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[+] Going to a birthday party next wk and my DC doesn't even know the birthday child. Wo... 7 replies
- Yes of course. I ask even when my DC knows the child well. For example, DC is going to a birthday party today, and it turns out the birthday boy really wants a particular Lego he doesn't have. How could my DC or I have known?...
Talk : : September 24, 2011
[+] invited ds's entire preschool class to his birthday party, and almost all of them are... 3 replies
Talk : : September 24, 2011
invited ds's entire preschool class to his birthday party, and almost all of them are coming. Since its the beginning of the year, I know very few of the kids or their parents. Would it be weird to have everyone put on nametags when they arrive?
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[+] G&t site up and running for next year. So they are NOT changing the test. And they ha... 13 replies
- there's an age, and maybe it's 2nd grade, where it's impossible to get a 99 because even if you get everything right on the BRSA you only get a 90. If (and I don't know for sure) that starts when you are 7.0 years old and some of the kids taking the test had late Dec. birthdays they might have been tested when their age still allowed a 99. I know I'm not explaining this very well....
Talk : : September 23, 2011
G&t site up and running for next year. So they are NOT changing the test. And they have published numbers of 99s last year - 970 for k,180 for1st and 38 for 2nd! Get your RFT form in by 3rd week of October.
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.23.11, 04:57 PM Flag ]-
Does that mean there 970 kindergarteners scored 99 and only 38 2nd graders received 99s?
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:01 PM FlagI am shocked- that so many still take the test in 2nd -roughly half of those taking it in k. And shocked that only 38 got a 99. A friend's kid got a 99 for 2nd.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:06 PM Flagthere's an age, and maybe it's 2nd grade, where it's impossible to get a 99 because even if you get everything right on the BRSA you only get a 90. If (and I don't know for sure) that starts when you are 7.0 years old and some of the kids taking the test had late Dec. birthdays they might have been tested when their age still allowed a 99. I know I'm not explaining this very well.
[ Reply | More ]09.24.11, 04:24 AM Flag
How many kids took the test for K? What were the 99 numbers the year before?
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:55 PM Flag
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[+] Parents of gifted kids: Do their teachers expect them to teach the other kids? My chi... 122 replies
- when's her birthday? is she jsut 4 or almost 5?...
Talk : : September 23, 2011
Parents of gifted kids: Do their teachers expect them to teach the other kids? My child's in kindergarten and seems to spend much more time tutoring the others than getting to learn anything herself.
122 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.23.11, 11:30 AM Flag ]-
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so is your child initiating it or does the teacher actually tell her to go help xyz? Actually, I think she probably is learning something as she is helping others....if she is really gifted this time in the classroom helping others (especially in kindergarten) will not matter - keeps her busy and engaged. However if you really have an issue with it, find her a gifted school or a more challenging one to go to
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 11:45 AM Flag
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I've been a teacher (of upper grades) and I think teachers do this because it keeps the kids who are ahead from getting bored, tuning out, or misbehaving. Dealing with 20 kids' needs at once isn't easy in general, especially in K when they are at wildly different levels. I know great teachers who run after-school enrichment programs for gifted kids, but giving them one-on-one time during class isn't easy. And let's be honest -- if the teacher told your kid to go and read an "advanced" book in the corner, you'd probably feel like your kid was just being ignored.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 11:42 AM Flagthat why you must send a gifted child to a gifted program/school. gifted kids should not have their own learning hindered because the other kids cannot keep up!!
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They will level out. The other parents did not prepped the kids as much
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 11:51 AM FlagOP: This is misinformed. DC started reading and knew her math facts before I even thought to start teaching those things.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 11:58 AM Flagnp: but it is true that they will level out. Who is a better reader, you or me? One might be an avid reader or a faster reader but I think we both read equally as well regardless of which of us has been reading longer.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 11:59 AM FlagWe may read at the same ‘level’ but I have spent the time you where learning to read learning higher level math, history, geography etc. Have we really leveled out?
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:22 PM Flagwhat makes you think I didn't start K with a better knowledge of math, history, or geography than you so that while I was learning to read better you were catching up to me in other areas? What I've noticed at my dcs' citywide is most of the kids have an area that they are experts in -- space, history, musical instruments, biology -- that they haven't learned in school. Reading isn't everything.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:54 PM Flag
Or here, You said she was in shifted program but reading below is only one week gifted, I jump to the conclusion she was in a g&t, a child like that in general or almost general Ed is though
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:27 PM FlagOP: Our school district (not NYC) doesn't have full-time gifted instruction.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:29 PM FlagThen op you need a solution. Either private tutors or move to a city that can accommodate her. She sound very gifted and general public Ed is not the right place for her. I don't think the teacher can help with so many kids in the class. So, you need to look outside your public or your city
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:32 PM Flag
This is the most idiotic popular UB notion. Do you think that all adults are the same? Do you think kids who are ahead are learning nothing during the time that others are "catching up"?
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:17 PM FlagNo, but g&t are already selected among the 99 percentile. Of course some children know how to write, they were taught so and others did not. At that entry level in g&t citywide, the difference will level out. There will always be the best and the last but the bracket is smaller.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:21 PM Flag
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OP: The gifted label comes from about 20 hours of testing with a team of psychologists.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:01 PM FlagDing ding ding. You gave her the label because you subjected her to 20 hours of testing so you can call her "gifted"
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:28 PM Flag-
That doesn't change the fact that she subjected her DD to 20 hours of testing (and God knows how many hours of prep)
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:39 PM FlagOP: DD was never prepped; we just wanted to assess her educational needs. The testing was an overall evaluation to see whether she ought to start K early. It was largely play-based and happened over three weekend days. It was a standard slew of assessments for my area (not NYC).
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:10 PM Flag
My DD reads at a 5th grade level with great fluency and comprehension. I would never subject her to 20 hours of testing. Felt bad subjecting her to 2 hours.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:53 PM Flag
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Oh my, the burdens that parents of gifted children must bear.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 11:52 AM FlagDid I miss where it says what school? Private? Public gen ed? g&t?
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:20 PM Flag-
Children learn concepts more deeply when they have to explain them to others. If I were you I'd help her see it in a better light. She wouldn't like it if other kids were frustrated with her (and I'm sure she's not the best at every single thing she'll encounter). Sounds like she's picking up on your disdain.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:15 PM FlagSoon enough your DC will be capable of working independently. Until then, it's a good lesson for her and for you: no class should revolve around the needs of just one of its members.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:28 PM FlagWhat would you like her to be doing when she finishes an assignment early?
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:34 PM FlagDear OP, forget all the bitchiness of UB. There are profoundly gifted children out there, like your child. You are worry about her and it is understandable, giftness come with price tag for parents. I can't help you, but you should look for some one that can. your child does not belong to a general Ed class, that for sure. I wish you the best. You are looking up for your kid and you want to provide the right environment so things don't fall apart.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:55 PM FlagI'm not sure her dd is profoundly gifted. The results of the testing were "start K this year and get as much enrichment as possible". If after 20 hours of testing the experts weren't suggesting finding an appropriate school, homeschooling, or something radical I wonder if she's just on the high end of the normal range.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:57 PM Flag
OP: Is a nut if her DC was as gifted as she claims she would be on every good morning show as one of those real genius kids and she would not be attending some public K program.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:55 PM FlagMaybe op does not want to parade her kid or make money with her. That sounds good parenting to me. maybe op does not have money for private school or does not know all the options available.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:58 PM FlagThese DC's are found and offered programs, she wouldn't have to do a thing but sit tight and decide which special program to send her DC too. Cousin is a genius and never had to pay money or look for any program, scholarships galore even with wealthy parents.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 02:10 PM Flag
Yes, and dc is in 5th grade. Thinking about switching soon because the school provides so much support to kids who are struggling (which is good) but none for kids who are ahead. Dc used to like the "leadership role" but doesn't any longer. Remember those group projects back in HS when you were paired with a kid who had zero interest, so you ended up doing all the work yourself? I think he feels a little like that. In K-3, however, I think it was a good thing for him.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 02:16 PM FlagTell us OP what state gives a 20hr test for a public G&T program.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 02:23 PM FlagOP: The test wasn't for a gifted program. In fact, I don't think the word "gifted" was used once. Just a general assessment including IQ, academics, and social readiness--specifically looking at whether early kindergarten was a good idea.
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OK, so by NYC standards she's not early. If she lived here she'd be in public K. I'm just trying to get a feel for how advanced she is. Is her math also advanced? What about her interest in science, history etc? I would try focus the enrichment on things not covered at school as well as on sports. If she learns algebra outside of school that's just another year she'll be board in school. If she learns all about ancient Egypt that might be interesting and will likely never be duplicated in school.
[ Reply | More ]09.24.11, 06:07 AM FlagThanks so much for all your advice. Yes, math is advanced. I do 3rd grade math with her at home. She does a ton of enrichment outside of school (classes at museums, etc.), and reads about 200 library books a week on a wide variety of subjects. If only she had as much opportunity to learn at school as she does at home!...
[ Reply | More ]09.24.11, 07:13 AM Flag
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Sounds like your dd really is gifted. Find another school or talk with the teacher and see if there is a way she/you can help give her work on her lever. If not she will soon be bored. I remember a kid in my class, had just come from Egypt and he was so far ahead of us (7th) grade in every subject except English. Our math teacher ordered college level books for him and taught him from those.
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[+] I have a question about the ERBs for preK. I understand some schools with prek entry... 8 replies
- My DC took it twice. The first time it was 1 wk after birthday and got a 90. Did not sit still. Report said DC walked around and set own agenda on coding. Less than a year later, DC...
- DC can take it over the summer if a fall birthday or in sept if born in oct, etc. they will generally score higher if they take it at 3 rather than 4....
Talk : : September 23, 2011
I have a question about the ERBs for preK. I understand some schools with prek entry point require this. Just wondering how this all happens....some of these kids are 3 when they would take it. Are 3 year olds really supposed to be able to sit for 45 minutes with a stranger and stay on task? And is it the same test (wppsi) that they give the K applicants or is their a younger child version of the test? TIA.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.23.11, 06:36 AM Flag ]Same test, same test administration rules. Some pre-K ongoings require it(Riverdale, Grace, CGPS), others do not (ECFS, Trevor, Town). Good luck.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:52 AM FlagMy DC took it twice. The first time it was 1 wk after birthday and got a 90. Did not sit still. Report said DC walked around and set own agenda on coding. Less than a year later, DC got a 96. Report said focused and determined to get through questions. I think maturity has a lot to do with it, esp. with boys. If you can get your DC to sit and do some workbooks, play games and get comfortable work a bit on his/her own, it will really help. 10 minutes a day. We had a hefty reward system. Also, check the aristotle circle calendar. Be sure to have DC be the oldest in the 3 month age group. GL!
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How would a kid be 3? DC is Dec bday and he is going to take SB at 3 but ERB he will be 4.
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[+] Do you have your kids study for ERB? I just realized we need to take this test and we... 4 replies
- on YBM, didn't you? no prep, one got a 96 the other 99x3. you do not need to prep. i was crazy because I didn't and I felt like everyone around me did. and then I got back the scores. and fwiw, #1 took it twice (summer birthday). I actually did try to work with #1 on what seemed like the weakest skill (vocabulary) and you know what? the scores were identical on every subtest to the first time. the one thing I will say, is to make sure your DC takes it before they...
Talk : : September 23, 2011
Do you have your kids study for ERB? I just realized we need to take this test and we arent prepared. My son hates doing exercises (4yo) and I don't like forcing him because the he resents doing work and it makes it very hard for us to teach him anything.
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.23.11, 06:27 AM Flag ]you just asked this on YBM, didn't you? no prep, one got a 96 the other 99x3. you do not need to prep. i was crazy because I didn't and I felt like everyone around me did. and then I got back the scores. and fwiw, #1 took it twice (summer birthday). I actually did try to work with #1 on what seemed like the weakest skill (vocabulary) and you know what? the scores were identical on every subtest to the first time. the one thing I will say, is to make sure your DC takes it before they turn another year older (so if 3 have them take before 4 and if 4 have them take before they turn 5). That absolutely does make a difference in the scoring.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:34 AM FlagWe did not prep, we as DCs were not prepped and we all did well enough to get into TT in nyc. While I agree that the ERB can provide variable results and they don't always reflect intelligence, or lack thereof, in all cases if your DC is smart, well rested and has eaten they will do well. If not, no prepping will help. Simple as that.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:35 AM FlagMany boys are like this so don't worry! I suspect prepping skews heavily female for this reason. Which just goes to show how irrelevant these tests are. 50 years from now, it will be these boys who will run wall street, be senior partners at law firms, fund and start tech start ups in Silicon Valley and win nobel prizes. But hey....they can't sit still during the ERB and have no pencil grip ;-)
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:38 AM FlagWe did not do anything but Brain Quest for one week. Dd got 99x3 anyway. Smart, compliant kids who can focus will do well without prep. No sweat. The most important thing you could do is to help him follow instructions from a stranger. Ability to focus for a long time is one of the traits of being gifted. THere are gifted kids who cannot do this, of course, but that's due to some issue (ex. disability). ERB is an IQ test and they don't test reading or math. You don't have to teach anything.
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[+] Just to throw it out there. i have two kids. one got a 146 SB and a 95% on ERB. th... 15 replies
- and its often just one question difference. the year my DS took it and got a 97, kid with the same birthday had only 2 more questions right and got 99....
Talk : : September 23, 2011
Just to throw it out there. i have two kids. one got a 146 SB and a 95% on ERB. the other got a 143 SB and a 99 ERB. neither was prepped for anything. any of you folks out there worrying about one point or five points saying anything about relative smartness of kids might take solace in that. neither test is easier or harder. there's just a lot of variability in 4yos. the schools HAVE to know this too.
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ditto. the difference between a 90 and a 99 is negligible and its ridiculous that schools put so much weight on a few points. even more so for the OLSAT where the difference of one or two questions could mean you have zero shot at citywide.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:26 AM Flagright. i think sometimes this board makes parents so caught up in a single point. at least for privates, the schools acknowledge it and move along. we all hate that we're testing these kids so young. i think sometimes we need the reminder that it just doesnt matter.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:37 AM FlagActually, difference is NOT negligible. but testing a 4yo is not going to produce a consistent result. for some kids, it does. At 8 or 10yo, IQ test is more reliable and the difference between 90th and 99th percentile is very significant. It could be several standard deviations different.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 12:58 PM FlagI'm sorry, but i don't see a whole lot of difference between some of the kids that got 90s entering k and those who got 99s entering k now that they are in 2nd and 3rd grade. in fact, some of the lower scoring kids are actually turning out to be academically superior. some of the higher scoring ones were just more verbal and outgoing, and in some cases early readers, which helped them a lot on the ERB at 4.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 01:54 PM FlagThat's because testing at 4yo is not so reliable. But if these kids take the IQ test at an older age, it'll be more accurate and the difference is big between 90 and 99. But I agree that some kids who get high erb score at 4yo don't necessarily do well. Doing well academically is much more than about IQ. The kid's gotta have internal drive, work ethic, etc. Also, having very involved moms. But come Middle School and High school, it's much more about the kid and less about the mom. I knew lots of kids who did very well in lower school but they couldn't keep up with truly smart & motivated kids in the older grades.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 03:15 PM Flag
That one point, between a 98 and 99, on the OLSAT makes a world of difference. Ridiculous but true.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:30 AM Flagand its often just one question difference. the year my DS took it and got a 97, kid with the same birthday had only 2 more questions right and got 99.
[ Reply | More ]09.23.11, 06:35 AM FlagOLSAT is not even an IQ test. It's a bad test, but it won't make much difference anyway. G&T offered by DOE right now is not really gifted education. At least Anderson does acceleration, but other G&Ts (though I"m not sure about NEST) do not accelerate. They have the exactly same curriculum as gen ed. Just more enriched. Same pace. This is not gifted education and this is why it makes no difference what your OLSAT score is and if it's a crappy test.
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[+] i just went on facebook and someone had sent me a friend request who, the last time i... 14 replies
Talk : : September 22, 2011
i just went on facebook and someone had sent me a friend request who, the last time i saw her, was CHASING ME DOWN THE STREET, with my birthday cake on my 15th birthday having decided that she hated me, after deciding to host my 15th birthday party. she threw the cake at the cab just as i jumped inside with my friends, escaping. no note...no "hi, how are you?" just a friend request
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.22.11, 06:29 PM Flag ]Geez. I got a friend request from the girl who bullied me relentlessly in middle school.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:31 PM Flagop. i also once got a friend request from someone who was arrested for shoplifting and gave the police my parents phone number. so, when i got home, my parents were certain i had become a criminal. really? you don't want to preface that with an "so long since i've seen you, hope you've been well" sheesh!
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:33 PM Flag
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After no contact for over 2-years. He knows my email - he wrote this whole note on FB thanking me for signing the annulment paperwork (I assumed he was getting remarried) - but what did he think? He cheated on me. Did he think I was just going to be his pal on FB?
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:39 PM Flag
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Accept request. And write on her wall "how did you find me?! hope all is well xo"
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What do you get your nanny for birthdays?
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OMG are you me? I have the same question. So far, got nanny a card and am looking for the best strawberry shortcake (her fave dessert). Trying to figure out if we'll give her a cash gift. FWIW she will have been with us for 6 months around the time of her bday.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 01:34 PM FlagOP: I was thinking of $50 Target gift card and a cupcake for a little 'party' after lunch - my kids are young. I wish I could afford more, but I don't spend more than that on my own parents or siblings! Do you think cash is better than a GC?
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[+] Sentout invites to Halloween Party for the enture 5th grade in my son's school - $30 ... 51 replies
- i applaud your effort. today i think it is really hard to plan things as people barely commit to going to a birthday party. if they are being charged, it is going to be even harder. don't know why they are giving you the cold shoulder....
- np It's not a birthday party or a baby shower, there's no guest of honor or gifts to give. It's not a hosted event. Even if...
Talk : : September 22, 2011
Sentout invites to Halloween Party for the enture 5th grade in my son's school - $30 a head at fantastic venue. Not much else to do but collect funds and give to hall - thought it would be cool for them all to have a Halloween Party at their age. Now I ask, why are mother's treating me as if I am in complete control and have nerve of planning such an Event that I did not okay with the "Mom's Club" first? Are these women for real nitpicking?
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I think it's a little weird that you are charging people for the party.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:56 AM FlagI think OP was just sending out the invites and collection cash on behalf of the school.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:00 PM FlagSchool or hall? The way it's written it looks like the $30 covers expenses and that's it.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:06 PM Flagso, is it a school function? was it approved by PTA or the administration? is it a findraiser?
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:08 PM FlagIt isn't a school function given by their school but I did have to have the invitations approved before they were given to the children. School thought it was a great idea for the kids and there are plenty of Moms who are excited that their kids have somewhere to go for Halloween and be with their friends. There is no profit to be made for this party...just thought it would be nice.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:17 PM Flag
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Schools hoset dinner parties for parents all the time...the school doesn't benefit from the dinner party but all expected to pay a fee for the party. Why is this any different? It is a great way of getting people together. I think $30 is a great price for a kids party - food, entertainment and friends.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:07 PM Flagi don't know any school that does this when it isn't a fundraiser.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:09 PM FlagSo...I still don't understand. Maybe that's the problem. Are you going rogue and planning your own fundraiser for the school? Are you just collecting funds to cover your own costs? Is this a school-sponsored event?
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:14 PM Flag
It really depends on the wording of your "invite". If you asked them 'there's a great venue, who would like to come?' then they shouldn't have anything to nitpick. But if you told them 'i booked this venue, the charge is $30' then I see why they would be miffed. You're not inviting them you're telling them to pay for something you on your own decided was a good idea. Others simply don't agree with you.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:10 PM Flagi applaud your effort. today i think it is really hard to plan things as people barely commit to going to a birthday party. if they are being charged, it is going to be even harder. don't know why they are giving you the cold shoulder. personally, i would appreciate your efforts but i like those kind of things.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:11 PM FlagI definitely would have sounded out a few parents, well as many as possible, before coming up with something like this. Now you have put them in the awkward position of saying no to their kid about something "everyone" is doing (which will be the kids' perception). Are there going to be kids from other schools there? other age brackets? because that could be a concern too. Sorry, but stuff like this is why I don't like organising people. It's not that easy to get a consensus and when you charge ahead, that pissed people off too.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:20 PM FlagJust the fifth graders..no other schools or friends, just them. I asked most mothers and they seemed to love the idea which was why I went ahead with it...but then there are the ones that like to grab the bull by the horns.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:24 PM Flaghmmm then don't worry about the complainers too much. As you said, some people have to have a hand in everything, others won't like any plan they didn't come up with. If you want to organise big group events this is kinda what you have to put up with, can't make everyone happy etc. I hope the kids have a great time!
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:30 PM Flag
Don't respond, and don't complain. It'll only create bad feelings, harden positions, and your DC doesn't need the aggro. Lots of people have high control needs, are perfectionists and/or are very sensitive to perceived protocol violations. Some people see events like this--esp if they have to pay for them--as a reflection of who they are. Others just don't like you, and want to make trouble bec their lives are lame. If you can, be apologetic to the ones who are miffed, and/or you think are just trying to make things complicated. And let them know who else said to go for it--chances are they don't dislike all of you--so they have an excuse to get over being mad. "Jeez Diane, I had no idea that would be a problem. I spoke to a number of people informally about the venue doing something for our grade, and X Y and Z moms told me to go for it. You're mentioning this is the first i've thought of it. Last week someone pointed out we hadn't done B. I guess we'll just have to see how it goes."
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:42 PM FlagThis is a little weird. Now everyone in the class is going to want to go, and parents have to pay for it.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:58 PM Flag$30 for kids who are attending..if they don't go they don't pay.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 01:06 PM FlagI think its awful that you're charging that much. You couldn't use the school gym for a party and make it as free as possible? I wouldn't send my kid, I have 4 kids and couldn't afford to send each to a $30 pp Halloween party. We're having a party in our yard for 25 kids, easy food and homemade games.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 01:32 PM Flag
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seems like it's in poor taste, honestly i would cancel it. majority of parents don't want to pay $30 per person for a little kid to dress in a halloween costume; the halloween costumes already cost a lot and it's a hassle driving the kid...and you sending out invites makes it seem like you are "hosting" it, but you're actually charging. and also it's not like $10 bowling or something, this event is pricey for a lot of parents and will inevitably make kids feel left out. do you have any close mom friends? i'm surprised you didn't run this idea by 3 or 4 of them before inviting the whole class...seriously u seem like you are kind of not part of the main mom grou or even any group...like u seem totally clueless as to what norms there are
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[+] Ideas for 3 yr old winter birthday party? Apt too small. Too cold for park. Acceptin... 3 replies
Talk : : September 22, 2011
[+] DD is going to a "Fashion" birthday party at her friend's house for her 8th birthday.... 13 replies
- I'd likely just keep my daughter home from a "Fashion birthday party."...
Talk : : September 22, 2011
[+] My Kindergartner has his birthday coming up. He didn't really forge any real friendsh... 11 replies
Talk : : September 22, 2011
My Kindergartner has his birthday coming up. He didn't really forge any real friendships with specific children, yet. How do I go about throwing a bday party for him? We would love to invite all boys in his class but that's going to tear a hole into our budget. I don't really want to keep it a family party only because his sisters always get parties with friends attending (they are a bit older and have a circle of friends). What would you do? I'm tempted to just pick a handful of boys. Or maybe I can throw something for all of them but cheap? Suggestions?
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.22.11, 09:47 AM Flag ]If you have a space to hold it you can do a party for all of them without too much expense.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 09:49 AM FlagDD's b-day is coming up and there is no way in the world I can invite a class of 24 kids. If she has some close playdate friends or kids she talks about we can invite them but I can't do a huge party. I still don't get inviting a whole class. We never did that when I was little and kids were okay. And my DD is not going to 24 parties this year. I don't see why inviting only her friends is a bad thing.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 09:51 AM FlagIs there any way you could do a fun, low key affordable class party, OP? Does your school rent a gym? Does your building have a "room"? IT's so early in the year that if yo uare able to do it, it is nice to invite everyone.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:37 AM Flag
[+] Is it too late to send out child's birthday invitations for a party on the 8th of Oct... 4 replies
- , but my dc attends a nice gen ed with low key parents. I always find it silly to get invited to a kid's birthday party 2 months in advance. In my opinion, if a kid can't come because they have another plan, that's fine. But...
- Two weeks is plenty of notice. Its a kids birthday party, not a wedding....
Talk : : September 22, 2011
Is it too late to send out child's birthday invitations for a party on the 8th of October and an RSVP date of Wednesday the 5th? I am emailing and hand delivering the invitations.
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.22.11, 09:09 AM Flag ]Not at all, IMO, but my dc attends a nice gen ed with low key parents. I always find it silly to get invited to a kid's birthday party 2 months in advance. In my opinion, if a kid can't come because they have another plan, that's fine. But I do always run the date by the moms of dc's 2 or 3 very best friends first, to make sure they know and it works.
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[+] How much do you spend on birthday gifts of DC's classmates? 8 replies
Talk : : September 22, 2011
[+] Have you ever heard of someone getting a small apt on Upper East Side just for playda... 97 replies
- Why not just rent out a play space (where they host kids' birthday parties)?...
Talk : : September 22, 2011
Have you ever heard of someone getting a small apt on Upper East Side just for playdates? My DC attends lower school on UES and we live in Brooklyn Heights. After a year at the school, we have learned NO ONE will come to us for playdates. I warned DH about this when we applied, but he grew up in Los Angeles where everyone drove everywhere and he had no understanding that nannies, parents and kids won't travel from Manhattan to Brkln on playdates. We love our school and also love our brownstone. DH has suggested we get a 1 bedroom apt on UES near school in order to be able to host some playdates since i feel like i've been a freeloader and always going to other people's homes and not being able to reciprocate. We have offered to drive DDs back and forth, but the Moms and nannies just won't do it. DH is fortunate enough to have gotten a bonus 2 yrs ago (probably will never happen again) to make it possible to pay for this silly extravagance, but do u think it will seem odd to parents of our daughter's friends? Of course I will furnish it like a real aptmt and make the bedroom into a girl's bedroom with girls toys so she can have a regular playdate like her friends do for her. Hopefully, by 6th or 7th grade, we could sell it since I hope the classmates would be willing to travel to Brkln. Any ideas on this?
97 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.22.11, 07:54 AM Flag ]That is the silliest thing I have ever heard of. If you invite people over and they don't come that is their problem. They are being lazy.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 07:57 AM FlagBut it is not THEIR problem. It becomes her daughter's problem. We made the mistake of sending our ds to a TT on upper east side from our Tribeca aptmt and for two years, NO one would come to our house. We eventually moved to the UES--reluctantly--and since then, my son actually has the chance to host his friends. People in Manhattan are very territorial.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 07:59 AM FlagOP: I really do agree that it is their problem, and I kept telling my DH this, but try to explain this to a 6 year old for over a year. I can't keep calling her friends lazy or selfish while also bringing her to their homes. She wants to share her toys and share her home experience and she is NOT a spoiled child. I know i would be flamed for even raising this idea, but i just want this for my daughter
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:03 AM Flag
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If the bonus isn't going to happen again, the smart thing to do would be to save it.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 07:58 AM FlagHey if you can afford it, decorate it, etc. go for it. If I had the money and I was buying it for that reason, I would turn it into a big playroom.
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I think it would be cheaper to go to the park or host a play date somewhere. Maybe you can join Kidville or some Kids Gym and pay for the kids friends to come to free play time. Usually there is free play for memebers and you can pay anywhere from 14 - 20 for others kids to join. Sounds over the top and odd to rent an apt. for playdates.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:00 AM FlagIf you let me live there rent-free, I will host the playdates for you. I will even dress up in a uniform and pretend to be your maid when dc's friends come over, and I will serve tiny pb&j sandwiches with the crusts cut off. And I'll bring all the toys into the living room one by one on a silver platter until they find the one that suits their liking.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:04 AM FlagI know a Westchester family who does this from a TT school. They don't advertise it as their child's playdate aptment, but they have it for that reason. I only know this because I live in their building, and they only come through when hosting a playdate. It will work if you are lowkey about it.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:07 AM FlagSeriously, I would majorly hesitate being friends with you if you invited me over for a playdate and it was an apartment that you didn't actually live in. I would assume our priorities and values were so drastically different that a friendship would never work.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:08 AM FlagThat is a very nice way of saying you would think they were pretentious assholes.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:13 AM FlagExactly. Reminds me of this guy I knew in Milan who lived with his parents but kept an apartment just to hang out with friends. Biggest spoilt loser I ever met. Turned people off in a major way.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:16 AM Flag
YOU SHOULD HAVE GONE TO ST ANNS OR PACKER. WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:12 AM FlagOP: I grew up in an all-girls school and we wanted our daughter to attend an all-girls school. We could not find this option in Brooklyn. You are all making me think we should move (since it sounds that parents might be turned off if they learned the aptmt was just for playdates), even though we love our brownstone and the neighborhood feeling that we have here. I would hate to take our DD out of a school she loves.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:16 AM FlagJust give the apartment to a homeless person (or people) at night and use for your child's play dates during the date and people will not find it loathsome. Anyway play dates go away in a couple of years as kids get more independent and have more activities. Host play dates and museums and the park and other fun outings. You do sound ridiculous. Precious will survive with her Brooklyn brownstone sadly so far from her hoity toit school. You make me think Brooklyn richies are worse than UES ones, who would never indulge to that degree so their kid can have virtually their own apartment, at age 6, for play dates. Beyond clueless.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:28 AM FlagThink about in a few years when the kids are teens and heading out on their own. Your DD will be the only one who will not/may not be able to to come. We started in neighborhood publics, and now that my DC are 10 and 12 I really appreciate that their friends are all close by.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:33 AM Flag
Why don't you make friends with families in your neighborhood?
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I understand that your child would want to host some playdates on her ground. But you shouldn't assume that anyone thinks you are a freeloader. Our apt is close to both kids schools (diff schools) and we never mind hosting a playdate at all. If DC enjoys playing with the other child its a no brainer.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:42 AM FlagRegardless of how other people view the idea, you need to think this through. What kind of a message does it send to a 6yo to rent an apartment for this purpose? I can think all kinds of lessons I would not want my kid to take away from a situation like that. I think you need to decide what your priorities are as a family (neighborhood, school, whatever) and make a call. Your kid will survive either way.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:46 AM FlagI would sacrifice the brownstone and move to the UES, if anything. Two places is unnecessary.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 09:03 AM FlagAlso, i would probably suggest a condo, this way if you ever want to sublet it/rent it you won't have all the issues that come with a co-op. Who knows, maybe you won't want to sell it when your daughter is older-you can gift it to her when she graduates college and moves back to the city.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 09:06 AM FlagI know that single sex school means alot to you, but nothing is perfect and you always make tradeoffs in life. In this case, I don't know why you would choose a school where not a single parent is willing to send their child for a visit to Brooklyn Heights. I think that sounds weird. Even if it is inconvenient during the week, at some point on the weekend the kid can visit. This is the kind of school community I would avoid at all costs, no matter how supposedly good the education.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 09:18 AM FlagI didn't know that no one from her school would visit. This is not something i asked people about. It is just something that we have discovered over time. DD gets lots of playdate requests, but a couple of the kids have actually asked my daughter why she never has them to our house. My DD nicely says, "My Mom did ask your Mom, but you never come over."
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:12 AM Flagnp: No one with more than one child in school will want to schlep to Brooklyn for playdate pickup in rush hour. People have busy schedules. Why don't you invite girls over on Friday evenings for a sleepover if they are old enough? That's what my dd does with her friends who live in Brooklyn and Queens. I just can't come and get her on weekdays with my 3 kids' schedules unless I hire a nanny.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:21 AM Flag
My first suggestion would be to try renting someplace and see how it goes. Buying a place is a bit of a PITA and you may decide after a couple of years that it's not worth it. I would not refer to it as a "playdate apt" but there's nothing wrong w wanting a small place in manhattan that you can use for many things - playdates are one, but also hosting OOT friends, or if you and dh ever want a little getaway, etc. And you may end up finding it useful long term and decide to buy. For those who think this is a ridiculous extrtavagence, I would say - would you feel the same way if they moved the the UES and the new place cost the same as the brooklyn brownstone plus a 1BR? because it's essentially the same thing. Some people have a $3M apt and others have a $2M apt and a $1M country home. This is kind of hte same thing.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 09:39 AM FlagOP: I considered the rental idea but DH said it was throwing away money. I realize the whole premise is ridiculous to most people, but u are probably right. I am going to look at Normandie Court on E. 95th St. I understand they have lots of 1 bedroom rentals and also a pool. Thanks for not mocking me.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:08 AM FlagRun the numbers for 5 years on buying vs. renting taking NO appreciation into consideration and a broker's fee to sell it. if buying makes sense, then go ahead, but my guess is, it won't. you're not in a rush to find a rental THIS month, so you can totally look to get a better deal. Also, you don't really need a high-end building - a cute non-DM bldg (even a walk up) near school would be fine for your purposes.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:22 AM Flag
They grow out of the playdate stage so quickly, especially in a school with a lot of homework. Why don't you pick up and take playdates to the park, out for ice cream, etc. or have the other girl host? I never mind hosting. To me, it's easier than going to pick her up at someone's house since I have 3 kids to juggle.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:14 AM FlagSure, get a cheap studio. OR, why not just send the kids to a place that you pay for? i.e. an art store to make art projects; a semi-private tennis lesson; a gymnastics lesson; private swimming lesson and bring a friend to those sort of activities? It may SOUND pricey, but it's certainly cheaper than getting an apartment. Do you have a nanny? If not, hire one a few days a week and have the nanny take the kids to 16 handles, or the museum of natural history. Finally, other option, hire a car service to take the kid back to manhattan -- it's also cheaper than an apartment on the ues.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:53 AM FlagI give you a lot of credit for thinking this way. If you feel like your child is suffering socially because of your geography, well, then, that's a very relevant concern. I'd actually take it one step further and, if i were you, and was planning to continue to school my child on the ues, then i would seriously consider moving to that vicinity. It's definitely a shame people aren't willing to make an effort to come to Brooklyn, but that's the reality. It will probably be easier for you as well socially to live closer to your daughter's classmates' families.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 10:55 AM FlagOP, you never replied as to whether you have ever asked a dc over for a weekend playdate. Have you? If you have suggested Saturdays or Sundays, and not a single one of dd's friends have ever accepted, than moving to an apartment isn't going to address your problem.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:01 AM Flagnp: i disagree. i think uptown people see brooklyn as a trek that they're not interested in making. some of them even see downtown this way. it's unfamiliar, they don't know how to get there, it's a long subway ride, they don't know about parking, etc. i really don't think it's a reflection on the family. my close friend used to live in park slope (pre-kids) and joked that her friends who came to visit on the weekends spent the night - they viewed it like going away for the weekend. and this was people wo kids, you were younger, mobile, etc. until you've lived it, don't assume it's about the kid.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:08 AM FlagYou are missing my point. It's not about the kid, it's about the fact that OP can't find a single family who won't make the trek to Bklyn. I can imagine some people feel this way, but if 100% of the school does, it's not the kind of school I'd want to send my kids to. Talk about parochial -- won't leave UES to go downtown! -- if OP's kid's friends ALL have parents like this, I'd question the culture of the school.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:21 AM Flagi understand that, but OP doesn't have that issue. she's okay with these families and is trying to make her dd's social life better. IMO, these days many parents are stretched very thin in terms of time, money, other commitments and sometimes the idea of having to take a subway for an hour for a playdate is just daunting. we live in Yorkville and our dear friends live in TriBeCa and if we didn't have a car, we'd get together very rarely bc to haul 3 kids the bus and 2 trains or the cost of 2 cabs or a car service to get down there for a playdate is just too much.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:35 AM FlagBrooklyn Heights is on the 4/5 train. It is what -- 4 or 5 more stops from 14th Street? That's 10 minutes extra on the subway. The entire subway ride probably runs 25 minutes, if that. To say it is "just too much" to ever get there is exactly what I mean. I understand you might only get there with your kid once or twice during the school year, but NEVER? Sorry, that's ridiculous.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 01:41 PM Flag
instead of just a playdate, why don't you schedule something a little more formal every other month or so. serve brunch and invite a few families over. just make it worth their while to come.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:02 AM FlagI grew up on the UES and went to school on the UWS; certainly had more play dates at friends houses but there were still plenty who came to my house. When I was older (7th/8th) and we all had more independence friends rarely hung around my house (we'd either do things after school or just hung out at my west side friends house). Hardly a traumatic experience! What about weekends? I understand people not wanting to deal with the commute during the week but a Saturday afternoon/sleepover sounds just fine. Maybe be honest with DDs close friends moms and say "it would really mean a lot to DD if little Sally can play some time)
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:31 AM FlagSo this would cost you at least $25,000 a year. For that money you could host gatherings in hotel suites numerous times, rent out playspaces, cater or provide entertainment for other playdates, etc. Even if you hosted a playdate every single week during the 9 month school year (25,000/36 weeks) that is $700 per playdate. Doesn't seem to make sense. Maybe you take a group of kids out for pizza every few weeks or something.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 11:37 AM FlagThis is so crazy. You mean to tell me you can't make friend in Brooklyn Heights!! Brooklyn Heights/Cobble Hill are the most family oriented communities in Brooklyn. I think I am going to buy a Ferrari and park it in manhattan to be available when I want to hang out there, but I live in Queens.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:01 PM FlagYou've basically invented the pied-a-terre. My guess is that once you have it, you'll find it useful for other things besides playdates, especially if you're having an affair.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 12:22 PM FlagPersonally, I think this is a ridiculous idea, but if you think you need it I wouldn't let the other parents know that you bought this apartment for play dates. This sounds desperate and will weird people out. You can say this is your office or pied-a-terre. Otherwise you will have spent a lot of money and nobody will come over.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 01:24 PM Flag
[+] What do you sleep in? DH thinks that I should be wearing something sexy nearly every... 67 replies
- My birthday suit. Unless I am pissed at DH, then a tank and undies....
Talk : : September 22, 2011
What do you sleep in? DH thinks that I should be wearing something sexy nearly every night.
67 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.22.11, 06:03 AM Flag ]tshirt and boxers. dh has no say in what i wear to bed and vice versa.
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Sounds expensive. The moment my official day is over, I put on "home clothes" and generally sleep in those. I would be baffled by needing to sleep sexy. Do you feel comfortable sleeping in something saucy? Can't hurt to pick up a few cute things. But be wary- this kinda sounds controlling- maybe I'm wrong...
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:06 AM FlagIf DH enjoys and is a generally a good partner (not controlling), I think that you make the effort and shop for some silk/sheer/short stuff. Friends of mine that want to make no effort and then wonder why DH strays later baffle me.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:19 AM FlagITA. It's a well-known fact that most divorces take place not because of "irreconcilable differences" but "cotton t-shirts."
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Maybe if you're a trophy wife. But in a marriage of equals, a cotton t-shirt does not lead to infidelity.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:34 AM FlagIt's a symptom, not a cause. If you are the kind of wife that can't make this small effort when you know that DH enjoys, then you are likely to have other issues.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:38 AM FlagI guess that's the difference. I can't imagine being with a man for whom my sleepwear would be such a big deal - or who would even have a preference. DH doesn't think of me as a Playboy bunny and I don't think of him as a Chippendales dancer.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:54 AM FlagFair point - but I don't think that there is anything wrong with making an effort to be sexy for each other. Doesn't make you a Playboy bunny or him Chippendale's dancer. Would seem odd to me not to care at all how you look for your DH. I believe they call that "letting yourself go".
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:58 AM Flag
Like the grooming of pubic hair, I believe there is an age divide on this topic. Younger women tend to go for the t-shirt and shorts uniform and older women tend to go for the nightgown uniform. Am I right?
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:30 AM Flagmmm, how old are we talking? I'm 40 and I'm in the t-shirt group.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:32 AM FlagWell, if you're talking what I wear after I take OFF my uniform, in the summer it's my ugly underwear, and in the winter it's thermals, which are also pretty ugly, but which are actually pretty comfortable.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 07:31 AM Flag
I sleep in a cotton tank top and shorts. My DH doesn't care what I wear to bed as long as we have sex.
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DH and I made a deal on this a few years back - he wears hot boxer briefs and I wear nice undies and tight tank or no top. We were worried about turning frumpy with kids.
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[+] Just need to vent... BIL and SIL came to visit at the hospital hours after I delivere... 16 replies
- My MIL made a shutterfly book for my son when he was a few months old (so the pictures were birthday to 4mo). The first picture is of me and my DH taken about 20 minutes after the baby was born. "Bad" would be a nice way to describe me. I'm lying like a beached whale on the bed, glazed look, double chin, exhausted but...
Talk : : September 22, 2011
Just need to vent... BIL and SIL came to visit at the hospital hours after I delivered DB. I absolutely wanted them to meet their nephew. They took some pics while they were visiting and sent to MIL. I was out of it and never realized they even took pics. Went to visit MIL recently and she showed me the pictures and was laughing at them because I looked so bad. She had her own captions and said things like "In this picture, you look like you have no idea what do to with a baby." I know she isn't trying to be hurtful and thinks it's funny, but I'm annoyed. Okay... vent over.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.22.11, 05:25 AM Flag ]It's not weird for them to take the pics. It's a little weird of your MIL to make those comments, but she's just trying to relate or something off. Let it roll off. These things are not worth it in the long run.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 05:26 AM FlagOP here - I agree so I am not saying anything. I don't care they took the pics, and some of them I thought are good so I will ask for copies. I just sort of thought it annoying that she is making fun of how I look two hours after I delivered a baby. I also wish she wouldn't show them to all her friends and the rest of the family with the same comments!
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 05:29 AM FlagI feel like you can tell her that. Say, wow, these ones are really good, but please don't show those other ones around. Yikes! Try to keep it light. You could also just say these I like and these are awful, let's just get rid of them and take them. Keep it light though.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 05:33 AM Flagif she shows them to friends and family with comments, then they will see what a petty, "mean girl" she is
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:21 AM Flag
It sounds like you're being oversensitive. She's not publishing the photos for the world to see, she's just showing them to family members.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 05:37 AM FlagMy MIL made a shutterfly book for my son when he was a few months old (so the pictures were birthday to 4mo). The first picture is of me and my DH taken about 20 minutes after the baby was born. "Bad" would be a nice way to describe me. I'm lying like a beached whale on the bed, glazed look, double chin, exhausted but happy, but just looking like crap. And THIS is the first photo she puts in my baby's memory book. What a bitch. (My DH looks amazing, btw.)
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:19 AM FlagSounds like a great first photo. Life isn't always about being camera ready. Sometimes it's, you know, real.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:24 AM FlagRight. But it's in his book of baby pictures and I can't just take it out. It would be great to have in an album somewhere that would be mine and that I could show him whenever I wanted to or he wanted to, but this is a very public book and it pissed me off because she didn't have to use that horrible photo of me. There were others where I didn't look like a 200lb freak.
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 08:13 AM Flag
OP here - thanks for the responses. I probably won't say anything because I don't think she is trying to be mean. I think she is just excited about having a grandson and don't want to rain on her parade. I am hoping it will pass when DS is older and there are other pictures to show of him. I am still a little annoyed with it, though!
[ Reply | More ]09.22.11, 06:39 AM Flag
[+] i was once flamed here for yelling at my dog, but people are supported for hitting ch... 24 replies
- ppl here will care about what type of flooring you have in your home, sunblock you use, if you have a tattoo, the length of your hair, what you name your child, how many people you invite to their birthday party etc etc etc...
Talk : : September 21, 2011
i was once flamed here for yelling at my dog, but people are supported for hitting children? i need a rule book...
24 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.21.11, 07:11 PM Flag ]No kidding! Kids test and push buttons, that's part of the deal you sign up for.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 07:16 PM FlagI had the biggest argument with a man about me hitting my dog and dragging him by his collar down the street but he didn't say anything about my dog trying to attack a child, that's why I hit him and dragged him down the street
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 07:46 PM Flagcounter productive to cause a dog anxiety in that sort of situation, which is neither here nor there at this point, i guess
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 07:51 PM FlagThat's what I'm talking about. Next time I'm just going to let my dog attack my child and then we'll see what people would say.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 08:07 PM Flagcan you not restain your dog or train them without hitting them and dragging them? most dogs who are afraid of children (and there are a lot) have a bad association from when they were very young, so you need to build up positive associations with children in a safe controlled environment.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 08:11 PM FlagI'm going to be completly honest if he tries to ever attack a child again I will hit him again and drag him down the street again. Yes he has been trained as much as I can trian him I walk him frequently I also take him for runs he's just a mean little fucker.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 08:18 PM Flag
[+] Drowning in stuff. Do you keep things like ticket stubs to a performance you went to,... 26 replies
- of memories!), pieces of artwork from DCs, ticket stubs to performances or sites that conjure up really happy memories. My parents saved things from my childhood that I am really happy to have now. DH is even more sentimental. He saves every single birthday, anniversary, etc. card that I have given him. I guess it depends on whether you have the space to keep it. Maybe designate one banker's box to "memory" stuff. Once it's full, it's time to cull so you only...
Talk : : September 21, 2011
Drowning in stuff. Do you keep things like ticket stubs to a performance you went to, notes your children wrote, drawings etc? And if so, do you ever do anything with them?
26 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.21.11, 03:02 PM Flag ]I am not a keeper. I throw 99.9999% of the stuff away. It's not the material object that is important, it's the memory. Find another way to preserve the memory without hoarding unnecessary paperwork and junk.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:04 PM Flagthat's exactly my problem. I leaf through some papers and something reminds me so clearly of something I'd forgotten, and it's lovely to have my memory come rushing back. So then I lose the will to get rid of it all. So, perhaps I should have asked--how do you preserve the memory without keeping the stuff?
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:10 PM FlagI think that actually, the stuff ends up interfering with the memory. Really, what is essential about a good memory is the feeling, not the details. And a piece of paper or whatever just never captures the emotions fully. I am a big fan of photographs but not stuff (aka junk). Throw it all out.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:33 PM Flag
Yes. I try to high-grade, though. And I have a country house with a full basement.
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Yeah. I won't keep, say, worksheets or coloring pages from preschool or scritch-scratch drawings. Only the "good" stuff. Went through and tossed a bunch today, actually. I used to keep way more, but volume depletes the specialness of the really sweet/good/nice things.
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Lately I've been realizing that sentimentality is just a form of materialism.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:11 PM Flagthere certainly can be materialistic sentiment, but doesn't seem like feeling sappy when someone tells you they love you is materialistic. unless of course you think people fall under the category of materials.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:22 PM FlagNo, I mean the way sentimentality can compel us to hang onto things that we wouldn't otherwise need. In my case, if I felt no sentimental attachment to things, I could easily reduce my material possessions by half.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:31 PM FlagI must be extremely sentimental because I think it's important to hang onto the memories and pass them on. After my parents died, I found a big box crammed full of fabulous things my parents had saved. I sat down with my brother and we went through all kinds of old letters, photos, even lists of people my mother played bridge with. We sat there for hours remembering my mother's friends and swapping stories from childhood. It meant so much. And the most tragic thing to find was the letter that a family friend had sent to my mother's father who was off fighting in WWII telling him how my mother and her sister were dealing with the news that my mother's mother had been diagnosed with terminal cancer and ony had a few months left to live. Absolutely heartbreaking to read, but such an important thing in the fabric of my mother's life, as my mother talked about the loss of her mother often. Toss everything if you will, but that leaves no memories for future generations. I cherish my boxes of memories. I'd rather do without something else if space were an issue.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:54 PM Flag
I keep things, yes. Not everything, but I am selective. I treasure handwritten letters from my late parents (just looking at their handwriting brings back a flood of memories!), pieces of artwork from DCs, ticket stubs to performances or sites that conjure up really happy memories. My parents saved things from my childhood that I am really happy to have now. DH is even more sentimental. He saves every single birthday, anniversary, etc. card that I have given him. I guess it depends on whether you have the space to keep it. Maybe designate one banker's box to "memory" stuff. Once it's full, it's time to cull so you only have the most meaningful things in that box. Then it won't spiral out of control.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:38 PM Flag
[+] Sorry too long but: Our nanny has been with us for almost 3 yrs. She is chronically l... 93 replies
- she gets two weeks paid vacation, sick days, all national holidays. I pay her taxes, her health insurance, cover her car/gas/mileage. I try to give her more hours by babysitting on the weekends which I pay her in cash. Holiday presents, birthday presents. I walk her to the door every night and thank her for her day. I don't like it that it ended so badly. The kids question is secondary....
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Sorry too long but: Our nanny has been with us for almost 3 yrs. She is chronically late and frequently misses days, but otherwise is a good nanny. However because of this I'm constantly irritated with her and it simmers below the surface on some days. Yesterday she came home 20 mins late with ds when I had to leave to pick up dd at school. Because there was no time for transition the ds freaked out. She commented that if I didn't leave I was going to be late and I turned to her impatiently and said that it doesn't help me when she comes home 20 mins late. It's just not helpful. She immediately said don't talk to me like that and then when I said like what she threw her hands up and said she's done and quit. We then had a huge fight where I asked for my key back and told her I would mail her her remaining money. She refused to say good bye to the children and now it gone. I feel terrible that this is how it ended. I probably should have fired her long ago because the lateness really drove me crazy and was a huge inconvenience for how my family works (I have three dcs in 3 diff schools so it's a lot of scheduling that has to run on time.) Should I call her? Also, what should I tell the kids?
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This kind of BS is exactly why I put DCs in daycare. Cannot stand the nannydra
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:15 PM FlagI had people who worked at major companies who came in to work too late and were constantly being reprimanded for it. Being on time for a job is a pretty baseline quality.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:21 PM Flagreally? i never worked anywhere where people were constantly reprimanded for anything. you are informed of the policy and the consequences should it happen again, if it happens again, you're out. some companies don't care about punctuality, some care a great deal. it would seem that op did not address it though.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:28 PM FlagThroughout our three years I had calm conversations with her about how it bothered me and could she try to be more prompt.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:49 PM Flagit "bothering" you sounds personal. i'm not critiquing you, but just giving you advice for the next time you have an employee "it is important that you get here on time so that the schedule moves smoothly. i understand that, inevitably, there will be complications so please communicate with me if you are aware that you might be late or have a scheduling conflict. i will do my best to make this work out. if you are late more than x time in x period, we will have to revisit the matter as punctuality was a problem with out last nanny"
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:56 PM FlagI'm going to cut and paste this into my next letter. I completely agree. It only bothered me inso much as it totally messed up the flow of my household. That's what I meant. You can imagine getting three kids to three different schools and three different drop off times and trying to do that with someone who is late.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:04 PM Flag
leave it be. tell the children you will be finding someone else.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:17 PM FlagI don't want them to think that people just disappear. It's so weird that they won't see her. Ugh.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:20 PM FlagI agree - better overall for the kids not to have that kind of tension around the house anyway. I know you feel badly and probably she does too, but overall you'll be better off with someone who works better for you. Also, I thought DD (3YO) would be very upset when our nanny left a few months ago, but she wasn't.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:20 PM Flag
Well one dc already knows something's up. How old are the others? Can you have DH call her and ask to meet him and kids at a playground to say goodbye? I'm sure, if only because she wants some severance, she'll do that.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:21 PM FlagThey don't know because she doesn't normally come on Wed anyway. I have three dcs (3, 6, 11).
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:22 PM FlagI think you should make arrangements to say goodbye. Validate whatever the kids say, let them be sad, mad at you, etc.... It'll feel uncomfortable, but it won't last long. "you're unhappy, you're angry, this is a surprise" etc.... Letting them express feelings isnt what creates the feelings. They're already there. You being able to handle how they feel about the change will be good for them. GL.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:44 PM Flag
ITDA. No need for goodbye. It's bound to be uncomfortable and won't accomplish anything. You sacked her for legitimate reasons and the kids will barely remember her soon anyway.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:29 PM FlagShe worked for them for 3 years. kids who act like that's nothing suspect their parent(s) won't deal well with their having (normal) feelings about the nanny leaving.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:35 PM FlagI had nannies on and off growing up. Some I recall more than others, but we always knew they were paid companions as opposed to family or friends who voluntarily chose to spend time with us. It's not a secret. Do you expect your kids to be devastated when they leave their first grade teacher behind for their second grade teacher, etc.? I wasn't and neither are my kids.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:44 PM Flag
DS "freaked out" because there was no time to "transition"?
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:21 PM Flagthat's on you, then. transition??? please. life often doesn't give us a chance to transition.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:24 PM FlagYes, but 3yo don't lead corporate lives. And I have two dcs who don't care at all, but one who has more trouble. That is why when she asks me what time to be home I build in time. Is that so awful?
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:27 PM FlagWhy are you giving OP a hard time? Transition moments are not a new concept, and it's considered a good idea to give kids time to adjust. A good nanny should be aware of this need.
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I have a kid like this op. Youre doing the right thing giving him time. It'll get easier. Ignore the beeyotches.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:37 PM FlagWhy can't she just take the kid with her to pick up his sister from school? That's why he "freaked out," because even when his Mom could spend time with him, she'd rather the nanny do it. That's why I can't figure out why she was even waiting around for him. Either take him, or don't. It's not about the "transition." What a nut-job!
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:44 PM Flag
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Good riddance. She sounds like a headache. I would have fired her the third time she was late. Your kids will be fine - she was their babysitter, not a member of the family. Tell them they will get a nice new babysitter and act all excited about it - they will take their cues from you.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:24 PM FlagI wouldn't seek her out- she sounds dreadful. Good riddance. As for what to tell the kids, some version of the truth, that something unexpected happened and Nanny found herself unable to continue to care for them. It is hard when there's an attachment, but if hers wasn't genuine, best not to emphasize that aspect with the kids. Sorry:(
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:25 PM Flagyeah, i would say this was very poorly managed and a mistake you will not make again. i have never gotten in a fight, let alone a "huge fight" with an employee or employer. be professional.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:25 PM FlagIf I were really professional I would have let her go ages ago. The relationship with a nanny is not the same as a regular employee. Most people with nannies would agree.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:34 PM Flagi employ a nanny and other household employees, i run a business, i have clients, i was an employee for decades. i disagree with you that there is anything inherently less professional about how you should treat the person you have hired to help you care for your kids. i also feel that you are doing your children and yourself a disservice by behaving in that manner. have some standards for yourself. don't disrespect people in front of them, don't act that way.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:39 PM Flag
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np. Because you weren't professional about it at all. She's an employee, not a family member, and now you're wringing your hands over how she's going to say goodbye to your kids. Get over it, she's not Grandma. If you got fired from a job, would you want to be forced to go back to work one last time to say goodbye to everyone? Act like a professional, and let the woman have some dignity.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:32 PM Flag
oh, what a snarky ub response. OP certainly did not manage this very professionally, but she acknowledges she feels terribile and she probably won't make the same mistake again. I have never gotten into a fight with our ex-nanny but there have been times where I was on the brink of losing my patience too.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:29 PM Flagi think everyone has been near losing patience with any number of people but it is rare to get passive aggressive like that and offend one's household help and then be miffed that they aren't happy to do you the favor of easing your freaked out child into whatever transition because of the mess you've whipped up
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:33 PM Flag
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You screwed up really badly, and now you're worried about how your kids feel? You're something else. Tell your kids that you sent nanny to a nice farm in the country where she'll have plenty of room to roam and no deadlines to meet.
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np. i'm not sure what attributing additional responsibility to the nanny will do to help the kids or op. the nanny articulated that she was uncomfortable with the way op was speaking to her and op persisted after which point the nanny removed herself from her employ. where else are you going to take that?
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:42 PM Flag
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Love it that all these posters are sooo pro-nanny even when she was not that great at all. WOuld love to see how they treat theirs...
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:40 PM Flagi actually just don't treat people that way. i am a very punctual person so i don't know how this lateness and missing days was possible, but i suspect that op is unemployed? it would make sense from both the free time and lack of professionalism angles. in any case, i think it is wrong to hold the nanny responsible for cleanning this thing up (and i don't understand why her kids cant deal with the transition btw). i stand by my statement that i don't speak to people that way and would absolutely have not handled the situation like op did. not surprised.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:52 PM Flag
Nanny here: it sounds like the nanny has been wanting to quit for a while. It sounds like it wasn't a good match. I imagine this wasn't the first time the OP responded in such a way to an annoyance with the nanny. It's sad that things ended so poorly, and I can't imagine refusing to say goodbye to the kids. Make sure the next nanny you hire is prompt, and when the new nanny does something that bothers you: talk about it like a grownup.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:46 PM FlagYou're 28 and you have a kid. STOP posting pictures of yourself downing jello shots and making out with girls.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:55 PM FlagOP: When we first started working together I think that I didn't know how to tell her how much her being late bothered me. But throughout our time together I have had candid conversations about how it changes the dynamic of our relationship and how when she on time everything runs so much better because I am calmer and the kids are calmer. I never wanted to let her go because the dc that she was with the most is the most sensitive of all the kids and I thought it was good for him to have someone stable. For all of you who are talking about how badly I treat her, I pay her for eight weeks of time that we are away and she doesn't have to work. In addition to that she gets two weeks paid vacation, sick days, all national holidays. I pay her taxes, her health insurance, cover her car/gas/mileage. I try to give her more hours by babysitting on the weekends which I pay her in cash. Holiday presents, birthday presents. I walk her to the door every night and thank her for her day. I don't like it that it ended so badly. The kids question is secondary.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:02 PM FlagNanny here again: it sounds like you were a generous employer. However, it seems as though she quit so suddenly and unfortunately partially because you were not very good at managing employees. You didn't fire her because you wanted to protect your child, but you're child probably would have been better off if you let her go in a more controlled way. I'm not saying the nanny is blameless here, she sounds like a mess. But you can't control her, you can only control how you relate to future employees. Good luck.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:13 PM FlagYou sound like a totally normal person and a great nanny. Thank you for your measured responses. I'm just going to try to do better with the next person by saying what I want clearly up front and being more up front when things come up. We were not a good match. I'm sure that she will have a much better time with her next family. She's a good person, but she didn't respect me and she was very entitled. Thanks for your insights.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:19 PM Flag
alright, I'll be honest, 'cause you seem decent. I was flaming you big time up there, but just for my own amusement, really. It's a tough situation, maybe this is for the best. You might even think about ONE more chance for her, after everyone cools down. Or, she might not want it.
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[+] 92x3 ERBs with a great qualitative report, diversity, both parents went to ss schools... 12 replies
- OP: fwiw, he is a July birthday, and when i called last year, all the ss schools said they would like to see him next year....
- got a spot at a ss school. So he would be one of the oldest in his class. According to the schools, summer birthday boys have a harder time keeping up with their older peers. They asked that we hold-off a year (we waited the year and...
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92x3 ERBs with a great qualitative report, diversity, both parents went to ss schools and a husband who is in a very specialized area of medicine - decent chance at collegiate and st. david's?
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I'd say not a good shot without some showing that the 92x3 is not reflective of your kid's abities and a strong positive from your PSD. I say this as th emo
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:58 PM Flag^^^whoops! Meant to say I say this as a BTDT x 2. Schools have more and more high-scoring black and biracial kids to choose from. There's no reason for them to overlook a lower (but still good) score in the absence of other outstanding factors. Doesn't mean your kid won't get in, though. They may just like him! Good luck.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:03 PM Flagita. i personally know two aa boys that are applying this year; each scored 99x3. that said, my ds is there and they care about more than the erb. Gl. my ds is diverse so if you have any questions let me know.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:55 PM FlagOP: not sure if this helps or hurts my case, ds had a language delay due to un-dx'ed enlarged adenoids. We followed our school's advice for a SEIT and speech therapy. He is now in K with no SEIT and no speech therapy. He is a happy, bright, well-adjusted kid. He has come a very a long way in the last 2 years.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 04:37 PM FlagOP: fwiw, he is a July birthday, and when i called last year, all the ss schools said they would like to see him next year.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 04:40 PM FlagI believe he would take the erb again, no? so he is a transfer student into 1st grade. i'm sure you have a shot. are you only looking for ss? have you considered dalton trinity ethical?
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 04:44 PM FlagOP: DS would be repeating K for 2011-12 if he got a spot at a ss school. So he would be one of the oldest in his class. According to the schools, summer birthday boys have a harder time keeping up with their older peers. They asked that we hold-off a year (we waited the year and are now applying for K this year).
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[+] identical twin here. any questions? 23 replies
- When you were kids, did anyone ever give you a single birthday present that you were supposed to share? How did you feel about that?...
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Ever had a threesome with your twin and a man (or woman if you are a guy)?
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You mean you're my identical twin? If you are, I have a ton of questions.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 11:44 AM FlagWhen you were kids, did anyone ever give you a single birthday present that you were supposed to share? How did you feel about that?
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 11:54 AM Flagall the time. it wasn't really a big issue for us. we didn't have much so if someone gave us something we were just excited to have it. i never really understood why people gave us the exact same clothes sometimes though. it always seemed a little ridiculous to buy two of the exact same thing.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 12:02 PM Flag
[+] Things you wanted to post a snarky response to on FB but didnt. Go. 196 replies
- We do not need to see 150 photos of your child's first birthday party. Create a freaking snapfish album and email it to the people who actually want to see it- in otherwords, yourself, and the kid's grandma....
Talk : : September 21, 2011
Things you wanted to post a snarky response to on FB but didnt. Go.
196 replies [ Reply | Watch | More09.21.11, 09:47 AM Flag ]I don't care that you did PX90 (or whatever it is) abs and legs (or whatever) today (and every day for the past three months).
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I'm not impressed by your photography skills and your 1000000 pictures of your kids.
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Don't care about the issues that concern your store-bought petri dish twins.
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Either way, if you are referring to children who were conceived through IVF, your statement is pretty heartless..
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 09:55 AM FlagSorry. I just get sooo sick of wealthy women parading around their twins like a fashion accessory. I get it! You're wealthy! You control everything, even your biological clock! Now STFU !
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 09:58 AM Flagnp - God, you're nasty. I think the more you keep to yourself, the better the world will be.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:16 AM FlagIVF - not wealthy. Just saved like mad for a very long time. You're mean.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:21 AM Flag-
Right , you had important stuff to do during your fertile years. zzzzzzzzzzzzz
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 11:32 AM FlagHee! You are jealous! Not only did I get to DO everything and become everything and HAVE everything you don't- I got perfect boy-girl twins. Suck it, hater.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 11:36 AM FlagActually I did. Getting a medical degree, doing a residency etc. Then I had my children, naturally. But not everyone met their beloved before the age of 40.
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I agree, especially re: women who ask on fertility boards how they can make themselves more likely to have twins. They are clearly clueless and treating their potential children as accessories.
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If you want to write a sappy love letter to your husband for your anniversary, buy him a card at the store and give it to him in private. We don't care. The same applies for your kids on their birthdays. Don't you live with these people? Tell them that you love them directly, not on their "Wall."
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itttta. or the couples that "like" everything the other posts. eww.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 09:55 AM FlagTruly annoying. If I have to see "missing my lovah.." "lovah is home again YAY!" "Lovin my loving man-doodle" one more time I'm putting some of these responses up and letting the shit hit the fan.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:37 AM Flag
np: the worst are the ones where the dh goes on and on about how wonderful and unique and special his dw is because she birthed a child, as if it's never been done before.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:07 AM FlagI know one couple who does this and it would seriously annoy me, but her DH survived a really awful near fatal car accident, so I let it slide. Makes me think though, maybe we should all be this way. If I almost lost my DH I'm sure I'd be shouting from the rooftops too. Maybe the world would be a nicer place if we all showed our love a bit more :)
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:26 AM FlagYes! I have a good friend who does this, makes me want to write a snarky post about how fb pda's should be banned. Text him, phone him or wait til he's home - he went to his 9-5 job and will be back shortly.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:33 AM FlagAgree!! I know a couple who will have full out conversations "I love you!!" "NO, I LOVE YOU MORE!!" "I'm going to cook you some steak tonight" "You're the best! I'm going to pick up your favorite wine on my way home!" And once someone wrote below all of it, "don't you two live together? and own cell phones?" Totally made my day.
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Stop checking into 4 square every ten minutes. I don't care that you are at Target, a restaurant, you're the mayor of your closet, unless I want to break into your place. Then it's handy.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 09:58 AM FlagI get it. We all get it. You have a Cartier Tank watch. Congrats.
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Got it. You married an MD from GS and you can spend the day parading your daughter around to Starbucks, American Girl, and Saks. Keep it to your damn self.
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Judging from your pictures of your vacations and homes you are very, very rich. You're husband on the other hand is a big fat pig. I wouldn't touch him for all the tea in China.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:02 AM FlagI don't think it's funny that your dog is wearing sunglasses. I don't think anything your dog does is funny.
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What's funny about a black blow-up doll at a bachelorette party? I just think it's racist.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:10 AM FlagWe don't need a play by play of the football game and quarterly score updates, but thanks.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:20 AM FlagThere is really nothing "Random" about this album of photos when you have clearly spent your entire life cultivating all the right things.
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I have nothing to add. I just want to be the token "Glad I never did Facebook" poster for this thread. Carry on!
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:23 AM FlagYou should create a page for you and put "I'm too cool for Facebook" on your wall so when people look you up they'll know your sanctimonious position on it.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 10:26 AM Flagditto. (and for the record, i'm not too cool for facebook, just too sensible)
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"I had an identity crisis when I was filling out occupation for the preschool application. "Homemaker" just didn't suit me
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Please untag every picture where I look like a whale, have food in my mouth or dc has his hand in an inappropria5e place! If you wouldn't put a pic of yourself like that why would you do it to me!
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I grew up in a different part of the US and now live in NYC. The Jesus freak stuff from friends back home weirds me out big time.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 12:00 PM FlagPosts that try to beg, guilt or threaten me into re-posting their cause as if fb statuses are so crucial to world peace.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 12:54 PM FlagYes! Bet 99.99% won't repost this status about diabetes or cancer or IR. Annoying. As if reporting it somehow helps anything!!!
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 01:02 PM FlagLOL. They're getting more and more ridiculous. "I drank a cup of coffee today. If you did too PLEASE REPOST THIS and pass it on to 250 more of your FB friends and keep COFFEE DRINKER as your status, in memory of the 5 pigeons who got West Nile Virus in Riverside Park and died on my windowsill last week."
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 01:54 PM Flag
If you thought it was ok that more anti-terrorism money went to Wyoming than NYC after 9-11 then shut the fuck up about who builds what near the "Hallowed ground."
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 01:25 PM FlagNot everyone cares about your cause. Yes, it's important to you, but not really to the rest of us.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 01:49 PM Flag"I just posted on my blog,www.imaboringpersonwithnothingofvaluetosayordo/blogspot"
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I have a friend who gushes about her kids to the extent it feels weirdly, well, unreal. Every moment is magic. Every vacation a dream. Every Sunday night a crushing tragedy b/c the kids are back in preschool/etc the next day. Never a cross word, bad moment, grumpy "glad the kids are in bed, time for a drink" statement. STOP BEING SO FAKE!
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 02:55 PM FlagWe do not need to see 150 photos of your child's first birthday party. Create a freaking snapfish album and email it to the people who actually want to see it- in otherwords, yourself, and the kid's grandma.
[ Reply | More ]09.21.11, 03:24 PM FlagEvery single post is a complain about their life. Their only child is exhausting, the weather is awful, sick of the traffic, terrible restaurant, etc. Makes me want to secretly sign you up for a ghetto wife swap.
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[+] Can anyone suggest a good place for an 11 yr old birthday dinner? My kid loves Beniha... 6 replies
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