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[-]Do all those couples with boy/girl twins via IVF do the designer "sex selection IVF" or is it just luck? I just see so many of these types of twins & was wondering if it was natural?
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[-]wow. well, i get flamed for all sorts of stupid shit here. but seriously, you women (however many on here) who have kids outside the marriage and deceive your husband, you're some kind of an asshole. if you can't fess up to your husband, just get an abortion, ok? don't be a fuckhead and screw over some poor guy who trusts you. grow the fuck up.
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Were you trying to tell her to get an arboretum? Why? Do you have something against planned horticulture spaces? Really do they even sell those? I can't imagine that she would be able to simply pick up an arboretum on her next visit to Target...they are rather big from my experience.
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Oh you know what? This teaches me not to assume too much. Because you said "you women" so it's like you think all women do this. So it's like my problem of thinking all women cheat. and I see it through you, that you have trust issues about this, but I do too, and I can see it in your comment. so the moral is, sometimes things you believe or take issue with have more to do with you than the group you're castigating.
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[-]Do you clean up before your nanny/housekeeper comes to work so your place doesn't look that messy?
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[-]Did you put yourself through college or grad school "dancing"? Does DH know? Did you keep a journal of your best & worst customers? Ever miss it? Ever think about it when you hear a particular song? Does drinking certain kinds of champagne bring back memories of great nights?
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Does she keep a journal? WTH? Strippers don't journal about their customers unless they're also moonlighting as prostitutes. BTW, most prostitutes don't journal about their customers unless they're planning on parleying their experience into a major Hollywood movie. Sorry to burst your fantasy.
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[-]any youtube videos you like to watch to take your mind off of nighttime anxiety? silly cats aren't cutting it.
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This relaxation video of watching the beach totally helped me calm down after a stressful day of work. It's just the sounds and picture of ocean waves on water but it calmed me down very much. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Ktkgeib6l8
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Or, if you like paranormal warm fuzzy stuff, like miracles and unexplanable events, and need to feel a sense of belief in something higher (which I do, but might be too intense for other people) you can watch things like this. I like the sound of the narrator's voice. Reminds me of the 80's: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3f0-9-8zdDA
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[-]Please tell me your tantrumming 2 y/o turned into a nice regular kid? Our #1 didn't tantrum like this. Doing my best to calmly set limits w/ the little guy, give equal attention to older child, etc. Generally successful,and trying to hold onto fact that they're not called "terrible 2's" for nothing... He's generally bright and happy and loving, but meltdowns are regular and impressive. It's exhausting and wind up taking exhaustion and stress out on dh. And sucks for older kid too. Insight/experience appreciated.
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | MorePretend like the tantrums don't phase you. When you don't give attention to it, they will see it doesn't work. When they do something nice or cute make a big deal about that. Don't panic and give into the tantrum because you think you're a bad parent or have done something wrong. The testy two's are quite normal for tantruming and I have seen kids tantrum because it is how they communicate. Teach them to use a word, or baby sign language to get what they want. Also, don't ask them to share because they can't at this level and it will result in tantruming. Some tantrums can't be avoided, so don't be too hard on yourself (if you are). But I have seen so many kids throw fits and then check out of the corner of their eye to see if an adult is w...
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[-]SAHM here...a nanny at the park told me that the husband in the family she works for always flirts with her when wife is not around! I guess she needed to get it off her chest! She is AA & very attractive & family she works for is White. She said that husband always tells her how exotic she is! Question - do you care whether the nanny you hire is attractive or not? (disregard Arnold Shwartznegger)
26 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI would never hire someone my DH would be attractive too. On another note why on earth would the Nanny tell you this.
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no I don't but I see no need to entice him further my having some hot young thing bending down in front of him daily.
[ Reply | More ]oh come on you need to think more of yourself and your marriage, you know that showing how little you care about those things and being secure is a very attractive trait?
[ Reply | More ]np. You sound annoying. If your marriage is so great, appreciate and leave other people the fuck alone. OP asked for opinions and she gave hers, stop judging. Also, people who judge like you do tend to be unhappy with their own lives
[ Reply | More ]Jesus lady, I was trying to suggest you more confident about yourself and your looks I wasn't judging you I was implying that your DH thinks more of you than you realize and you should feel similarly good about yourself. On second though after your response, I see that may not really be the case...
[ Reply | More ]np=next poster, moron. and yes, you were judging. You were assuming that because the poster didn't want an attractive nanny meant that she wasn't secure in herself or her marriage. You don't sound very secure in your marriage/self because you are busy judging other people.
[ Reply | More ]Oh hello original poster who fipped out. I know it is instinct to try and accuse others of suffering from your demons when you are called out but it is a tremendous stretch in this case. You are so insecure about how your husband feels about you and his level of fidelity that you are afraid to allow an attractive woman in your home. End of story. Get some help.
[ Reply | More ]OR: That was not me, you can tell by the style of language. Also I know DH loves me but I see no need to tempt anyone. I wouldn't want to be tempted and so why would I tempt him. In addition marriages go through good and bad times cheating may come into both of our minds during our bad times.
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[-]Eating a seedless melon imported from Mexico and it dawned on me. Why is it that we're not supposed to eat the produce or drink the water when visiting Mexico and some of the other countries where we import food but it's okay to eat imported food products from those countries, especially produce?
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[-]New nanny of one month just got called for jury duty, she claims she's postponed several times so can't do so again. Do I need to pay her while she's out? I'll be paying a babysitter to cover as I wohm ft, also we had both agreed that she wouldn't get any paid days off for the first three months.
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i think you don't have to pay her (small companies don't have to, and i think this would be the equivalent). maybe check this, though?
[ Reply | More ]You don't have to pay. The state will pay her for jury duty service. It's a pittance, but that constitutes pay. That's why a lot of people don't want to serve on jury duty.
[ Reply | More ]You may not HAVE to pay, but if you CAN and she shows you the jury summons, why wouldn't you? It's not her fault the court have bad timing.
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[-]Anyone know the name of cute little dress shop on n side of a triangle around w 13th and 8th av, window always has 3 dresses on manequins w/ fan blowing them...? Wanna say it's Pretty Girl but googling comes up w/ nothing near there. Thanks.
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[-]Are you jealous that your friend married a rich guy & they have more money than you?
24 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI had a friend like this. She always wanted to be looked after. She found a guy who offered her that. They aren't so much rich as comfortable; go on modest vacations, have modest apartment etc. She complained every now and then about being bored at his business dinners where she had to play nice with the other wives. She spent her days learning to paint, reading tarot cards, going to therapy, doing IVF and touching base with her friends. It seemed like a boring, loveless but intimate marriage. I don't envy her. She didn't have much drive for anything beyond having stability. Not my kind of existence.
[ Reply | More ]Until I married one girl in our group had the richest DH and she became immediately insufferable discussing weekend homes, private schools, how much her apartment cost. Then I married Dh who is on a completely other level financially, now she is insufferable in a different way. She is clearly unhappy.
[ Reply | More ]I'm more mad she started acting lie an entited bitch towards everyone once she started getting everything she wanted. If she stayed nice I would be very happy for her.
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She's extremely rude to people/friends, talks down to people, throws little fits about doing the smallest things, makes comments under her breath. She never used to do stuff like that and was fun and nice. It's like she went insane.
[ Reply | More ]Are you sure you are not projecting? But people do change. I see that I have become far less patient now because money can really buy you into a situation where you get tings done first, faster, better etc. so she might not be checking herself. I try to check myself but who knows if I succeed.
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OP here: I have not changed, but she always tries to "one up" me. I don't talk about where we vaca or art that we buy, but she is always bragging about how she bought this and that. DH runs a hedge fund & makes 7 figures but we are very simple jeans & t-shirt people. We even send our DCs to public school!
[ Reply | More ]I don't understand what you are saying. That you are rich but she is the only one who brags? I am sure my friend who used to be the richest in the group thinks this about me but in reality she is just pissed she is no longer considered wealthy and is middling now in the suburbs. She was a real PITA for years.
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[-]Best diet pill (non prescription) that reduces appetite? after I put DCs to bed, I just eat out of boredom, elation, freedom! Help!!!!
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[-]How much harder is it to run with a jogging stroller than alone? I just run for weight loss, don't care too much about speed - I am not particularly coordinated though so I am worried about the how hard it might be to run without swinging my arms & the change in position and stuff...
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[-]Does anyone have kids who act? A talent manager wants to represent my 8 year-old daughter. This is not something I ever would have considered (the agent came to my daughter's theater class) and I am very torn about what to do now. If anyone has experience with this type of thing, please tell me about it.
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Being a "stage mom" is a FT job! Easy 2 do if u r a SAHM only! I did it when DD was 2, but it was too much of a commitment & last minute calls & schlepping around the city for auditions. I would wait until DC is at least 10 or 12
[ Reply | More ]What does she think about it? If it is her dream and you can make the time to take her to auditions etc then go for it. But, it does take time and she WILL miss school if she books anything.
[ Reply | More ]Listen. Don't do it. This same thing happened to my 10 year old dd. The same exact thing! She doesn't want to do it. I am so glad because I really think it's a hard life. The chances of long term success are so small. Take a look at children's shows from Disney, older movies, tv series, etc. It doesn
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[-]How do you keep sandals from getting gross? And once they've gotten gross, is there any hope?
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Depends on the sandal. If your feet are gross the sandals will become gross. If you step in gross the sandals will become gross. Leather sandals are dealt with differently to man made sandals. Protect sandals before wear when possible. Give sandals a wipe when necessary. Etc. Not that any of this is rocket science!
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[-]I settled in my 20s bc dh was kind and caring and stable - never had butterflies never had crazy sex nothing - now At 40 with 2 kids and not much of a financial cushion (but I do work) I want a second chance - am I crazy for having a romantic notion of what I should have or am I crazy for still staying in a marriage in a half assed way. Please advise - I'm torn.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreStay in your marriage. Work on being best friends with him. You have two kids. It's not like changing socks. AND IT SUCKS IN THE DATING WORLD TODAY. You would not believe what goes on....
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I could go on and on. But I just don't have the time to type it all. I just decided this weekend that I give up. I am just living for my own happiness and the happiness of my dcs. Men have disappointed me in every way. 3.5 years single. Not one good man in sight. And (if it matters) men check me out all the time. I am not unattractive.
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I agree. It does suck and you will probably miss your dh. Flirt like crazy with men but don't touch. Also, you could try doing romantic things with Dh. Have an honest conversation with him about how you feel. You owe him that at least.
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You're old. Unless you think you'd be happier alone and seriously hurting your children - work on your marriage. You're not going to meet 'Mr. Right' after leaving your DH for no apparent reason and breaking up your family. I'll repeat - you are OLD. There's no market for 40YOs w/ 2 kids.
[ Reply | More ]I don't know. I'm 35, always have gone with my heart and loins and I'm single and childless. Can't imagine being tied to a man I didn't desire passionately. I wouldn't exchange my experiences for a half assed marriage. The 'security' isn't enough for me to forgo the passion.
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