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[+] Went to the home of a couple who recently moved to the area yesterday. DH said to the... 10 replies
- I don't understand what the issue is. Is it that you think men and women can't be friends, or that grocery shopping is such an inherently sexy activity that married people can't be trusted to do it with a member of the opposite sex?...
Talk : : December 05, 2011
Went to the home of a couple who recently moved to the area yesterday. DH said to the wife during conversation about food, You don't know about new gourmet supermarket X! I'll take you there. They have..... (Repeated that he would take her there a few times. (DH does the food shopping in our family and is a real foodie. I know he loves new gourmet supermarket X. Not the issue. If he said this to her husband, I would be fine with it.) (Her husband was not in the room at the time.) Thinking about it and want to address the issue in a quick, non-confrontational way with DH. What would you say to DH?
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.05.11, 02:56 AM Flag ]Sweetie I really like so and so couple. I know you mean well & it's all about the artisanal cheese, but probably better not follow through on that offer to take Ashley over to___. You are way too sexy when you're all in the food element.... Then I have to cut a b!t(h. Think it's best to avoid all that.
[ Reply | More ]12.05.11, 03:52 AM Flag-
I don't understand what the issue is. Is it that you think men and women can't be friends, or that grocery shopping is such an inherently sexy activity that married people can't be trusted to do it with a member of the opposite sex?
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[+] DH is getting fatter, balder, shorter, and hairier. And he wonders why I never want t... 3 replies
- Really?? I wouldn't want sex with you either. For better or worse...
Talk : : December 05, 2011
[+] ILs sent me a Christmas package and it's really strange. There's a pair of Lululemon ... 67 replies
- SIL-hater? It's starting to make sense now. Just go have sex with your brother, murder your horrible gift-giving, courthouse-wedding-having sister in law and then your mom can "call for" the grandkids whenever she pleases....
Talk : : December 04, 2011
ILs sent me a Christmas package and it's really strange. There's a pair of Lululemon yoga pants ($98, really? They are regular yoga pants), a bottle of wine, caviar, fancy chocolates, a face spray (rose water, what?), movie tickets and some body wash that I would never use. Ugh. I get this might be popular in some circles, but I am not a 13yo girl. Just wanted to vent.
67 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 08:01 PM Flag ]You mean your IL's like you and send you presents?! Wow, that must be absolutely awful! I really feel for you on this one...
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:03 PM Flag-
What would be not cliche, to you? FWIW, people who don't know you intimately HAVE to get you a cliche gift. They don't have inside jokes with you. They don't know your favorite band, and the fact that the band is coming to your town in 2 months. They have 40 people to buy gifts for. There is a reason wine, chocolates, etc. are cliche- people like them. Did you want something more personal, or something? Is that it?
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:09 PM FlagSomething that didn't make me seem like I keep those Cathy comic strips taped up on my wall. It just screams, "30something single woman."
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:10 PM FlagWhat do you want from her? Oh wait, I remember: you want her to move her 5th year anniversary party scheduled for next summer back a year to save your feelings because you're going through a divorce. How's that campaign going?
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:15 PM FlagIs this a joke? You can't be this much of an idiot. Well, chances are good you will be single again soon. Maybe they are hoping and it is a parting gift to their spoiled and bitchy little DIL who thinks she is smart and clever and sophisticated but is just a nasty little thing.
[ Reply | More ]12.05.11, 03:22 AM Flag
the body wash I agree is not a good choice, they always smell and it's such a personal preference. The other things are luxury items but also very useful unless you don't ever exercise and don't drink wine. The rose water probably seemed like something fun and unusual.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:14 PM Flag
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OK, so the way you presented this feeling probably didn't come off the way you had intended judging by the replies you've gotten so far. Wanna try again and explain why you feel like these items were inappropriate for you? Don't just leave it at "I am not a 13 yo girl". That could mean so many different things.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:12 PM FlagI get that you don't like the stuff, but honestly it seems thoughtful and cute that they put that all together for you. It seems like they invested both time and money in it; you are sounding a bit ungracious, really.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:15 PM FlagIt's SIL-hater. She is the definition of ungracious. She didn't send her sister in law a wedding card or gift, because it was just a city hall wedding. But then was upset that her SIL only gave her a 100 dollar present for her wedding. And her SIL came along to wedding dress shop with her even though she was 8 months pregnant and sick, but then when she left early for said reasons, SIL-hater came on UB to bash her nonstop. She doesn't have a grateful bone in her body.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:18 PM Flag
I will take everything but the caviar off your hands. I will even come pick up. Just let me know when I should be there.
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Vegetarian, actually. And I became a vegetarian when I was 11, so have never had caviar.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:20 PM FlagThen why aren't you pissed at your brother who knew you when you were 11?????
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:26 PM Flag-
Yeah, I am the vegetarian responder who really would love some fancy yoga pants - I am running in my first NYRR race on Saturday and could use an upgrade from my Old Navy pants! After the race, I could celebrate by drinking the wine and eating the chocolates, then take a shower with the body wash and refresh with the rose water facial spray. On Sunday, I will have a relaxing day, so the movie tickets could come in handy. Like I said, I'll come pick this stuff up, but it needs to be before Saturday.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:43 PM Flag
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You sound like a peach. It seems as though they tried to get you some nice things, it's just too bad you didn't appreciate them. BTW, I thought the same thing about lululemon but then I bought some-they wear like a dream, never fade, bag or pill, and look the same as when I bought them years later. But you just want to be a bitter Betty so hate on...
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:19 PM Flagsounds like you haven't spent time letting them get to know you. feel lucky, my il was so jealous of me that for the first year she referred to me as "her" in everyone's presence. and, gave me the little "presents" given to on first class flights. She wrapped a leather bound notepad from the Concorde one year and gave it to me. other times she regifted things, I think her help gave her.she ended up really liking me and asked for me when she got ill from cancer. I just let her have her weird connection to my hubsm who had a definate anger mangement problem with her. I felt kind of sorry for her BUT I really should have paid more attention because he ended up treating me like he treated his mother - til he wised up. soooooo you have a good deal going. be thank ful and put the tiems up for a school raffle or something.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:19 PM FlagI get what OP is saying. Aside from the wine, this is exactly what I would give to my 14yo niece.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:19 PM FlagNotice how nowadays, when SIL-hater is outed (when her post becomes so obvious that it's her), she immediately stops responding because she knows we won't possibly take anything else she says seriously.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:26 PM FlagI think of SIL hater as the UB fairy. She posts and we all have so much fun bashing her. It is more fun, though, when she responds.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:28 PM FlagI was the one who originally outed her. Sorry. I should have kept my mouth shut and let her keep going for a little bit. Something like, the yoga pants were clearly an insult because now that SIL-hater is divorcing, she will need to get back to the gym and get her good body back so she can meet a man again. The wine is for the depression of the divorce. The caviar because she is snooty. I'm sure SIL-hater could have gone on and on about why each gift was cruel.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:31 PM Flag
My goodness. Some of you ladies really spend far too much time on this site. You know everything about this ungrateful wench.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:28 PM FlagI'll trade you. My mother, who is a hoarder with issues, is giving me dishes for Christmas: an old cheap set she bought at K-Mart 15 years ago. She let me know so I could find room in my cupboards. Last year she gave me a gift certificate for $20 at Starbucks and - not kidding - 6 t shirts from when I was 16. I am 40. So...trade you?
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[+] My mom called to tell me my 16 yo cousin is sexually active and smokes pot. I told he... 16 replies
- affair. And if she's old enough to have sex, she should be old enough to get pills on...private school offered a class in talking frankly about sex, kids were more forthcoming with a non judging gay...to fill some of the void she's using sex for....
- some therapy to have a true understanding of what sex should be about, or at least what I wanted...about in my life. I didn't even have sex until 20...
Talk : : December 04, 2011
My mom called to tell me my 16 yo cousin is sexually active and smokes pot. I told her the best/most effective thing she can do is take her to planned parenthood and make sure she is practicing safe sex. Her mom will abuse her if she finds out and the punishment will be too harsh. Telling her not to do it anymore is unlikely to help. Any thoughts? I could talk to her at Xmas but I would go with the assumption that she will continue to have sex and that I would simply encourage her to practice safe sex.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 05:42 PM Flag ]um, her mom will abuse her??? Shouldn't this be dealt with first????
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 05:46 PM FlagBeen trying to deal with it for 16 years. All three kids get abused, yet no one can convince a judge to remove them. The oldest one only has two years left, I'd like to see her get through it without getting knocked up. A lot of it is emotional abuse at this point, but the mom is a bi-polar unmedicated crazy person. Grandparents have tried to get the oldest daughter a few times.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:02 PM Flagthis is so sad. yep, planned parenthood and pushing condoms is really the only option. make sure she is informed about STD prevention also!
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:05 PM FlagI'd have a serious talk with her about how you know her childhood has not been as rosy as you wish it was for her, and that having a baby will not solve any of her problems- lots of teens want a baby because they want someone who loves them. Remind her that babies don't give love- they TAKE love, and if she wants to be the mom that she wishes her mom could be, then she needs to wait until she is ready for the challenge. I mean it can't hurt to try.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:08 PM Flag
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Don't really want her mom to find out! My true feelings are MYOB...but at the same time I just read a survey for one of my masters classes that said something like 20% of adolescents didn't know they could get stds while on the pill. WTF?? I hope it was a bunch of silly teens just filling out funny answers to screw with the testers, but that is scary!
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:06 PM Flag
Sounds like she trusts your mom and that you gave good advice.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:01 PM Flagthere was an interesting article in the nytimes education section about teaching sex. some private school offered a class in talking frankly about sex, kids were more forthcoming with a non judging gay teacher, topics touched on power, communication, intent, purpose, mutuality, there were sexually active kids and total virgins in that class. what was interesting was that seemingly none of the parents complained, seemed like a huge relief that someone else could get these kids to open up, talk to each other, have a referee and guide on where to direct the discussions. really beats being hush hush about it.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:06 PM FlagMy thoughts exactly...but I don't know how honest I should be with her about my sexual experiences. My family thinks I was a virgin until marriage, but I slept with 20 people in college.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:08 PM Flagnp- all great advice. But perhaps you can also add that sexual attention and sexual popularity is not a good replacement for an abusive mother's neglect. And also explain that in addition to medical precautions, there is the emotional component of expectation, disappointment and rejection that teenage boys are infamous for. Seriously, maybe she can get a puppy. Or a hobby to fill some of the void she's using sex for.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:22 PM FlagYeah, I just wouldn't even know what to say to her. I was date raped my first time...and I'm just hoping she didn't have a horrible experience and has no one to talk to...but I also don't want to volunteer that info to her. It took me four years and some therapy to have a true understanding of what sex should be about, or at least what I wanted sex to be about in my life. I didn't even have sex until 20...so I can't even really relate to her. I just want her to do well in life, and eventually be happy.
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[+] Please give me your one best tip for how to have a truly healthy, mature, secure rela... 52 replies
- NP: care to share any examplea of "kinky experImentation"? And do you really have sex daily? Nice! Wow...
- no daily sex here, but me and DH are pretty kinky! We love bdsm, role play...Don't think I'd be down for daily sex tho, some days you just feel blegh :P...
Talk : : December 04, 2011
Please give me your one best tip for how to have a truly healthy, mature, secure relationship with BF or DH.
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don't ever have a frivolous conversation about 'us.' Don't be a child, be an adult and expect him to be an adult. If your base is normal and sane, your moments of insecurity and insanity will be thought of as moments, not something to be dealt with. Have your own life and interests and friends. Know the difference berween being bored with your life and being bored with your relationship.
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What's a frivolous convo about "us"? You mean like asking their thoughts on a future with you after a certain amount of time, ask what they see as their timeframe for getting married and having kids (if they even want those things, for example)- these are not frivolous.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:02 PM Flagno, your examples are not frivolous at all. You should have any and all important conversations when it's necessary, but you should not 'talk about us' unless it's important. Men hate that and it makes having a real conversation difficult later on.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:05 PM FlagOk- gotcha!! I used to know so many women when I was younger who would want to "have a talk" like once a month with their boyfriends, it always made me cringe also. But I have talks about the future with my current boyfriend and I view them as highly necessary- like, "where do you see us in 5 years? In your mind, are we still together? Married? With kids? I need you to be honest with me about this." I was going to warn other posters that avoiding these conversations is exactly what POISONS a relationship- not what makes it healthy!
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:08 PM Flagnp: not clear on how your convos are different from the cringe-worthy ones of your friends...
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:10 PM FlagAre you joking? Having a talk about the future of your relationship after a year or two, or asking if he views you as dating exclusively after 2-3 months of dating, are necessary communications in a relationship. Talking about "are you happy in this relationship"? "how have your feelings for me evolved over the past month"? "do you love me more than your last girlfriend?" "I want to feel more respected in our relationship, let's talk about it for 6 hours" are very different. For each of those other topics- if you really believe he doesn't respect you, or loves his ex, etc. then just break up already.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:13 PM Flagso you would never ask a boyfriend what his plans for life were? you'd just get married and hope that he wants 4 kids and to live on a farm in Idaho when you retire like you do?
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Expect the best from him and don't settle for less. If you are capable of making dinner, or working a demanding job, or caring for an infant so is he.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:04 PM FlagI think the attitude of Don't Settle For Less! is actually what kills a lot of relationships. I think you need to try the best you can, and trust that your partner is also trying the best he can. And don't marry someone, obviously, if they are not the kind to try the best they can in a relationship.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:06 PM Flagor: I was thinking in the sense that men get a pass on certain things, and that builds up resentment. If you start out saying that everything is shared 50/50 it's healthier, imho. I was thinking of the pg poster yesterday whose DH already told her he's not changing diapers.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:09 PM Flaghe is a perfect example of someone who is not the kind who tries the best they can in a relationship. Or, if he is, and changing diapers is literally something that he can't bring himself to do- and he does plenty of other things around the house and for the baby to make up for that- then she needs to let it go.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 03:10 PM Flag
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for every criticism, you need to give at least 3 praises. DH and I try as much as possible to make encouragement part of our language. This world is so full of critical, judgmental people. It's SO important to have at least one person in your corner. It should be your spouse
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 04:06 PM FlagIt's all about communication. Say please and thank you. Speak up when something bothers you (in a non-confrontational way). Treat him how you want to be treated. And respect yourself enough not to get into a relationship with a person who can't love and respect you the way you deserve.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 05:06 PM FlagI'm a couple's therapist and the number one thing that can help ensure a solid relationship is for each person to "own their own stuff". It's very very easy to delineate exactly what your partner does wrong but infinitely more helpful to look at what your issues are and how you contribute to the issues that come up between you. I also find that in a really tense situation or fight, when one person admits that they do such and such, it goes a very long way to easing the tension.
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DH here who just celebrated his 30th anniversary. Lots of good advice here. If I had to make a single suggestion to a couple getting married, the key is for both of you to do more than your share to make the relationship work.
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[+] Been out of the dating scene for 30 years and need perspective. What are the "rules f... 7 replies
Talk : : December 04, 2011
Been out of the dating scene for 30 years and need perspective. What are the "rules for dating"? At what age do you recommend that females start following the "rules" of dating? Would they apply to my 17 year old? (She is doing fine, BTW. Just wondering.) Not really concerned about the sex related rules because I can't tell her it is ok to have sex if "you are in love and exclusive" because teenagers always think they are in love. I'm mostly interested in the rules relating to calling boys, going out last minute, etc.-- thr dating part of the rules.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 08:47 AM Flag ]Omg,please let her have her own life. I would have died if my mother tried to manage my dating life with old fashioned made up rules. Tell her to never leave the house without cab fare home and take everything a man says with a grain of salt.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:51 AM FlagOP here. Thank you. That's exactly the advise I was hoping to get. Worked for me 30 years ago and I have a great DH. Some of the dating posts here concern me because the men seem so clueless and selfish and the women seem so desparate. Like I said, she is doing just fine.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:56 AM Flag
Buy the book, have it around the house. Give it to her when she has a bad breakup. Or get it for her on iPad if she asks for advice. I read it in a few days, helped me a lot. The telephonenrules are outdated, but with her friends she can figure out how to modernize them. My sister is marrying her first boyfriend from high school, I'm 25 and never had a boyfriend. Read the rules right before my 25th birthday and I'm doing MUCH better dating wise. But some girls just don't need them.
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[+] 6 yo dd is very good at sports and had a meltdown when she was told she could take ic... 32 replies
- a girl and tells her she can't do other things because she's not a boy. Maybe she already understands that it's better to be a boy in our society. She'll grow up to be a feminist, but she'll be a lesbian only if she likes having sex with women....
Talk : : December 04, 2011
6 yo dd is very good at sports and had a meltdown when she was told she could take ice hockey lessons because it was only for boys. She also hates to wear dresses and for the most part doesn't like girly things. Likes to wear boy accoutrements (jackets, pants, Harry Potter glasses, e.g.) Is she going to grow up to be a lesbian? How can I tell? No flames please.
32 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 08:14 AM Flag ]Doubt it. I was a tomboy and I would never eat pussy! Let the poor kid do what she wants.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:15 AM FlagI was SO this way until 16 or 17 years old, and am now a TOTAL girly girl. The answer is, you can't tell. And thinking on it too much will only lead to negative things. She is what she is. Worry about raising a kind, compassionate, responsible, hard-working individual. Not about the unknowns of her future over which you have no control.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:21 AM FlagI just heard on an NPR show about gender differences: For boys, about 50% of the boys who show a preference early on for 'girly' things end up being homosexual whereas less than 10% of girls who show a preference for 'boy' toys/things end up being homosexual. (just to be clear, they are not saying they 'TURN' homosexual from playing with opposite gendered toys, but just that there is a link) My guess is that 'boys' toys are more appealing across the board (legos, trucks, cars, guns, etc) whereas 'girls' toys are definitely skewed towards the feminine (dress-up, tea party, dolls, etc.) so that explains the difference. There are some girls Ice hockey teams around, depending on where you live. I remember wishing that I could play ice hockey...ended up playing field hockey (mainly a female sport HERE but in UK mainly a male sport.)
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:26 AM FlagInteresting. I have a good friend who has twin girls and she was so happy when she found out because "girls can do everything,boys can only do boy things". I thought she was crazy,but now that I have a boy I see what she means. The spectrum of toys/activities that are acceptable for boys is much smaller. It is beyond stupid.
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maybe she just hates the fact that people expect certain things from her only because she is a girl and tells her she can't do other things because she's not a boy. Maybe she already understands that it's better to be a boy in our society. She'll grow up to be a feminist, but she'll be a lesbian only if she likes having sex with women.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:29 AM FlagI don't think so, I was a tomboy, played water polo and skied and now I am girly girl. I like dresses and skirts, wear make up every day and I am married. She is just an athletic tomboy type, let her be happy with whatever she chooses. Even if she turns out to be a lesbian you want her to be a happy one.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 09:33 AM FlagI was a tomboy as a kid and very much straight today! I'm still bit of a tomboy (which my DH loves), but I also enjoy dresses/skirts/fashion/shoes/make up more too. As for the I.H - look for a mixed/all girls team, it shouldn't be that hard. Also, nothing wrong if she did end up batting for the other team :)
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[+] has anyone re-fallen in love with husband after being out of love for at least a few ... 6 replies
Talk : : December 04, 2011
has anyone re-fallen in love with husband after being out of love for at least a few years.... i have 1 2 yr old dd and dont want to put the family through a divorce but dont know if there is any hope of ever feeling differently at this point. dh thinks things are fine (at least thats what he says) but i have felt we have been emotionally distant for years. he was depressed and didn't want sex for a very long time. i thought i wanted it, but now that he wants it again i cant bear to do it because i feel very emotionally disconnected from him. i have tried talking about my feelings with him but he cant seem to handle it, just gets very angry so ive given up on bringing it up. anyone btdt and come out on the other side? how'd you do it? thanks so much.
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 07:57 AM Flag ]Me.Married 25 years. Most long term marriages go through ups and downs. It's hard to make love whebn you feel emotionally disconnected but I realized that for my DH, this was his way to connect back to me. Marrigae theraphy helps some. Being grateful helps. Separating out my resentment, exhaustion and fears from his issues helped. Trying to be as positive and kind as could be helps. With a 2 year old, it seems very early to give up, especially if he was clinically depressed. (If he had had a physical illness, rather than a mental illness, would you cut him more slack?)
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:13 AM FlagYes I have (married 17 years). Best advice I have is to imagine what you would do if you were in love - and do it with your DH. For us I pictured two things - sea kayaking in the Gaspe together and biking. We started biking together and having that as a hobby helped us reconnect - enough that I got knocked up before we made it to the Gaspe. The trick was getting OUT of the ruts to do something new together. Not to talk about feelings.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 09:32 AM Flagonly nine years, but we had a rough patch for about a year. For us, it was a fake it till you make it thing - talking about it did not help so much. It was more that I tried to treat him like I was madly in love with him, little touches and kisses, favors, etc and then he would naturally respond in kind. After a time, we just meant it again. I keep reminding myself how lucky we are and what I loved and love about him. There is an ebb and flow to marriage, just wait it out.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 09:59 AM FlagOf COURSE he gets angry when you try to discuss your feelings -- no man wants to hear his wife tell him she's no longer attracted to or in love with him. How old are you, anyway. God, you women today are so immature it's maddening. Life isn't a fucking Hollywood (or worse, Disney) movie, where everyone lives "happily ever after." Did you actually pay attention to your wedding vows? "For better, for worse." This is "worse." Deal.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 10:31 AM FlagMarried 18 years here and this has happened a few times for differing periods of time. My advice is to keep it in your pants (I know you aren't having this problem, but it was something I had to remind myself) and find new activities to do together. Also, be patient, I always just had to remind myself that the feelings will return. I never worried too much about it because my parents (married 45 years) always warned me that these feelings come and go and it is totally normal.
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[+] Does anyone else truly enjoy the wonderful aural sensation of Q-tipping? 3 replies
- Yes my DH and I call it "ear sex"...
Talk : : December 04, 2011
[+] So horny. Been like this for a couple of days. I haven't had sex in a year because I ...
Talk : : December 03, 2011
So horny. Been like this for a couple of days. I haven't had sex in a year because I am single and haven't been dating. To the point I have been debating calling my ex for a quickie even though he is lousy in bed. I don't have a toy because my dog found it and ate it a while ago and I never replaced it. I don't get off with my hand. Thanks for letting me vent.
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[+] DH and I had unprotected sex last Saturday and I took Plan B on Sunday. Then, my biza... 53 replies
- Lady, your husband had sex with you to completion while you were sleeping....
- Begins to have sex with you...were there when your bizarre DH was having sex with you, yes?...
- last week. This was our first time having sex in almost 2 months....
- Uncle here. Riiiiiight. You and "DH" had unprotected sex last Saturday, and you took Plan B. Then...
Talk : : December 03, 2011
DH and I had unprotected sex last Saturday and I took Plan B on Sunday. Then, my bizarre DH had unprotected sex with me again last night. What's the likelihood that I am pregnant?
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I have no idea. I remember having a very light period sometime around Halloween. Nothing since.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:59 PM FlagUm...there is a good chance you are pregnant but not from this week. If you haven't had a period since Halloween...that was like 35 days ago. You're either about to get your period OR that "light period" around Halloween was implantation spotting, and you're 6 weeks pregnant right now. I would test.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 09:47 PM Flag
Do you not have a say? Wow. Really irresponsible if you're not ttc.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:57 PM FlagLast week was an accident, last night was a misunderstanding. We are not TTC yet, planning on waiting 6 months, so this isn't the end of the world, just not great timing.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:00 PM FlagPlease explain the "misunderstanding" for us. I'll be back in a minute as I have to refill my wine.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:01 PM FlagNo, problem. I was asleep when he began making love to me and in the middle I asked, "Wait, did you put on a condom?" He said, "No, but you took Plan B last week so I figured that you are infertile for this cycle." I said, "No, I don't think that's how it works." Then, he said, "Oh. I don't know what to do then because I already came." Great.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:03 PM FlagWhoa. Jesus and whoa. You have lots of problems. Take a pregnancy test until you get your period and get a vagina dentata for protection.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:05 PM FlagI don't have lots of problems. It's too early to take a pregnancy test yet. Earliest would be around the 13th.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:08 PM FlagLady, your husband had sex with you to completion while you were sleeping. That is weird and no good (even if you're into this, you have to know that it's a bad idea when someone comes inside you without your consent.)
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:15 PM Flag
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[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:30 PM FlagSounds beyond messed up. But enjoy. At least be responsible enough to use permanent bc
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:40 PM FlagBegins to have sex with you....fool, you said he came inside you....But hey, whatever floats your boat. If your DH using you like you're the equivalent of his hand a jar of vaseline doesn't bother you, it doesn't bother me.
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[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:49 PM FlagYou were there when your bizarre DH was having sex with you, yes?
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 04:47 AM FlagGay Uncle here. Riiiiiight. You and "DH" had unprotected sex last Saturday, and you took Plan B. Then your bizarre "DH" had unprotected sex with you again last night. Now you're asking us the likelihood of pregnancy. Interesting that you're apparently trying to *avoid* pregnancy with your "DH", but you're registered on a baby board. Come clean already. We'll tell you the likelihood of your being pregnant if you tell us when your REAL DH gets home from his business trip.
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[+] I am having some jealousy issues. I'm not proud of this. My boyfriend is a loving, ca... 34 replies
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Talk : : December 03, 2011
I am having some jealousy issues. I'm not proud of this. My boyfriend is a loving, caring, honest guy and is a great partner. I know it's me who has the issues. It started because he told me he was going to include his ex girlfriend on a mass email noifying friends that he was changing his email and work contact information. This hurt me deeply and I told him and he was surprised but said he didn't have to do it if it would make me uncomfortable. But the damage is done because now I feel like he WANTED her to have his contact information. I would like to learn how to resolve these jealousy issues without destroying our relationship in the process. Does anyone have any productive suggestions on how to handle jealousy and insecurity that eat you alive?
34 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.03.11, 07:34 PM Flag ]Are you jealous because you think he might still have feelings for her or just because there are other women out there that he has loved and had sex with and that makes you feel insecure? I need to know this before i give you advice.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:46 PM Flagthe second one....I hate knowing there are other women out there who he loved and still may care about in a friendship way. it's almost like I want to keep him in a bubble so he can never hurt me or break my heart. I've never loved someone so much.
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OR: This part kind of sucks, but again, you have to trust him. He wanted you to know that he was going to send her his new info, and that's a good thing. He is being open and honest with you. I would tell him that you are kind of jealous of the women in his past but you trust him and know that it's your issue, not his. But it would be great if he keeps you informed if his ex contacts him. Then tell him that you love him and have never felt anything like this before and are so happy you found him. And then keep the jealousy to yourself because it's unattractive.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:56 PM FlagTonight I tried to verbalize it a little. I didn't do a great job. I kind of floundered all around and was immature one second and composed the next second. I was really struggling with trying not to cry or act weird and my head was not communicating in an adult way. It was almost like I reverted back to some insecurity from childhood! We got off the Skype call in an awkward way. I feel sad now about it. I feel like I ruined everything and he is going to see I'm not the cool, laid back woman he thought I was. I am those things, but I also have this too. I don't like him or anyone to see it. I try to hide it and tonight I couldnt. I know how unattractive it is. I really want to change. I don't know how.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:03 PM FlagI think you should talk to him on the phone, not skype, next time. And when you don't know how to say something or explain something big like that, start by saying, "I don't know how to talk about this because I want to do it right but I also don't want to cry or act weird or act like a child. And every time I try it doesn't really work. So i'll just say it: I'm trying to be mature and not jealous but for some reason it bothers me that your ex will have your contact info. I know, it's so stupid because i know you love me and that you are trustworthy and we are together, but I feel like an insecure mess. And it's me, not you, and that makes this even worse because I feel foolish and immature and like it's going to make you not want to be with me anymore...
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:11 PM Flag^^^[pause] Wow, I feel better getting that out. So here it is: I don't want you to give her your contact info because I am crazy, but I also don't want to tell you not to because I want to be an adult and a good sane girlfriend. And this is not some passive aggressive way of telling you that I'll be mad if you give it to her. No, I actually want you to give it to her because it is the normal and right thing to do, and I want to get over this. but i needed to talk to you about it because, well, this is part of me. I don't know if it's a big deal or not, but it's here and I want to get past it."
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:13 PM FlagHave you tried this kind of conversation before and had success with it? I could try it. He is very good at listening to me. I mean, he's still a guy and I'm still way more emotional, but he does try his best.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:17 PM FlagYes. When I'm at a loss on how to say something I start out by talking about how hard it is to find the proper words to say it. And by then i'm already talking and it all just comes out. I think lots of women have jealous tendencies and it's best to try to keep those under wraps when they are unwarranted. I do not bother DH with those thing unless I'm really having a hard time. Then I tell him that I'm a little psycho right now and need to talk about it. As long as it's my issue and not his, he's cool about it. He hates when I want to "talk about us," but talking about me is fine because all he has to do is listen to me babble and be "understanding."
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:21 PM Flag
This is an issue that you are going to have to get a handle on and if not get over, move past. You can't put him in a bubble or change his past, and you will just end up driving him away if you don't stop it. Sounds like you're so scared of losing him, but you're just going to have to trust him, because that is part of love.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:53 PM FlagI agree, I just don't know how. I also don't really trust myself to ask for things I need because I'm not sure if they are reasonable or not and I don't want to drive him away with jealousy or these insecure feelings. For example, I would like to just say I am not fine with him contacting her, and leave it at that, but I'm afraid that is not acceptable to say in an adult relationship. I want to be the girlfriend, and hopefully someday wife, who trusts and puts no restrictions on her bf's activities. That's what I want, I'm just not sure how to get there
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:58 PM FlagNever make a person you love restrict his life just to make you feel better (unless there is also a good reason, and your insecurity and jealousy are not good reasons) because you will make him either resent you or go behind your back. Remember: they broke up for a reason, and you and he are together for a reason. When you start feeling insecure just remember that while she may have his email address and some memories, you have him, and you are in his heart right now, not her.
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[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:51 PM FlagIs he weird about the ex, how long were they together, were they very serious? I think it's not a bad sign, being friends after a breakup may actually indicate some level of maturity and levelheadedness.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:02 PM FlagHe isn't weird about her...he explained it to me like this: they were together 2 years. They lived together. They rushed into things and he got deeply involved without really getting to know her. After some time had gone by, he realized she was not actually the one for him and he broke it off. He broke her heart completely and he said that while he doesn't love her or want to be with her, he does feel the need to check up on her to make sure she is ok and not broken still. She is still in love with him, and he feels very guilty about that still. He hasn't contacted her since we have been together (about 3 months) and he speaks to me openly about his feelings about this and everything else. That's why I think it's my issue and not a real issue. I don't think he still loves her. But I don't think it's necessary for him to check up on her but he thinks it's being a good person and he told her at the end of their relationship that he would like to someday be friends with her when she was ready.
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[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:45 PM FlagOp here: In all fairness to myself, I think your comment is pretty rude and hurtful, and unless you're absolutely perfect in every relationship you've ever had, I don't really think you should come across as so rude. And hey , if you really are so perfect, I'd love some constructive advice that would actually help!
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 09:25 PM Flag
You sound like you have your head on right, except that you need some outside help/perspective to figure out what behavior is appropriate. Actually, UB can help with that. In this case, I think its pretty clear that his sending her his email is not a threat to you and that it'd be a bad idea to try to impede him from doing so. Fact is, he sounds pretty clear on wanting to be with you, not her. That's awesome. And I would urge you not to bring this up again with him -- find some other place for your insecurities. GL.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:59 PM FlagHe is YOUR husband. If you don't like it that he is including her, TELL HIM! "Listen, I know that you mentioned it, and I changed my mind. It makes me uncomfortable whether reasonable or not. I would strongly prefer if you did not include her." He should respect your feelings. Your marriage and comfort level is more important. A happy wife is a happy life.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 09:09 PM FlagI find the best way to deal with jealousy is to let it go. Easier said than done, of course. I simply do not have the time or the interest in keeping tabs on a grown man and his email contacts. He's either a man of his word or he's not. He'll show his true colors sooner or later. Just use a condom with him.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 11:00 PM Flag
[+] I could use a little advice here. For a long time things weren't great with my husba... 10 replies
Talk : : December 03, 2011
I could use a little advice here. For a long time things weren't great with my husband in many areas. We had very different interests, he often made me feel stupid (sometimes intentionally, sometimes not) and our sex life was non-existent. I will gladly take the blame for that as I no longer felt any sexual attraction to him. He's a gorgeous man, it just wasn't there for me. Most upsetting though for me was that I felt like I was in a rut. I wasn't happy for a very long time and saw no way out. Last year I fell in love with a woman (BINGO! sex issue figured out!!) -- it caught me by surprise as is it did my entire family. But here we are, a year later and I could easily say it's the best relationship I've been in. I have a 6 year old son who loves my girlfriend. He also loves my ex's new girlfriend. I like his gf as well (I knew her before they started dating) -- problem is, he refuses to talk to me apart from very perfunctory discussions re: our son. I think it would benefit everyone if he and I could form some sort of relationship for the sake of our little boy. He disagrees. Has anyone here dealt with anything like this before? I want to be sure my son is emotionally cared for and am willing to do what it takes. He seems like a VERY happy kid, but who knows?? I also have some residual guilt re: my new relationship. Did I just eff everyone and everything up?
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.03.11, 06:52 PM Flag ]I would say so. I would think sexual orientation would be right at the top of the list of things to figure out before you marry someone.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:01 PM FlagYour exDH is still mad at you for getting him to fall in love with you and marrying him and then leaving him (for anyone, but for a woman just makes him feel like you were lying to him all that time.) You want to be one big happy family and your ex just wants to move on with the life you left him. You can't change that in him until he's ready, and he may never be. Your son seems fine with the situation, or making the best of it (having 4 people that love him is nothing to sneer at). You have to give your ex time and space and he may come around, but once you left him you lost all rights to have any say in how he reacts to you.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:03 PM FlagThank you. You're absolutely right on all counts. I appreciate your input.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:07 PM FlagBut you know what? It will be fine. You're happy, he is happy, your DS is fine. The only price you had to pay for happiness is that you lost your DH's friendship. That sucks, but it was a choice, and I think when you're at your kid's graduation (or before then, but certainly by then) your DH will understand. And maybe you can be friends again in the future, but it has to be on your ex's timeline.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:10 PM Flag
As discussed, no doubt DH was very hurt by the ending of your relationship with him. And he lost face. Would be very nice of you and might help you to do something nice for him that willl help him feel better about that ending (e.g. tell him that your son did X the other day, that it reminded you of when DH does something similar, and that you enjoyed that moment).
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 09:09 PM Flag
[+] DH alone in extra bedroom watching netflix. I'm in bed on laptop on UB. Our marriag... 23 replies
- talk. It feels weird for the first 10 mins, but then we hit a good note usually, and end up having very good sex afterward :)...
- friends or people we know, then we have a glass of wine and then we get kind of frisky and end up having sex (which, if we're feeling so alienated we probably hadn't had in a while). And THEN we are comfortable enough to...
Talk : : December 03, 2011
DH alone in extra bedroom watching netflix. I'm in bed on laptop on UB. Our marriage is so sad-- this is what it's like every night. Don't know it we're going to last.
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.03.11, 05:33 PM Flag ]Have you really tried to reconnect with him? This was ex and I towards end of marriage and I now really wished I had tried harder to save my marriage. Although we had lost touch, I realized too late that I still loved him and to this day I miss him.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 05:40 PM FlagYeah I purposely didn't get a laptop in my house...we have one desktop in the living room. It doesn't matter if you leave him and get someone else, inevitably you will have to go online and search for the new guy, and then once he moves in, he too would probably be in the extra bedroom..watching netflix :)
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 05:50 PM FlagI'm sorry you feel this way. When my husband and I find ourselves in a similar rut we try to talk it out and schedule time to spend together. Turn off the tv/netflix/laptop/ipad and have some tea and just sit at the same table and talk. It feels weird for the first 10 mins, but then we hit a good note usually, and end up having very good sex afterward :)
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 06:20 PM FlagMy husband doesn't know how to talk, just how to use his blackberry.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 06:22 PM Flagtake away the blackberry, turn off your cell phone and sit there until you talk. He talked when he took you out on your first/second/third date, right? It's in him - he'll figure it out.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 06:29 PM FlagHe acts like a child in punishment when I want to talk about things. I'm at a loss of how to reach him. Kind of giving up.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 06:37 PM FlagWell, the point is not to talk about "things". we just talk - like you did when you were just dating. Not about problems with us or kids or money. But like, did you go to a new place for lunch? Did you see a friend you both know? Did you read something interesting (not on UB) or funny you may want to share with him. Just talk - not talk things out.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 06:51 PM FlagBut then doesn't it feel fake to gloss over all the problems and 'break bread'? I almost feel like that casually hanging out is giving him permission to not give a sh-t about how hurt and disconnected I feel and how much I want him to talk about *that* with me.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 06:54 PM Flagnp: Just go in and watch TV with him. Don't say anything. Just sit next to him and think of the moments when he has given you butterflies.It should mean a lot to him and give you a chance to just forget about how he has disappointed you. Come to terms with the fact that he will probably never love you exactly how and when you want him to. That is almost impossible.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:19 PM FlagIt works for us. It's not that we don't talk about our issues - we do. But first we need to not be in the midst of our sulkiness. So just reconnecting first, then figuring out what we can do better second. Usually it goes like this: we have tea & after some awkward minutes we chat & laugh about something silly or gossip about our friends or people we know, then we have a glass of wine and then we get kind of frisky and end up having sex (which, if we're feeling so alienated we probably hadn't had in a while). And THEN we are comfortable enough to talk about things that bother us, and things improve. At least for us this works.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:34 PM Flag
Would he do something new together with you like a sport, class, etc.? Studies have shown doing something new together as a couple can bring back those in-love feelings. My DH and I, to be honest, spend a lot of evenings doing our equivalent - but we feel close and share little bits. Best advice is act "as if" - do whatever you would do if you were feeling closer.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 07:25 PM Flag
[+] DH and I (both Irish) are looking for names for a baby boy. Will I regret naming DS ... 24 replies
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Talk : : December 03, 2011
DH and I (both Irish) are looking for names for a baby boy. Will I regret naming DS "Connor"? Other choices: Thomas, Miles or Theodore.
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Connor's pretty popular, if that's what you're worried about. Nice name, of course, but you could consider Rowan or Shane or Emmet or Lorcan or something that hasn't quite hit it big yet.
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- It always seemed so romantic in my mind. But the reality was there is not enough space, I have to wait for the soap, and if we try to have sex there is zero lubrication so it sucks....
Talk : : December 03, 2011
Do you like to take showers with your DH?
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.03.11, 03:18 PM Flag ]It always seemed so romantic in my mind. But the reality was there is not enough space, I have to wait for the soap, and if we try to have sex there is zero lubrication so it sucks.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 03:21 PM FlagNot at home, but we stayed at a hotel last year with a walk-in shower with three shower heads, and that was pretty good. Lube was still a bit of a problem, but at least neither of us was standing on the cold side of the tub.
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 03:25 PM FlagNo. We have a shower in the master bathroom that would fit 6 comfortably, but still no. Maybe 30 years ago when it was verboten and exciting. Now that we could do it any day of the week, the thrill is gone.
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[+] TTC here..just had sex...how long do I lie here for?! 4 replies
- Do you really have to do that? Does that actually help? It sounds like the reverse of those goofy "rumors" you hear as a kid about not being able to get pregnant if you have sex in a swimming pool, etc....
Talk : : December 03, 2011
[+] I love cleaning up messes I didn't make....so I became a mom. 12 replies
- I thought sleep, sex and privacy were highly overrated, so I had a baby....
Talk : : December 02, 2011
[+] UB just closed my account - anyone know why that would be? 29 replies
- because you had sex with your brother?...
Talk : : December 02, 2011
[+] This is sort of odd, but I'm expecting #2 (DD will be 21 mos when DB arrives) and my ... 19 replies
Talk : : December 02, 2011
This is sort of odd, but I'm expecting #2 (DD will be 21 mos when DB arrives) and my mom is acting strange (I think) about this pregnancy. I told her about it over a month ago and she hasn't really asked me about it since, not how I'm feeling, nothing. Just found out the sex too and told her and she's just sort of "meh, that's nice" about the whole thing. What could this ambivalence be about? She was very excited for us with #1 but seems almost, down about this one. Has anyone else experienced this with a parent?
19 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.02.11, 11:02 AM Flag ]more children means less time for her? maybe there is somethign wrong? are you close enough to just ask her? do you work? maybe she feels like you are going to be too burdened with another baby?
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:04 AM FlagOP: we're not particularly close, I see her maybe every 6 weeks and we talk every week or two but it's all a bit on the surface. I do work PT but I don't think that's it. All I can come up with is she thinks it's a bit soon and/or she'll be even less the center of attention or is a bit jealous or something.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:07 AM Flag
my parents were the same with my older sister when she had 2nd child pretty close to 1st - they felt like she was going to be too stressed with 2. odd behavior but thats parents for you!
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:05 AM FlagIf her response is out of character for her, perhaps it has nothing to do with you, at all. Have you asked her? Do you always take things so personally?
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:08 AM FlagDo you know if she lost a child? Maybe she'll feel better when the baby is born healthy. Maybe she is reacting to something like this that she doesn't realize? Do you have siblings? Maybe she is jealous that she never had a second. Something like that...
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:11 AM FlagMy first thought is that it's possible your first child disappointed her. Maybe you aren't a very ood parent, and your child isn't much fun to be around, and now she's thinking, "oh, great, TWO little monsters running around, and I'll be expected to make a big deal and pretend they're little angels and I'll be stuck babysitting." Take a step back and be honest: is DD pleasant to be around? Have you taken advantage of your mother's good will?
[ Reply | More ]12.03.11, 08:26 AM Flag
[+] For those who care: Are you on Team Humphries or Team Kardashian? Who will the judg... 28 replies
- what DH needs is a sex tape...
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Talk : : December 02, 2011
For those who care: Are you on Team Humphries or Team Kardashian? Who will the judge favor?
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Team Kardashian, I really am impressed with their hustle. No I don't watch their shows or buy their stuff. But I was fascinated when I goggled their business.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:33 AM Flagnp They are the tackiest crew of women on earth. I saw an ad in the NYT for their Kardashian Kollection at Macy's. Just a bunch of shit with cutesy little notes like "this bag is to die for" (a bag none of them would ever be caught dead with as it doesn't cost 10k+).
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:35 AM Flag
He was naive. She is trash. There is no winner, but I hope he gets his annulment. The wedding was fake on her part. All done for the publicity and cash
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:38 AM FlagI'm embarassed to say I'm fascinated by them, just the surreal quality of their lives. Those women have no discernable skills beyond shopping, makeup application and sex. Yet they are billionaires who live and shop without any kind of restraint. And Kim seems oddly naive and, well, vapid.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:43 AM Flag-
np: figure of speech. Just agree that they've made plenty of bucks
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:53 AM Flagor: thank, yes, that was my point. Didn't think I'd be taken literally. Anyway- DH gets furious when he sees that show. He comments that he trained for 6 years, works his a** off and still will never live their lifestyle. While they do pretty much....nothing.
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[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 10:07 AM FlagI am poster abv who admires their hustle and how they have managed to turn their personal lives in a marketable brand with multiple revenue streams. Frankly I am fascinated by them. And the fact that they turn off many/most people and yet still manage to sell actual products is pretty interesting. I noticed recently they even have a mini line with OPI, genius!
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[+] Anyone else have sex with a sibling when they were a kid? I talked about this with a... 50 replies
- I have 8 siblings and I never had sex with any of them. Shit, I'm 33 and...no one I talked to said anything about actual sex (I wasn't talking about my original post)...
- My sister and I used to "pretend" to have sex when we were very little, like 6 and 7...can almost be sure that u are probably a sex offender...
- boyfriend told me he and his siter would have group sex with their cousins. The siblings never had sex...
Talk : : December 02, 2011
Anyone else have sex with a sibling when they were a kid? I talked about this with a group of friends last night and apparently this is pretty common.
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[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:33 AM Flag-
lol! no my brothers are still over protective of me even my younger brother is so whenever I"m around them they tell me I shouldn't wear stuff like that because men stare at you, so I don't just to save myself of a lecture. They get it from my dad he's worse then they are.
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[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:33 AM FlagMy sister and I used to "pretend" to have sex when we were very little, like 6 and 7 maybe. But we were also raised by parents who thought it was appropriate to allow 6 and 7 year olds to watch movies like The Accused. Sigh.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:46 AM FlagYou are a perv posting this. This is a fake post. Go away, pedophile.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 10:47 AM FlagDon't reply to this post - this person has serious problems.. This is BS and disgusting --- I hope your IP adress is tracked down by UB, I can almost be sure that u are probably a sex offender...
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:07 AM FlagOP here. Nope, I'm a wife and mother of three and I was shocked when I heard this too and genuinely was curious if it was as common as the people at dinner were making it out to be. Clearly, from the responses, what they experienced wasn't common and I'm wondering if some sort of abuse was going on that they either didn't bring up or have forgotten.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 12:32 PM Flag
[+] There is a weird sound in my house. It's like a jingle bell, or the sound from a dog'... 38 replies
- Aaah, yes, Randy the Christmas Rat. Always seen carrying jingle bells, Randy visits lonely housewives in December. If you can catch Randy, you get amazing sex for the whole holiday season!...
Talk : : December 02, 2011
There is a weird sound in my house. It's like a jingle bell, or the sound from a dog's collar. I walk around the house but can't figure it out. It just started recently. What could be making that sound??
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op: ok, I guess I'll sit upstairs and see. We don't have pets and it's a single house, so no neighbors. I'll post back if I find anything. *Watch* this post! ;)
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:03 AM FlagDo you have air ducts for heating? Something dropped or caught in one and making noise?
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:17 AM FlagLast time that happened to me a mouse had fallen into our umbrella holder and was trying for two days to get out.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:43 AM FlagSeriously? I once had an opossum & family in my garage--but that sounds funny & sad for the mouse.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:54 AM FlagThe umbrella holder is made of tin and the poor mouse fell in and was trying over and over and over again to jump up. Be he just kept sliding back down to the bottom. The sound was driving me crazy for two days until I finally tracked it to that spot in the apartment and looked in the umbrella holder and saw the little guy staring back up at me.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:59 AM Flag
[+] People who claim it is near impossible to switch schools are pretty clueless. We were... 21 replies
- The numbers are small for the single sex schools. Chapin accepts maybe 6-12 new students for 9th grade--even fewer some years, from what I hear....
Talk : : December 02, 2011
People who claim it is near impossible to switch schools are pretty clueless. We were at Chapin for K tour the other day, and I picked up their school paper which had welcome/profiles for new girls coming for HS. Most were from other private schools, including Fieldston, Marymount, Columbia Prep, Hewitt.
21 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.02.11, 07:32 AM Flag ]Yes, a lot of kids at K-12s change for 9th grade. 13 years is a long time with the same set of kids.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 07:34 AM FlagActually you are the one who is clueless. Many kids switch for high school. but it is the other grades especially off years that are next to impossible. I should know we have tried to switch my child from public school twice with no luck. (mainly no spots available)
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:10 AM FlagWere you applying only to the most competitive schools (hate to say TT, but a useful shorthand on this board, I guess)? I've always heard it's easier to switch from public than from another private. Are you talking elementary or middle school?
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:59 AM Flagwe only applied to a few schools but for the most part we were told that there were no spots available. In off years they only have spots supposedly when a kid leaves. I do know of a few kids at who have gotten in to some TT privates because they were coming from out of town. That seems to be the best way to get in. oh and i'm talking about elementary school.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:48 AM Flag
The numbers are small for the single sex schools. Chapin accepts maybe 6-12 new students for 9th grade--even fewer some years, from what I hear.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 08:36 AM FlagOK, but roughly 50% (some more, some less) of the graduates at many of the k-12s that DON'T expand started in K, so there is a lot of movement over the years. There is quite a bit of shifting around at most of the schools for HS, IME. Some schools expand and some don't, and of course it's easier to not to switch in an off-year, but I think the OP's point is that wherever dc lands in K, the future is not set in stone.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:21 AM Flag
And the girls these top schools take at 9th grade have stellar records and may have just wanted a change. Thirteen years can be a loong time. There's no reason that these schools have to take anyone new and will not risk upsetting the "apple cart" unless they're pretty sure it's all going to work out and that this person will be able to be exmitted to a great institution and represent the private school well.
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I think this assumption is a more recent phenomenon. Prior to the early 2000s, there were fewer kids in NYC and fewer families staying in NYC long term. Many public shcools weren't as desirable as they are today. Overall getting into private school wasn't as hard or as much of an ordeal - so families would send a kid to private even if they knew they'd be moving to Scarsdale in a few years - say when their 2nd kids was in K. There was way more turnover in private schools. Then more kids, more families staying, harder to get into private, huge ordeal (applying to 10-12 schools rather than say 4-6), better publics and suddenly those who get into private were staying put and more kids were shut out and looking for off-year spots. I've noticed, purely anecdotally, more families leaving even w kids at a desirable private - for work, for lifestyle, financial reasons, etc. in the last couple of years. I think the tide may be turning a bit on this one.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 12:06 PM FlagSwitching for 9th grade is really different than switching for 1-8. Lower grades are done by attrition, which may be 2-3 spots a year if you are lucky. And you need a good story. If you are not a good fit at Spence, you will not be a good fit Nightingale/Chapin/Brearley. You could make a case for a catholic school, perhaps. But you are competing against kids who are moving to NYC or from public, and all else being equal, they will accommodate those kids first. BTDT.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 02:32 PM Flag
[+] I think we've finally settled on our baby names -- Davis if it's a boy, Daphne if it'... 29 replies
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Talk : : December 02, 2011
I think we've finally settled on our baby names -- Davis if it's a boy, Daphne if it's a girl (we decided to wait to find out sex) - thoughts on these names?
29 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.02.11, 07:19 AM Flag ]OP - everyone who says something negative should also say a name they like - because we could have completely different tastes (e.g. you like Crystal and Amber)
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 07:28 AM FlagI think they are lovely names with a lot of personality (and this from someone who gave her kids very traditional Biblical names!). They are "normal" enough that your dc will fit in, but unique enough that he/she will probably not have to share a name with classmates. Good for you, and ignore the critics.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 07:32 AM Flagop - our last name is similar to Lee , extremely common so we couldn't pick Alice, Jane - all lovely names that I like.
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Daphne's good. Unless it's a family name, Davis sounds pretentious, IMO, like why couldn't you just have gone with David.
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