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[+] Sorry about all the name polls today. I posted 4 or 5 of them. But DH doesn't want to... 11 replies
Talk : : June 10, 2011
Sorry about all the name polls today. I posted 4 or 5 of them. But DH doesn't want to talk names until we hear the heartbeat (I had a previous miscarriage and we don't want to get our hopes up and get too emotionally attached until it's 'safe.') But while he doesn't want to discuss names, it's all I want to talk about. So thanks UB!
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.10.11, 06:42 PM Flag ]I waited until I found out if I was having a boy or girl. I figured why stress about girl names if I'm having a boy or vise versa. Sorry about your loss and good luck.
[ Reply | More ]06.10.11, 06:46 PM Flagop: the first pregnancy after the mc we didn't find out the sex until birth. We always had a girl's name but couldn't find a boy's name. We decided 2 weeks before he was born. I think this time we're going to find oug. But I just like thinking of all the possibilities. I did that Flower Petal Gang post a few weeks ago and I have fantasies of having many more children and giving them all beautiful yet ridiculous names like Phlox and Clover.
[ Reply | More ]06.10.11, 06:53 PM FlagI like Phlox & Clover. ;) I mean I'd probably only have the balls for Clover because I have never heard of Phlox but I like it for someone elses kid. My girl name choice of the moment is Willow. No boy names. I'm on my 2nd now. I have no idea what the sex is of this one..too early but my husband said Willow and I like it.
[ Reply | More ]06.10.11, 06:56 PM Flag
[+] I realize I'm grasping but here goes. Almost 1 month post miscarriage. Had severe pe... 3 replies
- Certainly a chance. 28days post a miscarriage I had a positive pregnancy test. DS is now 2....
Talk : : June 10, 2011
I realize I'm grasping but here goes. Almost 1 month post miscarriage. Had severe period like cramps, no period. Negative preg test (10 dpo). Will start IVF next cycle, but feel a bit pregnant. Any chance?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.10.11, 08:56 AM Flag ]-
Sit tight. It's certainly possible. Personal question: did you have a D and C? I only ask because sometimes hormone levels drop faster post- D and C- not always, of course. I had a D and C on December 21, and got a normal period on January 20, then on February 16 and now I'm 16.5 weeks (ish) pregnant. So it's possible. Good luck, keep some tests on hand, but do wait another day or two if possible.
[ Reply | More ]06.10.11, 10:02 AM Flag
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[+] Did you wait a full 12 weeks before you started telling people you were pregnant? Wha... 16 replies
- First time I told my family at 8 weeks, and the people at work at 10 weeks. I had a miscarriage 3 days later. The second time I waited until hearing the heartbeat at 9 weeks to tell my family. I told the people at work at 14 weeks. Now that i'm pg again, I'm going to tell family when I hear the heartbeat (have an appointment for...
Talk : : June 09, 2011
Did you wait a full 12 weeks before you started telling people you were pregnant? What about family, close friends- when did you tell them?
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.09.11, 10:53 AM Flag ]-
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My mom after a few weeks both times. Told work around 3 months w/ both. I showed really early w/ #2 so I couldn't really keep a secret - people were starting to whisper. Just try to keep it quiet until you're ready to tell work - in the world of FB when things get out - they're out... networks intertwine..
[ Reply | More ]06.09.11, 11:06 AM Flag
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With my first told pretty much everyone around 8weeks, currently pregnant for the 3rd time this year and I'm holding off as long I can, don't think I'll make it to 12 weeks though - have ds's birthday and my birthday coming up in a few weeks and I'm sure it'll get out, dh doesn't get waiting.
[ Reply | More ]06.09.11, 11:13 AM FlagAm I the only one who started making phone calls before the stick was dry?
[ Reply | More ]06.09.11, 11:15 AM FlagFirst time I told my family at 8 weeks, and the people at work at 10 weeks. I had a miscarriage 3 days later. The second time I waited until hearing the heartbeat at 9 weeks to tell my family. I told the people at work at 14 weeks. Now that i'm pg again, I'm going to tell family when I hear the heartbeat (have an appointment for 3 weeks from now which will be 8 weeks along) and tell work at 14 weeks.
[ Reply | More ]06.09.11, 11:20 AM Flag
[+] We need another Kennedy family. I put my family up, but I need to give birth to 7 mor... 10 replies
- She had multiple miscarriages and cheating husbands. She nearly died in the war, abandoned by her father....
- Yes. Wouldn't be surprised that miscarriages and still birth were caused by STDs that her DH gave her! She would have been better off marrying a boring banker....
Talk : : June 08, 2011
We need another Kennedy family. I put my family up, but I need to give birth to 7 more children. And, I need a lot more money.
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.08.11, 02:51 PM Flag ]-
Would never have wanted Jackie's life. Married young to a philandering DH, gave birth to 1 stillborn and another who died a week after birth, DH gets assassinated, hounded by the media to such an extreme that you have no choice but to leave the country, constantly fear for your 2 living children's safety, marry an old man who's daughter resents you, old man then believes you are a bad luck charm after his son dies and expels you from his presence, old man dies, long battle over $$ with his daughter, finally you wind up dying of cancer in your early 60s.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 03:00 PM FlagYes. Wouldn't be surprised that miscarriages and still birth were caused by STDs that her DH gave her! She would have been better off marrying a boring banker. Her life was not easy. She was hounded constantly by the press too. At least she wasn't alive to see her son die. Ugh.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 09:33 PM Flag
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[+] My dh wants credit for working from home the two days last week while I was having a ... 28 replies
- I don't know anyone who has had miscarriages, or in my case, back to back miscarriages....my pity party. After I tell someone about my miscarriage, I feel like the socially polite thing to...the I stayed home after you had a miscarriage thing. That is just plain mean....
- He might be more upset about the miscarriage than he is willing to admit. Going back...to the fact that he's using the miscarriage as a defense. I vacillate hourly between being...
Talk : : June 08, 2011
My dh wants credit for working from home the two days last week while I was having a miscarriage. Twice this week I've complained that he has canceled plans and worked late when he says he'd be home early, and each time he reminds me that he worked from home two days last week. But I was having a miscarriage, which I don't think counts has spending time together. Am I being sensitive or is he being insensitive?
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.08.11, 05:49 AM Flag ]Well if he points it out again just say, hmm. I didn't realize you were doing me a favor when you stayed home after the miscarriage. I just thought you cared.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 05:58 AM FlagThat's passive-agressive. Would you really talk to your husband that way? Back to OP: you are both being strange and defensive. Why does he want "credit"- is he keeping score? Why don't you be clear that you need him with you and it hurts you that he has been canceling and working late? And I'm so sorry about the miscarriage- the loss sucks. I hope that you get time to recover physically and emotionally. I bet your husband will come around and be part of the process- he's probably grieving too- partners process it differently since they didn't suffer the physical impact.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 07:01 AM FlagIf my husband said this (which he never would), yes I would. His throwing that in her face is BS. And he should know better. That is flat out being obnoxious and insensitive.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 07:03 AM FlagI totally agree with you that OP's husband is being insensitive/obnoxious- I also think that firing back with "I thought you cared" doesn't help. These two need each other, and while it's unfortunate that the husband isn't bending, it would help if she could be straightforward rather than sarcastic- whether he deserves a barb or not.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 07:06 AM Flag
Wow. How did you guys get to the point of calculating time spent together?
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:01 AM FlagIt's not that we're tallying hours. Reminding me that he worked from home last week is his defense to my argument that he doesn't keep his word; that he makes plans and promises then casually blows them off for meetings. I get that I am being needy right now. I feel paradoxically entitled to it and at the same time embarrassed that I need his company, which really feel more like babysitting. And it makes me feel even worse for having a miscarriage.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:12 AM Flag
You both need to acknowledge that this is an incredibly difficult time for BOTH of you. He is in pain too. Try to remember that you are on the same team. Its not a time to find every little fault with him. Take care of yourself physically and emotionally and clearly explain to him that you would like to spend more time with him because you are hurting. He may be "taking care" of himself by working as many men do, ie. focusing on something other than the emotional pain he is experiencing. Don't try to fight with him right now, just try to lean on eachother as much as possible, but also lean on yourself. Find your own strength to get through this terrible time.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:07 AM Flag-
np: sometimes it helps to lean on someone else who's experienced similar pain in the past so can understand but is not grieving this particular loss. is there anyone else in your life you could ask?
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:17 AM FlagI don't know anyone who has had miscarriages, or in my case, back to back miscarriages. Probably the real issue is that I don't have anyone besides my dh who is obligated to indulge my pity party. After I tell someone about my miscarriage, I feel like the socially polite thing to do is be cavalier about it and change the subject so they don't feel awkward. Any support group recommendations?
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:26 AM Flagi don't have any personal experience with this so no recommendations, but i know there are so many women who've experienced what you have. ask your doctor - she might have a recommendation. also look online, there are a lot of support forums for fertility-related issues. a good friend SHOULD be willing to listen to you even if she can't understand. i'm really sorry for your losses.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:34 AM FlagI have had two back to back m/cs, so I can talk to you over UB if you'd like. I don't feel, though, that you need to feel the need to change the subject. Your friends are there for you for this reason. If it appears someone doesn't want to talk about it, I wouldn't take it personally either. I certainly didn't IRL because it was my private business and no one knows except DH and my mom.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 08:23 AM Flag
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I think you are being terribly insensitive, but I realize it is a tough time. I had a miscarriage and not only did DH work throughout it- so did I. Do you expect him to lose his job to spend time with you? Work comes first. And I am sorry for your loss.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 06:53 AM FlagI definitely see that I am being needy and overly sensitive to his canceling plans. It's his company, and they have a work from home environment. It's practically policy that people do it, although I get that he is needed more than other people. Like the poster below suggested, I am largely responding to the fact that he's using the miscarriage as a defense. I vacillate hourly between being highly upset about it and wanting to move on. As I type this now, I'm wondering what the big deal was. But if tomorrow something again comes up and I bitch about it, I definitely do not want to be reminded that he worked from home two days last week. And I was in the hospital for one of them!
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 07:18 AM Flag
If he needs to work, he needs to work. As far as his falling back on those 2 days last week, it would all depend on tone. If his point is that he was home twice last week and therefore he has little leeway at work this week that is very different than him saying I was there for you last week, now leave me alone.
[ Reply | More ]06.08.11, 07:59 AM Flag
[+] I just found out that I'm pregnant with #2 last night. I'm literally 4.5 weeks along,... 8 replies
- I had one pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage, and another one that ended in a healthy baby, and I just wanted to eat as soon as I knew that I was pregnant. This time I'm going to stick to a good pregnancy diet with proper nutrition and not just eat because I'm pregnant. At least,...
Talk : : June 07, 2011
I just found out that I'm pregnant with #2 last night. I'm literally 4.5 weeks along, but why am I all of a sudden hungry? I had a good breakfast (egg on half a bagel with black beans) and a yogurt as a snack... I know it's psychological and I'm not actually hungry, but why am I psychologically predisposed to gain a ton of weight during pregnancy?? I gained 37 lbs last time. I'm going to eat lunch at 12:30 like I always do, but WTH?
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.07.11, 09:04 AM Flag ]no it may not be psychological. 2 days before I got my BFP I had to, and I mean had to have lunch at 10am. I didn't think I was pregnant. The positive was a big surprise since I had only had sex once in 2 months.
[ Reply | More ]06.07.11, 09:21 AM FlagI had one pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage, and another one that ended in a healthy baby, and I just wanted to eat as soon as I knew that I was pregnant. This time I'm going to stick to a good pregnancy diet with proper nutrition and not just eat because I'm pregnant. At least, not in the first trimester when the fetus does not need calories but vitamins.
[ Reply | More ]06.07.11, 09:24 AM Flag
Split your lunch up and eat some of it now. Do not let yourself get to hungry or you will get nauseous (psychological or not!) oh and congrats!!
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[+] What are all your medical issues, and how are you handling them (mentally, emotionall... 36 replies
- vulvodynia, recurrent miscarriages (not related). I am very grateful for my otherwise great health, but sometimes I feel down for a little while....
Talk : : June 06, 2011
What are all your medical issues, and how are you handling them (mentally, emotionally, physically)?
36 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.06.11, 04:41 PM Flag ]breast cancer, low thyroid for me, colitis for ds. all's pretty well now, thanks.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:42 PM FlagI'm sorry to hear that. Is your breast cancer in remission, or are you currently being treated?
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:49 PM Flagin remission, thanks (3 yrs). have never been in better shape in my life!
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:49 PM FlagThat's so awesome! It's very reassuring to hear that you can recover from such a tragedy. I am sorry about DS's colitis; that must be very difficult for a child to handle. My friend's son has some issues now, and they are ruling out colitis. Apparently, this has become more common in children over the last few decades.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:52 PM Flag
I have PCOS and a very enlarged ovary. I also have vestibular migraines, vertigo, and alopecia. Basically, I'm an ugly, ugly lady who is both balding and hairy as well as dizzy and fat and nearsighted.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:45 PM FlagOhhh, don't talk that way about yourself. I'm sure you are none of those things. Are those conditions related?
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:48 PM FlagThe alopecia is from the PCOS as well as facial hair. The vestibular migraines & dizziness I've had since a teen. It could be worse. It could be a LOT worse, I know. PCOS is awful, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:50 PM FlagIs there a treatment you can tolerate (birth control pills, maybe?)?
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:53 PM FlagYep, I only have a menstrual cycle when I'm on the pill, so that definitely helps things. The strangest thing is the PCOS symptoms started about 6 mos after I had my DD. Weird huh? Before that I was fertile & fine.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:56 PM FlagWow, that is odd. Were you on birth control when you were younger?
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:00 PM FlagI had regular cycles from age 11 to 20, went on birth control from 20-27. Conceived DD easily. From 28-33, super irregular, long cycles. Just getting things checked out now, learned recently about PCOS. Facial hair & alopecia developed after DD was born. Was also told it would be unlikely to conceive again w/o intervention like Clomid.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:05 PM FlagDo they think that the years of birth control might have contributed to the PCOS? I ask because I have a lot of hormonal issue now and was also on BC for 7 years (age 17-24).
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:10 PM FlagMy Dr seems to think that the birth control *masked* the symptoms of PCOS that I might have had, but never said anything about contributing to it. BC of course gives you false regular cycles, it can also suppress ovarian cysts, so I never had the symptoms then. I hope you find a good resolution for your issues, too!
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:11 PM Flag
I'm just wondering, have you seen a Dietitian / Nutritionist? I wonder if there is a particular diet you should be on to help some of the symptoms?
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I'm not an expert, but I'm just one of those people who always looks at diet as a link to health. Just some quick googling brought me to this book: http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Diet-Solution-PCOS-Infertility/dp/B000NIF1EE and this site: http://www.pcosnutrition.com/
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:26 PM Flag^^It seems like there is something specific with insulin resistance, and there are certain foods you can eat to help with this. I'm sure you have tried everything, but perhaps this can help. I just found this lady in NY (assuming you are in NY) who has PCOS as one of her specialties: http://www.martha-nutritionist.com/
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:31 PM Flag
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Hypothyroid, Secondary infertility, IBS, unexplained elevated white counts, floaters in my eyes. Fun, fun
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:51 PM FlagI'm sorry you are so unhappy--I had alopecia for years when I was younger and I would get so embarrassed sometimes. I also have migraines and vertigo...are you being treated for any of your symptoms?
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:52 PM FlagI need to lose weight to help a bit with the PCOS. I use Nioxin on my hair but that has only helped a little. I shave my face every day and have never told anyone that. I can treat the migraines but the dizziness just comes and goes. Compared to so many other people I have NOTHING to complain about and I'm really grateful for the access to medical care that we do have in this country.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 04:54 PM Flag
I don't have any (other than being obese, which I'm working on).
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I have an eating disorder that I seem unable to do anything about.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:22 PM FlagYou are able to do something about it. You simply choose not to. Here's what to do: (1) get a referral for an ED therapist by calling Center for Study of Anorexia and Bulimia tomorrow morning. (2) Call that therapist and schedule an appt. (3) attend said appt. and schedule weekly appts. (4) attend weekly appts and begin your road to recovery. You are not a victim. Stop acting like one.
[ Reply | More ]06.06.11, 05:24 PM Flag
[+] What do you think of women who have four or more kids? 30 replies
- Ditto on being one of 9-- I have 3, just had a miscarriage so I'm thinking that 3 is it for me! It is fun!...
Talk : : June 04, 2011
What do you think of women who have four or more kids?
30 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.04.11, 02:41 PM Flag ]-
If they aren't religious, I figure they must not mind being pregnant. Also (though I do think it is so rude to say to someone with 2 boys "are you going to try for a girl?") I can't help noticing that many younger families of 4 have 3 boys, youngest is a girl. Or vice versa.
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 02:46 PM FlagTheir identity and sense of self are very wrapped up in motherhood.
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 03:12 PM FlagAs a mother of two motherhood is a big part of my identity too. My children are the most important people in my life. Being there mother IS a huge part of who I am! Doesn't mean I don't have other interests. But why would it not be a big part of your identity at any number?
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 03:18 PM Flag
I came from a HUGE family. 9 kids. I loved it! My family was very happy and so much fun! I don't know that I'll have 9. But I hope to have 4 or maybe more. We'll see.
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 03:16 PM FlagThat she is living a life I would consider a nightmare but one that makes her very happy and that we all have different views on what a great life is.
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 04:37 PM FlagI'm a SAHM of 5 and that's how I feel about my WOHM in demanding careers! Haha. I don't judge their choice at all. I just can't imagine wanting to do it given the choice. We're all very different, and I'm glad of it!
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 04:46 PM FlagExactly. I work outside the home but thats me, I get a little neurotic if I am cooped up in the house and honestly love my DCs but they are older, in school and so I do other things. I get the charm and appeal of staying at home too, just wasn't for me though at first I liked it!
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 04:51 PM Flag
The ones I know are either poor or very rich, not in between. If they are older and have 3 of one gender and then suddenly pop out another of opp. gender, I think for sure spun the sperm or did the type of IVF that can test gender and put back just one gender.
[ Reply | More ]06.04.11, 05:45 PM FlagIt depends. If she is on welfare and the kids are by 4 different fathers (i.e., she just keeps getting pregnant and having more kids, despite not having a job nor any means of support), I'm definitely put off. If she can afford them, the more the merrier.
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[+] anyone use dr. baxi? saw her today for the first time and something w/ her bedside ma... 3 replies
- a horrible experience with her years ago. I miscarried and she kept referring to means the girl who drank too much. I had told her when I found out I was pregnant that I had some drinks before I knew I was pregnant. Even after the miscarriage she would say at the beginning of the appt looking at my folder "oh yes, the girl who had too many drinks." I absolutely hated her and she was unfriendly to my dh from the get go. I'm also Asian which she would continually...
Talk : : June 02, 2011
anyone use dr. baxi? saw her today for the first time and something w/ her bedside manner didn't sit well with me..
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.02.11, 06:20 PM Flag ]Omg I had a horrible experience with her years ago. I miscarried and she kept referring to means the girl who drank too much. I had told her when I found out I was pregnant that I had some drinks before I knew I was pregnant. Even after the miscarriage she would say at the beginning of the appt looking at my folder "oh yes, the girl who had too many drinks." I absolutely hated her and she was unfriendly to my dh from the get go. I'm also Asian which she would continually bring up as well for some weird reason. I can't believe she's still practicing but has probably published some useful research or something.
[ Reply | More ]06.02.11, 08:50 PM FlagOP: oh no, so i hear people love her and she was clearly very competent and she tried to be nice, i don't know if its a cultural barrier or what, but i felt a little intimidated by her and that she's a little bit like a dictator? but i'm torn, because she has a stellar reputation and is really supposed to be one of the best doctors medically..don't know if i should just bite the bullet..
[ Reply | More ]06.03.11, 05:23 AM Flag
[+] what do you think - is is possible to spend the next hour on here being completely ki... 11 replies
- needs help/support, the women here come together in a positive way. The claws usually come out when it comes to very trivial things (engagement rings, clothes, country homes), but when it's a real problem (DC's illness, miscarriage, infertility, infidelity) the help is honest and kind. Just my thoughts....
Talk : : June 02, 2011
what do you think - is is possible to spend the next hour on here being completely kind? Putting some positive vibes out into cyber world...what do you cay UB?
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I'll reply to my own post. I think that the fact that so many women with actual calls for help actually find support from complete strangers on here. I , for one, and am going to try and be a better listener to my friends as a lesson learned after seeing so many supportive strangers on here. mind you I'm choosing to overlook the non supportive postings and suggest you do too! at least for a bit.
[ Reply | More ]06.02.11, 05:45 PM FlagI agree. I love this board for its honesty, but I am really shocked at how many mean things people seem to feel. I try to be honest when I think someone is wrong, but not mean for the sake of being mean.
[ Reply | More ]06.02.11, 05:50 PM FlagNP: Women here are horrible and mean, but I think that when an OP is really genuine and obviously needs help/support, the women here come together in a positive way. The claws usually come out when it comes to very trivial things (engagement rings, clothes, country homes), but when it's a real problem (DC's illness, miscarriage, infertility, infidelity) the help is honest and kind. Just my thoughts.
[ Reply | More ]06.02.11, 05:53 PM FlagI agree. I've been called every name in the book for voicing an unpopular opinion (unpopular to some at least) on posts about schools, for example, but when I asked for help with my boyfriend, everyone jumped in and gave me great, honest advice and support- probably even the ones who were calling me a bitch at the exact same time in a different post. So, I am thankful for the support of strangers- it feels different than support from friends, because it's more objective and more honest, since you don't have to say it to my face and risk our friendship over your advice, or risk me repeating it to my boyfriend!
[ Reply | More ]06.02.11, 06:08 PM Flag
[+] If you could complain about one petty thing this morning, what would it be? 80 replies
- 13 years ago is a long time. Perhaps she's had miscarriages in between and just doesn't want to tell anyone....
Talk : : June 01, 2011
If you could complain about one petty thing this morning, what would it be?
80 replies [ Reply | Watch | More06.01.11, 06:38 AM Flag ]that no one offered me a seat on the subway and i'm due in like 5 minutes.
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 06:43 AM FlagSuch a martyr! If you're so disabled by pregnancy why would you even consider working whilst?
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 06:48 AM FlagWow! Some incredibly bitchy comments in response! I'm pg now and I totally get this "petty" complaint. I don't make a big deal out of it or anything, but it doesn't make me or other pg women "martyr"s for thinking it'd be nice to be offered a damned seat. You raised by miscreants or something?
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 11:36 AM Flag
Twice I stood in front of the person who should have given me a seat and just let myself fart. Never mess with a 9-month pregnant woman.
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 07:25 AM Flag
not poster above - but I have a coworker that I spend too much energy hating.
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 06:54 AM Flagno above poster either - but I do too - have to remind myself when I am getting crazy that it does no good!
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Managed to get hired for a job she wasn't qualified for so I have to fill her in on everything and then she takes credit for all the work. Insults me with regularity. Territorial once she has the information. Also presents my ideas back to me as if I wasn't the one that suggested them to her.
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 08:27 AM Flag
using eye drops for my allergies is going to make my mascara run, even though it's supposed to be waterproof
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 06:55 AM FlagMy doorman is always texting on his new phone and never bothers to open the door. Petty, yes, but he's the DOORman. Open the freaking DOOR!
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 06:57 AM Flagnp: last big building I lived in left me annoyed and flabbergasted on a daily basis re. the doormen. There were always two on duty. Yes, neither one did *anything*. One stood behind the counter. The other stood a few steps away from the door and didn't move. Occasionally they'd just give up the charade and sit on the bench. It was an interesting study in how having two resulted in them seemingly competing to do the least. Routinely, myself and other parents would arrive with a stroller, toddler, bags, etc and they would NOT move. I would have to put down the bags, open door, and try to maneuver in backwards unless some other kind resident helped. Right when you were almost entirely thru, one of them would magically appear and pretend to be holding the door open as if he had done something useful. Occasionally they would simply prop the door open and avoid all pretense.
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That's odd. Complain to the management co. Our doormen are always jumping to open the door and otherwise help people, and we're in a MC co-op in Queens--not a super-luxury bldg. by any means.
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 08:48 AM Flag
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Friend complaining about how tired she is plus her heat flashes. She is in her 1st month of pregnancy. Telling everyone she has to take it easy to avoid a miscarriage. She conceived very easily, and has a perfectly healthy 13yo DC whose pregnancy had no complications.
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get your f'ing metrocard out of your wallet BEFORE you step into the turnstile
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 09:22 AM FlagPeople who talk about their weight ALL THE TIME. Why is this a topic of conversation? And why do I care? If you want to lose weight, just exercise or eat less or both.
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Someone please tell me, why oh why are civil service employees, so f**king rude?!!! They act as if they're doing you a favor answering your question or just doing whatever their job requires. I don't care whether it's the Post Office, DMV, the pound where they tow your car, etc., etc. I know their jobs are not easy, because probably most of the time they're dealing with real a**holes, but you took the job right?! And no I was not rude, just had a simple question about hours of availability which were NOT posted on the web site. Done!
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 10:24 AM FlagShit-ass nanny who filed a claim against us with the Labor Department and lied about her earnings, effectively double-dipping from us, and then two-timing the Labor Dept by simultaneously collecting unemployment, all while holding down a new job. Really, really would like her to die a miserable slow and painful death and soon.
[ Reply | More ]06.01.11, 01:33 PM Flag
[+] I'm TTC and so far, everyone I have ever spoken to has had a complicated pregnancy (g... 15 replies
- It is possible. I envy the naivete I had with my first. Then I had two miscarriages and many years of infertility. But, the other babies were born healthy but I didn't enjoy their pregnancies as much unfortunately....
Talk : : May 29, 2011
I'm TTC and so far, everyone I have ever spoken to has had a complicated pregnancy (gestational diabetes, low fluid, blood clots, etc.). Please tell me it's possible to have a low stress pregnancy and delivery!
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.29.11, 05:48 PM Flag ]People can't help but share their pregnancy and birth traumas. Also, since you're in a city with a high c-birth rate so you'll hear about all the reasons for them. "low fluid" is a common reason for inductions, which are more likely to result in c-birth, but they sometimes happen bec OBs are no longer comfortable allowing women to stay pregnant past due dates. some practices will induce 3 days post edd. sometimes gestational diabetes gets thrown around when it looks like a big baby, and the woman hasn't actually crossed over to diabetes territory. Anyway, be careful with whom you discuss your efforts ttc!
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 05:54 PM FlagI had no issues either pregnancy -- aside from being huge and hot w/ #2 (born end of August)! Complications are not so common -- especially serious ones. They also lowered the range for GD recently so it's more common. It's nothing to worry about - just something to monitor. Don't start worrying about this stuff while you're TTC!! Just enjoy the trying part :)
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 05:59 PM FlagPlenty of moms have wonderful pregnancies. I had two great pregnancies, thank God. I am on my 3rd now and thank God it's going great. People always share the worst experiences. I make it a point to never share my birth experiences with pregnant women. I just encourage them to educate themselves and be open to however it happens.
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 06:05 PM FlagI had the easiest pregnancy known to humanity. I had no first trimester symptoms and didn't even know I was pregnant until I was almost 10 weeks. No diabetes, no issues at all. I went into labor at around 38 weeks and had a normal delivery of a completely healthy 6 and a half pound DD. I was 35 years old.
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 06:25 PM FlagThis is the result of over-medicalized birth. If you are not interested in hearing about it, or hearing about how you should definitely get/not get an epidural ot interventions, just say, 'thanks for your input, but i'm just trying to be positive' or 'it doesn't have to be that way' and change the subject. GL.
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 06:29 PM FlagIt's certainly possible. I'm the oldest of 9 kids. All 9 of my mother's pregnancies went swimmingly. She felt great. Happy and extra energetic. By personality she's not one to stress about much, but in addition she truly didn't encounter any complications. Even in her later pregnancies during her early 40's. I had no idea how common small complications were until my friends started having babies!
[ Reply | More ]05.30.11, 05:23 AM Flag
[+] Any women who had PCOS on here and ended up not able to have kids? I am 32... at Cor... 8 replies
- (with or without IUI) was just a numbers game-- it would happen one month or another. But we also knew that I didn't have any other problems (blockages, etc), because I have had 3 prior pregnancies in the past (one ended in miscarriage)....
Talk : : May 28, 2011
Any women who had PCOS on here and ended up not able to have kids? I am 32... at Cornell in NYC but worried to death that it won't work out ( they said it should, just will take time). I am terrified.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.28.11, 09:29 PM Flag ]I have PCOS, am 38, pregnant with my second child, and also treated at Cornell. I used a combination of glucophage and clomid with IUI, and became pregnant on my first try at Cornell. This was after being unsuccessful at Columbia's clinic for a few months,where they were dosing my clomid too low and were too scattered because I was seeing a different doctor each time I went. My recommendation is for you to realize that many many women with PCOS become pregnant. But stress is your enemy here. Try to relax. If the doctors say then can help you, then try to trust in that. Cornell is top-notch, so you are with the best.
[ Reply | More ]05.28.11, 11:17 PM FlagI have pcos and had 3 failed Iui at NYU. Finally, got prega
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 06:14 AM FlagOR: Curious. Did you ovulate during each of the cycles? My problem (consistent with PCOS) is that I don't ovulate regularly. The clomid and glucophage helped, but only after clomid was taken at high doses for longer periods of time. As soon as I ovulated, we knew that getting pregnant (with or without IUI) was just a numbers game-- it would happen one month or another. But we also knew that I didn't have any other problems (blockages, etc), because I have had 3 prior pregnancies in the past (one ended in miscarriage).
[ Reply | More ]05.29.11, 06:54 AM FlagSorry for late reply but my problem was the same I didn't ovulate regularly (cycles tended to be at least 35 to 38 days) and acupuncture did help shorten them and I think it also helped improve the quality of the eggs.
[ Reply | More ]05.31.11, 12:36 PM FlagI'm the OR from above who is currently pregnant after going to cornell. I only ovulate normally every 4 months or so, if you can believe that!! PCOS to the extreme. Glucophage helps regulate it a little, but not completely. So that is why I was so happy with Cornell. They figured out that I just needed higher doses of Clomid to push me to ovulate-- and then, bang, got pregnant. Dr. Spandorfer is great.
[ Reply | More ]05.31.11, 12:55 PM Flag
PCOS was not my issue, but please don't be terrified. You're at a great clinic, and have a dx at the age of 32. So many women don't get here until much later, and age always makes it tougher. As I'm sure you've been told, it's my understanding that it's one of the easier situations to address, especially since you're younger. Dr Licciardi at NYU has a blog infertilityblog. Search PCOS. Very informative.
[ Reply | More ]05.31.11, 01:01 PM Flag
[+] How many kids are in the largest family that you know personally (with all kids being... 19 replies
- My dh's aunt had 12 kids--10 girls, 2 boys (and 3 miscarriages). All still living--oldest born in the early 60s. Controlling, abusive, evangelical Catholic father. I know this doesn't quite fit your criteria, but it is the largest family I've ever known....
Talk : : May 27, 2011
How many kids are in the largest family that you know personally (with all kids being born after 1980)? And where do they live?
19 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.27.11, 06:59 AM Flag ]-
in Manhattan, 4 kids. in the suburbs, 5 kids. i do know a woman personally, but i'm not friends with her - met her while traveling - who has 12 kids ranging in ages from 4yo to 28yo (and i think she had 1 or 2 grandkids) and she wasn't even 50yo! She lives in the South and her husband is a minister. She was pretty incredible to talk to - very normal, down to earth - just amazed that she handled so many kids!
[ Reply | More ]05.27.11, 08:54 AM Flag10. Catholics. The mother actually adopted the eldest daughter's illegitimate son and raised him as one of the rest of the children. They're all a little f****d up.
[ Reply | More ]05.27.11, 09:03 AM FlagI'm the oldest of 9. My mom's sister has 12. Not Catholic or Mormon.
[ Reply | More ]05.27.11, 10:09 AM Flag14, but a few kids were born before 1980. they live in north st louis.
[ Reply | More ]05.27.11, 10:18 AM Flag
[+] I'm 5 weeks and still no symptoms. No nausea, no sore bbs, no fatigue, really nothing... 6 replies
- i didn't have anything at 5 weeks. wait a couple of weeks. stop worrying. miscarriages are common. you'll be fine....
Talk : : May 26, 2011
I'm 5 weeks and still no symptoms. No nausea, no sore bbs, no fatigue, really nothing. Should I be worried? Last pg ended in miscarriage, so I'm really anxious for some sign that this one is sticking.
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreI didn't feel anything for at least 6 weeks, maybe longer. Then I threw up for three months straight.
[ Reply | More ]05.26.11, 04:17 PM FlagI'm sorry you are feeling anxiety. I'm 15 weeks after a loss at 8 weeks and I'm having loads of symptoms, but those symptoms started at 6 weeks, almost like clockwork. However, I have several close girlfriends also pregnant after losses and only one of them has been ill. So variable. Good luck.
[ Reply | More ]05.31.11, 05:00 PM Flag
[+] Had spotting so I thought i had started my period. Went to a bbq, drank 3 glasses or ... 33 replies
- I'm not sure if I should say this since you'll probably be fine. But I was in the same situation last year and had a miscarriage four days later....
Talk : : May 26, 2011
Had spotting so I thought i had started my period. Went to a bbq, drank 3 glasses or more of wine. Took a pg test a couple of days later and found out I was 4.3 weeks. How much damage did I do? I feel so stupid....
33 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.26.11, 03:53 AM Flag ]The embryo is free floating at that stage--not sharing a blood supply with you. I drank A LOT before I knew I was pg with #1 (having never been pg before, I wasn't really thinking about being late--didn't figure it out until I was nearly 6 weeks). Dc is fine.
[ Reply | More ]05.26.11, 04:55 AM Flag-
I did the same stupid thing -- got throwing-up drunk for the only time in my life EVER three days before finding out I was pregnant. baby's fine.
[ Reply | More ]05.26.11, 06:16 AM Flagnone. you are fine. I had this same scare, was running in 90 degree weather, drinking with colleagues on a work trip (like 4 nights :0) found out I was pg and freaked. My Ob (who specialized in neurological disorders) told me not to worry (baby is getting all it needs from a blastocyst??). Anywho, this ds is my very smartest kid. lol.
[ Reply | More ]05.26.11, 10:02 AM Flag
[+] 43 yo mom to one dc here...after three miscarriages considering IVF w/ genetic testin... 7 replies
- easily and it may just be a numbers game of finding that good egg. My friend at your age had several miscarriages and then a healthy pregnancy and baby, but do you have that kind of stamina? You should go to Cornell and...and it happens at a higher rate for people who are in our age bracket. I also know someone who had three miscarriages and her Dr starting giving her progesterone the second she tested positive for pregnancy and she carried to term and delivery...
Talk : : May 25, 2011
43 yo mom to one dc here...after three miscarriages considering IVF w/ genetic testing. i'm healthy, had all the tests, we need to find some good eggs. wondering if anyone BTDT and how many cycles it took for a healthy baby. tia!
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.25.11, 02:02 PM Flag ]I was where you are at 41 and decided not to do PGD with IVF, as the odds were so low. Got pregnant the next month with healthy DC.
[ Reply | More ]05.25.11, 02:07 PM Flagso FSH is good, etc? some people say at over age 42 IVF is hard on the eggs and they are more fragile, sounds like you get pregnant easily and it may just be a numbers game of finding that good egg. My friend at your age had several miscarriages and then a healthy pregnancy and baby, but do you have that kind of stamina? You should go to Cornell and they will be realistic, will probably ask if you are interested in donor egg, etc. But I think they will work with your eggs until age 45.
[ Reply | More ]05.25.11, 02:10 PM Flagjust wanted to mention (I'm 42.5 and also have 1 child and want another)...I have been researching a lot lately and just wanted to see if you have your progesterone level checked the minute you knew your were pregnant? Apparently people with low prog can miscarry and it happens at a higher rate for people who are in our age bracket. I also know someone who had three miscarriages and her Dr starting giving her progesterone the second she tested positive for pregnancy and she carried to term and delivery a healthy baby.
[ Reply | More ]05.25.11, 02:10 PM FlagI was given progesterone for pregnancy before 2nd mc...my RE believes that low progesterone is the symptom not the cure. If the egg is good, then the levels will be fine. I know there are differing opinions about this. I'm processing all the info I can and it seems that we need to find good eggs- either by natural methods of trying and seeing what happens of letting IVF sort it out.
[ Reply | More ]05.25.11, 02:13 PM Flag
[+] I really think my Type A personality is contributing to our infertility issues (multi... 56 replies
- months to get one). We had the first miscarriage analyzed and it was determined to be a chromosomal...
- A chemical pregnancy isn't really a miscarriage, although it wouldn't hurt to get a medical...is proven to be quite helpful with fertility and miscarriage problems, even traditional MDs agree; find a great accupuncturist who...issues and multiple miscarriages. first, let yourself mourn your miscarriages, which are deaths of would be babies you grew...
Talk : : May 23, 2011
I really think my Type A personality is contributing to our infertility issues (multiple early miscarriages). I am basically micromanaging my uterus, but I don't know if I can change my nature. What do you do for natural stress relief? Exercise in group settings tends to make me more stressed out.
56 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.23.11, 11:03 AM Flag ]Acupuncture? Massage is great, yoga, less caffeine, eating healthy foods, going out with dh on a regular basis, lots of sleep, a glass of wine each night (red is healthier), music can be a stress reliever, talking with friends who have gone through infertility issues. GL! And try to trust your body. Good wishes being sent your way.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:15 AM Flagbefore you go and have that baby shouldn't you do something to calm down?
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:16 AM FlagOP: Perhaps, but this is just how I am as a person. I am very take-charge and I feel like I should take action on something rather than sit around and wait. I'm not necessarily super stressed, but my friends and family seem to think that the fact that I'm micromanaging my fertility is causing issues. Reading on the internet seems to support this, but I'm not sure if I buy into it.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:25 AM FlagI really disagree with the poster who told you to "calm down" before having kids. You are who you are. I am just like you. Now that I am a mom I do need to manage my control issues, and it's a journey! And before that, I needed to manage the anxiety I've always suffered from in order to have a healthy pregnancy. Lots of yoga! I definitely agree that you should talk to someone, a therapist, a friend- you need to release all that you're carrying around with you. You CAN get pregnant. Think positively, and good luck :)
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:31 AM Flagmaybe she has a physical problem. OP I am assuming you see an RE?
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:45 AM FlagOP: We have an appt with one next week (took several months to get one). We had the first miscarriage analyzed and it was determined to be a chromosomal abnormality, which they insist is a fluke. There have been 2 other chemical pregnancies since. Hopefully, we will find out if it's a physical problem soon enough.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:50 AM Flag
it is not your fault, I promise. talk to someone about the infertility, it is what is steressing you out. infertility is causing the stress, and not vice versa. women get pregnant during wars, famines, etc. it is not your fault.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:18 AM FlagThere was just a study linking stress to INCREASED chance of conceiving. Don't remember the link, but remember thinking how women should stop blaming their personalities for infertility. So DON'T blame your stress levels - it is not making you less likely to conceive. Exercise if you want to, or if it makes you feel better.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:36 AM Flaghttp://abcnews.go.com/Health/w_RelationshipNews/stress-decrease-chances-pregnant/story?id=12994215
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:52 AM Flag
exactly. the "learn to relax and eat more" advice, and subsequent anecdotes about so and so and how she got PG after she started drinking more or whatever (of course so and so didn't share with the person giving advice that is so unh--whether or not it's well meaning--is so unhelpful.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 12:27 PM Flagexactly. And I know it's hard to get the genie back in the bottle but I strongly encourage you to try to STOP talking about ttc with almost everyone. Only discuss the RE, your plans, anxieties, etc... with one or two people you really trust. If anyone else asks, nicely shut it down. "Oh, taking a break from worrying about it." and change the subject. I had to do this, it was a PITA but I couldn't face all the well meaning inquiries. And anecdotes about "so and so: and how she got PG after she started eating or drinking more, or whatever. (Of course "so and so" didn't share with the blabbermouth giving you this advice that she actually did IVF.) Hang in there OP.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 12:32 PM Flag
my geneticist uncle said to his ultra fit type A daughter, "Put on five-ten pounds." She spent a fortune on tests and eventually her RE told her, "put on five to ten pounds."
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:35 AM Flagwould be true for some of the media/acting types who have to keep their BMI below 15 to keep their jobs. Of course, only the females are forced to be that thin.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:41 AM FlagYeah, Brad Pitt is a friggin slob. And don't get me started on those fat turds Tom Cruise and Matthew McConnaghey.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:44 AM FlagWell, at least they don't look like they need feeding tubes. One of their wives - excuse me, I mean "partners" - does IMO.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:48 AM Flag
That's just not true. This idea that the woman is "too thin" and "too stressed" is disgusting- 50% of infertility is male but everyone always forgets that.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:51 AM Flag
I'm sorry op. I was in your same canoe. The only point at which I got a grip on things was when I ultimately invested whole boat in the adoption process. I knew where that trip would end. Ultimately I ended up with triplets (denver -- ccrm, it removed me from my life) and then ultimatly had a "surprise" pregnancy. Please keep the faith and dont be so hard on yourself. Being type a has its advantages in life.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 11:55 AM Flaglearn to breathe...I am not being "funny"..Really relearn how to breathe. You cannot stay stressed while taking deep belly breaths. Physically impossible. And having to concentrate on that will automatically make you slow DOWN.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 12:16 PM FlagWhat I did, and I'm very Type A: Saw a dietictian (sp?) before and learned what to eat (basically 100 grams of protein a day), trained with a personal trainer...hard cardio and free weights. Had our DS when I was 40, kid is built like a tank, never sick and I was able to channel my micromanaging into creating an awesome environment for the baby. Also, almost effortless delivery, quick recovery and a very active mom.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 05:42 PM FlagNo, nothing to do with it, and use your type A personality to be tenacious and get through this. Accupuncture is proven to be quite helpful with fertility and miscarriage problems, even traditional MDs agree; find a great accupuncturist who specializes in this, side benefit may be some relaxation.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 06:34 PM FlagGo natural, acupunture is amazing, yoga too, how old are you?
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 06:42 PM Flagmassage therapist mom here. i'm sorry you are having fertility issues and multiple miscarriages. first, let yourself mourn your miscarriages, which are deaths of would be babies you grew attached to. release your feelings through having some kind of ceremony so you can start afresh. second, nurture yourself. i told one friend who was having infertility issues to think of her body as an environment for her baby. if the environment is stressed out, the body will decide it's not a safe place to create a life. by nurture yourself, i mean LOVE yourself. forgive yourself for not being perfect (wake up call: you're not, nobody is). feed yourself good, healthy foods, get exercise in fresh hair that is more about awakening and refreshing your body than *looking good.* take time to just do nothing, make yourself a cup of tea, read the funnies, daydream and look at the clouds. if you have a stressful work schedule, try to reschedule it if possible. third, there are therapies. of course i am bias because i am in the field, but massage therapy has physical/emotional/spiritual/mental benefits. get a massage at least once a month. i love acupuncture as well, and there are acupuncturists who specialize in fertility treatments. you mentioned you are stressed in group settings for exercise - maybe avoid group settings in general. there is a lot of (for lack of a better word) *energy* in large groups with everybody having their say and different opinions. you have to learn how to tune them out and listen to your own heart (not your million-miles-an-hour brain, your HEART), or take a break from the groups altogether. learn to meditate and breathe. one last thing: real food for mother and baby by nina planck. lots of healthy fats and fish oils. good luck.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 08:39 PM Flagweird UB just cut off the rest of my answer. what i also said was 3) therapies such as massage (at least 1x a month) and acupuncture for fertility because they help you get out of your head and into your body. and 4) read real food for mother and baby by nina planck because there's a whole section about fertility diets. good luck.
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 08:51 PM Flag
[+] Just found out I'm pg. Last one ended in miscarriage. So anxious... 3 replies
- Miscarriage is just heartbreaking. But I have so many friends whose amazing children were preceded by a miscarriage. Try to distract yourself while you wait it out...
- If it helps, the "pregnant after miscarriage" in my house will be two in a couple of weeks. She is adorable and her new favorite thing is to Grrrr! like a monster. (She has a bunch...
Talk : : May 23, 2011
Just found out I'm pg. Last one ended in miscarriage. So anxious...
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreAs one who's previous pregnancy ended in mc and who is currently 17 weeks along now...I know this can be an incredibly challenging time/journey. Be kind to yourself. Take a deep breath, take it day by day, week by week. Someone had suggested this phrase from one of my loss boards which I say to myself during these times "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby". Wishing you the best & Good Luck!!
[ Reply | More ]05.23.11, 10:21 AM Flag
[+] Does an RE help with miscarriages as well as general infertility? 8 replies
- Thank you. I had one miscarriage due to chromosomal abnormalities and now 2 chemical pregnancies. Did your RE monitor your pregnancy during the early stages?...
Talk : : May 22, 2011
Does an RE help with miscarriages as well as general infertility?
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.22.11, 03:34 PM Flag ]yes, they help with recurrent miscarriage. After my first, I went to RE. If you lost a baby, I'm so sorry.
[ Reply | More ]05.22.11, 03:37 PM FlagThank you. I had one miscarriage due to chromosomal abnormalities and now 2 chemical pregnancies. Did your RE monitor your pregnancy during the early stages?
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I'm so sorry. My story - got pregnant - had a second trimester loss. Found an RE when I was pregnant again, lost that baby due to chromosomal abnormality. The RE is the one who did the D&C and the fetal tissue testing and told me why I lost that baby - got pregnant again - went to RE, but my guy left the practice so I went back to my regular OB and have a wonderful ds now. RE's are great. And they will manage your entire pregnancy if you desire.
[ Reply | More ]05.22.11, 03:51 PM Flag
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[+] Maybe an odd question...how long does it take for a miscarriage to occur or last? St... 6 replies
- I am so sorry, op. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, but went on to have 3 healthy dc. I know this is of small comfort right at this moment. xoxo...
Talk : : May 21, 2011
Maybe an odd question...how long does it take for a miscarriage to occur or last? Started spotting on Thursday to Friday, went in for an U/S, no heartbeat and they couldn't schedule a D&C until Tuesday. Definitely feeling crampy, some flow, etc. This is miserable.
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.21.11, 02:21 PM Flag ]I am so sorry, op. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, but went on to have 3 healthy dc. I know this is of small comfort right at this moment. xoxo
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 02:25 PM FlagThanks. I'm very lucky that I do have 3 super healthy DCs and even though this pg was an unplanned surprise, it would have been great. With the other 3 very easy conceptions and pregnancies. I have had friends and family members go through this, but totally unprepared for the physical and emotional toll.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 02:31 PM Flag
I am so sorry. Had the same thing. But, no spotting for a month, went to ob who sent me to the hospital ASAP for d&c. It is good that you are scheduled. You can start trying again after one or two periods. You will go on to have beautiful child. The majority of women miscarry.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 02:38 PM FlagI just wanted to say I am so sorry you have to go through this. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 8.5 weeks and took Cytotec to clear it out and ended up not needing a D&C. Had been spotting prior to learning I was miscarrying, but after I took the Cytotec I bled and spotted for about a week. Wishing you healthy vibes.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 02:40 PM Flag
[+] DH says I'm drinking too much coffee. I'm 8 months PG. Drink a mug every morning, o... 15 replies
- much is in a mug? Is that more than 12? And what happens if you drink more? I'm not too worried about miscarriage at 8 months...
- Also, isn't the danger of excess caffeine miscarriage early in pregnancy ?...
Talk : : May 21, 2011
DH says I'm drinking too much coffee. I'm 8 months PG. Drink a mug every morning, occasionally one more later. Am I harming my unborn baby?
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.21.11, 11:11 AM Flag ]-
So how much is in a mug? Is that more than 12? And what happens if you drink more? I'm not too worried about miscarriage at 8 months
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 11:34 AM Flagthere is also a difference in coffee. If you drink 12 oz of folgers etc vs starbucks there is a big difference.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 11:48 AM FlagThat's a good question. I think maybe a mug is 6 ounces. I think maybe stick with mild to regular coffee and stay away from the espresso-type doses.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 01:00 PM Flagbelieve it or not a cup of espresso has less caffeine than coffee. The worst is the strong coffee like starbucks. Go look up the caffeine content of each.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 01:07 PM Flagnp: This sounded wrong to me, so I looked it up. All websites pretty much say this: While espresso has more caffeine per unit volume than most beverages, compared on the basis of usual serving sizes, a 1-ounce shot of espresso has about one third the caffeine of a standard 6 fluid ounce cup of drip brewed coffee, which varies from 80 to 130 mg,[1] and hence a 60 mL (2 US fl oz) double shot of espresso has about the same caffeine as a 180 ml (6 US fl oz) cup of drip brewed coffee.
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 01:20 PM Flag
Also, isn't the danger of excess caffeine miscarriage early in pregnancy ?
[ Reply | More ]05.21.11, 12:52 PM Flag
[+] Has anyone ever gotten a D&C due to miscarriage without anesthesia? It sounds insane... 23 replies
- He offered morphine; no sedation. Wouldn't sedation be considered anasthesia? Unfortunately, I had another miscarriage last year (not in NYC) and was sedated using something slightly stronger than Twilight, but that was considered general anasteshia and it was done in a hospital setting. My gut feel is that this doctor does not want to go...
Talk : : May 20, 2011
Has anyone ever gotten a D&C due to miscarriage without anesthesia? It sounds insane to me, but this is what the doctor proposed.
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.20.11, 12:18 PM Flag ]-
I am trying to find a new doc, but not sure where to look. I feel like a fool calling doctors' offices and asking how they do D&Cs. Do you think this is just laziness for him not to book hospital time? He said it's not standard practice.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 12:21 PM Flagi wish i knew. if no one here can help, maybe someone at planned parenthood would at least talk to you about this? sounds like you need a human with some knowledge. From your OP I inferred no pain relief, hence the speedy get a new doc. Maybe if it's early general anesthesia isn't nec, and light sedation is fine.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 01:14 PM Flag
I've had two for miscarriages. My doctor gave me a choice but I preferred it this way. There is some brief discomfort but it becomes a very quick 15 minute procedure. There is no hospital admission, no IV, no time to recover from sedation, no grogginess or side effects. And you do of course get local anesthesia that takes away most of the pain. I think it is a matter of personal choice. I see why some people would prefer to be knocked out. But I hate the idea of sedation and was very happy to have this option.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 01:26 PM FlagThanks everyone. If you had anasteshia or were offered it, would you mind sharing your OB's name (if in NYC)? I can't fathom the thought of being awake during this.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 01:47 PM Flagis he offering sedation? i was sedated in-office for a sigmoidoscopy and i don't remember a thing.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 02:00 PM FlagHe offered morphine; no sedation. Wouldn't sedation be considered anasthesia? Unfortunately, I had another miscarriage last year (not in NYC) and was sedated using something slightly stronger than Twilight, but that was considered general anasteshia and it was done in a hospital setting. My gut feel is that this doctor does not want to go through the hassle of going to the hospital.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 03:00 PM Flag
DON'T do it! It would be utterly painful! I can't beleive that your doctor is proposing this!
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 02:48 PM FlagAre you speaking from experience? Because it really is not. I absolutely think OP should choose to do what she is comfortable with - this is obviously an emotional experience. But please don't talk about the pain unless you are speaking from experience. I've btdt and it was not bad.
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 05:23 PM Flag
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[+] Is it ok to use vibrator when you're pregnant? 23 replies
- Not if you're at risk for preterm labor (intensity can lead to miscarriage if your doc has told you)....
Talk : : May 20, 2011
Is it ok to use vibrator when you're pregnant?
23 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.20.11, 09:57 AM Flag ]am completey blank on why you would ask this question. Are you worried about having an orgasm while pg? I don't understand
[ Reply | More ]05.20.11, 10:01 AM Flag-
Ask ob/gyn or midwife if you can have orgasms while you're pregnant. It's the orgasms, not the vibrations, that you might have to be careful about (though why your would use a vibrator if you can't come is beyond me).
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you might've mentioned that in the OP. changes things pretty dramatically. consult your doc about sexual activity in general.
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[+] 11 DPO and had a blood test done. My HCG levels are at 11...still somewhat inconclus... 24 replies
- No, this is natural. We've been TTC for about 8 months after a miscarriage last year....
Talk : : May 18, 2011
11 DPO and had a blood test done. My HCG levels are at 11...still somewhat inconclusive and we should know for sure after 2 more days. Has anyone else tested this early and do you remember what your levels were? We're SO excited!!!
24 replies [ Reply | Watch | More05.18.11, 12:55 PM Flag ]I'm really sorry, but that sounds really, really low. Someone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but that sounds too low to be a viable pregnancy. I'm really sorry.
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:16 PM FlagI wish you the best. I hope that you are pregnant. I hope that if you are not pregnant, that you will recover from any disappointment quickly and keep on trying.
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:42 PM Flagat 11 DPO and 11 hcg it could go either way. why did your doctor test your hcg that early?
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:49 PM Flagnever mind, i see how you tested. was it an at home blood test?
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:49 PM FlagNo, my friend works in a lab, so it was a legitimate blood test. Do you really think it's bad? What if the implantation took place on Day 8 or 9? Wouldn't it be getting to this level right about now?
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:54 PM Flagit isn't good or bad, it is inconclusive, which is why you shouldn't have tested early... hang in there, test in 2 more days and see how it goes. I hope it doubles/triples for you but even then, that would be a little low in my experience (see post below). Try to stay calm and patient and get off dr. google.
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:56 PM Flag
I think the earliest i ever had a test was 14 DPO and for viable pg, that was usually over 100. At 11 DPO, I would have expected it to be higher but you can never ever tell. Was this IVF? what day transfer did you have?
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:54 PM FlagNo, this is natural. We've been TTC for about 8 months after a miscarriage last year.
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^^ hit me with the date of last period and ovulation and how you confirmed it.
[ Reply | More ]05.18.11, 01:57 PM FlagLMP was 4/20, but I have a longer cycle (between 31 - 40 days). Ovulation was confirmed with an OPK taken on Friday evening. and we had sex that evening. My BBT was low as of Saturday AM, and high as of Sunday AM (I'm assuming this means I ovulated sometime between Saturday and Sunday AM. I did some sporadic BBT testing during the week, and it was all high. I don't test every day because I wake up frequently during the night and I'd rather test when I feel comfortable that the results are accurate.
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honestly, only time will tell here. every baby has an hcg of 1 at some point right? Just hang in there and do a blood test in 48 hours from the first one (at same lab). You could also pee on a stick tomorrow morning. I have only gotten a line with HCG as low at 17 so if you pop 2 lines, your hcg is likely rising.
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