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01.19.13, 02:36 PM
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Prove you're a magic penguin. Make my unicorn do a 360.
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01.19.13, 02:39 PM
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Sorry child. You must have faith.
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01.19.13, 02:41 PM
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You're just a regular penguin :(
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01.19.13, 02:45 PM
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A regular penguin ... Posting on UB.
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01.19.13, 02:57 PM
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I wish my business was doing better!
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01.19.13, 02:43 PM
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MP, can you grant my wish that I am hoping all my heart tests reveal something? TY
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01.19.13, 02:48 PM
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I wish db would take longer naps
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01.19.13, 02:49 PM
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I wish DC didn't hate me.
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01.19.13, 02:49 PM
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I wish I'd find love and partnership with someone
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01.19.13, 02:52 PM
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I wish DS would sleep for 8 hr straight then wake up in a good mood.
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01.19.13, 02:53 PM
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I wish I get pregnant and deliver a healthy baby.
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01.19.13, 02:55 PM
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MP _ working on the wishes. Give me a few days.
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01.19.13, 02:58 PM
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I want to lose 30 lbs.
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01.19.13, 02:56 PM
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DC into fc school! Health and happiness for the entire family as a second (JK).
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01.19.13, 03:05 PM
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I want my DH to win his fight.
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01.19.13, 03:09 PM
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01.19.13, 02:26 PM
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There are TONS of instructional piano videos on youtube!
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01.19.13, 02:29 PM
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Are they any good. She wants to get into a talent HS. She is 8 now and asked me since she was 5yo but I never had the money and I still don't. I feel bad for not helping her to achieve her goals by providing professional classes. I did not tell her I would buy her a keyboard yet because I don't want to get her hopes up.
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01.19.13, 02:34 PM
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np - how does she know she wants to get into a talent hs if she doesn't even know how to play the piano yet? Has she taken lessons at all?
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01.19.13, 02:41 PM
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No she hasn't. She has always asked to take piano lessons and I said we can't afford it. She heard about Laguardia from a friend at school and said that is where she wants to go so can play piano. I didn't have the heart to tell her she has to try out and with no training she doesn't stand a chance.
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01.19.13, 02:46 PM
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If you can afford the keyboard, can you just indulge her and buy it. That way she can have fun, try on her own and give youtube videos a shot. I don't see the harm in that and if circumstances change and you can afford lessons in the future that would be a bonus.
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01.19.13, 02:58 PM
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What about a group piano class for beginners to start? Must be more affordable. If she's really showing interest and initiative, it's worth trying to make it happen. Another idea is approaching your school music teacher about lessons. Maybe they offer something reasonable.
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01.19.13, 03:00 PM
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Maybe a YMCA has a class?
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01.19.13, 03:01 PM
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Probably not what you want to hear, but given the situation you describe, this is not a dream that will be realized by your DD. For one, you sound like a pretty passive parent. She's been asking for 3 years, and you still haven't found a way around this? A used keyboard? A student willing to give a quick lesson for a quick $20 once a week? 95% of piano or any music instruction is outside of the teacher's presence, it's in the practice, which you as the parent have to either rigorously enforce, or the kid has to have the drive. It all sounds far more like an idea you are batting around like a cat with a toy than anything you are taking seriously. I'm sorry this sounds harsh, but to make it ti LaGuardia you need to be a little bit more resourceful than you are being. Not having the money for piano lessons is not a huge, insurmountable obstacle. If you were talking about horseback riding I'd be on your side. But piano? It is probably the least expensive instrument to learn. - daughter of concert pianist
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01.19.13, 03:00 PM
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01.19.13, 02:21 PM
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Congrats! Go to med school. I did and had DCs at 37 and 39 no problem.
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01.19.13, 02:23 PM
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My BF met her DH in medial school, has two DC now, both wonderful teenagers. You can date while in school and in training. your life is not going to stand still for the next 10 years. You sound very naive.
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01.19.13, 02:25 PM
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Perhaps naive, but generally well-informed and mostly having a moment of panic. Just looking for a bit of reassurance!
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01.19.13, 02:51 PM
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Not a Dr, but I live by a major medical campus so a lot of my friends are MD's. I know several who had at least one DC in residency. I know several where both DH and DW were in residency programs when DC was born. I don't know how they did it. But they did....
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01.19.13, 02:27 PM
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You can do it. My dentist had 3 while she was in school.
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01.19.13, 02:30 PM
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DH went to med school. Most of his classmates ended up pairing up. You'll regret it if you don't go.
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01.19.13, 02:42 PM
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Thanks everyone!
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01.19.13, 02:51 PM
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Oh, and I wasn't considering not going, just scared to think of starting something new in a new place. I applied to med school later than most as a career change, so as recently as 2 years ago, I imagined myself living in my current city for the foreseeable future, working a 9-5 job and dating like a normal person, hoping to find a husband and have a baby in the next few years. Now I'll be in school with a crazy schedule. Just different and a bit scary.
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01.19.13, 02:55 PM
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Good luck!
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01.19.13, 03:06 PM
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It'll be easier for you because you are older and more mature. You won't get caught up in the 22yo drama. You'll be fine. Enjoy and congrats for pursuing your dreams.
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01.19.13, 03:21 PM
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I know people who have had kids as residents. It's definitely not impossible!
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01.19.13, 03:13 PM
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several of the docs i work with got pregnant during their residency. it sort of sucked, as their maternity leave was short and the whole 80 hour work week, but they all managed
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01.19.13, 03:16 PM
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Lot sof people have kids as residents. Difficult, yes, impossible no. FWIW I finished training at 32. Had kids at 41 and 42. Lots of my med school peers are having kids late in life.
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01.19.13, 03:20 PM
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I work in a hospital. REsidents are pregnant left and right. It's fine. healthcare is pretty undstanding aobut health and child issues.
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01.19.13, 03:21 PM
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01.19.13, 02:06 PM
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Elementary or MS?
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01.19.13, 02:18 PM
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Elementary
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01.19.13, 02:22 PM
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01.19.13, 02:25 PM
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Most of them are zoned. Meaning you need to live on the zone. Where do you live?
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01.19.13, 02:27 PM
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www.insideschools.org is a good starting point.
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01.19.13, 02:31 PM
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OP: thanks for your responses. We are zoned for PS002-Meyer London....it's not an option.
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01.19.13, 02:38 PM
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You will need to move so first figure out your budget, then look for the best zoned schools within your budget.
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01.19.13, 02:51 PM
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Look into PS 126. It looks like the next zone over, so still in a more affordable neighborhood. Pretty good school with a great middle school that your child won't have to test for since first dibs go to kids at the elementary school. The middle school is known as MAT Manhattan Academy of Technology. We looked at it for middle and it looked like a really nice nurturing school with a very active administration.
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01.19.13, 03:00 PM
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Also, look at ps 130. It is an excellent school and not that far from you. Maybe you could move nto the zone. It is a little more traditional than the standard d2 school.
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01.19.13, 03:05 PM
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Ella Baker will accept those in district 2 but admittance is not guaranteed. Not sure where exactly you live but it is on east 67th street. I'm considering it to. You have to do a tour before applying.
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01.19.13, 03:09 PM
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Anyone have experience with this school? Not op.
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01.19.13, 03:22 PM
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01.19.13, 02:06 PM
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scat
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01.19.13, 02:13 PM
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Clinique -the one with the wand
Estée Lauder-tube is great coverage
The following were higher priced disappointing results (for me) bc they creased moved etc:
Chantecaille
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Chanel
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01.19.13, 02:16 PM
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I like bobbi brown corrector
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01.19.13, 02:15 PM
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cleau de peau
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01.19.13, 02:20 PM
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Cle de peau. Expensive, but if you use a brush, it lasts for years, because you can get to the bottom with the brush. Bobbi brown good, too. Also, nars makes a stick.
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01.19.13, 02:18 PM
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Clinique's wand and "Bye Bye Undereye."
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01.19.13, 02:36 PM
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01.19.13, 02:05 PM
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DS is now 22 but, of course, we talked to him about how to treat girls. How to treat people. Relationships. Sex. Just as we talked to our DD. Why would sons be different?
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01.19.13, 02:28 PM
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Yes all the time. I began when they were 10 with small talks. The message always being no means no.
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01.19.13, 02:38 PM
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I don't think I ever specifically did, but somehow it seems to have worked out. He thought the world of his gf and their worst "fights" were her yelling at him (he used to put her on speaker phone) and cursing him out for not doing something she wanted. When she dumped him for another guy, he licked his wounds for a day or two and then hung out with his friends again. He didn't dwell on it or turn angry or vengeful or anything. Of all the things I worry about with him, how he treats girls and women isn't one of them.
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01.19.13, 02:46 PM
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01.19.13, 01:48 PM
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This is a normal change. You for lucky before. The routine will change again.
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01.19.13, 02:07 PM
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Have you tried mixing a little rice cereal into her nighttime formula?
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01.19.13, 02:10 PM
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OP--no, ped said wait until 6 months
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01.19.13, 02:26 PM
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NP-yes, don't do this. Old wives tale anyway.
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01.19.13, 02:30 PM
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DD woke every two hours consistently hungry until 4 months when we added rice cereal to her diet. Started sleeping 5+. Worked for her, though we didn't mix it in bottle, just separate.
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01.19.13, 03:01 PM
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01.19.13, 01:46 PM
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I've always had good luck at the pottery barn and crate & barrel outlets. A lot of the stuff is brand new and a fraction of the price.
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01.19.13, 02:05 PM
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Take your time. Do the bedrooms and the room you spend the most time in.
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01.19.13, 02:09 PM
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Baker is having a clearance sale right now. Also, with a $50k budget, might be worth hiring a designer to consult and help you make good choices (what to invest in/what to buy on the cheap). Also, one kings lane seems to have good deals.
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01.19.13, 03:07 PM
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01.19.13, 01:34 PM
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She is very smart and did very well at a tt school, but she has had no job mainly because of this bulimia. I want her to get better, and I also want her to be able to get a job and start supporting herself. This will not happen if she stays inside hiding a bloated face and body.
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01.19.13, 01:38 PM
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What about a daily treatment program? They exist in NYC, I know a teen who went to one for a month or two and it really helped.
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01.19.13, 01:48 PM
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Sorry. You are right to be very concerned. In addition to being debilitating, these problems can be fatal. And they are often not solved easily because you can't quite eating cold turkey, body image is deep, and patterns are well-established. Get a really good doc or program that specializes in this??? Family therapy may be involved.
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01.19.13, 01:48 PM
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Get her to someone who specializes in ED and she may need to go somewhere for a while. Tell her you love her and will do anything to help her get better.
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01.19.13, 01:48 PM
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perhaps even working with a nutritionist (aside from therapy). She sounds very depressed.
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01.19.13, 01:49 PM
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Everyone is different, but I was bulimic in college (age 20) and I would binge eat like that, but I didn't fast. I did exercise a ton though. For me, getting on an antidepressant really helped curb my binging urges. After I had been on antidepressants for about 2 months, I was throwing up one day and it felt awful and I just decided then and there that I was DONE with this. And I was. Never made myself vomit again.
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01.19.13, 01:51 PM
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What would you do if your DD had an untreated illness like diabetes or a heart condition or cancer? Insist she see a doctor? Look into treatment options? Her ED is an illness. If you simply look at her situation as she can't get a job because she won't go out with a puffy face, you are missing the bigger picture. I hope she finds a program that can help her.
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01.19.13, 02:08 PM
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01.19.13, 01:08 PM
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I was helped by a therapist, but I was also very clear what I wanted out of the sessions and if I felt like it wasn't helping I share that with my therapist. Therapists don't mind being transparent about the process and often ask how you are experiencing the sessions. But many people are very passive in the process and afraid to speak up. If you feel like they are not getting a sense of you, tell them and take it from there.
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01.19.13, 01:12 PM
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If you aren't completely honest it isn't going to help you.
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01.19.13, 01:21 PM
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Yes. You can't help but express yourself, and a good therapist will pick up on things quickly. Is therapist providing insight and a place where you feel comfortable going deep and, for example, talking about how you feel like shit?
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01.19.13, 01:46 PM
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Mine did, but I made it a very finite experience. I eventually started to have little to talk about, or they were just rehashes of things we had already been through. I started to get frustrated when we had stopped talking about issues that I had originally desired therapy to help with, and she started identifying "new problems" that I didn't feel were problems. For example, if I met someone new and didn't much like them, she insisted it was a problem with me, not with the person I'd just met. (No, sometimes you just meet people who don't appeal to you.) So, after 3 years, I left and have not been tempted to start up again. However, during the time I did it, it completely helped me resolve some issues I had.
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01.19.13, 01:53 PM
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My DH just completed 5 months with a therapist, dealing with health issues and job loss. Help him tremendously. He could talk honestly with her and didn't have to feel like he was burdening me with all his worries and fears. Learned a lot of techniques to deal with challenges. Ended when he started his new job.
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01.19.13, 02:15 PM
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Therapy never helped me until I found a therapist who talked back and forced me to take responsibility for my mistakes and my happiness. Before her, I used to just complain and rehash and talk about the childhood, blah blah blah. What a waste of time!
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01.19.13, 02:28 PM
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Helped immensely, but had to find the right one and right specialty. Needed to do challenging exercises rather than just talking.
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01.19.13, 03:05 PM
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01.19.13, 01:00 PM
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Please tell her
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01.19.13, 01:13 PM
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IDA. You have no idea about their arrangement.
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01.19.13, 01:17 PM
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if they have an arrangement then she should take it well
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01.19.13, 02:28 PM
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You should just move on with your life and stop obsessing about him. Stop trying to guess what is on his mind. You will never know. Go find someone available and forget about this jerk.
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01.19.13, 01:18 PM
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Don't tell. She knows.
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01.19.13, 01:21 PM
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I genuinely think she has no idea. I am almost positive she doesn't know, and they may get married. He is affectionate and loving when they are together.
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01.19.13, 01:27 PM
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So why do you want to ruin their loving relationship by continuing to be involved with him?
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01.19.13, 02:17 PM
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Yes. No. He is a dick. No, unless his girlfriend is your good friend. Then, yes.
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01.19.13, 02:40 PM
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I would want to know and yes, I would most certainly think less of someone who chronically cheated. If he's your friend, maybe discuss his behavior with him first. As for telling her, I don't know, but I would want to know. He could be bringing all kinds of stds, who knows?
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01.19.13, 12:52 PM
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Huh? What do you mean general profile?
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01.19.13, 12:59 PM
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This question is phrased too poorly to answer.
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01.19.13, 01:06 PM
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01.19.13, 01:07 PM
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basically she's asking do you empathize or sympathize with people with eating disorders? and in our experience what is the personality of someone who is bulimic as in any patterns among bulimics etc
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01.19.13, 01:10 PM
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I know several people with bulimia. Two know that I know. One does not. I can tell by her personality and the way she eats. Usually they are perfectionists, controlling, terribly insecure.
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01.19.13, 01:25 PM
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The red eyes always give it away for me.
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01.19.13, 01:30 PM
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And the breath goes between sour and minty, they either smell like one or the other. Vomit splashes.
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01.19.13, 01:37 PM
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I'm sympathetic but horrified.
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01.19.13, 01:52 PM
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I can feel sympathy for the illness itself; the problem is that bulimia is a disorder that is both repulsive and is a tremendous imposition on those who have to live with them or deal with them. Just like you can have sympathy at a distance for alcoholism, but it's no way to live to have a drunk in your life. I had a bulimic roommate in college. Our bathroom stank and she was always stealing food or bingeing behind closed doors in her room. It was impossible to eat with her and know everything on her plate was going to come back up soon. I felt sorry for her, yes, but it was no fun being in my shoes, either. I eventually had to move out halfway through the year.
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