Overweight Girlfriend
How To Get Her To Lose Weight
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"How do I take the correct approach to getting Kelly to lose some weight without major emotional consequences?"This week, Doc Love, author of "The System," advises a reader with an overweight girlfriend.
Hey Doc,
I’m finding myself less attracted to Kelly, my girlfriend of a little more than a year and a half, and am not sure what to do. She has gained weight over the past six months or so, and is probably about 20 pounds heavier than she was when we met. Now she’s around 165-170 on a 5’6” frame, and our romantic life has suffered as a result.
Kelly is a bartender at a restaurant, so she’s on her feet and very active at work. But she works 3 p.m. to 10 p.m. during the week, and rarely has time to eat at work. So we eat rather large meals when she gets home, around midnight. By the way, I’ve put on a few pounds myself due to this lifestyle and could stand to lose about 10. And we often get fast food, as most decent eateries are closed late at night, plus Kelly wants to unwind after work and not cook. She’s also big into wine, and we usually split a bottle four or five nights a week.
I am equally concerned, if not more concerned, about Kelly’s lack of effort. I try to run a few times a week, but she hasn’t made an effort to work out lately. She’s 37 (I’m 29), so she claims her metabolism isn’t as good anymore. Or we sleep half the day away before she goes to work. Unfortunately, I’m laid off at the moment, and she wants to lie in bed until noon every day because she says we won’t have this opportunity when I go back to work. I tell Kelly we need to get up earlier and get active, but it never happens. I was even an employee at a fitness center a year ago and got her a free gym membership, but she never went. She hates the gym because “it’s just a meat market,” and she feels too fat to go in there.
Doc, I’m not sure what to do. Kelly and I have decent looks, are attracted to each other facially, are great together intellectually, her family is good and they like me, my mom loves her, etc., but lately I just find myself focused on younger and slimmer girls. Having two major colleges nearby doesn’t help.
How do I take the correct approach to getting Kelly to lose some weight without major emotional consequences, or perhaps worse as far as our relationship is concerned?
Thanks.
Gyp - who doesn’t want a tank on his arm
Doc Love's Response
Hi Gyp,Well, for starters, your girlfriend should be 6’6” instead of 5’6.” Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “She’s not fat; she’s just too short.” You two shouldn’t be going to bed on a full stomach. Serve Kelly a huge salad before she hits the sack. It will fill her up, but it’s 90% water. And if you’ve been packing on the avoirdupois, too, you have to learn to take care of yourself. You can’t criticize Kelly when you’re a blimp yourself. Instead of hitting fast food joints, you should be buying all of the food and doing the cooking -- healthy cooking -- at home. The number one rule is that you have to stay out of restaurants.
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