Wow, what a beautiful story.  I am so glad that the son & mother can make some peace out of a tragic occurrence.  The news report conveyed God’s love through the computer screen.  I can only imagine…what it felt like in person.  I am so glad the young woman chose life.  Danielle, thank you for sharing this.  It’s a compelling argument for pro life.  It reminds me to be grateful for my mom who had me even though there was adversity from her family…her peers and even the neighbors!  Glory be to God!

What a beautiful story. That was most definitely not a coincedent. It was a “God Moment”.

What a beautiful story!  Thank you so much for sharing it!

Heidi, while I understand your concern for the birthmother, I’m sure she wouldn’t have met her son if it would have been too painful. 

In my mind the whole thing was meant to be…especially how the man’s half sister randomly found him!  That was no coincidence!

i cried…..

I am so thankful that there is more awareness in today’s society about how to handle adoption and the grieve a mother may feel in the process.  It is sad to look back at how even “religious” people handled rape and unwed pregnant moms. I do wonder though if this mom wanted her personal info (the rape) shared in such a way.

When she was in college, my aunt became pregnant. Due to her family situation (esp my grandfather’s lack of support) and the fact that it was the early 70’s and was a mixed race baby, she could not raise the baby herself. When she went to the college center, they could only give her information on abortions—nothing else. Thank God she chose life anyway. As was more common then, she went away to a Catholic home for unwed mothers to have her baby. My mom was with her through a very difficult delivery. My mom was the only family member to hold the baby. She was given up for adoption through Catholic Charities.

Many years later, when my aunt saw my cousins and I getting married and having our own families, she decided that her daughter was old enough to try to contact her. She fell in age a couple years younger than I was and in the midst my sister and our cousins.

It took a long time, but with the kind help of Catholic Charities, she learned where her daughter was adopted to and a little (anonymous info) about the family. A Sister in that local office contacted her now grown daughter to ask if she would accept contact,  and they began with mail correspondence. My aunt was always VERY careful of her daughter’s adoptive family and very clear to them that she was not claiming their role. She was grateful to them for the loving family and life they shared. It was slow going for a while before the adoptive mother was open to contact. and now several years later, my aunt makes several long-distance trips a year and is Grandma to two beautiful children. She is also part of all family events while she is there.

This is just one example—and yes care must be taken on all sides. It is an emotional issue of course. But I can’t imagine how much harder it would have been for my aunt to always wonder if her daughter was OK, especially since she never married and had other children.

It’s interesting that so many people who are adopted look for their birth parents.  I wonder why that is.
I’m glad this story had a good ending.  Family is such a beautiful thing.

@Grace and Suzanne.  If you read the first two paragraphs again, it is obvious that it was NOT the birth mother who initiated this meeting, but the sibling. Which means that somehow the adult adoptee contacted the family, NOT the birth mother.  Which means the woman was forced to tell the story of her assault.  There is also no indication whatsoever of the status of the adoptive parents, one way or the other.

The rules about releasing identifying information of birth/first parents vary from state to state, and there are groups strongly advocating for mandatory open records. They want all adult adoptees to be able to contact their birth/first parents, without regard for the wishes of that first/birth parent (let alone the adoptive parents).

Here is one such story, in which a New Jersey birth mother is suing the state for releasing identifying information to the adult adoptee:  http://www.courthousenews.com/2009/06/22/Rape_Victim_Says_New_Jersey_Revealed_Her_Name_to_Child_She_Put_Up_for_Adoption.htm

Again, the concern is two-fold:  Saving lives of babies born to victims of rape, and ensuring that the mother’s privacy be protected.  The two are connected.

Hello though i should clear up any confusion that might be happening.  While I was looking up family history in 2008 I saw Mr Kiser’s posting in adoption website. I did nothing when I saw this information but in 2010 when I was back home from college I decided to tell my grandmother about the posting. My grandmother then got in contact with Mr Kiser and had the reunion planned.  I was not there at the reunion…but from what I heard my great grand mother was quite happy meeting him.  The only thing that brothers me is that they decided to add the rape into the story.