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[ - ] Sippy cup throwing mom here -- dh with ocd/anxiety did not make an appointment for CBT like he said he would. He was being very nice and fun with dd all evening. after dd went to bed I confronted him about not making the call to start CBT or see a psychiatrist and he was all "can't you see I'm having a good day? don't bring me down." He's now completely pissed off but says make an appointment tomorrow--still, he throws in, "It would be easier if you'd just divorce me and take the kid away." I packed his bag. He can make an appointment tomorrow or pick up the bag and leave. I hope he'll decide to get help. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:42 AM Flag
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Ugh, so hard. Be strong and GL. [ Reply | More
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it is hard for people with anxiety to seek help because getting help is another thing that makes them anxious. [ Reply | More
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op: totally. I tried to make an appointment at Cornell for him myself and they said he needs to make it. Getting him on the phone telling some stranger he needs help--the idea has him totally worked up. On the bright side, I know if he has an appointment he'll show up. He hates inconveniencing strangers. [ Reply | More
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ask a male friend to call and pretend to be him? a bit unethical but if it is in his best interest. I suffered from anxiety when I was a teen, thankfully I mostly grew out of it, I remember when I needed help I wrote my parents a letter then had a friend pick me up so I wouldn't be home when they read it [ Reply | More
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np: I wouldn't recommend to have someone else to make an appt. He has to do it himself-- it's a step he has to initiate. If op does it for him, he will blame her later on. My BIL has anxiety/ocd, it's very difficult for the family. GL, op. [ Reply | More
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Thanks for updating us, I was wondering how you were doing. I hope he decides to get help too, GL [ Reply | More
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op: thanks for caring. UB helps because I can't tell my really friends or family what's going on with him. The ILs have a clue, but no one else. It's very lonely. [ Reply | More
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It's cool that you found this outlet for it. I think you're being very strong for her. It must be hard. [ Reply | More
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how come the in laws didn't suspect something with him growing up? [ Reply | More
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np: I was also thinking about OP today. I really hope he gets help, and if he doesn't I hope OP leaves him. I can't imagine what her little girl must be absorbing having him as a father, this weird love/hate relationship and probably a lot of guilt always wondering what she did wrong to make daddy mad at her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:41 AM Flag
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Keep trying. Marriage is messy and hard. Maybe you could offer to go with him? I went with my husband when he was suffering from PTSD. It helps. But it also depends on if you want to save the marriage or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:27 AM Flag
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op: I definitely do want to save it--but only if he can be nice to our kid. [ Reply | More
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+1000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:46 AM Flag
[ - ] i need to confess here because i feel very guilty over something. on saturday, i bought a bunch of fresh shrimp. i forgot about them and just discovered them in the refrigerator. i feel very guilty about wasting the money. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:34 AM Flag
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Having to throw that shit out was punishment enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:52 AM Flag
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Tell the bitch in your head to fuck off. Forgive yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 06:24 AM Flag
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is it bad? sometimes, they are frozen (in the middle and still good. you can smell it and see. if it smells ammonia-like, gone. if it comes apart (flesh is breaking down), it is gone. otherwise, you can cook it. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Any suggestions for shopping for PJs for men? Hate the sweats that DH throws on every nite. TIA. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:29 AM Flag
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wth? what is he supposed to wear? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:31 AM Flag
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If dh told me I couldn't wear my sweats, our marriage would be over! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:47 AM Flag
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google is your friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:32 AM Flag
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gap, old navy and h&m; always have pj pants for men - my dh wears them - better than sweats imo [ Reply | More
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do these need ironing? hate crinkled clothes [ Reply | More
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you seem very particular. let the poor man wear what he wants to wear! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:33 AM Flag
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no, never need ironing - just get the thinner ones - especially with summer coming up [ Reply | More
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nobody who would care about wrinkles should see you in your pajamas anyways [ Reply | More
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Vineyard vines pajama pants [ Reply | More
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Boxers and a t-shirt? [ Reply | More
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This is how my DH sleeps, he only wears sweats or shorts after he gets out of bed and that's because DD is getting older. [ Reply | More
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Sleep naked ;) [ Reply | More
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brooks brothers [ Reply | More
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I buy Ralph Lauren and similar at dept. stores.separates [ Reply | More
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there are men who sleep in pants? [ Reply | More
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a dh: I love my Big Dog lounge pants. [ Reply | More
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Sears and Shopko have footie adult jams......just sayin [ Reply | More
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track pants. Get them at target. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Does your child model? How to get started? DD has always had people tell me she should model, and my answer always was that she's too young to work. Now at age 10 I'm thinking maybe it could be fun and it would be good to have savings for college. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:29 AM Flag
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Most likely won't make money to save for college. It's one of those things where you have to put in thousands upfront in order to pay a photographer for head shots and to have somebody do her portfolio. Then you go to the modeling agencies and see if she can get an interview with them, many of these places receive hundreds of people every day who just want them to look at their portfolio, so this can be hard. IMO, the best children's modeling agency in NYC tends to be Wilhelmina Modeling Agency, but there are a few other top agencies such as IBM and Ford. Modeling is seriously a cut throat world though,, even for children. Unless your child is truly gorgeous and confident then don't risk setting her up for failure and throwing your money down the drain. It's also something that is taken seriously, as you both would be expected to. Not really a hobby, she would definitely have to miss school for it at times and if she got really serious would probably have to have a tutor or transfer to the professional children's school-- They have a lot of child actors and models. GL though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:47 AM Flag
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I agree with that about fashion modeling, but if your child is actually interested in it commercial print and catalog modeling are more lucrative and more child friendly environments. Modeling schools are all scams and any agency that asks you for money upfront or insists you use specific photographers for headshots is a scam, a real agency should get 10-15% of what your child makes if they get their money another way they aren't legit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:49 AM Flag
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Thank you both for your valuable input! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:57 AM Flag
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you welcome, also maybe think about commercials if your child likes acting and has an outgoing personality and good smile TV commercials can have amazing pay. I made $2800 on a two day job for Pepsi [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:16 AM Flag
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I have to disagree about the thousands upfront and having a portfolio. Dd did a few baby jobs with Generation in NYC. I got an interview with the shots I took & she booked every go see she was sent on. A real agency will not charge you for shots and you build a true portfolio by working. That said, it's not great money and your child could easily be bored and want to do other things. Best of luck!! [ Reply | More
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:27 AM Flag
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two things: 1) It's really not fun--it's WORK, it's a job. 2) there is no way you could save anything for college. At that age, it's more about how her personality and character can be translated to whatever job she gets. Not so much about her look necessarily. Any part of her body will be criticized and make her (and you) feel like shit. The only way you get paid is when you get a job. It takes a lot of interviews, go sees, and waiting (aka, missing school) until you are assigned to a job. That's IF you get something. Even if you get a job, normally the daily rate could be as low as a few hundred dollars. Between you and your dd's time, it's really not money making job at all. Seriously, you'd make more if you sell candies on subway. --former art director mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 06:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Ingrown hair in middle of neck - surgeons won't touch it and derms can't get it out- what do I do???? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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youtube and home surgery? [ Reply | More
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Tried - I dream of having my neck opened at death so they can excise the fucker [ Reply | More
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turtleneck [ Reply | More
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Pluck??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:42 AM Flag
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ah! wait it out I guess? [ Reply | More
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Has been years - I am done [ Reply | More
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http://www.livestrong.com/article/80073-rid-ingrown-hairs-neck/ [ Reply | More
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Thx a btdt though - it is deep down underground must be a mile long [ Reply | More
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try it, what is the worst that could happen? but do it fast while you can still pull of turtle necks..... [ Reply | More
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Np: how did you find out you had it? [ Reply | More
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It doesn't matter how long it is. You just need to get a needle in there under it near the base, then pull it out the way you would pull out stitches from clothing. [ Reply | More
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You need some vodka and a good friend with a needle. [ Reply | More
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why wont a surgeon touch it? [ Reply | More
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do nothing. why you need to remove it? just forget about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 06:14 AM Flag
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hot compresses, exfoliation will eventually bring it closer to the surface and then you can get it out yourself. this could take a couple of weeks though. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] What Disney hotel would you stay at if you wanted a two bedroom suite? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:23 AM Flag
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Following this. I think we will also need one. [ Reply | More
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Sol!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:32 AM Flag
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do they have this at the new Art of Animation? not sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:35 AM Flag
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bay lake towers at contemporary [ Reply | More
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Animal Kingdom kidani, beach club, bay lake towers... Basically you need to be in a DVC resort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:46 AM Flag
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If your dc are under 8, try animal kingdom. The pools are great and kids love seeing animals outside the window. Otherwise i would stay at the contemporary - more convenient to magic kingdom and Epcot. But you can also do two adjoining rooms at any resort. Both of these are expensive, so if you want to save, stay off property. Btw we go twice a year, so feel free to ask any other questions. [ Reply | More
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I stayed in one at the DVC old key west area, it was very comfortable. It was not on the monorail, though. We had to take buses to the resorts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:17 AM Flag
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I know, why don't one of rich people sponsor a "poor" family. Send me to disney with my three kids. It can be your charity for the year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Have been an attorney for over a decade and don't have basic skills - do lots of bullshit court appearances and tons of depos but don't even know how to present docs at depositions and things like that - where can I brush up on skills. Tia 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:22 AM Flag
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NITA (National Institute for Trial Advocacy) programs are excellent. [ Reply | More
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Thank you - that is what I need! Appreciate! [ Reply | More
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+1, though not quite a decade, but not even appearnances and depos - just research and writing and depo prep. It's appalling, right?! [ Reply | More
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Am miserable - am too old to ask for help but not knowing is perpetuating such poor skills. I could be such a better attorney of I was confident with what I was doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:42 AM Flag
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You could ask for help-just be judicious about who and how you ask. You don't have to say, "hey, I'm clueless. help me" [ Reply | More
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but you work in biglaw and make $500K, so who cares? [ Reply | More
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Um, clients (and prospective clients)? Not sure where you get the idea that a biglaw associate makes $500K. [ Reply | More
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Hire me, I am paralegal who can teach you, on the DL how to do all of this. [ Reply | More
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BECAUSE THIS IS A FANTASTIC PLACE TO ASK THIS QUESTION. Fuckwad. [ Reply | More
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Obviously it was since she got the answer she needed in about 2 seconds [ Reply | More
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uh oh, is the horrible poster already on? Its early for her to be here! dangit...better go to sleep. [ Reply | More
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pp: actually, it appears that it is. [ Reply | More
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Really, with the Fuckwad? You are kinda a dick aren't you? Didn't get your happy ending at the massage palor today? Or maybe you found out your husband is not only sleeping with the maid, and his secretary but also the bell boy at your favorite hotel. Good luck with that one, hope you don't get herpes. [ Reply | More
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How cute, a female "lawyer". Just let the men handle the important work, toots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 06:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Some thoughts on public education in NYC. http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2013/03/07/officials-80-percent-of-recent-nyc-high-school-graduates-cannot-read/ 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Inaccurate title since they are talking about 80% of students who were in a remedial program at a particular CUNY not having basic skills, not 80% of all NYC public school graduates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:21 AM Flag
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awww - don't burst the trolls bubble... [ Reply | More
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no no no - don't bust their bubble - everything is hunky-dory in NYC land. [ Reply | More
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No shock to me. I graduated and I can't write, or do math probably as good as a 4th grader in a good school. I also graduated college with the help of tutoring. [ Reply | More
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I'm not sure why failing students fell out of favor - but it has. Rarely do children repeat grades today (summer school seems to be an excuse - but does little). This is proof that they should not offer social promotion - fail em til they drop out and then can't get a job. That will be much better for these people, no? [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Do you care of babysitter takes the subway when you give her cab money? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I'd only care if she was young (like a teen) and if I didn't feel it was safe due to the time of night etr. [ Reply | More
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no [ Reply | More
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No [ Reply | More
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No [ Reply | More
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Fuck yes [ Reply | More
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you gave her some transportation money. it's up to her how she uses it. it's part of her comp is all. [ Reply | More
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Basic violation of trust - you told her what to do and she didn't and she pocketed the money - if you wanted her to take the subway you would have given a metro card. Not digging this nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:23 AM Flag
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On her way home from working late, not with DCs. [ Reply | More
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Ohhhh that's different - I'd expect her to offer change to me but I wouldn't take it. [ Reply | More
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No. Though I did care when i stopped getting change back from the money I left her for dinner [ Reply | More
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We don't have subway or cabs, she just stays here with the kids.....so. NO. [ Reply | More
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no, not at all. why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 06:28 AM Flag
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Mine would never do that, but she doesn't sit for us at night often and she puts the taxi on the credit card, so I KNOW she took a taxi. One time very late on a Saturday night we booked her a car service and obviously it was more expensive and she told us that she's fine taking a taxi and there was no need to spend the extra money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 06:35 AM Flag
[ - ] In August, I got bitten by some really weird bug and it left a bad scar. Best way to get rid of it? I want it gone as soon as possible, not really interested in over the counter bleach creams. Anyone BTDT? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Derm [ Reply | More
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What do you think the derm will suggest? [ Reply | More
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Ub [ Reply | More
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if you don't want an over the counter option a derm is your only option [ Reply | More
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http://www.scars.net/scar-creams.html?gclid=CJ2lycOq7LUCFdSmPAodbRIAbA [ Reply | More
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maybe shea butter and cocoa butter could help [ Reply | More
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some of these bugs bite scars take a LONG time to fade. it could be 1yr+. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Why some parents look for diverse schools? How would it be matter? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Only matters for those who are diverse. [ Reply | More
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Thx. [ Reply | More
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I not diverse and seed diverse schools. [ Reply | More
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seek,! [ Reply | More
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Why? [ Reply | More
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because I feel it is a better environment and experience to be surround by people who are not all like you - in every way - academic ability, race, $$$$, religion, politics... you only grow when you get to know new things/ways/people. [ Reply | More
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Some white moms look for diverse schools because the white moms think it makes them look enlightened to send daughter to a diverse school [ Reply | More
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It is for the benefit of the mom at the expense of the child. Howard Stern frequently talks about his mom doing this to him and him getting beaten up as a result. A mom here was looking for a 90% black school to send her daughter. the mom got hysterical when the rest of UB told her it was a bad idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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Wikipedia has a great article about a white mom who wanted to prove how enlightened she was by sending her white daughter to a "diverse" school. read wikipedia. it did not end well for the daughter http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2009_Richmond_High_School_gang_rape [ Reply | More
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NP: A 90% black school isn't really "diverse." [ Reply | More
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ITA. But it doesn't change the fact that hippe / hemp / granola type moms will often do this to their daughters. Howard Stern's mom was in one of these categories. [ Reply | More
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who cares what other parents look for in schools for their children? You have taken issue with this for days. Get over it. [ Reply | More
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Yes that is right, those granola AA moms send their daughters to schools that are 90% white all the time. Isn't it awful. Bet it harms the daughters for life and make it into Wikipedia stories. [ Reply | More
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Thank you. White people can be so sad sometimes, and I mean this. You are so weak and insecure whenever you are not part of the majority. Do you understand how weak that is. God forbid any of you or your DCs would attend a school in which you/they are in the minority. Imagine being among those AA students whom integrated the public schools in the south. Can you picture yourself being that brave?...neither can I.... [ Reply | More
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90% of anything is obviously NOT diverse. [ Reply | More
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ITA [ Reply | More
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Our family is not diverse. Some of my most enriching relationships in life have been with others who are not just like me. Why wouldn't I want that opportunity for my children? [ Reply | More
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We live in an increasingly globalized world and we feel it important for DCs to be around as many varied and diverse people as possible from a young age. [ Reply | More
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^ it is [ Reply | More
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I agree with both of the above posters. Yes, if you send your white daughter to a 90% black school as the original poster did, you are heading for trouble. But other types of diversity are good [ Reply | More
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I'm sure in you're ignorance, you are oblivious to the fact that works both ways. [ Reply | More
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^^your [ Reply | More
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90% black or 90% anything isn't very diverse either [ Reply | More
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Fuck yes [ Reply | More
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My child is not white. It is important for me and her that she not be the only child of color in her class. I would hope that it is also important for parents of white kids that their kids learn first hand that not all people are white, and that kids of color are kids just like themselves, rather than just kids from the wrong side of the tracks. [ Reply | More
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Well put! [ Reply | More
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No idea, i only want the best school academically for my DC, they're in the city, plenty of opportunities for diversity. [ Reply | More
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Really?? Please elaborate on these opportunities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:46 AM Flag
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Any environment full of white people is booooooring. Nothing against white people. I'm 1/2 white. At least 1/2 my family is too - including one of my kids. Any homogenous group is pretty boring - you have to mix it up for the party to start. The food alone at our holiday meals would explain the pros of diversity - and that's just scratching the surface. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:29 AM Flag
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Whatever [ Reply | More
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brilliant response, np [ Reply | More
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I can't stand the smugness associated with diversity -sounds like a bunch of phoney boloney hogwash - one of her kids is white - what are her other kids? How many dads are at their potluck dinner - spare me. Love me some Passover. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:36 AM Flag
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I didn't think you could top your first try - but you did it - wow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:42 AM Flag
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Can't stand your racism. Just stick to your all white school. At least I won't have to deal with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:39 AM Flag
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Not a racist at all - quite the opposite actually - just think a lot of the diversity talk is a bunch of bologna. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:44 AM Flag
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The fact that you can't believe diversity is important proves you are a racist, you just can't acknowledge it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:46 AM Flag
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np, posted above - why would I lie to you? I look for diversity in schools - some do some don't - but I promise you I am not a bunch of bologna [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:50 AM Flag
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I would like for my daughter to not be the only black child in her school. We ended up choosing a school with only 1 black kid per grade because it was the best fit. I think she feels a little out of place however she would be more out of place in a poorer black school and upper class black school would be great alas we can't find one in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:33 AM Flag
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The US is getting "browner" every day and I love it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:43 AM Flag
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look for an international school, the kids get experience being around types of people they will work with later on. I tutored reading at one for a course credit in college and the students were all kids of diplomats or people that were headhunted from abroad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:56 AM Flag
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agree, UNIS wasn't the right school for my dc - but what an awesome experience those students have! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:04 AM Flag
[ - ] DH came in my mouth while I was sleeping, should I bring it up with him or fire the maid? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Stop leaving it open. [ Reply | More
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THIS THIS THIS [ Reply | More
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Beat off your dog, fuck the maid, fire your husband. [ Reply | More
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Fire the maid. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] I have to pack, why am I still online? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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Because you're fucking poverty. Go pack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Psychic mom, are you on? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Starting a new acne regimen tomorrow. So excited. Afraid to ask psychic mom of it will work. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:51 AM Flag
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How old are u? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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Mid twenties [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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If you're not using your husband's semen, you're doing it wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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I can tell which are your posts. Sometimes it's fun to get that anger out and you may amaze yourself at how snarky and funny you can be all at once. feel better. Tomorrow is another day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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So all of us with acne have to use HER husband's semen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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Eeeww!!! [ Reply | More
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semen is terrible for your skin it dries it out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:01 AM Flag
[ - ] In doing background check for our nanny I found her Facebook page, which is unsecured so I can see everything. She is doing an OK job but is very young and inexperienced. She knows that DH and I are going through a separation and my 6yo has behavior problems, which I was upfront about when we hired her 2 months ago. Well, I just looked at her FB page this evening because she has already posted photos of my youngest DC there and since it was his birthday today I wanted to see if she had posted any photos. What I found was a comment to one of her friends who was asking how her job was going, that said my kids "do her head in" are "awful" and the job is "so stressful". I feel like I need to find a new nanny already. I know my older one is awful, but just to see her having written that is upsetting. I wish I could find someone who could help my kids feel loved. I can't do it all alone... how would you feel about this? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:50 AM Flag
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I don't like the idea of anyone getting fired, but I like the idea of kids being cared for by someone who feels that way about them and has that lack of judgement. Sorry OP. I think you can find better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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^^^ I am not disagreeing with her, I guess my kids are awful-- well mainly my 6yo, but my daughter is lovely and the youngest is too. *sigh* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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Child psych to improve child's behavior and new nanny with sn experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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Agree. Also, this nanny shows immaturity and poor judgment in posting those comments on fb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:58 AM Flag
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OP- the 6yo has been in therapy for over one year now; it is helping but he has good and bad days. What is "sn experience"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:05 AM Flag
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Special needs. Or even someone with some experience in psychology or child development would be an improvement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:07 AM Flag
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OK, yes it is so hard to find a nanny like this though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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How much do you pay? You can find one. Pay $15-20/hr. you can find it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:15 AM Flag
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Stop calling your 6 yr old awful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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OP: correction-- HE is not awful; his BEHAVIOR is awful. Big difference. He is a little boy who is angry and hurting inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:03 AM Flag
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tis makes me so sad. I have kid with behavioral issues so I've been there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:57 AM Flag
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Get a new nanny, but do your current nanny the favor of telling her why you are firing her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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I don't think it's considered a background check two months after you hire her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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no, i found it when we hired her and checked it tonight because i wanted to see if she posted photos of my kids, which she has done before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:13 AM Flag
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You have one Nanny watching 3 kids one with behavioral issues and you are upset because she is stressed out and think your son is awful, well by all means fire her but know that no one can make your kids feel loved other than their parents. My Nanny showed me more love than either of my parents but it doesn't erase the hurt, resentment, or bitterness that I feel. I also have serious self esteem problems until this day and it is not or a lack of love from others but from a lack of feeling as if I was wanted, loved, and belonged to my parents. I had plenty of love from my grandparents, aunts, uncles and my Nanny who I am leaving my children to if something happens to me, notice not my parents, but no one can ever make a child feel loved if they don't feel loved by their parent. Vent Over [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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I think OP loves her kids. It sounds like it is a hard time for OP's family, but I don't think she's saying she doesn't love her kids and wants a nanny to love them for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:09 AM Flag
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OR, OP here and I feel for you... but this is not the same situation; I love my kids tremendously and they all know that. I spend a lot of time with them for a WOHM, I work from home 2 days a week, I read and sing to them every single night, I cuddle them and tell them I love them every day. It is DH who has been verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to DS and to me... he has hurt us all and that is why we are separating/divorcing. We are all in therapy. It really sucks. I hope that you can find peace with your parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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You sound amazing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:00 AM Flag
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How bad is this behavior does he hit her, spit at her or curse at her? If he is extreme you may need someone who specializes in this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:07 AM Flag
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not as bad as that, his behavior is often defiant and with attitude, or emotionally disturbed meltdowns over small things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:20 AM Flag
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I would be very upset if I saw this. My nanny truly LOVES my DD. She is a grandmother. There are other issues I need to deal with (i.e. language barrier) but I'm willing to overlook those because I know my DD is being loved. You can find it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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Sigh. You just never know. Someone who cared for two of my children for *years* at a very nice center - and we loved this lady - moved on to a nanny position. I see her now on FB all the time complaining about her charges. Do I think she's abusive or inappropriate to them? No way. Do I think that she has displayed poor judgment? Yes, and that would affect how likely I'd be to ever employ her privately. One thing OP - is this a once-off or repeated? I think people often screw up and say things they wish they could retract the next day online, so if this is the only time, you might put her on notice if you're a forgiving sort and you think she deserves it. If repeated, who knows how else her judgment might suck... to the curb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:13 AM Flag
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right, i want to just forget her comment, but there are other things that are harder to overlook... i need to just look for a more experienced nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:31 AM Flag
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Why are you hiring a young, inexperienced, nanny to watch 3 children - 1 with special needs? Sounds like neither of you are happy. Time for a change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:36 AM Flag
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true... not a good fit. we live in outer 'burbs and finding a good nanny is tough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:46 AM Flag
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I'd be more concerned about the fact that she has n unsecured FB and posts pictures of your kids there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:40 AM Flag
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That is an issue too-- should I tell her i can see her page and the photos she has posted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:43 AM Flag
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yes -- you tell her: (1) no posting pictures of my kids, and (2) no unsecured blogs or comments about my kids -- I have au pairs. I tell this this day 1. with my 1st au pair, I found her unsecured blog before she arrived, but after we matched. I was a bit upset, but it ended up fine. I just told her no posting because (a) it is a security issues and (b) my child is a child and does not need to fine these blogs/posts as a teenager and feel bad about herself for being a child when she was a kid. Get a new nanny, be clear with the next on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:06 AM Flag
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This makes me so sad. For you and for your kids. You and they deserve to have someone who respects and supports your family. It's time to find someone new. I went thru a ny agency called Smartsitting. Had terrible luck going it at my own so bit the bullet and hired thru the agency. Absolutely love our nanny and she's just so wonderful with my twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:12 AM Flag
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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Skiing with my 3yr old! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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skiing at local resort on Saturday. Relax on Sunday. [ Reply | More
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2 bday parties Sat [ Reply | More
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Buttsex. [ Reply | More
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We are broke so arts and crafts, cooking and the park. [ Reply | More
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cute [ Reply | More
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Love it [ Reply | More
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Her brother I'd Max, I assume? [ Reply | More
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^ is [ Reply | More
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And WHERE are their parents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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Yes, my 5yo wants to know how old they are that they go everywhere without grown ups [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:42 AM Flag
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Lol. Grandma shows up every now and then... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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Seriously, max can't even speak yet can ride the bus alone! I think they live in 1950s Canada judging by their accents and low tech toys! [ Reply | More
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Cute [ Reply | More
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cute [ Reply | More
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Cute-I know 4 that are age 7-8. But no others. [ Reply | More
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born on Tuesday? [ Reply | More
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Oh, foo [ Reply | More
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Cute [ Reply | More
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Way too many of them running around, I'm afraid to say. At least three in my daughter's grade. [ Reply | More
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Sounds like a whore. [ Reply | More
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Don't take your love to town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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Call girl or stripper [ Reply | More
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^ exactly my hope when I picked the name for my baby. She'll always have a job. [ Reply | More
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Her sister is Lola I assume, and they are into threesomes. [ Reply | More
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A guy friend dated a Ruby once. Total freak. She was heavily into S&M.; [ Reply | More
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Awful, and I LIKE "old fashioned" names. Ella, Audrey and Annabelle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:34 AM Flag
[ - ] A neighbor in my condo building keeps making comments about my ds running around in our garage. He is three years old and very active. She has no kids. I really want to punch her in the face. 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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smile and ignore. who cares what the hell she thinks. Probably mad she has no kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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That would be the civilized thing to do. But I'd much rather punch her in the face. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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If you cannot do it, have your spouse politely ask her to stop. but only ask after she brings it up again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:37 AM Flag
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Public garage or private garage? If it's a public garage, it may not be safe for a kid to run around with cars driving around inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:41 AM Flag
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Private garage -- about 20 cars on one level. Of course it's not "safe," but it's not like I can keep my kid from running a little while I'm concurrently wrangling an 18 month old while pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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you are nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:47 AM Flag
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I'm well aware. He's getting better about not running, but it takes time. I can't very well tie him to the car. At least we have a garage and he's not bolting into the street. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:49 AM Flag
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You can keep him in the carseat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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Just stop w/ these stupid fake posts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:37 AM Flag
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is it dangerous for him to be running around-- are there cars pulling in and out? Is she genuinely concerned or just a pain? Signed mother of a crazy climbing, non nap taking toddler ds. No snark. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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There is only one garage door, so I can tell if someone is coming in our out. She is just a control freak. It's just annoying that she thinks I don't know he shouldn't be running around. I'm not an idiot. My kid is just a fast runner and I'm working on getting him to learn not to run off. It's just not as simple as she's making it out to be, which she would know if she'd ever had kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:50 AM Flag
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leash him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:47 AM Flag
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I've considered it but can't bring myself to do it. He's getting better and will stop if I yell at him, but it's just none of her damn business. Trust me, I know I need to address this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:55 AM Flag
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Having to worry about hitting your kid every time she pulls in or out makes it her business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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Oh, stop exaggerating about things you clearly know nothing about. He makes a few laps around my car while I'm getting my other kid out. She's simply overreacting and being a b*tch. I'm not the only one in the association who can't stand her. I was just venting about her, not asking for your judgment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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Oh, stop exaggerating about things you clearly know nothing about. He makes a few laps around my car while I'm getting my other kid out. She's simply overreacting and being a b*tch. I'm not the only one in the association who can't stand her. I was just venting about her, not asking for your judgment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:10 AM Flag
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Don't even let her bother you. He's fine as long as you're supervising. Kids need to run and the weather hasn't exactly been good for going to the park lately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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let's all run around in garages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:53 AM Flag
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She's preggers and has another kid to watch in addition. Is there a basement perhaps? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:59 AM Flag
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I know, but she just keeps giving me that "look," like I'm a clueless mom. Of course the two times she's been in the garage are the times that he's been running a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:57 AM Flag
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I have 3 kids and I think it's pretty simple. Don't let your kids run the garage! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:00 AM Flag
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Really??? What a brilliant idea!!!! No problem. You sound just like her, by the way. So annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:01 AM Flag
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Push 18 m/o in stroller. Hold 3 y/o by the hand. Wow, hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:11 AM Flag
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I can't put my 18 mo old in a stroller to go from the garage to the condo because it's up a flight of stairs. No elevator. Not so simple, is it?? [ Reply | More
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LOL, you're not a NYC mom, are you? We all know how to climb stairs with a stroller AND can keep our kids from running away. [ Reply | More
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Roger that - firm grip on the subway platform [ Reply | More
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Slap that ho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:48 AM Flag
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thanks! finally someone's making some sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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You can't control and keep your DS safe and you're mad at the neighbor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 03:56 AM Flag
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He IS safe. We're in an enclosed garage. There are no cars zooming around. Sometimes he does make a direct beeline for the car. And you can go F yourself, sanctimommy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:06 AM Flag
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does *not* make a beeline. [ Reply | More
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THis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:41 AM Flag
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Look, clearly you wanted nothing but supportive fussing over your "bitchy" neighbor making a fuss about your toddler RUNNING AROUND IN A PARKING GARAGE, but you're getting more than you wanted. I'll add to it. I think you're being lazy and your attitude is dangerous. You won't/can't control your toddler in a situation in which he could be seriously hurt or killed. And yes, I do mean killed. A good friend's older sister lost her son to such an accident IN A PARKING GARAGE. It happens. You're being an idiot, and we're letting you know it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 04:48 AM Flag
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just put him in a harness before you get out of car-- or one of those double bracelet thingies with the string attached [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:07 AM Flag
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Take her cookies that you and DS made together as an "apology" but make sure you spit in that shit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.13, 05:39 AM Flag
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why would you want your toddler run in the garage? It's filled with gas fumes, polluted air, and probably not lit well. How is that safe? You need to be punched to realize how bad it is for your kid. [ Reply | More
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