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[-]Thank you all who responded to my post about the 'process of seeing a fertility specialist. I am planning to make an apptment at cornell for consultation. I would to know, for those of you who had being through this,what should I expect to happen on that day, and what kind of questions should I be asking the doctor? Also, can anyone recommend a particular doctor or doctors at this facility? I was thinking about making an appointment with dr. Kang, has anyone ever dealt with her? Please help to make right choice. I consider myself and healthy 37 yr old so is my dh who is 42yr old. thanks so much
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreDr chung is awesome. first appt will be history and plan of action - schedule day 3 bloodwork, hsg etc. it will be minimum 6 weeks before anything really happens after that appt. you could get your day 3 tests done now/before on day 3 of your next period. your gyn can schedule. I went in at 38 and took 3 ivfs for 1st child and 4 for 2nd with a slightly raised fsh (12).
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Have you been charting? / Do you know the exact dates of your period? Have you been using OPKs? Do you know exactly when you've had sex? If so, bring all that information, neatly written down so you can give doctor all the info you have. Basically yours and dh's medical history, be prepared for both of you to answer whether you've previously ever been pg, gotten anyone pg, any abortions, etc. If you've had any infertility testing done elsewhere, bring a copy. They will probably ask you after appointment to set up time to do HSG, blood draw, semen analysis, etc. First appointment is just info gathering, once they have all your test results in is when you can talk about what your options are. In the meantime you can ask them about basic outli...
[ Reply | More ]Spandorfer has his fans too. I don't think you can go wrong with any of the docs at Cornell. An in reality, you are going to see all of the docs for monitoring, testing and IVF, if necessary. You get whoever is on call, not your doctor, so it doesn't really matter in the end. Good luck!
[ Reply | More ]I have an appt with Spandorfer coming up. I have heard great things about both him and Pak Chung. It took me about 6-7 weeks to get an appt so agree with others, make it now. In the meantime I got my OB to run a bunch of tests. Depending on what your trouble is you may be able to as well. I did the recurrent pregnancy loss panel and found out I have a clotting disorder. I also got my progesterone tested, which came back fine. I am an (otherwise) healthy 33 y.o. GL!
[ Reply | More ]If the Cornell docs won't put you on Lovenox for the recurrent miscarrages, consider seeing Dr. Lewis Lipsey (hematologist). He has a open mind on this issue. This is my first pregnancy on Lovenox, and my first pregnancy to stick beyond the first trimester.
[ Reply | More ]Thanks for the heads up. My docs at Cornell were fine putting my on Lovenox. I have heard others say they had issues, but I didn't have any trouble...perhaps my persistence has worn them all down :). Just started last week, fingers crossed that'll do the trick. GL with the rest of your pregnancy!
[ Reply | More ]NP I saw Dr. Chung and he sent me right away to a hematologist -- they put me on Lovenox. No issues, he was very pro it even though a second high-risk OBGYN I consulted with felt I did not need it. OP, also just bring any tests you've done already, any fertility history, they will ask how many pregnancies, any miscarriages, etc. They do a ton of tests and then you go from there. GL!
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[-]Looking for a great OB in NYC. I just had a miscarriage, and the OB I had was a complete nightmare. She has alot of experience, but she had a horrible bedside manner, and no compassion whatsoever. I am 40 so I realize I am over the maternal age which seemed to turn her off. She didnt give me my hormone levels, and I should have insisted to test my progesterone so I blame myself for that. She just told me that yes, low progesterone levels can lead to miscarriage, but that she believes it is because of my age. There is no way to really tell that, she is speculating. Anyways, I am really looking for a doctor who will go the extra mile. I prefer a Dr who is affiliated with either NYU or Mt. Sinai, but I am more interested in a Dr who has compas...
20 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreMAternal Fetal Medicine Associates at Mt Sinai (Rebarber, Saltzman et al.) - tough to get an appointment w/Rebarber specifically but they are all amazing. All men except for one doc who doesn't do deliveries but I promise it doesn't matter, they're awesome.
[ Reply | More ]Good luck to you and I agree that you need a new dr who is going to be your advocate.
[ Reply | More ]Drs. George Mussalli and Jacqueline Worth. He's high risk but doesn't act like it. Both give you very long and thorough appointments and are very compassionate. Deliver at Lenox Hill. Don't believe they take insurance though so it will out of network benefits.
[ Reply | More ]If she had checked your progesterone levels and they were low, what could she have done?
[ Reply | More ]I'm completely devoted to Dr. Janice Marks. I had a variety of complications and she was so calming and compassionate and made sure to refer me to the very best doctors in the city and called herself so they'd fit me in (and kept tabs on everything that happened with them). Very careful and detail oriented. The birth was great too. She delivers at Lenox Hill.
[ Reply | More ]Are you working with an RE? Maybe your RE can recommend someone that is used to seeing older patients and is used to running batteries of tests. If you're not working with an RE, you may want to start at this point.
[ Reply | More ]What can a RE do as far as the miscarriages, I dont think they can prevent them only run tests to see if there is a problem, right?
[ Reply | More ]REs can run a variety of tests to see if an underlying issue is causing the miscarriage, such as a clotting disorder (factor v-leiden, etc), or low progesterone, etc. You can probably get your OB to run these as well (mine did)...you just have to be really pushy if you haven't yet had 3 (I got mine to run tests after 2 - one was due to chromosomal abnormality, the other was unknown). Ask for the recurrent pregnancy loss panel. GL
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[-]please I need some information regarding infertility care. what do doctors do first before going for invasive procedures like ivf? is there any good clinics out there in NYC for this care? any recommendations for a specific doctors /facility would greatly be appreciated.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreYou need to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE). Go to a good clinic like Cornell or NYU. They first do a lot of blood tests on the woman to make sure all her hormonal levels are ok.
[ Reply | More ]^^They also will do a test called and HSG to see that your plumbing is clear. They will test your husband's sperm to make sure that is ok. After all that, assuming all is otherwise ok and you have been trying for the required amount of time, they'll put you on Clomid pills for 3 to 6 months. Then 3 rounds of IUI. Then IVF.
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I just started the process at cornell and I could not be happier! I was with an RE for a year and no results and I was recommended to cornell. amazing.
[ Reply | More ]HI, thanks so much for responding to my question. please, can you give me more info about your experience so far at cornell.How is the care you're receiving at cornell differ that of your previous RE care?( I am not trying to be in your business,but am more concern about not getting adequate attention. I've read a lot from this website from other women's experiences. is there a particular doctor that you would recommend? Do they accept most insurances? am 38 yr old .
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Definitely go to Cornell or NYU first. I wasted a lot of time with my OB-Gyn who kept reassuring me I didn't have a problem and then more time lost with Dr. Sami David. Finally, I went to Cornell and got clear diagnosis. I do have to do IVF and wish I knew earlier. So, please go somewhere reputable from the start. I'm with Dr. Chung at Cornell. If you don't need to do IVF right away, they may recommend you do IUI or surgery to correct any problems you might have. Good luck!
[ Reply | More ]i started with dr chung too two months ago, and think he is incredible. very professional, caring, really makes an effort to get to know you and make you feel as comfortable as possible in this miserable infertility mess you found yourself in. i haven't gotten pregnant yet, but we are moving forward and haven't had any setbacks. everybody in his practice, the nurses and admin people, are very nice. his full name is pak chung.
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I live in Brooklyn, but I work in the city on the UWS. I prefer a hospital in the city because I am there most of the time, but I am more concerned about the doctor. Someone with integrity. See above post, pushed enter too soon lol
[ Reply | More ]Ah, ok. FWIW, I'm 34 and had 2 miscarriages when I was 32 and 33. The doctors did not check progesterone levels or anything of the kind. They assume it is a chromosomal issue. You may be better off going to an RE if you would like a workup and someone to monitor your pregnancy in the early stage.
[ Reply | More ]What is an RE? in general, this one had bad bedside manner so that is why I am looking for suggestions in general. I have 6.5 year old, and my last OB was phenomenal. Unfortunately, she relocated to CT. What a bummer.
[ Reply | More ]RE = Reproductive Endocrinologist (fertility specialist). Dr. Drew Tortoriello does a lot more testing for miscarriages than the others. As far as OBs go, I use the Katrina Bradley / Amy Huang / Anna Rhee practice and I find them to be phenomenal. They are on the UWS and deliver at St. Luke's Roosevelt. I'm not sure they will do the type of proactive monitoring that you need/want, however.
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[-]I am 33 and have been feeling ovulation every month now, which is new. Is this a sign my eggs are shriveling up? My husband is out of work and we won't be able to TTC until a year or so.
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Moreim 34 and been feeling ovulation cramps for about 2 years now, swelling of breasts 4 weeks out of 4 weeks. My doc put me on Levora bc, started last month and already feel better. My period has been irregular and painful for the last two years as well which is unusual since it's been so regular since my teenage years. My blood test looks normal but my doctor said, well, I'm aging.
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[-]Can anyone tell me the process of seeing RE for fertility care? am 37 yrs old and have been TTC for about 6mos, no success yet so considering seeing RE. I am interested in knowing what to expect with my first visit and the subsequent ones, bottom line, I don't want them to jump me into ivf without preliminary exams. can you also include info about best clinic for fertility care in NYC? thanks
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI saw an RE after a yr of trying (I was 30). He did blood work and gave me a physical. He asked a lot of questions about my sex life and periods and history. He scheduled me for an HSG test and told DH to have his sperm tested and the results sent to him. We made a follow up for a few weeks later and went over all the results.
[ Reply | More ]They're going to do blood tests to see how well your ovaries are functioning, an exam to look at your uterus, a test to see if your fallopian tubes are open (be prepared for that one - it's not horrible but it's invasive) and a test of your dh's sperm. They want to pinpoint where the problem lies as it impacts their protocol. GL! We tried for 2 years and finally ended up doing IVF and conceived on the first try.
[ Reply | More ]They do blood work to check hormone levels, ultrasound and an internal exam, hsg test to see if the tubes are clear. They will also do a semen analysis on your dh. I went to Cornell (also was 37) and had success. I did 2 iui's before moving to IVF and 2nd IVF worked. Best of luck!
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[-]Anyone have their first baby at 37? I am 35 now, but have to prepare myself if it happens. I am postponing a fibroid surgery to give us a bit more time to try to conceive. But, if we don't, I would get the surgery at a time when I would be 37 if we get preggers. Thanks!
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Conflicting opinions. My ob/gyn thinks it is fine and a reproductive endo thinks if I get it removed it will help me get pregnant. Two other opinions think that it could possibly affect my ability, miscarriage rate, etc. But, not a lot. We only tried for about 5 months...so I am thinking to give it a few more months....
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2 weeks shy of 38. Used TCOYF, which actually made me calm and feel like I was on top of (if not quite in control of) the process. Conceived @6mos after stopped pill, 3rd mo of TCOYF charting
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after various fertility issues, ds born when I was 1 month shy of 37 (so conceived at 36), and then after multiple failed fertility treatments, got pregnant naturally at 39, with baby due this year on the week of my 40th birthday.
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[-]Question for IVF veterans: NYU or Cornell? Everyone seems to recommend Cornell, but when I look at sart.org, NYU's are much higher. I know Cornell takes a lot of tough cases from around the country, but is there something else I'm missing?
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If I were you, I would do a consult with both clinics and decide after that. Meet the doctor(s) who will supervise your cycle, discuss the protocol options they would recommend, and ask any questions you have about the process. They are both exceptional clinics and have wonderful doctors, embryologists, nurses, etc. You might get a better 'vibe' at one or the other, and it's important that you are comfortable with both the doctors and the office as a whole. GL!
[ Reply | More ]U have to take sart w a grain of salt. It really doesnt mean that much. Cornell doesnt turn patients away. They take patients that have failed at many other clinics, multiple times. They dont push donor eggs, unless u want them. Other clinics push patients out way before this, to keep their numbers up. Also, it's not a for profit clinic...it's research based. They also have the best lab. I don't know much about buy at all. I cycled at RMA, and 3 times at Cornell. Success on ivf4 at cornell. Nothing against nyu, but wanted to shed some light on sart. It's not the end all be all IMO.
[ Reply | More ]Nyu not buy. Autocorrect. Also, I think Cornell totally deserves its reputation, I'm forever grateful for what they did for me
[ Reply | More ]Does Cornell work non-IVF miracles? Meaning, I have old eggs but don't want the expense of IVF or donor eggs.
[ Reply | More ]np: I don't know what they can do if you're not willing to consider IVF. A medicated IUI, I suppose, but if you are a poor responder, that won't work (and if you are a good responder, the risk of high-order multiples is much, much greater with IUI).
[ Reply | More ]I've has 3 pregnancies in the past 9 months - 1 IUI and 2 on our own. None of them made it though - chromosonal defects.
[ Reply | More ]^^ just trying to figure out if I should switch REs or just stick with what we've got - I think it is me, not the RE clinic, and could Cornell really do anything more for me?
[ Reply | More ]If it's a chromosomal issue that is recurring, then Cornell can't do anything to PREVENT the same thing from happening again. What they could do -- but it's very $$$ -- is IVF with PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis). They take one cell from the embryo and test for chromosomal abnormalities. It's tough on the embryos (not all survive the process) and it doesn't test for everything, but it's the only way to guarantee that you are putting back a viable embryo. If it still doesn't implant, you might have lining issues or other issues that can then be addressed.
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I had to pick too and went with Cornell. And although my first cycle did not work -- about to start second...I can tell you I was handled with the utmost professionalism during my cycle by not only all the Docs but the nurses too and I could not have asked for things to run better. It kind of shocked me. It is a well oiled machine. I also had asked people I knew who had done IVF and heard more than one story about how the "only place i got pregnant was Cornell" that along with my own research was what did it for me.
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[-]How do people deal with their mother-in-laws during the whole ttc process? Mine's is passive aggressive and just plain mean. Most recently she said in front of my brother that she wanted to throw a baby shower for my cousin-in-law but that she knows I'll be jealous. I've never been jealous of my cousin-in-law, but that's the rumor she likes to spread to everyone b/c she's pregnant and I am not. She constantly grabs at my stomach - before, she used to do it coz she thought I was fat (size 0-2) - now she does it to see if I'm pregnant. I dread seeing her. I've given up on trying to make her like me and I definitely don't like her. But I do love my husband and want to keep the peace...
38 replies [ Reply | Watch | Morejesus she sounds like a bitch. I'm so sorry ttc is so stressful. She def doesn't help.
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Don't tell her! Why does anyone need to know you are TTC? The cat may be out of the bag now, but if you can, how about having DH tell her that you aren't TTC bc you're (you both) aren't ready for DCs yet. Then, surprise!, is you do get pregnant. You can even make a joke of telling people that to take he pressure off. We didn't tell anyone (not wen my own mother) until 12 weeks and I was 37 so people had to assume I was going to start TTC eventually but nobody felt like we were remotely open to prying.
[ Reply | More ]i wish i could, but she's been on our case to have kids since we got married 2.5 years ago and asks every time we see her... and it's tough b/c not much changes week to week in that department. she used to be a nurse so you would think she'd know that.
[ Reply | More ]she seems like a dumb ass who only knows what she wants to know. what a bitch. what does dh say?
[ Reply | More ]dh is disappointed in his mother. he also realizes that she doesn't like me and that nothing i do will change that. (i'm a few years older than him and i think that has always bothered her.) i feel bad b/c he said something has shifted in the way he sees her.
[ Reply | More ]np: she sounds truly awful. I'm not kidding when I say I would move to get away from her. LA is nice...
[ Reply | More ]Nnp: why would feel bad? The woman is a bitch. If his view didn't shift you'd have a real problem. You really need to work on yourself. Your lack of confidence and self-regard are not healthy, and will make family life tougher for everyone than it needs to be. Your MIL should not give you nightmares. Get some help. There's more going on with you.
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screeching, "ouch, what are you doing?! Stop grabbing at my stomach!!" is the tactic I'd try if she touches you again. Practice with a friend. You need to learn how to have an appropriate reaction. It will feel like overreaction, but it's called for here. You've been conditioned, as most of us have, to minimize drama when others act out. This only works with people who are civilized. As far as an overall strategy, I can only suggest avoidance.
[ Reply | More ]What an awful woman! Your husband needs to be your champion here. He needs to tell his mom that if she wants grandkids and she needs to stop stressing you out by talking about it and touching you. He needs to make it super clear to her that if she's not on her absolute best behavior it will impact her access to future grandkids.
[ Reply | More ]Try stretching her facial skin and tell her you just want to see what shed look like with a face lift.
[ Reply | More ]Do you think your DH is more concerned about her wishes and feelings than he is about yours? Does he live his life to make her happy, or do you feel like he has transitioned that loyalty to you? (keeping a good relationship with his mother and being appropriately loyal to wife are not mutually exclusive. But she sounds like a difficult person. And if he wants to set up your lives to indulge her, you've got bigger problems than behavior around ttc.)
[ Reply | More ]Ack. Why why why did you tell her you were ttc? I can only imagine the pressure that adds to you. It's definitely not MILs in general here, just her. If I could get away with it I'd try to hide as much of my pg from her as possible-I have a feeling it'll only get worse when you DO get preg
[ Reply | More ]I guess it's too late for OP, but others could take this as a cautionary tale: don't tell people you're TTC! We told absolutely no one. If family members asked, we said, "Sure, someday," and changed the subject. It only happened once or twice. I can't imagine having that family pressure on top of my own desire to get PG.
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Dr. Owen Davis at Cornell (most all of the Cornell doctors are amazing, but I felt Dr. Davis was truly extraordinary).
[ Reply | More ]ITA he has "the touch" i got pregnant naturally after going to see him, after being told by another re that i would NEVER get pregnant, not even thru ivf.
[ Reply | More ]I read your post concerning Davis and helping you get preg. Could you email me at ally26@aol.com so I could ask you some q's? I 've also seen him once.
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i had spandorfer and would not recommend and cannot speak for all the docs at cornell but it's like cattle going through the clinic. i felt like just a number. he doesn't explain anything to me and if i ask a question, he gets defensive and doesn't explain anything except to say "it's your age! old eggs". note: i just tried iui a few times and unsuccessfully, not ivf yet and not likely with him. there were visits when he didn't even say "hi, how r u". finally, i should have known something was not right when he gave me a breast exam at my first appt. how does that relate to infertility??? moving on...
[ Reply | More ]I agree. Dr. Spandover doesn't care anymore and it's extremely in his apathetic attitude. This facility doesn't test for other factors eithe suck as natural killer cells, immunology issues etc (which is what I have). And yes, Spandover feels you up which made me uncomfortable and skeptical and was totally unnecessary.
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I've worked with RMA (Sinai), Roosevelt and Columbia. Columbia was HANDS DOWN the best.
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[ Reply | More ]Reproductive Medical Associates. Mt. Sinai. Very good, bit of a factory feel, but all of them are. I see Alan Copperman, who I really love to the point of crush hood. We've done 4 cycles with them, one ds, one mc, one blank. I'm 40 and will be giving them one more try. Have thought about switching to Cornell, but not sure it's worth it or would make a lick of difference.
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Really? I thought Columbia was disorganized. I liked the doctors but the support staff seemed clueless. I would not have gone there except that they take my insurance. For someone who is self-funding (ie not insurance) I would recommend Cornell or NYU.
[ Reply | More ]Anyone knows the best stats of RMA,Columbia,Cornell/NYU? I met terrable staff at Columbia..(doctors seem nice,though)Or anyone knows the best Dr at columbia?I wonder if I should continue at Columbia...
[ Reply | More ]www.sart.org. This gives all stats. But beware. The better clinincs (cornell&nyu but especially cornell) success rates tend to be understated because they get and take the tougher cases- women who due to their multiple failures elsewhere have lower odds of getting pregnant. Some of the clinics with really high success rates screen out patients early on to avoid a drop in their success rates.
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Steven Spandorfer Cornell. Agree 100% with above poster. I went to him to get pg w #1 and #2. Not only is he one of the top fertility drs he has an amazing bedside manner. He is easy to talk to and you can tell he really cares. My dh and I both felt so comfortable with him. I can not speak highly enough about him.
[ Reply | More ]I went to a RSofNY in Brooklyn and they have screwed up my system. I was incredibly regular, a 28 day cycle and ovulated always on the 12th day. It has now been 40 days since my last period and I've called the office numerous time to ask what I should do, no reply. I have appointments at the following, Dr Chung at Cornell - Dr Grundfeld at RMA and Dr Park at Columbia. Can anyone tell me if they have any experience with any of these doctors? It's not just trying to get pregnant, it's also the stress of finding the right doctor and receiving the best care - ugh
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[-]Does anyone have experience getting pregnant and having a successful pregnancy with a fibroid? I have a 7.5 cm intramural with a small submucosal fibroid at the back of my uterus. It isn't affecting the endometrial canal a lot, but it is affecting it. No symptoms, but 2 days of 7 my periods are really heavy. I am 35, ttc for about 5 months and would like to try another 5 before getting a myomectomy.
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[-]Conflicting opinions from different Dr's about fibroid affecting ability to get pregnant. Any advice? I have only one 7.5 cm intramural fibroid, at the back of uterus, small submucosal component. Ob/Gyn says she doesn't think it is a problem to get pregnant and stay pregnant. Fertility dr says she thinks I should get it removed and fibroid surgeon thinks it is decreasing my chances of getting preg 50%. Have been researching a lot. Am 35, TTC.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreWhat's the downside of just getting it removed? Given what you said (and zero knowledge on my part beyond that), I'd probably just get it removed. At 35, if I'd been trying for 6+ months, I think I wouldn't want to waste another year+ trying.
[ Reply | More ]I know, that is how I feel. The reasons I am hesitating are: having to have surgery-getting cut, possible complications, the small chance that something could go wrong; potential scarring on the uterus that could affect pregnancy; and probably having to have a c-section if I get pregnant. Also, the chance that they could grow back anyway. Ideally, we want two kids. So, I am thinking about one surgery and two c-sections. Dr said I should get my fallopian tubes checked first to make sure something isn't being blocked, before having surgery. But, that would change my surgery date (I scheduled it for May 9).
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Both myself and my sister had fibroids. We heard from our obgyn that it wasn't a small surgery to get them fixed. We both conceived easily and carried to term. She needed a C section because a fibroid was blocking the canal. I ended up needing one due to Pre Eclampsia. But other than that, no issues. How long have you been trying? Are you using an ovulation predictor kit? Anyone over 30 should be using one of those. People tend to think they 'know' when they're ovulating and in my experience, my friends have been way off. They wasted 6 to 9 months guessing at dates and then as soon as they knew their cycles were pregnant immediately. Granted, that's just a few people, but I wouldn't 'wing it.'
[ Reply | More ]We have been trying October-February. So, 5 months. March and April we stopped trying because I wasn't sure if I was getting the surgery, etc. and the Dr's made me think my chances of miscarriage were high. I have been using the OPK's, and am very regular. Also, I was very stressed, first NYC solo show in January. All my hormone levels are ok. I might try to get yet another opinion before the surgery, from another ob/gyn. If I get them removed, it is with Da Vinci, a robotic assisted myomectomy.
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Have you gotten an opinion from a fertility center like Cornell. The MDs there are excellent. They would tell you what to do right away. If you need to have surgery have it with Glenn Schattman. Hes an absolutely amazing surgeon.
[ Reply | More ]Thank you for your recommendation. One thing my ob/gyn said is that almost all IVF dr's would say to get it removed, but maybe that is if I am doing IVF. I am thinking I should get another opinion. I also have a dr appointment with Lealani Rodriguez on Monday for another opinion. I have almost 2 weeks till my scheduled surgery to see if I want to go through with it.
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My mom started TTC at 36 and couldn't get pregnant for a year. Doctor found a fibroid, removed it and within two months got pregnant with my older sib. No problem with getting pg year and a half later. I'd have it removed so you don't waste a lot of time ttc.
[ Reply | More ]I had a 6 cm fibroid subserosal/submucosal (they couldn't tell exactly), but my OB told me he recommends surgery only for fibroids 8 cm or larger. I got pregnant easily at 32, but had a very difficult pregnancy because the fibroid grew and degenerated. My OB said I had to get it removed before getting pregnant again or I would have the same issues. I didn't and had a very easy second pregnancy at 35. So I think OBs cannot predict with any certainty which fibroids will cause a problem. That's why you got three different opinions and why the decision is so difficult. What convinced me not to have surgery is that in 50% of cases the fibroids come back (you're supposed to get pregnant within 6 months after the surgery) and that the surgery brin...
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I am thinking now to postpone the surgery, since we really only tried for 5 months. I might get the test where they make sure your fallopian tubes are open, HSG I think. And will try to relax more, when we were trying I was quite stressed on a fairly consistent basis (first solo art show in nyc, etc). It isn't the end of the world if I get pregnant at 36 or 36 and a half...having a kid at 37. Anyway, thanks again!
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[-]Has any ex-Cornell patients gone to RMANJ or CCRM for CCS? Do you feel it really improved your chance? or at least not blindly trying and not knowing at all if you'll get BFN or miscarriage down the road?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI went to SIRM NY, Dr Tortoriello, from Cornell. He has very high success rates and runs a much smaller practice so you don't feel like a battery farm hen on a cycle, he personally takes a lot of interest in the protocol and does every u/s himself. I had success with him, twice, after failures at Cornell, I had spoken to CCRM but it was just so far so we decided to go with SIRM. Are you familiar with ivfconnections? There's a lot of good info and support there, GL.
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I could use some advice. I saw Dr. Noyes at NYU and she recommended surgery on an intramural (in the muscle, but not cavity) fibroid. Then I saw Dr. Spandorfer at Cornell who completely disagreed with her. How am I supposed to decide what to do? Anyone else deal with this? I've been TTC for 8 months and no one can seem to figure out why...
[ Reply | More ]I found Dr. Noyes to have NO bedside manner whatsoever. She recommended an exploratory laproscopy many years ago and when I called her to ask some questions, she was so short with me that I ended up not having the surgery. I was asking completely reasonable questions like, how long recovery time, etc. I never went back to her and would not recommend her to anyone.
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37. all my tests came back normal. i have a daughter who's 2 and who was small (5 lb 13 oz) possibly because of the fibroid, but possibly not. it's just so bizarre to hear such conflicting reports. dr noyes said not only could it be preventing pregnancy, but it could lead to a late term miscarriage. dr spandorfer said both are not true. i have appointments with dr pak chung and dr husami (at cornell...my ob/gyn recommended him) later this week for a 3rd/4th opinions, but it's definitely disconcerting that doctors feel so differently over what i thought would be a relatively non-complex issue.
[ Reply | More ]Hi, not sure if you are still on urban baby, but I have a kind of similar issue. My ob/gyn says my fibroid (7.5 cm, intramural with small submucosal component at the back of my uterus) isn't causing issues ttc (we have been ttc for 6 months and I am 35, 36 in august). Dr Noyes and Dr Ascher Walsh think getting it removed would help my fertility. Everything else is normal so far. I have a surgery scheduled for May 9 with Ascher Walsh, but I am having second thoughts. I would be doing it to increase my chances of getting pregnant.
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[-]Am I crazy for TTC at age 42 (43 in June)? Already have 2 kids, ages 7 and 5. Thought this was my last hurrah in trying for a third. Is this too old? Be honest!!
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | Morefriend had twins at 44. if you have 2 you know what you re getting in to. It is hard on your body though (signed, mom at 40)
[ Reply | More ]Its not the little baby, what about the teen when you are SIXTY!!!!Too old.Our health doesn't get better, it gets worse. Not fair to them.Sometimes we are just too old, this is one of them.
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