Keep attraction going & more
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Yes, it's that time once again: The day we feature your dating and relationship questions. Although we would like to answer each one personally and with as much detail as possible, the overwhelming amount of inquiries forces us to highlight those that are most interesting to AskMen.com readers.
This week's Q&A focuses on how to keep attraction going, mastering the techniques successfully and really getting into the Cocky & Funny groove. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.
reader's comments
Double-D Dog!I took you up on your seven-day offer and read Double Your Dating the day I downloaded it. My situation is a little different: After literally years of being single and settling for 2:30 a.m. random, drunk hookups, I finally triggered attraction in a great woman about four months ago. I don't know how I got it right, because it's in my nature to be a Wuss, but put 100 monkeys in a room with typewriters and eventually you'll get the complete works of Shakespeare, right? Anyway, we hit it off really well. In the beginning she was a little too instantly infatuated, and I had to say no to many of her requests for my time -- not because I was working your program yet, but it was just too much for a brand-new thing, and I actually have a life. Of course, this drove her nuts for me. About three months into this thing she starts turning the tables with the testing, and it goes like this; "I'm really falling for you, and this is new for me. I usually have a really hard time with commitment because I like variety in my life."
The sex is very good -- multiple Os for both of us regularly. I think she's just got an Amazon appetite! A few weeks later, she says to me that she wants to meet this guy she's been chatting with on the internet since before I met her -- you know, see what might happen, back to the variety thing. This triggered the Wuss in me and I spent a good hour being jealous and needy before coming to my senses and telling her to go check it out with my blessing. She says she changed her mind, but ever since then I've found myself groveling to make her happy and keep her with me. I became jealous at the stupidest things. I was full of fear and freaking out.
Somewhere along the way I started getting your mail (cue the angelic music). Then, three days ago, I got the e-book, read it, and it all clicked. So, realizing I was already dangerously deep down Wussy way, I arranged a unique date with her. I told her where I was going to be hanging out that night, told her to put on the sexiest thing she could find and told her to meet me there at whatever time she wanted to and we would pretend we were meeting randomly for the first time.
I applied the Cocky & Funny approach, body language and other tips from your book, and she definitely noticed consciously that I was up to something. Nevertheless, voila! I triggered her attraction again. Not only that, but I learned new things about her and how she works. I also realized that I had failed before due to established expectations and self-centered Wussiness. We communicated better, laughed more, had way-over-the-top sex and a great conversation early into the morning afterward.
I'm converted, dude, and the best part is that these tools have taken away my fear of losing her. I love this woman, but if her Attraction or need for variety cause her to stray, I know what time it is.
A million thanks!
M
P.S. If you haven't already, check out a book called The MultiOrgasmic Man -- dynamite for when the rubber hits the road, so to speak.
david d. responds
M,I'll check that book out.
I'm kind of afraid, man. I might not ever leave my house again.
OK, back to your e-mail...
I really enjoyed your story.
I particularly like the fact that you're using the things you're learning to keep a great woman that you enjoy.
I think that too many guys make the mistake of assuming that it's all about getting the girl, and they put far too little emphasis on keeping a great girl once they find one.
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