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[+] Anyone know anything about New Hope Fertility center? Think it's the one Alexis Stew...
Talk : : December 12, 2011
[+] IVF. I find the most frustrating part is having a everything go perfectly in a cycle ... 15 replies
- I'm in the process of switching from RMA to Davis at Cornell. I did just find out that I am homozygous for the MTHFR gene, which means I'm now on baby aspirin and high dose B vitamins daily. How many rouunds have you done? I'm starting prep for IVF#3...
Talk : : December 12, 2011
IVF. I find the most frustrating part is having a everything go perfectly in a cycle and still no pregnancy and no reason why. Perfect cycle, perfect eggs, many fertilized, no pregnancies. 41 and feeling I should give up. Am I just too old? tell it to me straight.
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You are me except for I had one chemical pregnancy. I'm in the process of switching from RMA to Davis at Cornell. I did just find out that I am homozygous for the MTHFR gene, which means I'm now on baby aspirin and high dose B vitamins daily. How many rouunds have you done? I'm starting prep for IVF#3.....
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I was about to start the whole process, was 24 hours away from taking my first shots when I found out I was pg the old fashioned way. I was doing acupincture though. I reccommend supplementing with it. I cant sing enough praises about it. Now, my snider 5 months and I'm almost 40. I'm debating trying again. Good luck! Look at the Faborm website if your interested.
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[+] Somebody cheer me up. I had a miscarriage today. 27 replies
- I am truly sorry. IVF? One of the things that makes it hard is that you know so much earlier that you are pregnant. When TTC without technology, one can lose a pregnancy this early and not even know it existed....
Talk : : December 12, 2011
Somebody cheer me up. I had a miscarriage today.
27 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.12.11, 04:56 PM Flag ]I had one at 6 weeks and got pregnant the following year. In my late 30s. How far along were you?
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 04:57 PM FlagOnly 5 weeks. I found out on Friday that I was pregnant, then was told by my RE today that my HCG level dropped and that I wasn't pregnant anymore. It's such an emotional roller coaster.
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 04:59 PM FlagI am truly sorry. IVF? One of the things that makes it hard is that you know so much earlier that you are pregnant. When TTC without technology, one can lose a pregnancy this early and not even know it existed.
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 05:01 PM FlagI know, that's exactly it! No, it was an IUI. My dr tests just 2 weeks after the procedure. If it weren't for that early testing, I wouldn't even have known...I'd just think my period was a couple of days late. In a way I'm glad to know because at least I know the IUI worked...but I feel so much loss right now.
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 05:04 PM Flag
Exactly the same thing happened to me. 5 weeks, 2 days. I was a mess for a few weeks. On the bright side: I was due with that db on Oct 9. I was 6 months pg when that day arrived. That baby, #2, will be 6 next month. Gl. I know it's hard even though it was early...
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 06:15 PM Flag
Most miscarriages are genetic errors that would not have been viable children. Better this than that.
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 04:58 PM Flagi had 4 miscarriages. extremely devastating. i finally used a donor egg & now have the most delightful 2.4 y.o. he helps wash away the sadness i felt after those MCs.
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My first pregnancy was a miscarriage and I was pregnant with my now 3yo two months later. Indulge in something you love and won't be able to do when you're pregnant (drink, sushi, soft cheeses - whatever) because I'm sure youGood luck.
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[+] We have some frozen embryos at the clinic where we did IVF. They are charging $500 fo... 6 replies
- no I used IVF, but it doesn't change the fact that, to me at least, it's amazing and weird that so much has changed so quickly....
- Even $1500 is a small price to pay to avoid going through another IVF retrieval. Penny-wise, pound-foolish not to pay this if you want another child....
Talk : : December 11, 2011
We have some frozen embryos at the clinic where we did IVF. They are charging $500 for 6 months of storage. Our baby is not even 5 months and I don't think we'd even think about getting pregnant again for at least another 1.5 years, probably longer. Anyone out there found cheaper storage? I'm assuming there are transfer fees so we'd have to consider that. Thanks.
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.11.11, 02:31 PM Flag ]It's really not that new, or strange. If you got pregnant easily, that is wonderful. Not all of us were so lucky.
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 02:34 PM FlagI have eggs stored myself, They are $1000/year to store also. We probably wont use them at all and definitely not near-term but I want to keep them just in case. I would not fool with transfering them etc. The younger embryos are better than using future older embryos so I would protect those the most and I wouldn't risk even a small chance that something happens in the transfer. I know nothing more than you do; I'm just saying if something does happen and you did want another DC you would be devastated that you wanted to transfer them to say a small amount of $ in the grand scheme of things.
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 05:16 PM Flag
[+] Question for people that have done an IUI - we are suppose to do one as early as this... 9 replies
- You are confusing that with IVF and the office is not open today for calls such as my...iui (done that too but never discussed sperm health). For IVF they say the flu or colds with fevers can harm the sperm....), no issue, and this is more of an issue with ivf due to cost and having to undergo a surgery, etc. for...whatever reason, you don't have to cancel the IUI or IVF cycle. I had my husband freeze a backup sample because I...
Talk : : December 11, 2011
Question for people that have done an IUI - we are suppose to do one as early as this Friday (it will be fri, sat or sunday depending on how the monitoring goes this week) -- husband wakes up today and says he thinks he is coming down with the flu (he congested, etc)...he also ran like 6 miles in the freezing cold yesterday...do they not do this procedure if the male is ill or does that have no barring on sperm?
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.11.11, 08:19 AM Flag ]call your doctor to check, but I think it is fine. Never heard of cancelling for that, unless your dh is just too ill to get there. If you have been taking drugs this month...I certainly wouldn't waste the month. It should be ok. They will tell you his sperm counts at the iui so you would know if there is a dramatic change. Good luck!
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 08:27 AM Flagif you pay all that$$$$$$ why not call your expensive MD??? Crazy.
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 10:16 AM FlagOP: easy there cranky pants. First off IUI is not expensive... You are confusing that with IVF and the office is not open today for calls such as my question...therefore to quell my wondering I posed the question on this board as MANY ladies have gone through this that frequent this board. Lighten up...its the holiday season or maybe that bothers you as well.
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 12:38 PM FlagIUI is just under $3,000 a shot, so for many it is expensive. Have him freeze a sample. That way if he is ever unable to perform for whatever reason, you don't have to cancel the IUI or IVF cycle. I had my husband freeze a backup sample because I knew I'd have to kill him if he had a business trip or important meeting and couldn't produce a sample for a procedure after I'd been injecting myself with megadoses of medications. You need to anticipate the expected.
[ Reply | More ]12.12.11, 08:23 AM Flag
I don't know about iui (done that too but never discussed sperm health). For IVF they say the flu or colds with fevers can harm the sperm. Apparently it can take a few months for it to get back to normal. FWIW, I was always told that you feel the flu from the neck down and colds from the neck up. If he just has a cold and no fever you'll probably be ok.
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 03:02 PM Flaga man having a fever of greater than 100.5 anytime in the 3 months prior to a fertility procedure can have a negative impact on sperm quality, but if no fever (or less than 100.5), no issue, and this is more of an issue with ivf due to cost and having to undergo a surgery, etc. for iui, most clinics would probably just advise to "go for it" because as you know, iui is similar to a pap smear, and much cheaper so likely can do multiples with less impact on budget.
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[+] More gift help needed: 24-y-o SIL, lives with her BF on the UES, is a teacher, style ... 14 replies
- , if they become engaged, will it be at least a year long? Probably, the wedding party needs planned. If she can't get pregnant once he quits jerking her around, she might really resent him. She should see an RE, check her status. I had to do ivf at 37. And/or tell him she wants to start ttc, ring or no ring....
Talk : : December 10, 2011
More gift help needed: 24-y-o SIL, lives with her BF on the UES, is a teacher, style is trendy. 37-y-o SIL, lives with her BF, works in HR, conservative style. Need a $30-$50 gift for both, have to get it this week (in NYC). Don't have to give the same gift. Have thought of J.Crew GCs, champagne, Laduree macarons, Fresh Direct GCs...but am still uninspired. Other ideas?
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreNix the macaroons--they don't want them. The GCs sound like good options... Maybe the J Crew GCs and a bottle of champagne?
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 08:06 PM FlagThey love the macarons...but I feel like it's so boring (and both get tons of sweets at work during the holidays).
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 08:12 PM Flag27yo here. I love macaroons and used to bring the Laduree ones from London every chance I got. They are the super trendy treat right now. Cupcakes are so over.
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 09:59 PM Flag^^^Wanted to add that for the holiday baskets that I'm giving to my GFs include: half-dozen macaroons, bottle of champagne, gold charm for necklace/bracelet, gold bodum chambord press, 1 vintage paragon tea & saucer set (I give them one every holiday/birthday).
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 10:10 PM Flag
A gorgeous artist-made scarf. I also like simple initial necklaces.
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 08:19 PM FlagDoes the 37yo against marriage, or does she not want to have a family?
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 09:52 PM FlagBad luck with men. She'd be a great mom (and I hope she gets the chance!). Think she will marry this BF...she wouldn't have moved in with him just for fun. I thought he'd propose this summer (he's a good guy, I assume that it is in their future).
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 10:01 PM FlagI don't get why a woman her age who wants to be married would ever live with a guy. I guess they're in denial about getting older. Then, if they become engaged, will it be at least a year long? Probably, the wedding party needs planned. If she can't get pregnant once he quits jerking her around, she might really resent him. She should see an RE, check her status. I had to do ivf at 37. And/or tell him she wants to start ttc, ring or no ring.
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 10:23 PM FlagDH (her brother) and I had a short engagement (and a tiny wedding)...and she has said that she'd be happy to do that, too. Honestly, I'm surprised that they're not engaged at this point - and I think that she is, too (though she's not the type to go around saying so - and I respect her for keeping the relationship private, there may be stuff that I don't know about).
[ Reply | More ]12.10.11, 10:30 PM FlagOh please. Not everyone has fertility issues, you just hear about it more because it's somehting to talk about that is devestating. I got pregnant at first try at 40 and again at 41. Have best friend who went to RE (because she was desperate for kids but unmarried and considering conceiving alone). She was told she
[ Reply | More ]12.11.11, 04:45 AM Flagshe was in dire straits and would need IVF. She met her now fiancee a month or so later. They got engaged and started TTC and what do youknow, 1month later she got pregnant. She was so upset by the negative news from the RE only to find out she could easily get pregnant. What alot of wasted worry. Have another friend who at 40 tried for 3mos and now has a newborn baby girl. FErtility in the 40's isn't all that uncommon.
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[+] I caved and POAS. 4dp6dt on IVF #2. FRER test said negative. Devastated. Can't bel... 11 replies
- give up hope. And if you are not pregnant, try again. It took me 4 IVFs to conceive my DCs and while it was grueling and expensive, it was worth...that and was immediately even sadder. Adoption is even more expensive than another round of IVF, it would mean I would never be pregnant or have a genetic DC of my...
- My dear gf went through ten years of infertility, several rounds of IVF and had two miscarriages. She now has a 5 y/o and two year old...
Talk : : December 09, 2011
I caved and POAS. 4dp6dt on IVF #2. FRER test said negative. Devastated. Can't believe I'm facing another $20,000 IVF, more unexplained time off of work and countless injections.
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This is seriously one of the most annoying things you can say to a person struggling with infertility. For one thing, adoption is expensive and very, very complicated. It can take several years, regardless of whether you adopt domestically or internationally. Secondly, not everyone *wants* to adopt. Adoption is not as clean-cut as people want it to be. There are a lot of grey areas and potential landmines later on in the child's life. And as OP points out, even if one half of the couple would like to pursue adoption, the other half might not, in which case you're stuck. Telling an infertile couple to adopt as if it's that easy is just as naive as telling a pregnant woman (who doesn't want to be) to give her baby up for adoption.
[ Reply | More ]12.09.11, 02:33 PM Flag
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Did you just take the test now? Because you need to do it first thing in the AM. 4dp6dt still seems early to me. Do not give up hope. And if you are not pregnant, try again. It took me 4 IVFs to conceive my DCs and while it was grueling and expensive, it was worth every penny and every tear. Babydust!
[ Reply | More ]12.09.11, 02:13 PM FlagThank you. I really appreciate the kind words. Yeah, I know I shouldn't have tested, but I couldn't wait. Beta is only on Wednesday. Please say a prayer for me. I'm 40 and my FSH is skyrocketing. Switching from RMA to Cornell if this one fails. Much less convenient for me, but Davis really put me at ease during the consult.
[ Reply | More ]12.09.11, 02:23 PM FlagDO NOT TEST AGAIN. At least not until Monday or Tuesday. Have faith! I actually got pregnant at RMA (did my first two cycles at another clinic in NJ) but I think you should cycle one more time at RMA before switching -- the first cycle is such a huge learning curve, and your doctors should have a new and improved protocol for your second attempt (if they don't, then switch immediately). The lab/embryologist also has a huge impact. Try not to worry too much about FSH levels and all the rest of it. At the end of the day, if it's meant to be, it will be. You have access to the very best clinics and doctors in the world. Trust that they will do EVERYTHING to get you pregnant. I sincerely hope that this cycle works, but if it doesn't, do not despair. Treat yourself to a large glass of wine and some sushi and give yourself a few days to grieve, then start again. If you truly want to be a mother, you will be. And once you are, all of the pain and suffering will make sense. GL!
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[+] Am pregnant with first (and second!) baby after first IVF. Will be seeing some friend... 11 replies
- Congratulations. I have BTDT and I think if they know you, too, struggled with IF and went through IVF, they will be more accepting of your pregnancy. However, it still stings. I would probably call first -- not email -- and give them the news personally. And just be matter-of-fact; no need for jubilation. Just try to treat them the way you would like to be treated if the roles were reversed. And remind them that they *will* be successful, it's just a matter...
Talk : : December 08, 2011
Am pregnant with first (and second!) baby after first IVF. Will be seeing some friends this holiday season still dealing with infertility. What is the most sensitive/non pity-ing or smug way to break the news? Odds are I will be seeing them in a social setting so cannot control "the reveal" unless I email/call them first...anyone BTDT?? TIA!
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.08.11, 02:05 PM Flag ]Congratulations. I have BTDT and I think if they know you, too, struggled with IF and went through IVF, they will be more accepting of your pregnancy. However, it still stings. I would probably call first -- not email -- and give them the news personally. And just be matter-of-fact; no need for jubilation. Just try to treat them the way you would like to be treated if the roles were reversed. And remind them that they *will* be successful, it's just a matter of time.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 02:08 PM FlagI have never dealt with infertility so I may be completely off base here, but it seems to me that while you do want to be sensitive to them and not gloat, you also don't want to go too far in the other direction, as though you're "breaking" something to them. It's good news and they're your friends. I think it would be patronizing to pretend that you are anything less than happy to share your good fortune with them, as you would be happy if they were sharing their good fortune with you.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 02:33 PM FlagI think telling them in advance is wise and thoughtful. But if you feel that e-mail is better than calling I think that's OK. If they are not super close friends I think e-mail is fine. But I also sort of agree with the 'don't make a huge deal' poster above. You don't want them to think you are feeling sorry for them, etc.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 04:07 PM FlagI think e-mail is okay, just a nice quick note saying "we're looking forward to seeing you at x's party, just wanted to give you a heads up before you hear it through the grapevine since we know you're going through the same thing that it looks like our cycle was successful and we are crossing our fingers that you will be joining us soon." We had 2dary IF and my SIL called the second the pee was dry on her pregnancy test to tell DH her news right after we got a bad fertilization report. He almost hung up on her, and I almost certainly would have - but you're clearly more sensitive than that!
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 04:44 PM FlagI am one of the having trouble getting pregnant people, miscarriages, etc. and it drive me CRAZY when people walk on eggshells around me. Yes it stings and sometimes I cry to my husband when I get home, but I am also so incredibly happy and excited for them that I want to hear their news and share their joy! I ends up hurting my feelings when people hold back telling me news or talking about drs appts or ultrasounds. I don't want to feel out of the loop or that people are afraid to upset me- only makes it more awkward. I say share the news as if you would to anyone, otherwise it will come across as though you think they won't be happy for you, IMO.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 06:26 PM Flagbeen in your shoes, but there's something a little smug and condescending seeming (though I know it's not your intention!) about 'breaking the news' to them beforehand. The more relaxed you are about it, the more they'll be. If you treat it like oversensitive information, they'll respond over-sensitively. If you act normal happy, they will too (What goes on behind their closed doors later is not your business). Congrats!
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[+] IVF Veterans please help: Had embryo transfer 4 days ago at Cornell. Today they took... 23 replies
- I did IVF there 3 years ago; if I remember correctly they are checking estrogen and progesterone levels - they don't do it to check for pregnancy and as far as I know, they can't...
- ^^Good luck. I'm in my 2WW as well, but this is IVF#2 (frozen) for me....
Talk : : December 08, 2011
IVF Veterans please help: Had embryo transfer 4 days ago at Cornell. Today they took blood to check hormone levels. What is this test for? Will they be able to tell easily from this hormone blood test if this is a viable pregnancy or not or will it be quantum until the actual pregnancy test in 9 days. TIA!
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI did IVF there 3 years ago; if I remember correctly they are checking estrogen and progesterone levels - they don't do it to check for pregnancy and as far as I know, they can't tell from that. They do it for informational purposes and don't call you to tell results. The Beta is the conclusive test. GL!
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 06:22 AM FlagOk thank you so much everyone. Not feeling any symptoms after the pain of the transfer subsided so I am thinking there is no way this cycle took and will result in a positive.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 06:51 AM Flagyou can't tell 4 days after transfer! I'm sure it worked or will next time. Cornell knows what they are doing. Who was your doc? What's your age?
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It's way too early for symptoms. On my successful one, I had no symptoms that were any different from the months that I wasn't pg. Try not to focus on symptoms - just hang in there and good luck!
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 07:18 AM Flag
OP: So nervous my therapist gave me xanax to take, anyone know if this is safe? Not Schattman another doctor
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 07:05 AM FlagPharmacist here: Xanax is category D - not safe for pregnancy. Don't take it.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 07:13 AM FlagWell wishes from above: are you crazy?! Yes, it's stressful; but honey, if you are pg., there's a lot more stress to come. If you're *not* pg, there's a lot more stress to come. Don't start down this road. and axe this loose-script writer.
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woohoo! We'll be your xanax-- just post when you need support! Anyway, things will happen for you, just remember either now or at some point soon, you'll have a whole new set of (good) complaints-- m/s, bloating,etc. Hang in there! (and let us know how it goes)
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 07:31 AM Flag
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Good luck! I believe checking for progesterone, also. Are you taking progesterone shots? My doctor was checking this level throughout so as to know how much to tell me to keep taking.
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[+] Why does UB think a hhi of 100k is so crappy? 63 replies
- 100K/year is crappy when I spent $30K in IVF last year....
Talk : : December 07, 2011
Why does UB think a hhi of 100k is so crappy?
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Because your federal, state, Medicare, and social security taxes will take away at least $25,000 of that. And rent in NY is a fortune. Getting away with $3,000/month would be incredibly fortunate (you are probably in a 1 bedroom apartment, so that is another $36,000. That leaves at most $39,000/year for food, transportation, childcare, clothes, extra classes, school supplies, medicines/doctors/health insurance, 401K contribution, 529 contribution/college savings, church/charitable contributions, social activities, etc.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:12 PM Flag^^If you buy an average of $250 in groceries a week, that is $13,000/year right there!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:15 PM FlagYou forgot about utilities. I pay $400 a month in utilities alone, including cable + modem. Granted, I have all the channels, so I could probably shave another $100 off of that if need be. I also pay about $90/month for cell phone.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:23 PM Flag-
NP: Water bill--$15/mo, Sewer bill--$15/mo, Electric and Gas Bill--$200/mo, Phone/Home Internet/TV--$167/mo, 2 cell phone plan--$125/mo. I live in the suburbs of NYC, and my utilities are $522/mo.
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Yes, welcome to the reality of living and working in NYC. Oh, and I don't even live in NYC as I'm too poor to do that even though my HHI is $400K. Yes, really, I paid $140,000 in payroll/income taxes last year, so if someone tells me "the rich" are not paying their fair share while I'm busting my hump 12 to 14 hours a day, it really irritates me.
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[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 02:05 PM Flagnp: So then please break down the 200 - 250. I'm the poster below who also pays $500. My electric bill from Con Ed is $150 even without the AC on in a 600 sq ft condo. The gas bill has never once been less than $30, but averages at about $47 (we have our own furnace / central AC).
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 02:17 PM FlagWow. I'm curious about your service providers. Even when I had Verizon DSL it was $30/mo, not including the home phone or cable. I've never seen cable less than $60 for basic on its own. And I find it incredulous that your electric bill for a house is $60/mo. Con Ed?
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$100 K/year in Manhattan can get you as far as about 50K /year in the rest of the country. So, if you think 50K/yr is good outside of NYC, then you'd think 100K is ok in NYC. 50K is slightly above average HHI in US. Now the reason UB has so many posters who think 100K is chicken feed is that the women who can spend time typing on this website are more likely to be SAHM's, and thus more likely to be UMC to UC, via their husbands. A tendency with people who receive money but don't earn it is they tend to be entitled and, counterintuitively, more snobby about their status. Kinda like UMC kids tend to be entitled and snobby before they join the workforce.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:30 PM FlagWOHM here. DH makes $100K. Our family can't live on that and pay all our bills. No one feels entitled. We both work hard to make ends meet, and yes, I do earn much more than he does.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:35 PM Flag^^We both fully fund 401Ks, which takes out $16,500 from each of our paychecks. And we each put $5k into a 529 plan per year. $100K goes fast in the NY area, and if you are trying to make sure you can cover all your bills, plus emergencies and save a little for retirement and college, most people think that comfortably requires much more than $100K.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:38 PM Flag
It's an expensive place to live and there are lots of taxes to pay. I am a non-US citizen and I used to live in the land of no income tax. When I got paid my $260K a year, I got the ENTIRE $260K a year in my paycheck. NO deductions. DH and I rode that gravy train as long as we possibly could. It financed our early retirement.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:46 PM Flagit depends on where you live but it is barely middle class here due to taxes...
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 02:12 PM FlagIt's crappy if you have to live in the "good" parts of manhattan, you havve a doorman, buy new clothes often and keep up with the ibers. Many of us are in nyc and feel comfortable on that amount.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 02:44 PM Flagagreed. 100k isn't a lot to live on 5th Ave, Tribeca, Flatiron, Beverly Hills, Malibu, or Kensington Palace. Perfectly fine to live in the other 99.9% of the world AND of NYC. Check out Robinhood for a reality check on how most people in NYC actually live... it's on way less than $100k.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 05:46 PM Flag
We live on about 100k and it feels ok. We don't have kids yet, so I'm sure that helps. But we save a little, take trips, rat out now and then. We have almost no debt. We're almost in the top 90%,which is crazy to me because we're just starting out.
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[+] Psychic mom are you still there? What about me? Am I pregnant this month? 16 replies
- NP: will this frozen IVF cycle work?...
- Seriously lady? Have you ever done IVF? It is not good medicine to stimulate your ovaries back to back months. You need a month in between to let your ovaries...
Talk : : December 06, 2011
Psychic mom are you still there? What about me? Am I pregnant this month?
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not psychic anything. But get yourself a fresh, and you're chances will go way way up. GL!
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:53 PM FlagPP: How do you think I got frozen embryos? I did a fresh that failed and they won't let you do back to back fresh cycles.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:01 PM Flagwhat do you mean "let you"? If you want fresh, and can do it again, for your own sake, get fresh! i've never heard of a clinic not allowing a fresh cycle?!
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:17 PM FlagSeriously lady? Have you ever done IVF? It is not good medicine to stimulate your ovaries back to back months. You need a month in between to let your ovaries rest, and during the rest month you can do frozen if you have them. Geez.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:22 AM Flagactually, yes, Cornell-- the revered Rosenwaks. Back-to-back with fresh-- second time was fresh and worked. I'm trying to encourage you and tell you to speak up for best outcome. Sometimes you need to ask for what you know will be best and at such a vulnerable time, your docs don't always do this, sadly. I am really trying to help-- no other motivation, I promise.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 06:09 AM Flag
[+] Spinoff: ever get the feeling that people who don't find out gender in advance think ... 173 replies
- my conception and pregnancy had been so clinicial and so TMI, as I did IVF for years, so I could tell you fertilization rates, embryo cell counts etc etc...
- I could have written this word-for-word. IVF twins and didn't find out genders. I wanted one surprise, done the totally...re kidding me? I just think they want a surprise. For us we did IVF so we wanted something that wasn't clinical. UB is so crazy. If your...
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Spinoff: ever get the feeling that people who don't find out gender in advance think they're somehow superior?
173 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.06.11, 06:56 PM Flag ]Yes and I think they get burned sometimes when the baby is not the gender they had hoped
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:03 PM FlagI think they think its cute, like they are doing the entire parent thing right. Just like not getting an epidural. I find it annoying. That information is already out there.... you want not to be told. And you want to believe in Santa Claus... ahhh too much wine for a week night.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:17 PM FlagOp: I was actually going to make the no epidural analogy, keep drinking it works for you!
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:19 PM FlagI didn't get an epidural but i found out the sex of my baby....didn't seem like the same thing to me at all. i think people should do whatever they want but for me, there was no way I would choose to not find out ....as it is a surprise either way
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:14 PM FlagSame here. I thought about not finding out because I didn't care, but DH really wanted to. In the end, I'm glad I did because it helped make the idea of a baby more concrete to me. I was more surprised that she looked EXACTLY like her dad than I was about her sex!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 08:53 AM Flag-
i just think that is unfair. i had no epidural and I don't think anything about what anyone else does or what I do with future kids. it went my way the first time and I was glad to have the experience but I don't expect anyone else to. It just sounds like if you are criticizing women who didn't have an epidural for trying to make you feel bad for your choice - you are doing it by trying to make them feel bad about their choice - thus doing the same thing you find disagreeable.
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Yes. In our defense, people getting all frustrated when you don't know is also annoying. As if you're denying them the fundamental right to buy you pink receiving blankets.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:27 PM Flagyou find it annoying that people want to know if they can get the dress or the sailor suit they'd love to buy you? self. centered.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:39 PM FlagYes, this is it. I didn't know with either of my children and my mother swore at me, and spoke to me in her sternest voice, demanding that I tell her. It was sort of funny. FWIW, I didn't have an epidural with my 2nd and it was so exciting to be the first one to see what he was.
[ Reply | More ]12.08.11, 04:17 PM Flag
No. I think they are different from me, and it's interesting that they are so attached to something so temporary - like you aren't going to know soon anyway, and like it's not going to be a big, great exciting day regardless. I don't get it at all. But I don't think they necessarily feel superior - not if they are my nice friends, as some have been. They are just more into cute or symbolic stuff than I am.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:31 PM FlagI had 3 kids and didn't find out with any. Also had 2 of 3 (last 2) without epidural, incl one induced with pitocin. Yes, superior :)
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:38 PM FlagYou are an idiot to think you are superior. Hanging your worth on something that lasts a day. :)
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:45 PM FlagNp. BS. I am so proud of having natural childbirth and I can tell you that the pride lass much longer than a day. I am proud because it was a mental and physical challenge/test, akin to running a marathon, which I prepared for and accomplished.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:13 AM FlagBut, to feel superior about it? I run marathons and don't feel superior.
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NP. I don't think it is merely semantics at all. One can be happy and proud of reaching a goal they wanted to attain without feeling disdain towards those who simply don't have the same goals. Natural childbirth and running a marathon are on the bucket list for fewer people in the world than you realize.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 09:11 AM Flag
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It is NOT akin to running a marathon. One takes months of training, the other doesn't. Please!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:45 AM Flag
I have a friend who found out the sex and chose a name but wouldn't tell anyone, which is so weird.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:42 PM FlagOp: I don't share name until birth. The critiques would bum me out.
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Not sharing the name is actually a good idea. People will tell you they hate the name or it reminds them of some creep when the kid isn't here yet. Once it is born people keep their dumb opinions to themselves, usually anyway.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 11:53 AM Flagi know a few people who did this. they did this because they liked a name but didn't want the grief of people reacting to it and affecting their personal feelings for the name before the baby was born. once the baby is named that name officially, people aren't going to try to get them to change it, usually.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:06 PM Flag
For all you people who are annoyed at people for feeling superior, you sure come off as sounding like you feel superior...
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:09 PM FlagI didn't with #1 and didn't feel at all superior, although I was so annoyed with the judgy prying that I didn't let anyone know when I DID find out for #2.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:10 PM FlagLOL - People who find out and don't tell anyone crack me up. Think people are just dying to know what sex your baby is? I promise you, no one (except perhaps grandparents which it would just be weird to keep from) really cares. People have their own sh&t to wrorry about. They were only pretending to care because they didn't want you to feel awkward.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 08:50 AM Flag
Yes. I decided not to find out the sex of my 3rd db bc my first two are the same sex and I got a lot of "Oh, you must really really want a [other sex] baby!" and "I hope it works out for you this time - hope you get your [other sex]" I couldn't take it. And then when I told ppl I wasn't finding out, I got a lot of comments from other moms who didn't find out about how the birth is "so much more special" when you don't know. (It wasn't any more special than my first two.)
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:15 PM FlagYes. Not all of them or anything, but I definitely get the feeling that some of them think that it's "better" not to find out in advance because it means you're more enlightened or something. Like they think those of us who find out are just a bunch of K-Mart shoppers eager to color-code the nursery and push our kids into gender molds.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 08:29 PM FlagThat's exact,y what I thought! If you're not, why do you need to know otherwise?
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 09:15 PM FlagOP: I like to be able to start picturing this little person and it helps me to feel a bit more attached. I found with my first pregnancy that I felt pretty detatched after having a couple of miscarriages - I didn't really believe it was going to happen. Knowing I was having a little girl helped me to picture it all better and to get excited. Her room is green and blue, btw :-)
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 06:47 AM Flag
We didn't find out with our first because the whole thing was kind of a novelty. With subsequent kids it's just kind of nice to be able to wash, fold, etc. the clothes that are suitable in advance and then give the rest to charity, as hand-me-downs to cousins, etc.. It's just a logistic thing.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:11 AM FlagThat only makes sense if you're only going to have 2 kids!!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:16 AM FlagThe giveaway, sure, but separating out the clothes applies if you have 15 kids.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:20 AM Flag
Ever get the feeling that people who overthink things that don't really matter think they're somehow superior?
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 09:40 PM Flag-
Let me give you a slightly different perspective. I didnt find out with my twins (which people thought was really crazy) for 2 reasons. First, everything about my conception and pregnancy had been so clinicial and so TMI, as I did IVF for years, so I could tell you fertilization rates, embryo cell counts etc etc and I wanted something to feel like a surprise and "old school." My second reason was I had been through a lot of trauma prior, 5 m/cs, I very late, that I didnt want to feel too attached if that makes sense. It was too much for me to believe this could really happen after what I went through. So feel superior? Absolutely not. Feel like a complete nervous wreck who just wanted to feel "normal" and "natural" Absolutely. Just another perspective.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 04:21 AM FlagNp: I get this. The main reason for me to know and choose a name was about bonding. You start to think about a specific baby with nickname at all. I agree with others that the surprise is there anyway. I think that Jewish don't tell bc superstition, at least my coworkers don't want the baby shower and never say the name even if they already chose one
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 04:30 AM FlagI don't know how people don't go crazy waiting the whole time to find out the gender. I found out at 16 weeks because it was making me crazy. I am so happy i did because I was able to tell my mother and she died before she could meet him. It makes me feel like she knew him a little bit.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 05:47 AM Flag
My mom suggested I was a control freak and thus of course would find out. So maybe some feel smug they are so relaxed, go with the flow, etc? Btw, after I did find out, I didn't tell my mom for a day or two--drove her crazy as she wanted to know.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 06:11 AM FlagIt's kind of funny - we didn't find out for our first and then did for the next two. I will say, though, that I've gotten a holier-than-thou vibe from many who don't find out. Kind of like they're above mundane things like wondering whether it's a boy or a girl.
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I didn't say "need to know", I said "wonder." If you're not wondering about the sex of your baby, that's a little odd.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:21 AM FlagNobody *needs* to know - it's a curiosity thing. See, the "I don't need to know" thing implies that others can't exercise self-restraint, it's smug.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:32 AM Flag
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I do think the secrecy imposed on medical staff is a little much sometimes, though. I've had friends flip out when the X-Ray technician accidentally mentioned the sex of the baby. Seriously, they're here for health reasons, not to preserve the "magic" for two adults.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:14 AM Flagthe sex of the baby has nothing to do with the health of the baby. they should all be trained to speak in the "neutral".
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:15 AM Flag
I admit that I am a little bit old school. I do get more excited when a friend goes into labor and I am waiting to hear "its a..." versus when they already know. maybe it is because we almost take it for granted that the baby will be healthy nowadays. but mostly I don't think about it and if I was smug it wasnt intentional.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 07:36 AM Flag100% agree! i did find out, but that's because my dr. slipped. But i love when people don't find out. Have you ever been in the waiting room for both situations? When my baby was delivered, the news was...he's here! When the family next to us learned the gender, it was an entirely different reaction. Not smug, it's just fun! I also didn't want to know because I really wanted to stick to gender neutral things so that I could use them with subsequent kids.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 08:21 AM Flag
How is it that so many people can be pro-choice - it is the mother's right to chose whether she carries the baby or not and no one should judge her for her decision, but sooooo many people are entitled to judge a mother who decides to not find out the gender - it is her body, her baby and her decision - it is not about you - find something real to complain about!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 08:27 AM FlagI can see how you would think that, but like the poster above, I didn't want to find out because I was afraid of something terrible happening and getting too attached. DH didn't want to find out because he thought it would be fun. I definitely don't think I'm superior to moms who found out.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 08:59 AM FlagHold on there -- this whole post is about people who found out bashing people who didn't fine out and you have the audacity to say that those who don't find out are smug or bossy? Nuts! FWIW, I didn't find out with #1 and got a lot of crap about it-- people saying "Well, I like to plan." (As if I don't.) I did find out with #2 and that was because (I am ashamed to admit this) I was hoping for a certain gender. I think people should do what they want and a lot of times people feel anytime someone does something differently from them that they are being judged. It's often no true and often not that deep.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 11:20 AM FlagI find it more annoying when people know the sex, are already calling the kid by the name and the middle name, have the nursery all set up. Leave a little something to the imagination.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 11:35 AM FlagI found out because I wanted to know. I don't think I'm superior or inferior for that decision. It works the other way too. When I found out, I heard from several people, "well I didn't/won't find out because I wanted to be surprised." Like I wasn't surprised to find out.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 11:51 AM FlagI automatically assume someone is a tool if they decide not to find out gender in advance.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:06 PM Flagme too, but I imagine that is me being snotty/superior. But agreed, seems so lame and delusional to me, I can't help it!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 01:19 PM Flag-
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You can find out, it's fun to find out, it helps you bond with "it" (which becomes "him" or "her") when you find out, you can answer annoying people's questions about gender much more quickly if you know, etc. Why wouldn't someone find out? There really isn't any good reason, and it comes off as smug.
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 02:06 PM Flagomg, I have to assume you're joking. Who is the smug one here?!?! I for one didn't feel the need to know. The gender of my child didn't impact my ability to bond with my child and if I felt it did, I would have found out. I wanted to maintain some of the surprise/old school feel of having a child, when everything wasn't so clinical. Bottom line is that didn't matter, so why find out!?
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You're kidding me? I just think they want a surprise. For us we did IVF so we wanted something that wasn't clinical. UB is so crazy. If your child goes to Dalton you're a wanna-be. If your child is beautiful you're so vain. Etc. etc. Focus on yourselves, your family, close friends and people in need. Overthinking like this must be a full time job!
[ Reply | More ]12.07.11, 03:40 PM Flag
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11 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.06.11, 03:50 PM Flag ]i was fine (but I think I'm a rarity). Emotional aspect is the real hard part.
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no fatigue, breast tenderness no worse than pms. pple mostly complain abaout weight gain, bloating and (At the end) ovarian pain-- from over-filled ovaries, even if not technically hyper-stimulated. Emotions take a huge toll though. Bigger than one would expect.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 04:02 PM Flag
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I was "hyperstimulated" and "gained" about 30 lbs, largely bloat each time. Otherwise, I'd say stay away from sugar which can cause massive gas. I think having the right attitude helps. I figured that if I stopped and focused on infertility treatments I could tear myself and DH up. I just did them like any other procedures and keeping a levelhead helped.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 04:20 PM Flag
[+] one of my closest friends who has been trying to get pregnant for a few years just di... 11 replies
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one of my closest friends who has been trying to get pregnant for a few years just did her first round of ivf and should have found out yesterday if she is pregnant. She wants to go to dinner on friday night and my feeling is that she wants to tell us that she is pregnant. We would be SOOOOO happy for her and her dh, i'd really like to have a little congratulations gift with me on friday, any suggestions? It has to be physically small enough to be in my bag in case that isnt the news.
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Rather give something she'll actually use than just a cute, funny thing: I vote bella band (she'll definitely use it, and makes funny reference to growing tummy-to-be) or your favorite pregnancy book, inscribed (she'll think of how you were there for her every time she reads it).
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[+] What exactly is IUI? A friend of mine is about to start it and she assumed I know wha... 7 replies
- more likely) - but otherwise the process is more natural. IVF - eggs are extracted from ovaries and fertilized outside the...a number of embryos are implanted (assuming they develop). IVF allows you to know in advance the quality of eggs,...uterine insemination, worked for me both times. Much preferred to IVF for health and cost reasons. In my case, I...eggs abd another to promote release. In the case of IVF they harvest (extract) the eggs instead and fertilize it in...
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What exactly is IUI? A friend of mine is about to start it and she assumed I know what it is (I have heard it here, but everyone says it doesn't work and to go straight to IVF) so she didn't explain it and she didn't seem like she wanted to, so I didn't ask. Have you ever heard of it working?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.06.11, 06:40 AM Flag ]I had an IUI done after my first cycle of Clomid. Clomid causes the cervical mucus to thicken up so the sperm can't get to the egg. IUI is just a some thin tubing in which the sperm is placed in & direcetly deposited into the cervix, bypassing all the other stuff. Worked for me the 1st try.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 06:55 AM Flagit's artificial insemination, but it's intra-uterine insemination (sperm goes right into uterus to make fertilization more likely) - but otherwise the process is more natural. IVF - eggs are extracted from ovaries and fertilized outside the body and then a number of embryos are implanted (assuming they develop). IVF allows you to know in advance the quality of eggs, the success of fertilization and the quality of the embryos - so the bigger unknown is implantation. IUI is more of a crapshoot.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 06:57 AM Flagop: Thanks so much. So IUI is just replacing the penis with a tube and inserting the sperm into the uterus that way. Weird, but interesting. I really hope it works for her. She's been trying for 16 months (and I'm pregnant and it was really easy for me and she has been really supportive of me and not visibly upset though I feel like it must be frustrating for her - I know I'd be frustrated.)
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:11 AM Flag
IUI, intra uterine insemination, worked for me both times. Much preferred to IVF for health and cost reasons. In my case, I had trouble conceiving on my own because eggs were not consistently being released. So they gave be a drug like clomid to develop the eggs abd another to promote release. In the case of IVF they harvest (extract) the eggs instead and fertilize it in a petri-dish with desired sperm. In the case of IUI they release the eggs into fallopian tube like a normal cycle and you have sex. The doctor also injects sperm (which has not been treated so there is no 'desired' element to it) into uterus for extra chances of fertilization. Worked 1st time for me both times.
[ Reply | More ]12.06.11, 07:11 AM Flag-
[+] Reading the TTC posts and see that many people say that IUI isn't worth it. Anyone k... 8 replies
- During our treatments, I was told our odds for IVF were about 60% per cycle vs. 15% per cycle...everyone's is different. But essentially, the odds for IVF were about four times better. We had 3 failed...and then got pregnant on the first try with IVF and now have twins. I also think IUI is...IUIs and nothing. got pg every time i did IVF (thought m/c each time except for my last...male factor at play, i would go straight to ivf at top clinic...
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Reading the TTC posts and see that many people say that IUI isn't worth it. Anyone know the success rates for timed intercourse vs. IUI vs. IVF?
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreDuring our treatments, I was told our odds for IVF were about 60% per cycle vs. 15% per cycle for IUI and maybe 3% per cycle for timed intercourse, but this was specific to our situation - everyone's is different. But essentially, the odds for IVF were about four times better. We had 3 failed IUI's and then got pregnant on the first try with IVF and now have twins. I also think IUI is sort of a waste of time but our insurance covered it so it seemed worth starting there.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:57 PM FlagI think it depends on age and dx. What is your age and dx? I did 4 IUIs and nothing. got pg every time i did IVF (thought m/c each time except for my last, which was a success). If you are above 35 or have any type of male factor at play, i would go straight to ivf at top clinic
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 07:00 PM FlagIUI was a bust for us. We did it twice and didn't get pregnant but we used timed intercourse and got pregnant on our own (although it took a really long time). We miscarried both times so we're moving on to IVF since it seems to take us about two years to get pregnant with timed intercourse and I'm starting to feel like my clock s ticking.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 09:17 PM Flag
[+] Having my first mammogram tomorrow and freaking out about it. Just took a xanax, but... 17 replies
- OP: No lump that I can feel. I am going out of total fear b/c one of my best friends was dx out of the blue (though she did have a lump, but b/c it was b/c she was BFing). I am almost 39yo. Also, I did many IVF cycles, so it concerns me that same could be a risk...
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Having my first mammogram tomorrow and freaking out about it. Just took a xanax, but still so nervous. Any advice? Supportive words?
17 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 06:39 PM Flag ]I just did my first too. Don't worry about any pain, unless your boobs are sore now, it's just a lot of boob smooshing, more embarrassing than anything. For me, they were supposed to take 4 films, they did, and then they had me wait, in my gown. They then called me back 4 more times for more films. By the time I saw the Dr. I said, I know I have cancer, how bad is it? It's not cancer, just something that needs follow up in six months. So just don't panic.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:41 PM FlagAre you afraid it will hurt, or are you afraid what the report might say? It really doesn't hurt at all. It's just uncomfortable for a second or two and you hold your breath. It's over before you know it! Good luck with the results!
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:41 PM FlagYou have to take a xanax to deal with a freakin mammogram? Are you an addict?
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 06:48 PM FlagAre you having a mammo because you felt a lump, or because it is your first ever official baseline mammo? If there was not other reason you are having it other than your age, try not to worry. It can hurt a little if they smash your breast down too much on the plate, but you will laugh about that afterward. Are you goign to a place that gives the results right away while you wait or do you get them later?
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 07:04 PM FlagOP: No lump that I can feel. I am going out of total fear b/c one of my best friends was dx out of the blue (though she did have a lump, but b/c it was b/c she was BFing). I am almost 39yo. Also, I did many IVF cycles, so it concerns me that same could be a risk
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 07:08 PM Flag
All I can say is that it DOES hurt (I am full-figured, but it must be worse if you are flat as a pancake!). Machine was OBVIOUSLY invented by a sadistic man. Some lady engineer needs to come up with something MUCH more female-friendly!
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At least your boobs are big enough for a mammogram. Mine are too small and I have to rely on a human to detect irregularities in my breasts. Have already had several tumors removed. Boo. Good luck! Just relax and be thankful for such awesome technology. Many years ago, you would have found out too late.
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 07:22 PM Flag
[+] I feel really bad that I haven't gotten pregnant yet, after 7 months of trying. I am... 7 replies
- hurt to talk with a therapist who can help you learn coping strategies, etc. Good luck! I know a woman who was in her early 30s and found her tubes were twisted (or something) and went through something crazy like 12 rounds of IVF and three miscarriages- and now she is 38 and has two absolutely beautiful boys, ages 1 and 3. Which is exactly what she wanted- 2 boys, 2 years apart! The world works in mysterious ways...
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I feel really bad that I haven't gotten pregnant yet, after 7 months of trying. I am still young (early thirties) and it hasn't been that long, relatively. I know this. Yet, I feel really bad about myself, jealous of my friends, don't want to talk about it with anyone. I need therapy, right?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.04.11, 08:26 AM Flag ]7 months is a long time- your feelings are normal. That being said it can never hurt to talk with a therapist who can help you learn coping strategies, etc. Good luck! I know a woman who was in her early 30s and found her tubes were twisted (or something) and went through something crazy like 12 rounds of IVF and three miscarriages- and now she is 38 and has two absolutely beautiful boys, ages 1 and 3. Which is exactly what she wanted- 2 boys, 2 years apart! The world works in mysterious ways...
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 08:32 AM FlagIt helps to remember that this is a common situation being experienced by tons of women at this very moment. Really, I don't think it is "long" until it has been a year, but I know it feels like an eternity. Hang in there.
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Hi! Same boat. I'm 30 and have been trying for 6 months. I even went in for blood work and it was normal. My doctor told me roughly 50% of couples my age will be pregnant by the 6 month mark, meaning, the other 50% will not be. She said 80% will be pregnant in a year, and 95% within 2 years. It just takes time sometimes
[ Reply | More ]12.04.11, 09:26 AM Flag
[+] If you were awaiting results of genetic testing, but TTC, would you skip this month a... 9 replies
- How old? TTC via IVF? I'd maybe wait if I was young. TTC naturally? What is...for in the fetus post-conception not as preimplanation IVF testing. The earliest fetal testing can be performed...
- unless you would consider doing IVF and preimplantation genetic testing for this disorder without...that point we might try to go the ivf route, though i hope we don't get...to that point, because i know ivf has it's own hardships...
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If you were awaiting results of genetic testing, but TTC, would you skip this month and wait until all results are in? I know it's going to take a few more weeks, but I don't want to miss this chance to ttc....advice?
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.02.11, 10:52 AM Flag ]What kind of "genetic" results are you waiting for? Clinical Geneticist Mom
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:08 AM Flagsomething went wrong with our last pregnancy, and we didn't have any testing done....they are trying to find out if it may have been genetic. but if the results come back that it was, we will probably try again anyway, so why wait?
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 11:38 AM FlagI'm still not clear on exactly what testing is being preformed, but presumably it is something that if positive you would test for in the fetus post-conception not as preimplanation IVF testing. The earliest fetal testing can be performed (for most genetic disorders) is 10wks. So if you try to conceive now, you'd have the results back of your current testing before it would be time to test the fetus (assuming conception occurs). I'd go ahead and try if that makes you feel best about ttc. Of course this advice is dependent on exactly what disorder it is that you're testing for. Good Luck.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 02:21 PM Flagthank you....that is what I was thinking...if we do get pregnant and the results come back that we are carriers for a recessive disorder, we still have a 75% chance that the baby will not have the disorder. So we would probably try to conceive again naturally anyway, I just feel funny knowing that this information might be coming back in a few weeks, even though it wouldn't change our course of action.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 03:11 PM Flagunless you would consider doing IVF and preimplantation genetic testing for this disorder without trying to conceive naturally, you couldn't test fetus for this condition until 10wks at the very earliest (CVS to obtain tissue) so as I see it there's no reason not to TTC now. Also, as you stated, 75% chance that even if both you and DH are carriers it wouldn't be an issue for the conception. good luck.
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 03:21 PM Flag
[+] OMG IVF progesterone suppositories after retrieval - the bloating and gas is unbeliev... 11 replies
- They're really icky. And the symptoms make you feel PG, which is just so cruel if you get a BFN - FX for you, my first IVF worked but multiple IUIs were a bust, so I did the supps for 6 cycles or so. (Nobody told me you should try to wash out the residue in the morning until I went for embryo transfer, when the RE told me you get all the medicine in...
Talk : : December 02, 2011
OMG IVF progesterone suppositories after retrieval - the bloating and gas is unbelievable. I mean insane. Help me get rid of this!
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NP: I'm,suffering with them too prepping for a frozen embryo transfer. Yeah, no one told me to wear a pad so the first day it all leaked out while I was at work and I had to sit around in wet chalky panties for 7 hours. Lovely. Would it have killed the RE's office to warn me?
[ Reply | More ]12.02.11, 09:55 AM FlagThey're really icky. And the symptoms make you feel PG, which is just so cruel if you get a BFN - FX for you, my first IVF worked but multiple IUIs were a bust, so I did the supps for 6 cycles or so. (Nobody told me you should try to wash out the residue in the morning until I went for embryo transfer, when the RE told me you get all the medicine in the first few hours. I was kind of embarrassed that he had to deal with the goop.)
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[+] IVF moms: If you had unexplained infertility before DC#1 and had him/ her through IVF... 4 replies
- tried and made appt after 3 months. but i was 41. SIL had ivf for #1 and #2+3(twins) and then oopsed on #4. Has...crazy household! But to my question, sounds like she went straight to IVF for #2+3 too. How old was she?...
- it took a long time. we didnt want to jump right into IVF again. got pregnant naturally after 2 months. i know a lot of people who did IUI/IVF for their first, then got pregnant naturally. But I dont know your...
Talk : : December 01, 2011
IVF moms: If you had unexplained infertility before DC#1 and had him/ her through IVF, when you were ready for DC#2, did you go straight to IVF (because of past experience) or try again naturally first?
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.01.11, 08:13 AM Flag ]tried and made appt after 3 months. but i was 41. SIL had ivf for #1 and #2+3(twins) and then oopsed on #4. Has 4 under 4 now (well under 4 too, oldest is 3.5). better her than me.
[ Reply | More ]12.01.11, 08:15 AM Flagwe tried naturally but started earlier than i would have just in case it took a long time. we didnt want to jump right into IVF again. got pregnant naturally after 2 months. i know a lot of people who did IUI/IVF for their first, then got pregnant naturally. But I dont know your situation so i dont want to give you false hope - this is such a personal decision. good luck with whatever you decide!
[ Reply | More ]12.01.11, 08:44 AM Flag
[+] I had an early ( 5/6 week) miscarriage a 33 days ago and am wondering if anyone had t... 8 replies
- I had a 5 week miscarriage last month post IVF. I went straight to a natural frozen IVF cycle, and they were monitoring my ovulation. My period came on time, and was basically the miscarriage, as I miscarried so early. But oddly enough, I ovulated a week late. And my electronic ovulation meter totally screwed up and said I ovulated...
Talk : : December 01, 2011
I had an early ( 5/6 week) miscarriage a 33 days ago and am wondering if anyone had their cycle screwed up post-miscarriage. No DNC, I just bled for a week and all was expelled. Might my usually regular 36 day cycle be screwed up post-miscarge. Just took a neg preg test. Thx
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | More12.01.11, 05:51 AM Flag ]took me about 2-3 cycles to be back on track, no D&C either. Sorry for your loss.
[ Reply | More ]12.01.11, 06:32 AM FlagI had a 5-6 wk miscarriage and it took about 5 -5 more weeks to get my period then wen tback to my regular cycle (which is irregular). Got pg after trying for 2 more months. Sorry and GL.
[ Reply | More ]12.01.11, 07:55 AM FlagI had a 5 week miscarriage last month post IVF. I went straight to a natural frozen IVF cycle, and they were monitoring my ovulation. My period came on time, and was basically the miscarriage, as I miscarried so early. But oddly enough, I ovulated a week late. And my electronic ovulation meter totally screwed up and said I ovulated as usual a week prior. The pee sticks (and obviously the RE's blood test) caught the ovulation. So, clearly I'm not back totally to normal as my ovulation was a week late, but on the positive side, I did ovulate and I am scheduled for a frozen embyo tranfer next week.
[ Reply | More ]12.01.11, 11:41 AM Flag
[+] Starting IVf in Jan. I find its a lonely road to be on when your friends dont know ... 2 replies
- i did many rounds. did not share with friends or family. go to ivf connections website/support group....
Talk : : December 01, 2011
[+] IVF moms: if you had unexplained infertility, when you wanted to try for DC #2, did y... 2 replies
- Decided to give it 6 months. Got a positive HPT two days before our consultation with IVF clinic! Saved at least $15K. Give it a try- maybe your body learned something first time around....
Talk : : November 30, 2011
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