against school policy.
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 06:47 AM [ Flag ]Oops--I accidentally posted too soon. Anyway, any advice on what to do? I'm considering pulling my kid out. I'm also hoping that more kids will be admitted with parents that are more friendly.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 06:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Bummer. It sucks to be in a school where the parents behave like it is junior high. How are the academics and in-class environment for you kid.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 06:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]The academics seem good, although it's early childhood, so it's tough to tell. In class environment seems pretty good, although I'm starting to see some cliques among the kids that mirror those of the parents.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
why would you pull dc out just because of the b-day party thing?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I had a similar experience with a downtown early childhood program. The parents were really snotty and cliquish. As an older mommy, I really felt shut out socially. The academics in our program were not strong, so we pulled. But if we had been in a strong academic program AND my child had a least one or two friends, I would have stayed. Check out your child's experience socially---does she/he have any friends?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes, although not as much as in her nursery. that's what makes it a tough call.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
its really expensive to throw a big party these days. maybe not so nice but im sure the parents would have done it differently if they could have
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]ita. We decided to only invite three friends from class due to money.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I never bought the whole class thing.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Yeah, it's defintely not an expense thing. The parents generally have plenty of money and the ones who have not invited the whole class. And it's not just a bday party thing. Instead it's more symptomatic of a unfriendly and cliquish atmosphere among the parents. If it's just the parents that's ok, but I'm worried that the kids will eventually reflect their parents
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I was looking into party locations (our apartment is too small)...They run between 700-1500 dollars and that is only for 10 kids (you pay extra for food, cake, entertainment...). There will be no b-day for the whole class at that price.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I don't like the whole exclusion of kids from birthday parties, but how old is your dc? Id' say if dc is under 4 it's not a big deal to the kids. I don't think they really care/get it. It's when they are 4 and older that I think they may have hurt feelings.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:05 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]the kids are 5.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Anyone remember when we were that age the parties were smaller with maybe 4-5 kids, not these huge events. I think the event birthday parties are ridiculous and a waste of money. I know apts. are small, but people even buy into these parties in the burbs.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:06 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Problem may be with the poster, anyone who would think of pulling out of school for that reason sounds like a real loser.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 03:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] DS is a January birthday -- will be applying for K for 10-11 school year. When should... 7 replies
Talk : : February 13, 2009
DS is a January birthday -- will be applying for K for 10-11 school year. When should he take the ERBs?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.13.09, 06:29 AM [ Flag ]your preschool will guide you on that
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 06:30 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]ask your psd. some will say the spring and some will say the fall. trust your psd and teachers. they know if your kid is ready and they have every incentive to help him get a good score (makes their exmissions job easier)
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 06:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]He's going to a public pre-K next year so we can save $$.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 06:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Is he in preschool now? Do they offer the ERB in the spring?
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]really bad idea to put dc in public pre-k the year before you are applying to private. Public teachers don't want to fill out all those reports and have no incentive to be helpful.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Ugh. The thing is, the public pre-K is actually stronger than the 4s program at the private school where he is now. I can't see paying for a weaker program.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 08:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I have a DS with a January birthday. PSD told me that, in general, it's better to wait until child is 4-1/2 to take the ERB. I wanted to have the results in hand before the application process started, and DS easily separates, so I took him to the ERB office over the summer.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 07:00 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Caught in between. Late fall birthday, girl in public school admitted to TT independ... 38 replies
- some tt as a 6th then probably a very strong student. BTDT with a boy. He was in mixed age classes and then applied to NYC privates for either 5th or 6th (let the DOA's decided which they thought appropriate). He has a March birthday so was actually about 6 months younger than your child (by age should have gone into 5th). He is 13 now and in 9th, doing extremely well at tt high school (changed schools for HS into more academically challenging program). We have no...
Talk : : February 12, 2009
Caught in between. Late fall birthday, girl in public school admitted to TT independent school for 5th grade and to other TT independent school for 6th grade. Is "redoing" the 5th grade a good thing, or a mistake?
38 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.12.09, 07:02 PM [ Flag ]A mistake -- all this redoing in NYC is bs
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Go to the school you like better, don't stress the grade thing. Repeating 5th will be easier academically and make her an older kid for her grade. Doing 6th will make her very young for grade in private school and more challenging academically.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]It really depends on the dc. Which school do you feel is a better fit.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Which school is asking her to repeat? Which isn't?
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Dalton admitted her to 5th. Friends & UNIS to 6th. It is pretty confusing.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I wouldn't have my dc repeat. UNIS is a competitive program and I would go with that.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Dalton ALL the way......
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
hate to say it, but Dalton is more tt than the others, maybe you should send her there, I think the academic opportunities are probably better. I don't think Friends or Unis can compare to be honest.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]UNIS is an excellent school -- good college placement as well
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]I know someone who went there as a child, she is 30 something now. She complained there were some very bad teachers they could not fire essentially for diplomatic reasons. I wonder if that is still true?
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]if it was true then, as my friend believes
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Recent information would be far more relevant.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]so maybe someone can chime in. the point was foreign govts would send teachers and the school was not in a position to say "no" -- I wonder if this could really have been true
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
and 30 years ago women smoked and drank while pg.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Not at all in our experience. We haven't had a single bad teacher so far, not even a mediocre one. And it's absolute nonsense that foreign governments send teachers. Can't speak for 30 years ago but certainly not now.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 07:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I'd do UNIS
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
I think it depends on how she is as a student. If very strong, then certainly do not repeat. I think if she was admitted to some tt as a 6th then probably a very strong student. BTDT with a boy. He was in mixed age classes and then applied to NYC privates for either 5th or 6th (let the DOA's decided which they thought appropriate). He has a March birthday so was actually about 6 months younger than your child (by age should have gone into 5th). He is 13 now and in 9th, doing extremely well at tt high school (changed schools for HS into more academically challenging program). We have no regrets. If your child is very gifted academically then she can probably handle 6th. I doubt any tt middle school would admit a young child into 6th if she were not well qualified. Why repeat 5th?
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]btw he also tested into Stuy, but chose tt instead. There were kids taking the test who were already 15, but my 12 yo got in. I think the holding back thing is not really a good idea. My ds is proud that he has been promoted into a higher grade.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]good grief. i'd be proud too!
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Is your ds into sports at all? I can't imagine many 12 yo would have any shot of making a team competing with 15 yos.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]thankfully, no, although he did join a team this year (a "no cut" team). His "sport" is singing, and luckily his soprano changed to tenor over the summer just before 9th grade.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
why would you want her to repeat-is there a problem
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]1) Dalton makes a nice impression.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]2) it's tempting to have her be among the older kids after lots of years in which she was among the younger in public school.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]3) but, mostly, instinctively, wouldn't want her to repeat.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: My dd may be in the same situation in a couple of years, so I have thought about it. I think if it was SS girls' school, I would not want my dc to be significantly youngest than the rest of the class. While extremely bright and excellent student, being one of the youngest is not great for her socially even now in public, and if they rest of the class was 6 months older it would definitely be a problem. Now with co-ed school there are boys who tend to be less mature so it may be ok, but only you can see how she does socially now with being on the young end and if having a few months older peer group could be detrimental to her.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
would that affect her self esteem/ and having to explain to her classmates...thats a rough age.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]the classmates are used to it and she would still be younger than at least 5-6 kids in the class if not more, this is totally not an issue. And I don't think going from public you'd repeat the same curriculum either.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
Which school does dc like?
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Good question. Still sorting that out. All three impressed. She enjoyed spending a day in school at Friends, but the other two didn't offer that.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]You should ask if she can spend some time at the other schools. My ds is spending 1/2 days at our top 2 choices cuz it is so hard for them to know.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 08:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Thanks, turns out i was mistaken. She's got a day at Dalton coming up. We are setting something up at UNIS.
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 05:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
i wouldn't worry about repeating a grade. dalton would put the kid in 5th because she would fit right in the age range of that grade at that school. i don't think it's necessarily good or bad to repeat, you have to look at this particular situation
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 09:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]my brilliant friend OPTED to repeat 10th grade when she went to boarding school (TT prep school) in order to have 3 years there rather than 2 years - she actually requested to do this. she was certainly not bored and while she's smart enough that she would have gone anywhere regard;es
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 09:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]^^^ regardless, i could see a somewhat less brilliant student getting a real advantage by that extra year. (oh, the reason they let her repeat was bc she had skipped a grade in early elem so she was "young")
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 09:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
wow. sounds like dalton just wants to squeeze an extra year of tuition out of you. GL!
[ Reply | Options ]02.13.09, 06:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]Yeah, Dalton is desperate to fill seats.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 08:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 09:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] What are the chances DH is going to remember it is my bday tomorrow? What are the cha... 8 replies
- learn to be treated badly. Plan an exit strategy. I moved in with my mother and sent dc's to local public school. DH was happy to be rid of us as long as it didn't cost him money. I remarried a kind man who remembers my birthday, VD, Mother's Day and our anniversary. Dc's see how well he treats me and will do the same for their spouses....
Talk : : February 12, 2009
What are the chances DH is going to remember it is my bday tomorrow? What are the chances he doesn't act really shocked instead of pretending he knew when I tell him? And what do you think he has in the hopper for Valentines? Tune in tomorrow.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.12.09, 06:36 PM [ Flag ]What are the odds he'll still have a functioning pair of balls on Sunday morning? I'm guessing less than 50%.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]So he forgot (or appeared to until my brother called him at work to ask him to bring ice cream home). He delivered it to me on the counter & muttered Happy Birthday. As usual, no card, no present.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:24 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]wow - i am sorry. i don't like my bday too much but still like a card and genuine bday wish. is your dh always like this? will you blow off his bday?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes, he is very angry about our current financial situation which he blames on me. He would blame economic crisis on me if he could. He is passive aggressive & outright aggressive; MIL is same way. He will be away for vacation, but no scenario where I acknowledge VDay to day. We got our Home Equity bill this week & he called me a "c" word b/c we are accruing debt b/c I lost job. AAAArgh. To be honest, his angry about $ is the absolute worst part of not having it.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]this crisis is having an impact on everyone (for the most part). His anger is clearly displaced. therapy? major sit down to address this crisis in your marriage?
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 04:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]OP I am afraid all the normal solutions are no go here. He would rather die than do therapy. I am afraid responder below is right I either plan an exit or try to get help for me in coping. I still think his presence is horrible modelling for my kids. It is funny so tied up with his evil mother. He lives in absolute fear of her but is petty and mean like her. For ex., I doubt he really forgot my bday but
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 06:03 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I wasted a lot of time (and money) on therapy trying to cope and save the marriage. I married into a angry, aggressive family (DH, MIL, SIL were an intertwined triangle) and was going to pass the aggression on to my dc's if I stayed. Dc's and I are must better off since I left. DH #2 is a much better father and role model.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 06:13 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
You're living my first marriage. DH's who call their DW's the "c" word are abusive and have deep seated anger toward women. My MIL was like yours. DH hated her. The aggression gets worse with time and your ds's learn to treat women badly, while dd's learn to be treated badly. Plan an exit strategy. I moved in with my mother and sent dc's to local public school. DH was happy to be rid of us as long as it didn't cost him money. I remarried a kind man who remembers my birthday, VD, Mother's Day and our anniversary. Dc's see how well he treats me and will do the same for their spouses.
[ Reply | Options ]02.14.09, 05:30 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Why is Speyer's birthday cutoff December 31st if it is a private school? 3 replies
Talk : : February 12, 2009
Why is Speyer's birthday cutoff December 31st if it is a private school?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.12.09, 03:48 PM [ Flag ]because every school can set their own cut off. it's not like all private schools have to have the earlier cut off
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 03:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Then why did I hear of a dc who has a fall b-day (will be 5 before 12/31) is applying for K not for this Sept, but next? What's going on with this school?
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 05:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]Since they are not an ISAAGNY member, they can consider kids who turn five after September 1, I suspect because it will allow them to compete with Hunter and Anderson and consider the largest possible pool as they are getting started.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] anyone not throw a big birthday party for their dc? my dc will be turning 4 and we'v... 4 replies
Talk : : February 12, 2009
anyone not throw a big birthday party for their dc? my dc will be turning 4 and we've never had a party where we invited other people. it's always been just dh and me. should we do something "bigger" this year?
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.12.09, 10:45 AM [ Flag ]Is dc asking for a party?
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 10:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]no.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 10:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]then count your blessings and keep it small
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 10:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]np: then i wouldn't worry about it. once ds started going to friends' parties, he wanted to have his own. if he hadn't asked, we would've just gone out to dinner as a family. some kids don't want a party... too shy to be the center of attention. friend's ds was this way
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 10:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
[+] Do I really have to write thank you notes for my 4 year old's birthday party presents... 9 replies
Talk : : February 12, 2009
Do I really have to write thank you notes for my 4 year old's birthday party presents? Do I have to write them all cutesy in the first person like he really has anything to do with them? I just don't have the energy.
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]02.12.09, 07:11 AM [ Flag ]do you really have to ask if you should write thank you notes? you can write them from you
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:12 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]I think you do need to send them, but no need to be cutesy. Just a simple thanks for the gift, Johnny really likes playing with it, thanks for coming to party. End of story. How long can it take? Do it while watching TV one night.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:13 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]If your four year old can write Thank You Love Susie - then let her do it. If not you do it. From you.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]yes you do need to write ty notes. Just say "Dear Jane, Thank you for the truck and for coming to my party. Love," and have your child sign his own name.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]he's FOUR!!!!
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:24 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]np, we all know that. if your four year old can't sign his name then you need to write the note. This isn't hard.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
People love to get thank you cards, esp "from" kids. It doesn't have to be cutesy but you need to send a ty.
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]If they were received at the party (opened during the party) then I say no...since he thanked them then. If not opened during then quick thank you but nothing cute!
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:30 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]write the thank you notes and get him to scrawl his initial if he can
[ Reply | Options ]02.12.09, 07:44 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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