[-]I posted this before but I can't find my post so I couldn't see replies. I am pregnant with twins and when I have them my toddler with be just over 2. I would like to breastfeed them but frankly it seems so daunting with a toddler in addition that I almost wish someone would tell me I can't. I know it's horrible but it all seems like so much.
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]thank you. I know I am going to try it -- I just had supply problems with my first and breastfed, pumped and bottlefed every single time for months. I killed myself to get him to 7 months of breastfeeding and I thought I learned that it's ok not to kill yourself. but now that suddenly im expecting twins (no twins in the family, no fertility drugs, nada!) I feel I'll be back in that situation and I'm afraid I can't handle it with my toddler and his needs as well. But, I'll give it a shot and try my best not to hate myself if it fails!
[ Reply | Options ]i had a hard time bf'ing my first and i was on the fence about doing it with my second. then i realized how stupid i was being. it doesn't have to be a decision. you can try it. if it works, great. if not, also great. as a mom of three under three, you'll need to learn to be flexible anyway.
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[-]Anyone have or seen the new Cartier Balloon watch? I like it and am thinking of getting asking for it for a birthday present. Thoughts? Anyone know of a watch forum website? TIA!
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]ballon bleu-its amazing--go to www.cartier.com
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[-]Am expecting and recently found out that baby will have club foot. Any rec's for specialists?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]don't know any docs now but I had club feet as a baby and totally fine now. I had casts as a baby and parents had me horsebackriding for years.
[ Reply | Options ]Andrew Price, affiliated with NYU. Fabulous orthopedist. Just FYI, he's not very warm and fuzzy...but he's an EXCELLENT doctor which is what has kept us with him.
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[-]I am a nanny in NYC. I don't have many nanny friends, and the ones I do have are very discreet about their jobs, as am I, because I work for a high-profile family. So I'm posting here, to ask a few questions about salaries/benefits typically offered to nannies in NYC. My job is very demanding, and the family expects a lot from me. I work very hard, and find my job very rewarding. I believe they are extremely generous with me. I'm wondering what is the highest salary and benefits package/perks you've heard of being offered to a nanny? I want to see where I fit in.
32 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I don't know the highest but we pay $850./week (8:00-5:00) on the books - with taxes, etc. calculated so that take home is $850. plus health care and bonus of 2 weeks salary at New Year's. 1 child. Pay $25./hour for extra time. Great nanny.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm a manny on the UES. My rate of pay is $38/hour and I work a full 40-hour week. I charge time-and-a-half for any overtime and/or weekend work, but my employers are good about adhering to my 40-hour schedule. I don't do housework, I don't cook, and I don't run errands -- my only responsibility is the children. VERY occasionally, if my employers are in a bind and it's convenient for me, I'll run a quick errand or two for them, but I've made it clear they can't make a habit of it. I'm a child-care professional, and I expect to be treated as such -- I am NOT "domestic help". Luckily, my employers recognize that.
[ Reply | Options ]What makes you worth 2x the going rate for top nannies? Not snarky, but very curious. You can hire a grad student from NYU for significantly less. I'm wondering what value added you provide? $25/hour would get you a very happy and professional nanny, offer $30/hour and you can probably hire away the best nanny you've ever seen, so why pay $38?
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My friends' former live in nanny made $800 net cash (employer paid all taxes) plus employer paid health care, paid vacation, room/board (obviously), car (for work & personal use), credit card (for any household expenses). 50 hours/week, no OT as there was also a night and weekend nanny.
[ Reply | Options ]38$ person above makes about 80,000/year, more than a lot of lawyers, doctors and so forth. I guess it's just like anything, you can get a $600 haircut and a 25$ haircut. Also, once you're in those circles that pay that kind of money, you're in and will be paid accordingly. I am sure there are "nannies" who charge even more. I mean, just as a matter of principle, Madonna and the like, is not going to pay less than $100,000 to her childcare employees...
[ Reply | Options ]Exactly. There are cheap 20K/year "Chevy" nannies, and then there are upscale $80K/year "Mercedes" nannies. Not saying that either one is good or bad, but in the end you always get what you pay for.
[ Reply | Options ]That manny is full of crap, since you didn't ask. If we're to believe that one some blanks ought to be filled in: On the books,health ins, how many kids, which area,how are the needs of the kids somehow divorced from any errands for the employers is there a cook, domestic help,a set per diem for travel, meals& misc expenses, do both parents work full time?
[ Reply | Options ]Manny here. I'm on the books, three kids, UES (as I stated ... please pay attention), there is domestic help, and no, both parents don't work full time. But I do.
[ Reply | Options ]I'll pardon your skewed tone of entitlement, as I did take note of your inclusion of white,over 35, college educated and American in your list of 'qualifications'(all of those also apply to George Bush and a legion of overpaid, overvalued hustlers). The UES isn't an area; it's a region. Perhaps I should've said neighborhood.Your lack of any humility is assuring, as it practically guarantees your butt will hit reality harder than someone with the grace to acknowledge their good fortune-and we all fall on our butts sometimes.
[ Reply | Options ]ITA-I know 3 Upper East families with Mannies.I'm going to copy and send the link to this post to two of them. I'm curious if you work for either. Maybe they'll figure it out. You sound like an ass.
[ Reply | Options ]And since you started the name-calling, I'll be honest with you ... you sound like a cunt! Your jealousy isn't a very attractive attribute.
[ Reply | Options ]Actually, I'm a woman and only men can be cunts. White guys don't really get to me in the way you may hope. Since I don't pimp myself out as a novelty babysitter, do work and play hard raising my children and am well $$ compensated in my professional field, I'm unsure why you would think I'm jealous. You just come off as an annoying, bratty,aging teen of a white guy.
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NP: Manny, you ARE full of it. It's one thing to list your working conditions and the terms of your employment, it's another to be sanctimonious and above it all. Lots of nannies do housework, run errands, etc. Yes, of course, your responsibility is the children, and that's worth stating. But is it worth it to tack on "if... it's convenient for me, I'll run a quick errand... but I've made it clear they can't make a habit of it"
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Last year, our nanny was making $1000/week on the books, $5,000 Christmas gift + birthday gift cards ($800 to $900 total value), paid for her health insurance, minimum 3 weeks vacations (would usually be 5 or 6 weeks in practice), about 50 hrs per week, no WE work, no last minute work, no travelling. Top agency told me it was very very generous. Unfortunately our job and financial situation has totally changed and we have had to restructure hours and compensation significantly. We are not a high profile family but believe strongly in taking care of the person who cares for our 2 DCs while we are at work - also ensures that she is very unlikely to leave for another job which provides stability to our family. Over the years I have seen little...
[ Reply | Options ]Q for OP: Now that you've seen some answers, can you clue us in to your compensation package? Did you fit in?
[ Reply | Options ]OP here: thanks everyone for your responses. All this does give me some info on where I fit in on the scale of nanny salaries/benefits. Currently I make $85K a year salary with yearly bonus, with full health benefits (but excluding dental/vision). My work week is setup as 40 hrs, but most of the time, I work more (around 45). I have around 10 weeks of paid vacation per year. I have no cleaning or cooking responsibilities (there are housekeepers and a chef) but I often try to help out if I can. I am extremely happy in my position, and feel that my compensation is fair. I do, however, think I'm paid a higher salary than most because 1) my employers expect nothing but the best work every day and the job is INTENSE, and 2) they are high-profile...
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[-]looking for crib mattress for newborn to be... buybuybaby is pushing the colgate sophisticate at $299. im willing to spend it if its really worth it, but wondering if it is. its a dual sided coil mattress (one side firmer than the other so you can flip it when baby becomes a toddler). any thoughts/recommendations? thanks!!
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]sounds like bs to me. my db didn't seem to notice the difference between the high end crib mattress and the piece of cardboard in the pack and play. if i had to do it over, i'd buy a firm foam mattress because they're so much lighter, and it's a bitch to change crib sheets on a heavy mattress. the whole breathability issue is bs too because you will certainly cover it with a non-breathable waterproof pad or sheet, so in the end all are equally un-breathable.
[ Reply | Options ]ITA. 2 dc's here. #1 sleeps on pricey (and so freaking heavy!) mattress. #2 slept on cardboard pac n play for 8 months, then cheapo 2 inch mattress in a portacrib for 8 months, and now on light, inexpensive crib mattress in regular crib (b/c #1 still uses Bellini mattress in his toddler bed). made no difference - they're both decent sleepers, and #1 actually prefers to nap in his old crib on the cheap mattress. go figure.
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I just bought the organic mattress that Costco has. We are very happy with it and it's under #$200
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for anyone with a baby jogger city stroller: what type of car seat do you use with it and does it stay in very firmly (not wobbly?) when i saw it in the store with a graco attached the graco seemed a bit wobbly.. wonder if this is a problem or if i just saw it attached poorly?
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[-]any moms w 3 under 2? i have a 12 month old and am newly prego w twins.... excited but scared.
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[-]Do people still post here when they looking for positions for their nanny's. UB used to be a great place to find nanny's, but now I can't seem to tell if it is still the place to do this. I am trying to help my nanny find a new position and want to post about her somewhere it will be seen. Thanks.
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[-]Live in Manhattan and baby is 10 days told. I swear my pediatrician told me that we can go out as long as baby is dressed warmly and she didn't really limit public areas (within reason......(large open places)... some of my friends said she nuts for allowing this but I think it's a NYC thing. I go to a large MD practice part of NYU. What do other NYC mom's think? (scared I heard her wrong b/c I am sleep deprived)
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]your friends are idiots. The baby is ok outside if she's dressed properly. I wouldn't bring her to someone's home where there are lots of ppl and chances are someone will be sick..but go for a walk...visit someone..that's all ok. BTW I have 3 kids and took them out days after birth. I go to peds at NYU too
[ Reply | Options ]i agree. just don't let kids touch baby and be good re hand washing. i can't imagine keeping db home all winter!
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[-]What's a reasonable hourly rate for a nanny looking after 2 children (2.5yo and 3mo) in New York? TIA!
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Think about it, you get what you pay for. Want to pay nothing? Then don't expect the best care..and I mean care that comes with love.
[ Reply | Options ]I like Cadeau on Elizabeth Street. A bit pricey. I found great work pants and jackets at Motherhood Maternity. Cheap but you have to look through everything to find the right pieces. I can't stand for very long so I was in the store for hours. Yikes!
[ Reply | Options ]Just btdt on a nanny search. $15 an hour now will get you your pick of many qualified applicants. I posted on CL and had so many replies I had to take my ad down. Of those, there were tons more qualified applicants than I could even interview. Friend just posted on sittercity at 12/hr and also said the same.
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I actually have 3dc and hired someone for $650 for 45-50/hrs a week. You really have no idea how many people are looking for work. in ds class alone I know of 3 moms who laid off their nannies.
[ Reply | Options ]that's awful. that you would exploit a nanny looking for work like that? shame on you.
[ Reply | Options ]yes, she should definitely pay more than market because she is a dumb guilt-ridden professional
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yes, i did. perhaps you missed the lesson on sweatshops because you were hurling long island iced teas into the toilet after giving some frat boy a hand job.
[ Reply | Options ]how can you say that 33k a year is sweatshop, and that's with no taxes. My exec assistant gets paid taht much and she went to Holyoke. That's a fine salary
[ Reply | Options ]and in ten years she will be making three times that. your nanny will have started all over again with family number five at ten bucks an hour. the fact that you can't see that she is not getting rich off you makes me wonder how you've earned an assistant at all. are you sure you don't work at the gap?
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the "market"? these are illegal immigrants who have no other options. please. try to educate yourself before you go lording your econ 101 over the rest of us.
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np: Um - do you understand that many of the nannies' employers compensation has declined to less than HALF of what its been in recent years?
[ Reply | Options ]Um ... do you understand that just because you feel you "need" a nanny doesn't mean you can actually AFFORD one? I feel I "need" a Mercedes, but my income declined last year. Does that mean I'm entitled to walk into my nearest dealership and demand a brand-new model for half-price?
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np: I think I'm going to make an offer to someone who makes $15 looking after one dc. I have 2 dc's. What would you offer?
[ Reply | Options ]Where do you live? How many hours? Check out www.parkslopeparents.org they did a nanny survey
[ Reply | Options ]Maybe 16? Either that or come up with a weekly wage you and your dh can handle and go from there. We pay 600 per week for about 38 hrs, 4 days. We can't go more right now. We love her btw.
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I pay my nanny $450/week plus pay her taxes, and the tax prep (she's legal), and give significant cash bonuses for anniversary date, Christmas hoilday and birthday. We have a written nanny agremment that spells out the paid holidays - New years day, Prez day, memorial day, July 4th, labor day,thanksgiving, & christmas, plus she gets approx 8 other paid days off per year when we travel with dc on work days. I'm expecting dc #2 & haven't decided how much of a raise, especially since dc#1 will be in school 3 mornings in the fall.
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maybe to you, but our nanny is not the average entitled filenes-browsing nanny scum that seems to post here.
[ Reply | Options ]oh. so she's mary poppins and works for peanuts. do you smoke crack on a regular basis? or do you just think paying slave wages is the responsible thing to do?
[ Reply | Options ]slave wages? when i want a dose of fantasy, i come here. $15/hr is more than most retail jobs pay in the city, and illegal nannies don't pay taxes, plus they get holiday bonuses and lots of paid time off. She earns more than my kid's kindergarten and nursery school teachers and she barely graduated from high school. I like her, she's great, but with her qualifications the market will bear what it will bear. If you dopes out there consider it slave wages, well, tant pis for you!
[ Reply | Options ]Thank you. Geez people, reality check please? Most employees at B&N, as an example, are lit majors, with at a minimum a BA. They are making 9 to 12 bucks an hour, depending on time they've been employed and position of management. And they pay state and city and federal income taxes on that. Social workers make on average, 5k above a nicely paid nanny (15 bucks an hour) off the books annually. And most have Master's degrees and some post grad training. Perspective please!
[ Reply | Options ]I think watching my children and keeping them safe also has higher stakes than stacking the shelves in alphabetical order at B&N. It's not just about education, but about the importance/value of the job, imo. These are your CHILDREN for heaven's sake. Cut back somewhere else if it's tight.
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um, let's see. your k teacher gets union benefits, a pension, the summers off, plus all the paid holidays your nanny does. she also could have done something else should she have chosen to do so. not so your nanny. just how stupid do you have to be to post something like this? a dose of fantasy? your the one who is alice in wonderland with her head crammed up her a$$.
[ Reply | Options ]You're being ridiculous. She was calling out the idea of someone making 15 bucks an hour, tax free, amounting to probably 30 to 35 k annually, SLAVE WAGES a fantasy. And it is. It is no where near slave labor. What planet are you living on?
[ Reply | Options ]you figure health care and other benefits account for a third of your salary. so this person is making the equivalent of $20k to live in nyc and take care of THREE dc? that's fucked up.
[ Reply | Options ]and let's not forget that person is making that much per year over their entire career. it's not like an 18 y/o making it at the gap who will one day make 6 figs.
[ Reply | Options ]A social worker? A teacher? A cop? You all are utterly deluded. Not many people can afford the salaries of which you speak. How many families can afford to pay, out of pocket, 35k annually? Not many. The 15 dollars an hour is reasonable and is not even approaching "slave" wages. We're simply asking that you not be dramatic and ridiculous.
[ Reply | Options ]Now THAT is ridiculous. You know what? I'm done with you. If you want to persist in this mission to make everyone feel badly for paying 15$ an hour, tax free, to their nannies, which comes out to an enormous annual nut for a family, then go ahead. I don't know what your situation is, but it is clearly one of relative affluence and ease. So thank your lucky stars, back off, and shoo.
[ Reply | Options ]Just because you WANT a nanny -- or even feel you "need" a nanny -- doesn't mean you can afford on. $15/hour is appropriate for teenage babysitters. The fact that you can exploit illegals (indeed, contribute to the growing problem of illegal immigration), is reprehensible. You are the poster child of why we need to crack down on illegal immigration ... and the best way to do that is to start throwing YOUR asses in the slammer.
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This thread is funny. There is clearly one nanny on here trying to convince the rest of the world that 15 bucks cash an hour is just horrible. It's 35K GROSS which is like 50K net or more! Name 3 other jobs your average nanny could get that pay that much. And the benefits, health care, etc - most nannies DO NOT WANT TO BE ON THE BOOKS! I tried finding one two years ago and had to give up b/c so many want the cash wages so they can continue to qualify for medicaid and other entitlements. The PSP survey referenced above will also confirm that 13-16 hourly is a common wage and that was done before the recession hit. Sorry, nanny, but your UB crusade is over.
[ Reply | Options ]ITTTTA!!! And by the way, I would LOVE to pay my nanny more than $15 an hour, but we can't afford it. She's amazing and we adore her - but we both got crushed this year (Finance, non-TARP)- we are doing our best for her tho. Obv. if the economy turns around, we'd love to do more for her.
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I had a really bad experience with him and the office.(It was only for one visit.) I was sent to him by my midwife for a colposcopy. I saw him about an hour after my appt. time. (The women in the office were laughing because, apparently, he's chatty and gets behind in his schedule.) My midwife sent me to him for the colpo since it was something that she could not do. Right before the procedure, he asked if I wanted to see photos of the baby. I, of course, said yes and mentioned that I had my trans-nuchal ultrasound in two days. Anyway, he spent about 1 minute taking photos and then got on with the procedure that I actually scheduled for. I was really surprised when I saw that he sent in a claim for the $300 for my 1-minute ultrasound. I cal...
[ Reply | Options ]Dr. Mucciolo is a great dr. and suregon. I'd trust him with my life. I was in the hospital for over five weeks due to some complitations and he was very attentive and caring. I agree, he is super busy, appointments can take a while and be rescheduled--which is a pain. But he is very skilled and well respected at NYU.
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He was my OB. He is competent, intelligent and I trusted him. That being said, he is not a "touch-feely" dr. He gives it to you straight, without a lot of hand holding. And he is very busy, so appointments can be rushed. But as my due date got closer, I felt he made an effort to get to know me better. He was not on call the night I delivered, so I can't speak to that.
[ Reply | Options ]I had a very pleasant experience with Dr. Mucciolo himself. I thought he was both courteous and respectful, and really helped me understand everything about what my body would be going through in the next few months. However, his office staff is TERRIBLE. One young woman, I believe her name is Janey or Jamey, both insulted and laughed at my situation WHILE I WAS SITTING NOT 2 FEET AWAY. She was rude and insulting. The last thing a woman needs during her gynecological exams is a member of the office staff making uncomfortable comments.
[ Reply | Options ]He was my OB, I adore him. He is always running late for appts but this is mostly because he takes so much time to talk with you and explain things. Very supportive of my desire not to do epidural -- talked me through labor in a way that enabled me to stick with my plan not to get one. Doesn't routinely do episiotomies either.
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[-]any advice on how to get a 6 month old to eat solids? Mine absolutely refuses
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[-]anyone had an amnio show slight chromosomal abnormality (they're doing more tests, could be a non-harmful variant or it could be something) but db turned out fine? i'm agonizing over these 10 days i have to wait to get final results and would love to know someone else went through this and all was well.
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