Doc Love: Getting Over Her

Getting over her is Doc Love's topic this week
This week’s question comes from a guy who went to college, saw the world, fell in love, and is having trouble getting over her.

reader’s question

Hey Doc,
 
I want to say that I’ve been a fan of your weekly letters for some time and applaud what you have created. Finally, men have the tools to succeed with women. Despite all the wisdom I’ve acquired, there is one problem I’m still having, which is getting over her. As typical as it seems, I really have no idea what to do or how to stop it. Here’s the situation:
 
About a year ago this summer, I was finishing my last semester in college, which was a study-abroad program. The group I was traveling with was very small and consisted mostly of women. There were some very attractive females and I was able to get the one who captivated me, thanks to what I learned from “The System.”

she's like a dude in sexy chick clothing

Her name was Cerise, and she wasn’t like most of the women I had dated in the past. She could be called the “Gaming Girl” because she was heavily into Japanese animation, video games, role playing, etc. These are interests I also hold, by the way. Cerise was extremely beautiful, talented in art, and had many other qualities that blew me away.
 
In the back of my mind I always knew this was nothing more than a summer fling at best, and I tried to enjoy it for what it was. It turned out that I was wrong. Gradually, things started becoming more serious between us. We saw each other every weekend up until she had to leave the country because she was studying abroad for another year. We naturally tried a long-distance relationship that worked for a while, but it seemed we didn’t have time for each other. The breakup was mutual, and for about three months we stayed in communication as friends, but even that died down.

always on my mind

Being back on the market, I started to date around, but I was always thinking of Cerise. I even had dreams about her. Doc, I need to know what this is all about. Am I just caught up in old memories of someone I cared for deeply? If so, what’s the key to getting over her and moving on with my life?
 
Thanks in advance and keep up the good work.

Mikey - who is very confused and having trouble getting over her

doc love’s answer

Hi Mikey,

It was fantastic that your study group consisted mostly of women. This is exactly what you want! To you Psych majors, get yourself into some activity where most of the other people involved are of the female persuasion. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “There ain’t nothin’ better than bein’ the only rooster in the henhouse!”

she moved on before you set sail

You’re very lucky that you had the same interests as Cerise; not only were you attracted to her, but you also had things in common, which most people don’t -- even when they get married. And it’s also nice that this girl had all these great qualities that you admired, but you have to remember something: she’s EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL and that means that every guy in the world is after her. So, you’d better be armed with powerful weapons when you prepare to do battle with this dangerous creature. Like my cousin General Love says, “With a Beautiful Woman, you’ll always be operating from a position of weakness.”

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