Positions For Virgins & More

first-timer positions

My fiancée and I are about to get married and go on our honeymoon. We are both virgins. I am a bit nervous about when that special night comes because I am clueless about sex. What sex positions do you recommend to start out with since we are still virgins? Is anal sex a good idea to start? I've thought about using vibrators to pleasure her and possibly myself after reading up on it. I would like to try it, but I don't know if it is a good idea or not.

Mike

Mike,

Truth be told, your first time probably won’t be very satisfying. You will probably reach climax too quickly and she won’t even come close to climaxing at all. Your second time might last a few seconds longer, but it still won’t be as great as you have built it up to be in your fantasies.

For the first time you and your fiancée have sex, I recommend that you stick to the basic missionary position -- that is, you lie on top of her. Once you have penetrated her, depending on her response (some women find their first time having sex very painful) you can add some flair to this basic position. Try bending one or both of her knees toward her shoulders; this will allow for deeper penetration. Once you’ve got the missionary down pat, try other non-acrobatic positions like spooning (you both lie on your sides and you enter her from behind) and the female-dominant position (you like on your back; she’s on top of you). As soon as you become more comfortable with sex and begin to understand each other’s bodies better, you can bring out those whips and chains, or any other kinky pleasures that young, adventurous couples embrace nowadays.

Using a vibrator for stimulation can help, but for the first few times I recommend only use it on her clitoris. Don’t penetrate her with it since it’ll probably be painful for her. You’re best bet for foreplay, however, is plain ol’ oral sex.

I wouldn’t recommend anal sex if you’re completely inexperienced. There are more details to attend to like lubrication and cleanup. Add it to your to-do list for after you’ve become a tiger in the bedroom.

Donald Zimmer

morning sex

My boyfriend doesn't like to have sex in the morning. I can sometimes get him in the mood, but he often says no. Sex is awesome at night, but I don’t get any action in the morning. Is this normal? I thought men liked sex almost all the time?

Kim

Kim,

A lot of people like ice cream. Does that mean that everyone likes ice cream? Of course not; some people prefer a candy bar. The same applies to morning sex.

Yes, it’s true that men awake with morning erections, but this isn’t a sign of arousal. It can be pleasurable and result in arousal, but it can also be uncomfortable and painful if he wakes up in an awkward position.

Have you ever considered that perhaps he just isn’t a morning person?

Donald Zimmer

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