How To Get Your Girlfriend To Shave

Is It OK To Ask Your Girlfriend To Shave It Off?

Hi Doc Chaves,

I’m 16 and am starting to have sex now. When talking with my friends, I was the only one who had a girlfriend with a lot of hair in her bush. It kind of makes me feel weird, and no one else likes it, either. Is it cool for me to tell my girl to shave it? I don’t want to be a jerk.

-Derek

Back in Victorian England, there was a popular story of an aristocrat who was engaged to a very beautiful woman. He was never exposed to female sexuality or anatomy and learned about the female body from Greek and Roman art. Most people at the time were poorly educated about sex. While on his honeymoon, he and his wife got naked together, as most couples do, and he was appalled by the sight of her pubic hair. None of the art he saw had hair, and he thought she was disgusting. Sadly, he did not remain married to her, all because of her pubic hair.

I’m telling you this story because we have an odd relationship with female body hair, and it stems in part from social constructs that help shape our attitudes. We’ve been socialized not to like it and have become uncomfortable around pubic hair. But what is it, really? Does it take away beauty, intelligence and personality? If anyone out there said yes, I’m sorry to tell you, but that’s shallow.

Would you turn down Gisele for some armpit hair? Kick Angelina out of your bed because of some leg hair? Female pubic hair is natural, normal and viewed as unattractive in large part because our media outlets have influenced our beliefs. Thirty years ago, you were nuts to shave down there. Besides, it’s no picnic to take care of female pubic hair. The word on the streets is women shave, wax, use electrolysis, and go through uncomfortable and painful beauty regimens to conform.

If you decide to tell her to shave it, be prepared for an unwelcome response. You’re girlfriend is well aware of the popularity of trimmed/shaved vaginas, and there’s a reason she is a teenager and going with the natural look. You’re better off asking her about why she chooses this and learning her side of the story before any requests. Lastly, pubic hair has been shown to release pheromones, so breath them in and enjoy your partner for who she is, not what you would make her.

Small Penis Sex Positions

What could be a cool position that could help with me not having a big penis? I’m only four inches and would like to do the best I can for the girls I’m with. I’m not insecure about it; I just want to be all that I can be. Looking for positions that get me deeper, really.

-Anonymous

We all should strive to be all that we can be in the bedroom. I’m happy to read you’re not making a big deal out of size. Most of the time, it’s the men, not the women, who are fixated on penis size. Most women want an average-size penis, which means five to six inches.

Here are a couple of fun positions to try out. First, male superior (missionary) with the female's legs near her chest. While lying on her back, she raises her knees to her chest or her legs are brought back to around her face. What this is doing is tilting her pelvis, opening up her vaginal canal, and creating more possibility for depth of penetration. You can also thrust in a low-to-high stroke and have your penis hit her G-spot. For an added twist, have her close her legs for a tighter feel.

Another position is rear entry (doggy-style). While your partner is on her knees, have her lower their head while pushing out their pelvis. Not only does this help with G-spot access, but it’s a very deep, penetrating position. Your partner’s head is close to her knees/legs (notice a trend?). So make up your own variations while your partner is lying on her side, standing or discover other fun and creative positions. Remember, opening the pelvis helps with depth.

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