Building Confidence

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As happy as you may be, chances are that you, like many outwardly content men, suffer from a lack of self-confidence. This is not to say that you are overly shy, nervous, inadequate in your daily routine or that you have any serious psychological hang-ups, but it could be a lack of self-confidence if you feel as though you are not living up to your potential.

Even if you're reasonably assured most of the time, it is beneficial to do a little mental strengthening every once in a while. It feels good to be self-confident, which perpetuates more confidence, impresses people and brings you success.

defining self-confidence

Simply put, self-confidence is a sense of certainty that your own personality is honest, capable and fulfilling. Self-confident people generally have a high self-esteem. If you have a diminished self-esteem, bolstering your self-confidence will help immeasurably.

Note that there is a distinguished difference between self-confidence and confidence in general. You may be confident that you can impress a woman or a boss, while at the same time you question whether or not you are interesting to smart women or have chosen the right job. Or, you might walk into a party and command the floor, but as soon as you have a moment to yourself, you wonder if you really fit in.

Confidence can exist without self-confidence, meaning that there can be a certain degree of falsehood -- of lying to one's self -- at play. Get a handle on it.

threats to self-confidence

Threats to your self-confidence can be felt in almost any challenging circumstance, from reading the bus schedule to getting fired. Different men are susceptible to diminished self-confidence on account of different causes. While losing the pick-up football game made your neighbor question his physical condition, it didn't bother you nearly as much as failing to impress your boss at today's meeting. The truth is that self-confidence can be attacked by almost anything.

Of course, there are common culprits. We each want to be the ideal man for our woman, so we struggle to be financially independent, physically healthy, intelligent, dependable, and have a strong character. If any of these issues have been wearing away at your manhood lately, take a deep breath and realize that we all have the same thoughts; there's nothing wrong with you.

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