Relationships

Hey! We're Gay! We're Married! Let's Move to ... Virginia? (UPDATED)

"Hey, sweetheart, let's move to Virginia and make a life for ourselves there free of intolerance and inequality," said no gay couple ever. Or at least, that's what an effete writer working for a New York publication long-entwined with the city's gay community might assume. You see, there's an odd g ... More >>

Study Says Women Drink More Than Men in Marriage

"Honey get me a beer." According to a recent study by the Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Association, marriage means more drinking for women and less for men. Married women actually drink more than previously married women, but married men drink less than previously married men.

Edith Windsor, Octogenarian Lesbian Widow: Take My DOMA Case to the Supreme Court!

Edith Windsor, the octogenarian lesbian widow who successfully sued the federal government for over chariging her $363,000 in estate taxes, wants to take her case to the Supreme Court. According to a press release from the New York Civil Liberties Union, which is representing Windsor along with the ... More >>

The Hideous Lies In Dating Site Profiles: Here's Your Handy Guide

Everyone--I mean everyone--lies on Match.com, OKCupid, Grindr, Manhunt, eHarmony, and every other hookup site/app in tarnation. The profiles read more like romance novels than confessionals, filled with exaggerations, evasions, wishful thinking, and downright doctoring of evidence. With every word ... More >>

Gay-Bashing Massachusetts Macho Man Pleads Guilty To Hate Crime After Attack On Gay Queens Man Backfires

Cristian Flores must have thought he was pretty tough when he and a few of his buddies decided to hassle a gay couple in Queens last year. However, Flores wasn't such a tough guy when one of the gay men tackled him to the ground and held him until police showed up -- and that was only after Flores a ... More >>

Washington State on the Road to Same-Sex Marriage Equality, Perhaps Within a Week

The Washington State Senate passed a bill paving the way for same-sex marriages last night. Before the vote was taken, same-sex marriage watchers believed that it could be a very tight vote. However, it ultimately passed comfortably 28 to 21. It will now move on the Washington's House, where it is e ... More >>

LONELY HEARTS CLUB

Breaking up is hard to do

Scientists Determine that People on eHarmony Want to Get Married

​How do you date successfully? Some might say it's only when you stop dating, a/k/a, find someone and settle down, or whatever people do. Others might say that it's as simple as going on a good date, or learning something from the experience, even if it's bad. Free-living caddish types and tho ... More >>

Single Lady Brags About Using Match.com to Get Guys to Buy Her Dinner

"Make dinner happen."​I wasn't going to write about this, but it started making me madder and madder, so here I am. Business Insider today writes of a woman named Jessica Sporty, who, at 23, was simply too poor on her $45K salary to take care of her $1,475 a month (ahem -- Murray Hill) apartme ... More >>

Fuck You, Dancing With The Stars!

​The show is including Chaz Bono, which is a welcome addition of a transgender person to the ballroom. But will they ever incorporate a same-sex couple already? The show came closest to actualizing a gay duo just moments ago, when they considered putting Carson Kressley with a man. But they ... More >>

How Will the Law Recognize Your Same-Sex Marriage? The NYCLU Explains

After July 24, no one​The New York Civil Liberties Union has created an excellent guide to what same-sex couples can expect legally after they've tied the knot. The Marriage Equality Act creates a certain level of legal equality for same-sex couples under New York State law, but in no way does ... More >>

DateMySchool Expands To 204 More Campuses

​Last November, two Columbia students launched DateMySchool, an online dating service exclusively for college students. Columbia University Business School students Balazs Alexa, 28, and Jean Meyer, 29, came up with the idea for the site when they were discussing the "lack of dateable women" i ... More >>

First Comes Loves, Then Comes Gay Marriage (After Societal Pressure), Then... Divorce!

​Since late Friday night, much has changed for gay couples who are now free to get married in New York state; may everyone who wants to eat plain pizza and Baskin Robbins while looking "miserable." But seriously, it's a huge step, and as after every bit of forward progress, there's the impatie ... More >>

Dean Skelos Calls For a Gay Marriage Vote; Religious Exemptions Finally Come Out

​Senate Majority Leader Dean Skelos has just announced that the Marriage Equality Bill will get a vote in the Senate. This comes moments after the Senate released proposed language for a "religious exemptions" amendment to the billl, which will allow religious groups and their affiliate busin ... More >>

Girl-on-Girl Action Becomes Passé

With lesbian sex not only accepted but boring, what's left to outrage?

Live Sex Toy Demonstration to 100 College Students Ill-Advised, Yucky

The lovely couple, via Chicago Sun-Times​Northwestern University has come out not in favor of a recent sex toy demonstration given by a couple in front of 100 students at a human sexuality lecture, and the school's president Morton Schapiro is now calling for an investigation. How could this h ... More >>

10 Rules for Reacting to Facebook Break-Up Notifications

​Last week, an old friend we hadn't spoken to for a long time announced on Facebook that she was getting a divorce. She didn't do so by writing a message. Rather, she simply changed her relationship status from "married" to "single." (She also dropped her husband's last name for her maiden nam ... More >>

Valentine's Day is the Absolute Worst

​Tomorrow, millions of unoriginal people will give and receive chocolates, flowers and diamonds for the elaborate courting ritual of Valentine's Day. Women will wear red or black lace lingerie and men will take them out to dinner at expensive restaurants with prix fixe specials for V-Day, and ... More >>

Dixie is So Gay: Surprising Census Info About Gay Parents in the South

The Times has a great piece today that defies a lot of the common stereotypes of what it means to be gay in America. Since 1990, the Census has been a gold mine of information about LGBT couples for creative demographers. Despite the lack of any question about sexual orientation (hence, no info on s ... More >>

Semen Setbacks Plaguing Modern Man

​Today we face two terrible, awful, cringe-worthy studies about men and their reported sexual dysfunctions. The first comes via the Daily News (kudos on that stock art pick, guys!), which cites research presented at the European Society for Sexual Medicine that determined that some 16% of the ... More >>

Carnal Ignorance: Should Women Enjoy Sex?

​Clip Job: an excerpt every day from the Voice archives. October 7, 1971, Vol. XVI, No. 40 Carnal Ignorance By Ellen Frankfort For the longest time a woman wasn't supposed to enjoy sex. Then suddenly a woman was neurotic if she didn't achieve orgasm simultaneously with her husband. Proof of ... More >>

Why Men Fake Orgasms, by a Man Who Has Faked an Orgasm

​The New York Post noted a fun statistic to emerge from a survey by the editors of Men's Health and Women's Health of 2,000 people's sex habits: 17% of the men surveyed have faked an orgasm. Some people think that this "is a statistic that raises more questions than it does answers." Indeed! ... More >>

Sex Survey Results In: Crazy Kids Are Using Condoms; Adults, Not So Much

​There's a new sex study out from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior -- in fact, it's considered the most comprehensive national study since 1994, surveying 5,865 people between the ages of 14 and 94. Though it was financed by the maker of Trojan condoms, they would like you to ... More >>

Young Ladies Like Oral Sex, But That Doesn't Make Them Slutty, Thank You Very Much

​New sex research from the University of Alberta indicates some interesting things about young women and oral sex. The short and sweet: It's becoming common -- maybe even as common as regular sex, not that "regular" indicates any sort of judgment, mind you. In fact, oral has "become a fundamen ... More >>

California's Proposition 8 Ruled Unconstitutional

U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker ruled today that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional. The long awaited decision was just released from the U.S. District Courthouse for Northern California in San Francisco. The case, Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, was a lawsuit in which two gay couples sued that Propo ... More >>

Brian from Wisconsin Dishes on 30 Dates in 30 Days: Today is Date #1

​Brian Moore, a Milwaukee-raised 23-year-old, is like the modern-day version of sweetheart Cory Matthews from Boy Meets World (albeit lankier and blonder), and he's seeking his Topanga. The Emerson '09 grad moved to New York four months ago, and having spent most of his entire adult life in a ... More >>

Gay is the New Black: Teen Vogue Presents Season's New "Must-Have Accessory"

SJP's GBF Made a Funny!​Breaking: Teen Vogue has found the answer to the biggest girl predicament in the history of girl predicaments, and, no, it's not Birkin bags for everyone, it's Gays! Aside from being borderline offensive throughout -- gays are, like, so hot right now! -- the article doc ... More >>

NYT Writer Responds to NYTPicker Accusations of Fabricating "End of Best Friend" Trend

​Last week, a boldly titled New York Times story by Hilary Stout -- "The End of the Best Friend" -- appeared on the cover of the Thursday Styles. The story attracted over 300 comments, some very excitable, some very, very excitable, and some blind ragers. Today, New York Times gadfly blog NYTP ... More >>

Guy Who Will Break Up for You for a Fee Insists He's Not Anti-Relationship; the Trouble With Love Is Technology

Kim Kingery (K lamore Images) © 2010iDump4U's Bradley Laborman​Yes, the Internet really does have everything. Including, if for some reason you should want to end things with your significant other but don't actually want to do it face-to-face, or phone-to-phone, or even IM-to-IM -- or on a f ... More >>

Rag on My Sex and the City, Fine, But Let's Leave Friendship Out of It

​As we wade through the shitstorm of negativity about the out-in-theaters-now Sex and the City 2 (Full disclosure, no, we have not seen it yet, but we will, and we will be similarly tortured, we are certain), we just have to say one thing: There is one tried and true principle, one facet of th ... More >>

FDA Considering "Lady Viagra"

​Next month the FDA will decide whether or not to endorse a pill called flibanserin (yeah, that name has got to go) which purports to boost women's sex lives. The drug, made by German pharma company Boehringer Ingelheim, sparks "a woman's sexual desire by fiddling with her brain chemicals." Wh ... More >>

Have You Choked Your Chicken Lately? Masturbation Month Starts Saturday!

​As our sister-wives over at L.A. Weekly have reported, May brings us many good things -- flowers and sunshine and spring, and even our own carpal-tunnel-based, self-focused series of chronological days... aka Masturbation Month.

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"Stars' Sexperiences" Make Us Feel Bad About Hollywood, Ourselves

​Tina Fey (pictured) reveals that she "couldn't give it away" -- meaning her virginity -- when she was a young lass, prompting respected journalistic organization ABC News to run a slide show of "Stars' Sexperiences." You would imagine these Sexperiences would be calculated to include simila ... More >>

Paterson Puts In Gay Marriage Bill

Gay Socialites is twittering Governor Paterson's introduction of his gay marriage bill at his Manhattan office. The Times has Paterson's comparison of the gay marriage movement to prior civil rights battles ("We have all known the wrath of discrimination, we have all felt the pain and insult of hat ... More >>

Vermont, D.C. Keep the Same-Sexiness Coming

The Vermont legislature approved same-sex marriage. The Governor vetoed it. Now the legislature has overridden his veto, making Vermont America's first legislatively-decided gay state. Hurrah! Iowa made us feel inadequate with its unanimous Supreme Court gayness, but Vermont has struck back for coas ... More >>

A Ban On Mormon Marriage And Their "Religious Fascism"!

This had to happen! The Universal Free Church is calling for a national petition drive to allow gay marriage and to ban Mormon marriage! (That should even things out. Otherwise, the chapels will be way overbooked.) Like so many people out there, they feel the Mormons have a right to say whatever t ... More >>

Has Whole Foods Gone Too Far?

Wanda Sykes Comes Out

Thousands Protest Prop 8 at Mormon Temple

Obama Win Bittersweet for Gay Rights Supporters

Writer Eileen Myles on the Election, Gay Marriage

Nina Hartley's Guide to Pregnant Sex

Her latest movie offers a sex-positive approach to that oft-neglected subject

Interview With an Orgasm Broker

Want to please a woman from across the world? Allen Stein has made it possible for $5.99 a minute.

LGBT New Yorkers Put Muscle Behind Obama

Who Needs Monogamy When There's the Internet?

Talking with Tristan Taormino about sleeping around online without breaking hearts

Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men

Inside the secret world of the straight guise