Unsettling Phone Call Knocks Wife Out Of Her Comfort Zone

LW#2: Maybe it's time for you to take a step back and realize you are still married and ask yourself why? Sometimes it can be a good thing to be alone for awhile, without being in a relationship. ...Even if it is uncomfortable and disconcerting at first, in the end, it may provide valuable insight and validation.

LW1: The caller is probably jealous of your marital happiness and wanted to do exactly what she managed to do: Stir up trouble between you and your husband. The jealousy may just be because she is unmarried or unhappily married, or because she's got the hots for your husband and he won't give her the time of day. The phone number she called from should appear on your phone bill. Perhaps you can track her down that way.

ltr2: Blood is Thicker than Water. Good Luck getting this Bum of a SON out the door or to change. His Father is an Enabler, since he is still there...

LW#1: choose who you want to believe, your husband or a random person. I got an email a few years ago from someone claiming that she was having an affair with my boyfriend, and he didn't want to be with me, he wanted to be with her, and she wouldn't have him because she was a "nice" girl. I freaked out, got upset with my boyfriend, and then got to thinking. I'm hard to find online, and I doubt my BF would have given his mistress my email address, nor would he have given her access to his email account to look it up. And, really, if someone doesn't have the courage to give you her real name when she's pot-stirring, how reliable of a source can the person be. Plus, my BF was man enough that, if he didn't want to be with me, he would have broken up with me. Women, by and large, do not support other women's happiness, particularly in terms of men, and you have to take this kind of thing with a grain of salt

LW#1 - if nothing else, I hope that the letter writer reads all the replies on here from people who have made these type of calls and realizes that it's probably a cruel prank.

LW2: Time to step on the boat and sail. Your boyfriend is an enabler and that won't likely change. Buh-bye.

For letter writer #1, it was more than likely a prank. I had the same thing happen to me a number of years ago. Some girl call my house and was trying to tell me my husband was sleeping with her little sister. And she had proof. I asked her what kind of proof she had besides his name(which we were both listed in the phone book) apparently she had pictures of them at a party the night before,she just kept going on and on. I said it was interesting that the Army would let him leave basic training and fly all the way across the country to attend a party! That was really something! I've never heard someone stammer and try to back peddle so much in my life lol I told them, maybe they should stop with the pranks and try to do something more productive with their time.

LW3; Your boyfriends son is not 'good for nothing' - he is a drug addict and he needs help! Talk to you BF about getting his son into rehab, set up an intervention, do SOMETHING other than letting this boy die in his addiction - which is what you are doing now. I know he is hard to deal with, with the lying & stealing and all but this is a human being who needs help. Think about it.

My ex-fiance started sending me flowers "for no reason" at work, bringing me gifts home...just all sorts of stuff. I NEVER doubted him or how solid our relationship was together. Turns out he was seeing other women.....no one called me, I just "happened" upon them one day. Kicked him out before he even got back home to beg me to keep him. Found out later he had been doing this for years, it was the reason he was divorced. Never looked back. With that said, I don't know if I would have believed anyone had they called...might have depended on the person who called...I dunno. For me seeing WAS believing.

LW#1: If you don't have it already, get caller ID. If the calls keep coming, you can sue her for harassment and if it can be proven she's lying, defamation of character. Sue for as much as you can, honey. Teach the little troublemaker a lesson.
LW#2: Whatever you do, don't bring unwanted baggage into your life. You will be stuck with someone else's damaged goods forever.

Someone kept prank calling me; I used the air horn. No more calls.

Lw 1 - I saw this movie! The calls are actually coming from inside the house. Get out now!

#2. It sounds like "children" are a dealbreaker for you. Recommend you date childless men. After your divorce of course.

First of all, 95% of 18 year olds in the world do not have their lives together. That being said, this particular one seems to be in the soup a bit more than average. The writer of that letter should know that the #1 cause of break ups of first marriages is money. The #1 cause of breakups of second marriages is kids from the first marriage. Tread carefully.

LW1, I have also recieved that type of a phone call. It was 26 years ago when I was pregant with our first child. A woman's voice on the phone asked me to let my husband know that she was breaking their date for that evening. He could call her back to reschedule. My heart dropped when I heard that, but then I looked at my husband who was sitting on the couch in his holey shorts and an old t-shirt and in his soxes. He wasn't planning on going anywhere. I told the woman that she must have a wrong number. She argued back but I kept saying "you have a wrong number" and then I hung up. My husband was really upset when he heard what had happened and tried to reasure me that he'd never cheated. I told him I knew that. We still joke about his "girl friend" calling to this day. But I can understand how upsetting those prank calls are. I don't know why someone would think it is fun to possibly destroy someone's faith in their marriage. I hope that they would one day reap what they truly deserve for hurting someone that deeply!

I can believe that people might not have Caller ID, but who doesn't know how to dial *69 these days? Or to report a harassing phone call? The instructions are right there in the first few pages of the phone book, or, I imagine, can be found online. It's totally unfair to be suspicious of your husband until you have something other than a crank call to go on.

LW-2 set some ground rules for further relationship. I married and my wife had 3 kids and the youngest was 15. We set rules , her and I before we got married as its a marriage for life. I didn't like him talking to his mom the way he did, but said-' you do not talk to my WIFE that way'. Kinda took the mom word out of it. Never enable a abuser or user. Kick them to the curb and they'll either get up or continue the bad path.

LW2 - You better run, run, run as fast as the Gingerbread Mman!

LW#! - I would just like to say that I think ANY human on the planet would be upset and questioning over this phone call. But...my gut tells me that if your were that happy, then it just irks some people to death. They probably did it out of spite, especially if that someone is a female who wants your husband. My best guess is that there is some woman who has had her eyes on your husband and is quite mad that he won't even look at her, so she is making trouble so he will perhaps give her a look. Just my thoughts.

Letter #1- it was a prank. I'm in a family feud and my husband's brothers have stooped low enough to have people call me and say weird things to try to get my imagination going to make me think that my husband has been cheating on me. I ignore it and don't give it a second thought. I'm never paranoid that they're watching me and go about my daily life. If you let it get to you then they've got what they want. They want you to see your good marriage fail probably because they're not happy in theirs or have been divorced because of something stupid that they did.