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The Rosary In Real Life

says you: how do you pray the rosary?
http://www.deaconlaz.org/THE%20ROSARY.htm

Do you pray the rosary and do you love it?

Pope Benedict XVI recently prayed the rosary in public at Fatima, and before him John Paul II wrote an entire encyclical on the rosary.

Believing in the rosary’s power isn’t the same thing as knowing how to pray, is it?

Even knowing literally how to pray it (which prayers on which beads) isn’t the same thing as knowing how to pray it, is it?

This comment at another site got me thinking. She’s talking about praying the breviary, but mentions the rosary:

while the idea of doing it appeals to me, I’ve never been able to get into it. I have the same problem with the Rosary. It’s probably a character flaw—an inability to step out of my own head and into someone else’s words—which is why I keep trying to come back to it. So far, it really doesn’t click.

I’m almost 23 years a Catholic, and love for the rosary has come quite slowly for me. Partly this is because my ex-Protestant fear of “vain repetition” took a long time to die away and partly this is because I wasted some time in the early years of my Catholicism striving for unrealistic experiences while praying the rosary.

In God & the World, then-Cardinal Ratzinger had this to say about the former difficulty:

...repetition is a way of settling oneself into the rhythm of tranquility. It’s not so much a matter of consciously concentrating on the meaning of each single word, but allowing myself on the contrary to be carried away by the calm of repetition and of steady rhythm. So much the more so, since this text does not lack content. It brings great images and visions and above all the figure of Mary -and then through her, the figure of Jesus—before my eyes and in my soul.

As for my early belief that the only good rosaries are prayed on your knees in the heights of contemplation, 5 decades at a time, here’s what the Cardinal says when asked how he prays the rosary.

I do it quite simply, just as my parents used to pray. Both of them loved the Rosary. And the older they got, the more they loved it. The older you get, the less you are able to make great spiritual efforts, the more you need, rather, an inner refuge, to be enfolded in the rhythm of the prayer of the whole Church. And so I pray in the way I always have.

So…simply, but certainly five decades at a time—or maybe two or three sets of mysteries?

No, three are too much for me; I am too much of a restless spirit; I would wander too much. I take just one, and then often only two or three mysteries out of the five, because I can then fit in a certain interval when I want to get away from work and free myself a bit, when I want to be quiet and clear my head. A whole one would actually be too much for me then.

How freeing it is to hear that from the man who was soon to be Pope!
When I was single I prayed a set of mysteries daily (even as I struggled to feel I was really “getting” it). When kids came along, my powers of concentration faded, and I find myself turning to the rosary more the way Joseph Ratzinger describes—a few decades here and there when I need some peace.

My absolute favorite way to pray the rosary is as a solemn sung rosary: in front of the exposed blessed sacrament, with the congregation singing hymns in between the mysteries. But as the opportunity to pray that way is not exactly frequent, I pray a few decades on my own and my family gathers after dinner each evening to pray a decade together (along with our own set of closing prayers). So I usually get five decades in daily…although not necessarily five in a row unless I’m making a holy hour or in the car a long while. (Family road trips are a great captive audience for a full set of mysteries of the rosary).

Enough about me, however. I thought it might be useful and interesting to hear how you incorporate the rosary into your prayer life—and any tips you have that helped you “get into it” or made it “click” for you.


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I just recently started praying the rosary; and I am so glad to hear about praying only several of the mysteries at one time.  That is what I do; I usually pray while my husband puts our son to bed; he always asks what I am doing as he heads up the stairs; and I say praying for him!

 

oh that not a whole rosary at a time makes me feel so good too!  very much me, especially at this season in life of toddler (and soon to be baby!).

we pray a decade together as a family (with a st. michael prayer at the end, as well as a “God bless” litany.  would like to add the st. joseph prayer since our new son’s name is to be joseph), putting our 2 yr old to sleep and i was thinking about trying to add an additional decade.

i lay with my 2 yr old every other nite until he falls asleep and often will try to say more of the rosary to pass the time/help me relax.  this post makes me feel so much better at my little rosary “efforts” throughout the day smile

 

Ladies, you’ve inspired me. I used to be a five-decades-in-a-row-everyday kind of girl back in college, but marriage, a toddler and a new little one on the way have greatly curtailed my prayer life and all but cut out the Rosary. I’d thought of a method to get a full set of all the mysteries in every month, but perfectionism has prevented me from trying. The biggest problem was thinking it wouldn’t “count” unless I did it all at once.

Here’s my plan:
On Sunday, say the opening prayers (the Creed, Our Father, 3 Hail Marys and a Glory Be). Say one decade a day Monday-Friday. On Saturday, say the Hail Holy Queen, the prayer after the Rosary, and the Litany of Loretto. There are four sets of mysteries, so every month would complete a full Rosary.

That seems doable, right?

 

I try to pray 4 Rosaries/week (one for each set of mysteries), but unfortunately sometimes I fall short.

 

Something that works for us, a way to include the children, is a decade a day on the way to school.  First we talk about the mystery, and we have a discussion on seeing the mystery from one person’s point of view from that mystery…ie Wedding at Cana, what was Mary thinking….then the next time we do that mystery, we think about some other character from that bible story.  It helps to picture the mystery for the kids (ages 9 and under) and then they can imagine it all unfolding.  Some questions always seem to come up, that are very thought provoking even for me as the parent to answer, but it does show me that they are picturing the scene, and thinking on it. Their reflections, at times, really do inspire me to look at a mystery differently than before.  They have an innocence discussing some of these things.

Then we all shout out who or what we want to pray for….some say upcoming test, some say for a dolly left at home, etc, and then we move on to the actual Hail Marys and so forth.

I have found that sometimes I miss discussing some of these bibilical events with them, and encouraging them to see a particular virtue in it for them to learn from.  Well - this morning tradition of ours has helped in that avenue immensely.  Just a tip….but am keeping my eye on the responses here, great topic.

 

I have long had a fondness for the rosary.  When our 13 year old daughter was 2-4 years old, she was very sick.  I used to pray many decades of the rosary daily as a way to grab moments of peace among the chaos.  As a result, this child also developed a love of the prayer and often cuddled beside me to pray a decade or two.  One day, after she had a migraine that lasted 12-16 hours that had her throwing up every 20 min. for that entire time; and she had recovered with a final vomiting episode and promptly ran off to play; we had one of our most tender rosary moments ever.  I never recovered from her migraines that quickly.  I was still in the bedroom recouping and cleaning up when she came bouncing back into the room all full of energy and sunshine.  The rosaries were sitting on the bed and she bounded onto the bed, kneeled in the middle of the bed and placed the rosary between her little fingers and clasped her hands together in the perfect little prayer pose; which we never used to pray the rosary.  She began…. “Mary, Mary quite contrary….”  She stopped abruptly and her eyes got as big as saucers and her mouth was dropped open in horror.  I just chuckled, picked up another rosary and sat beside her, “Hail Mary full of grace….”  She finished a decade and was off again, as quickly as she came.  That is my story of too many Marys.

 

Funny you should ask!  I was just talking with my husband about all this last night.  I love when the Lord winks at me through people or postings. ;0) I couldn’t believe that the words, then- Cardinal Ratzinger, used, were so exactly what I experienced one dark early morning while praying a rosary at the foot of my daughters’ bed, while they both slept soundly.  It did bring great images and visions of Mary, who pointed me to her Son.  It was like no other rosary I had ever prayed before.  It moved me to tears.  I felt like I was in communion with Mary and Jesus; Mary being the ‘go between’ doing all the footwork, and Jesus calmly there, waiting for my pleas.  I will never forget that amazing experience, and I eagerly reach for my beads to be with Them again!  Oh, and not that this would matter, but we’re convinced our prayers were answered that morning.  Our older daughter, who had been struggling with grand mal seizures, symptomatic EEG’s, and dangerously high liver levels on blood work, had normal blood levels and a “normal” EEG days after.  The neurologist was amazed and said he couldn’t explain it.  I quietly said, “This is what we prayed for.”  He just kept shaking his head. 
To God be the glory!

 

A beautiful grace, Rita! Thanks for sharing it.

 

I’m an occasional rosary pray-er.  I’ve tried doing a daily rosary,  but at this point in my life, it works better for me to turn to the rosary at moments where I really feel an intense craving for it.  Those moments don’t come often, but when they do, I know it.  When I’m in crisis mode, the rosary is astonishingly helpful at getting me sane again. 

Sometimes when I do pray it, I like to make each bead an intention for someone different in my life or in the world.  That takes the prayer to a different level, I find.

 

I am telling you this seems so basic (what Cardinal Ratzinger says) but did not come naturally to this cradle Catholic. Personal prayer should be flexible, shaped by the work of the Holy Spirit and the person praying, a simple act of being together. Thank you for this. This is sometimes a hard concept for the prayers of novenas and rosaries and litanies. I am not denigrating counted prayer - I’m just trying to get behind it and see its real purpose in our lives. I’m only just discovering this freedom with the rosary in the middle of the night, with insomnia. I say a very slow few decades, with no opening prayers. Actually all I can think about when I’m that tired is the basic meaning of the words I am saying aloud. Just the words are so eloquent, before you even get to the meditations. They keep me company in the dark night.

 

When my oldest children were little, we had little rosary coloring books. We’d pray the Rosary out loud while they quietly colored…‘no talking aloud or no coloring’. This worked very well for us and the 2-8 yr. olds. Around age 9, they started saying a decade with us and ‘graduated’. We prayed the Rosary every other evening and had singing prayertime on alternate evenings.

 

I began to pray the Rosary for the 4th time in my life ! I recited today ( May 24th ) from 6:21 pm to 8 pm ! I am 50 ( new age in April 18th )

If I fail again , I beg to one soul or souls help me in ...... ROSARIES for the intentions of Our Mother and….... mine !

 

The rosary is something I’ve struggled with off an on for years. I definitely get restless if I try to say 5 decades in a row just sitting still. Now that I have kids I just don’t have much time to sit still anyway. So I usually pray as much as I can on my morning jog, and I can get 5 decades in by the time I am done. I do this 3 times a week. The rhythm of jogging and the repetitive prayers almost makes it a kind of meditation. For now, that is what works for me!

 

I love the insight that our Holy Father shared with us.  I love the rosary.  Do I get a whole one said every day?  No.  I know in my head I don’t have to sit and say the whole rosary in one sitting, but reading that our Holy Father does it in that fashion gives me confidence that I can keep going in the way that I do.

 

Thanks.There was a time I thought the Rosary was boring an I prayed without praying,if you get what I mean.Now I cherish the morning rive to mass as I pray the Rosary as I drive.I dont like it if someone seeks a lift then as this interapts my conversation or stops it and the day is not the same;its like i have missed a meal.I feel guilty of not giving a lift an I often wander what would our Lord rather I do? give the lift and stop my prayer or refuse the liftgiving act and continue with my rosary?

 

I recently started praying the rosary while my son nursed, even if I can’t finish it all in one sitting.  I, like the pope, get caught up in the rhythm of the rosary more than the words of each prayer.  Sometimes a phrase will stick out as I’m praying.  And I concentrate and think about each mystery as I get into the rhythm of the Hail Mary’s.  That’s what usually makes some phrases stick out to me.

 

Karen, you brought a sweet memory to mind. During those hard 2 am feedings with my babies, I used to pray the “toesary” while nursing them.

 

In my earlier years I was not praying Roasary alone Only with the family in the evening before dinner. Later when I am alone (my wife passed away in 2002) I found this an attractive prayer. Every morning before my coffee I pray a Rosary and the Divine Mercy Rosary In all it takes only 17 to 20 minutes Then while having the morning walk one more Rosary.  In the evening I retire to bed and say one Rosary and then sleep. I love to say this prayer After every decade one can offer special prayers for specific intentions
Those who are old and retired can try

 

I live in Brazil ..... wow ! Yesterday ( May 25th ) I prayed the Rosary in….. almost 2 hours ! ( from 6:16 pm to 8 pm )


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